Dating Online for Baby Boomers If you're a baby boomer who has suddenly felt the need to date online, keep these new rules in mind.
1. You're Allowed to Date More Than One Person at the Same Time:
Back in the '50s and '60s, it was rare for a woman to date more than one man.
Nowadays, women date various men simultaneously. After all, we're all about multi-tasking now. If you like a couple of guys (maybe even more?), it's okay to test out the waters and go on dates with all of them.
As you learn more and more about each, you can start weeding out the bad and picking out the good. Before you know it, you'll narrow it down so well, you'll be down to date the one that you really like just like the good ol' days.
2. Kissing is Okay on the First Date:
If he leans in to kiss you at the end of the first date, don't be surprised. If you like him and are feeling the mood, I say go for it.
People aren't as prudish now as they were once, you know. You won't be labeled easy by kissing the guy on the first date. In fact, doing so might speed up the process of weeding out the bad-if he's a bad kisser, you won't waste your time going on date number two.
3. Don't Expect Flowers:
Back in the day, it was normal for boys to bring girls flowers while they're dating. Times definitely have changed.
Instead of flowers in the beginning of a relationship, many men save that gift for when they make a mistake, have to say sorry or an anniversary.
Once in a while, you'll find a true romantic who will give you flowers on the first few dates-many women who have been on the receiving end of this, however, have deemed it strange or presumptuous. Go figure.
4. You Can Take Turns Paying:
Before Women's Suffrage and the Civil Rights Movement, men used to pretty much pay for everything. But now that "all men" are created equal (which includes half of the nation's population-as in, women), it's okay to take turns.
Sure, the good catch will opt to pay, but at least make the reach. Don't just sit there twiddling your thumbs. By making the reach, you'll be telling him that you're a strong, independent woman. How empowering?!
5. You Can Make the First Move:
You no longer have to wait for him to make the first move. From hand-holding to the first kiss, women are more empowered now more than ever.
We're bosses, executives, bread-winners. so why can't we make the first move now? If you like your date (and you believe he feels exactly the same way), grab a hold of his hand or lean in to kiss him at date's end. He might even be turned on by your gusto.
Update: October 28, 2009.
Excellent Responses received. Glad that most people are so receptive that things have changed from when we were in our 20s.
But.......I can't take credit for writing the post. I got it in an email from another website, but it said a lot of what I would have said if I had personally written it.
Its hard dating these days for those of us 50 plus whether we look good for our age or not! (smile).......there are still gold digger women and playboy men out there........thinking that they are still 20 something, and ready to ruin somebody's life.......who in our age range......'just want to find somebody to get along with peacefully' (smile), with NO drama tagging along.
- Asked by jpm51, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Baltimore, Administrative | 