In laws . . . (very long rant) ... Do you like you're in laws? Do you get along with them? Do you consider them part of your family?
I don't! I don't like any of my husband's family. I can "tolerate" them, for like 10 minutes and then I need to leave and I DO NOT consider them my family. His mother is his mother, not my mother-in-law or even his brothers or his nieces and nephews. However, he does consider my family his family and will even call my mom and dad - mom and dad. He will even go over their house without me with him. I would never go to his families unless he's with me, and most of the time I don't even go then. It's funny I don't even think he realizes how much I dislike his family. I think they are all scumbags and low life losers, drug users and probably dealers. And no he is NOTHING like his brothers. He didn't really grow up in the house with them, he lived with his father until he was like 17 and then started living with his mother and brothers.
I'm thinking about what kind of excuse I can use to get out of going over his mother's for Thanksgiving. This will be our first Thanksgiving being married. Every other year I'd just stay with my family, we'd take two cars and he'd leave and go and now he's going to expect me to come with him. Need a great excuse.
I have some really good reasons why I hate his family. Last year when I had my bridal shower, not one of his family members even RSVP'd to tell me that they were coming or not. Oh, wait, his cousin's girlfriend said she was coming, but never should up. His mother didn't even RSVP. He spoke to her the night before and was like are you going or not, she gave him some sob story about how she didn't want to come empty handed, so he went out and bought me some stuff - from her and she never paid him back. Then she didn't even have the decency to show up herself or even call either one of us. Her excuse was she couldn't find the house, and we gave her directions. When I asked her about it she had no clue what I was talking about - so she didn't even bother coming. Like if she came and couldn't find it, why didn't she call him and ask him to clarify the directions or better yet, at least call him and tell him she couldn't find the house. Nope she did nothing. I texted him and asked him what time she was coming over and he called her and she was like I couldn't find it. My ass!
I didn't even want to invite them to the wedding, when I did the seating chart I had his family in the back of the room, furthest away from me and my family. Thing is I ended up postponing the wedding and when we did get married - it was just him and I and no one else. We had a small party at my parent's house and didn't even invite his family - not like they would come.
So, I'm just sitting here wondering since I hate them so much do I have to actually buy them any Christmas presents? Like before we got married my family would buy him stuff. But I couldn't even get a card from his family. Hell, I never even got a thank you for anything I had ever bought any of them. We went to his sister-in-laws mother's funeral and HE got a thank you card for attending, but I didn't I didn't even get invited to the house after the funeral. It's like we came together, we live together, we were engaged you'd think they would have been like both of you come over. NO, they purposely said Jay take her home and come back over. And you wonder why I hate them. I tried, I tried being nice, I tried to get along and associate with them, but they obviously hate me as much I hate them.
And I saved the best for last, three summers ago, I was over his brothers house and his sister-in-law was taking about my husband's ex-wife and how she was the perfect wife, and how she was soooooo great to him and she did everything for him and how he should be with her because she wants children and how she'll take care of him and just how great she is. I was sitting right there, staring at her. She was like, oh, I hope you're not offended; it's not like your going to be around for long. HA, we've been together for ten years, a hell of a lot longer than his ex-wife and him were ever together. And his ex-wife was never perfect, she was an abuser - verbally and physically abusive to him. Oh, and she cheated on him constantly, and got pregnant three times, by three different guys. But she's great because she wants children - just not his. I'm not having children.
Aaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhh, I hate his family. are all in-laws complete assholes? Oh, wait no, my family has excepted him with open arms and they love him. Why did I get stuck with the asshole in laws?
- Asked by Female, 29-35
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