In a nutshell? My boyfriend is being super disconnected because he's waging a custody battle. Help! me: trying to be supportive, understanding, encouraging, and wanting to do everything i can to make the situation better (understanding that i can't fix it, of course. but hopefully i could aid to giving him a smile every now and then.)
him: stuck in a horrible custody battle with a super bitch (they always are) all the while having to learn new life coping skills being only one year sober. he wants to rescue his daughter from the situation she's in and wants to provide her with the best life, something he can accomplish at this stage in his life. because of all this things between us will be fine for a bit, then he'll just ... snap. like his head breaks. he gets super despondent, disconnected, struggles with his self-worth and always feels like a failure.
this leaves me stuck somewhere awful. i try to be close and ask him if that helps, and he says there's nothing i can do that helps. then i say tonight that i'll just give him some space, and he can let me know when things have been sorted out enough for us to return back to normal. i even said to him, "i just don't know where you want me in all this." his response? "i don't know. i didn't think about it."
it all just scares me that i'm going to lose him and that he's going to feel to overwhelmed to be with me even though we've been together for awhile and we've talked of getting married and things like that.
faithful answerologists... what can i do to remedy this situation? or at the very least stop being paranoid that i'm going to lose him. - Asked by sunlite, An Alternative Girl, Female, 22-25, Portland, Student | 