My husband has it blocked what I can see on his facebook page.
About 5 years ago I noticed my husband stopped having sex with me, I tried everything in the book and blamed myself for it (a lot). When he got on facebook, I added him "Married" to me. He declined to accept that requested, stating "it's just facebook who cares" showing little to no interest in it. We separated a few years ago, still remained very cordial to each other, and would go on trips together. Recently he has stated he wants to get back together, and I noticed that I am blocked from seeing a lot of information on his page...so it appears he's just doing things on his own. Is this just "normal" when you have an ex or considering getting back together or are "single" do guys use this tool to prevent girls from knowing that they are dating multiple people... that they use the settings to edit what you can see...not blocked still "friends" but the settings so the girls can only see certain information? I feel somewhat gullible b/c it works...I'm that much more likely to think "wow he's so sweet just doing things on his own" and to find out I've been "blocked" out of who he is dating and all girls are thinking that is sort of disenfranchising/diseng aging...I don't know I'm feeling like a fool for feeling a connection and he is my husband.
But I notice when we are all out, I'm kinda just put it all out there type person...and the group will be like "NOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!, text me that picture...ones they got me to take but DO NOT PUT IT ON FACEBOOK!! I get people make their lives seem "better" or maybe only put the fun stuff on facebook, and pictures can't be trusted for what is actually going on in someones life, but the fact that I feel like I got played by my own husband as to what was going on in his life based on our conversations, trips together, and confirmation with what I saw on facebook is somewhat concerning.
I know that facebook has led to a lot of divorces, being the number one event mention in cause for divorce, so if you are going to say it's just a site, I get that, but you have to understand that I'm not alone in it being more than a site, but a place to perpetuate a lie to your own spouse.
So any suggestions on how to deal with it or what to say, feeling like a fool.
- Asked by Female, 29-35