GIVE ADVICE ON SEX & INTIMACY

GLAZED KABOBS WITH HOT DOGS

Grilling cooking spray
1/2 cup chili sauce
3 tablespoons brown sugar
2 tablespoons deli mustard
1 package (16 ounces) 1/4-lb dinner franks, cut into 16 (1-1/2-inch) pieces
1 small red onion, cut into 1/2-inch wedges
1 medium red bell pepper, cut into 1-inch pieces
1 medium green bell pepper, cut into 1-inch pieces
2 medium ears fresh corn, shucked, cut into 1-inch-thick slices

Spray cold grate of outdoor grill with grilling spray. Prepare grill for medium heat. Combine chili sauce, brown sugar, and mustard in small bowl until blended. Set aside.
Thread franks and vegetables alternately on 4 metal or heavy wooden skewers.
Place kabobs on grill. Brush with half of the sauce; grill 5 minutes. Turn kabobs; brush with remaining sauce. Grill 5 minutes, or until vegetables are tender and franks are hot.

It got hot and heavy really fast so I pulled away

We met when I was out one night, he text-ed me a lot for a while then I decided to meet him and our chemistry was of the f*&^%$# hook. There is an age gap, I am older, but personally I don't think it is a big deal, some men are fine with it some aren't. But as far as he is concerned, he was turned on by my having more experience and so on.

But here's the thing, I'm just coming out of a relationship that spanned many years, he was younger too... it just happened that way... We had a lot of problems in the beginning he hurt me but then came back hard and tried for a year to get me back and said he had changed and wanted to be with me and have children but it was too late for me I was terrified to trust him again... even tho I wanted to... and by now he must found someone else, it's sad.

Anyway, as for the new guy, I want something real... and I know we just met, but I let him know that I wasn't down for friends with benefits and that I felt a little more. I know I was jumping the gun but we have already gotten very physical (but not gone all the way) so I don't want to get hurt... if he's just in it for sex and doesn't feel a little more at this point.

He hasn't taken me to dinner... bought flowers... not exactly turn ons for me... I like to be swept off my feet... and our conversations were turning into nothing but sex. Believe me I find him hot as h*** but I don't just want that... with any man.

Ok, the last bit is I looked him up on facebook and saw that a girl who comments on his pictures changed her status to "in a relationship" a month ago... with him. I asked him if he's seeing anyone, without letting on that I know, and he said no.

So now you have it, any insights would be appreciated. Thank you.

Update: May 24, 2013.
Ok guys, thanks... I know I shouldn't have made out with him so fast... there was just a lot of chemistry there, but I did not go all the way him! If there was something there, how could I have ruined it by having some passionate moments with him? I only asked him about his feelings because things got so crazy and I wanted to be honest with him and also put my guard up a little. I was falling for him and didn't want to get hurt.

How do I trust my husband again after an affair .

It's been 2 years since I caught my husband cheating on me. I have forgiven him and am trying so hard to trust him again. But I can't lie I still feel like he is still cheating on me! The hardest part of all this is the other woman was his best friends sister. During the time he was cheating we had a horrible marriage, hardly ever had sex, we fought all the time and he was very distant. Things are actually better right now better sex life, he spends time with me and we hardly fight. I see a big difference in him in the last year. But I still have so much hurt, anger and fear trapped in my heart. I'm so scared he is still cheating on me. His job is not helping either he meets a lot of women and he is A very friendly person. He has a lot of friends male and female! I know if I have forgiven him then I shouldn't bring up what he did to me but it is still eating at my heart. He is my world and I love him so much, that even though he broke my heart in two I still love him!

This may be long but...

So 11 years ago, 2002, I met someone who IM'd me completely randomly on AOL. Remember AOL?? He was 18. I was 24. He lives in England. I live in the United States. We were pen pals for about 4 years. He moved here in 2006 for 6 months to work. We met fact to face and became closer friends. He went home and came back a few months later and sparks flew.

We dated for about 7 months until I realized how hard long-distance dating is AND the fact that he's not even a citizen.

So for the past 6 years since we've broken up, it's been a roller coaster. We've kept in touch a lot, sometimes more often than other times. And every man I've dated since has been jealous of our friendship (probably rightly so admittedly). I always let whomever I'm dating know that I'm friends with my Ex from England. And it is just friends if I'm dating someone. The last guy I dated was so threatened by him, he basically said me or him. I chose the man I was dating and quickly realized how much my life would suck if "England" wasn't in it. So among other things, that's what ended the last relationship. He was jealous of everyone.

England, sent me an Email a couple years back about how 4,000 miles can't keep him from his feelings for me, and how he will never stop loving me. I was kind of scared at the time to really address that. I was in school (went back late) and was just in a different place.

England, now has a girlfriend for about two years. He's told me they are taking space from each other. He's staying at "mum's" house more often. He told me that something just doesn't feel right with her and he doesn't know what to do. I listened to him as a friend and gave him suggestions and advice, etc.

But, I cannot stop thinking about him and how I felt when I thought I'd have to stop talking to him forever. I'm kind of grateful for the last bf I had because he made me realize it. I can't imagine him not in my life and I can't imagine that 11 years of this will end up at nothing.

So here's the question really. Do I let England know how strongly I've been feeling about him lately? Should I back off? I am still in touch with his family and think they are great. We are victims of circumstance. But, do I wait and see what happens with this girl he's with or do I say something? I'm sure she's sweet and I wouldn't want someone doing that to me. But they are kind of on the outs and I've got a lot of history with him.

This is so complicated.

What would YOU do? I was burned badly once by an ex-BF, and my current BF is great, BUT....

I found a condom wrapper in my bf's kitchen trash when I was throwing something out. It was right on top. Now, he and I have been intimate in several ways for months, but the last time we used a condom was about two weeks ago, because we have engaged in safer intimate acts recently, and for a week during that time, I had my period.

Now, when I saw this, I was upset, because he has regular housekeepers who I would have thought would have taken out the trash.

Also, for the past few months, while he has been an amazing boyfriend to me, has been supportive of my daughter, we get together with our families and friends, and makes time for me despite the fact that he has a demanding job, a three kids, side businesses, a big new house to take care of, and is finalizing his divorce (he thinks August), we DID have an issue in the past few months.

I love this man, and he has shown me he loves me, but as we met online, there was a misunderstanding about his still getting "general" e-mails asking him to "come back" to the dating website we met on, as he had purchased before he met me a 1-year "upgraded" subscription. (I had a free subscription and they weren't interested in bringing back an un-paying customer, I'm guessing). He had deleted the account, but was still getting "daily matches" e-mails a few months later. On a few separate occasions, I had seen this, by honest accident (we were looking at his iPad for something, another time he had asked me to look up a number on his phone, and his e-mail window is always up for work).

When I asked him about the condom wrapper, he pulled out a brand new, in-the-wrapper condom from his pocket and said that when he was getting it from his bedroom night table drawer, there was the wrapper (not the condom) from the last time we made love there (2 weeks ago) and he brought it down to the garbage can with some other paper trash he took out of his bathroom and bedroom.

Ok, that's understandable, and I didn't get upset at him outwardly, but he could see that just seeing it initially stunned me (let's face it - how often do you see a condom wrapper in a kitchen garbage can?)

What DID upset me a little, however, was HIS reaction to my being a bit stunned by seeing it after we hadn't used a condom in over two weeks.

He was sweet, but looked at me differently. and asked me, "Have you been burned before?"

I was sure I had told him this awhile back - but I WAS burned before by a man I was almost engaged to. HE cheated on me on an online dating website AND he had a problem with pills AND I think he was cheating on me off-line. The man broke my heart - and my daughter's heart in a million pieces, and he absolutely hid who he was and what he was doing - I thought he had health problems that made him sluggish and weak, but it was the pills. When he was online so much and away so much, I thought it was for work, because he travels for work and works for a software company. BUT I found out by accident - saw his laptop with a dating website when I surprised him for his birthday. His daughter was home and was using his laptop, needed my help with something and I saw the window open. She even had no idea.

When I told my BF this, he felt badly for me, but I think it was a mistake I told him that I was burned because it made me look like someone who could be cheated on, I think. Look, I'm not stupid, I have to be honest in a relationship, but I feel like he feels like I'm less a little bit, you know? Like I'm less confident, when in reality, I'm just trying to be smart this time, and actually ASK about something that bothers me before it festers in me or causes unwarranted problems later. Basically, I'm NOT trying to LOOK for red flags, just trying to keep my eyes OPEN and addressing them.

Now, I haven't had a million, every day issues with him - the only thing was the e-mail and condom thing, and of course, I'm dealing with the fact that he is technically still married. Maybe that DOES make me insecure and perceived as LOOKING for red flags.

I love this man, really love him, and I'm not a stalker, a frequent caller, not a surprise guest at his house, nor do I ask a lot of him. But I hope that what I've said and observed serves me well.

What do you think?

FLAT IRON STEAK.....

stalks fresh lemon grass or 1 Tbsp. finely shredded lemon peel
1/2 cup reduced-sodium soy sauce
1/3 cup bottled hoisin sauce
3 tablespoons lemon juice
4 cloves garlic, minced
1/4 - 1/2 teaspoon crushed red pepper
4 boneless beef shoulder top blade (flat iron) steaks, cut 1 to 1-1/4 inch thick (about 1-1/2 lb. total)
1/2 peeled, cored fresh pineapple, sliced
2 nectarines, halved, pitted, cut in wedges
2 plums, pitted, cut in wedges
1 bunch green onions (about 8), trimm

For marinade, trim ends of lemon grass; halve lengthwise. Remove two or three layers of tough outer stalk. Remove tender inner stalks; wrap, refrigerate, and reserve to garnish grilled steaks. Finely chop 1 tablespoon remaining lemon grass. In bowl combine chopped lemon grass, soy sauce, hoisin sauce, lemon juice, garlic, and crushed red pepper. Transfer 1/2 cup marinade to airtight container; refrigerate.
Place steak in large self-sealing plastic bag set in shallow dish. Pour remaining marinade over steaks; seal bag. Refrigerate 12 to 24 hours; turn occasionally.
Remove steaks from marinade; discard marinade. Let steaks stand at room temperature for 30 minutes.
For charcoal grill, place pineapple slices, nectarines, and plums on rack over hot coals. Cover and grill 4 to 6 minutes, until fruit is lightly seared, turning once. Brush with refrigerated marinade the last 2 minutes of grilling. Transfer fruit to platter; set aside.
For charcoal grill, place steaks on rack directly over medium coals. Cover and grill 15 to 18 minutes for medium rare (145 degrees F); turning once and brushing with refrigerated marinade the last 2 minutes of grilling. Place green onions on rack over coals; grill, uncovered, 1 minute, turning occasionally. (For gas grill, preheat grill to medium-high. Place fruit on rack over heat. Cover and grill fruit. Reduce heat to medium. Grill steaks and onions as above.)
Slice steaks. Serve with fruit, onions, and reserved lemon grass.

What do I do with my life?

Hundreds of thousands of school debt, limited job prospects for advancement, never had girlfriend/sex, no friends growing up or now. With limited experiences and limited future at 30, what woman woman would love me? Lets face it, even if i could find someone at 50 it would be different that being with someone now when I'm young. Children and having a family of my own could be out of the question. And what about money. What woman would look at me seriously? She probably won't think I could be a good provider. It seems like the joys of youth I will neve experience, and my future is grim.

Did I lose at 30, when my peers are winners. It seems like the winners keep winning and get everything: career, the woman of my dreams, family, home, great friends. what do I do? I have nothing to show for.

When do you know a friend is more than a friend? Is their signs I should be looking out for?

I have been friends with this guy for over 12 years (since elementary school) and he is one of my best friends. My father passed away when I was 12 and he was there for me (he did know both of my parents btw).

As we got older, we somewhat grew apart (he moved out of town and then state). We would message eachother from time to time but we never really had the same fun-loving friendship that I was used to.

My mother recently passed away and he didn't hear about it until about 9-10 months after her passing. As soon as he heard about it, he came back to town and has been here ever since. He visits me alot, sometimes spends the night (nothing sexually either, just an F.Y.I.). He gets along with my siblings, of course (my only close family I have left), and he's always making me laugh, keeping a smile on my face, etc.

I've been noticing some really weird things that he does when he's with/close to me (examples: He rubs the top of my foot when hes sitting on the floor and I'm sitting on the couch as we play video games, he wrestles with me alot, he notices when I wear make-up, he always compliments my hair, he asks me alot of questions in regards to my love life, and the most oddest thing is when he stares at me until I look at him, then he laughs.) But what's really throwing me for a loop is when he talks about all his ex-gf's and asks me if I know them, and if I dont, he continues telling me ridiculously awkward stories about them and what they did.

I feel like he's still treating me like a friend yet trying to be more and he doesnt know how to say it. (Also, when we were younger, we were kind of bf/gf but my parents didnt approve, so we quit calling eachother bf/gf and we became 'the best of friends').

One last thing; I have told him numerous times that I loved him, but I always said it as a friend. Now when I tell him, I feel like I really do love him and I dont want to lose him or our friendship by admitting that I love him more than a friend, and he isnt feeling the same way.

Please someone, give me some advice. I've talked to numerous people about this situation, not saying names as to who I'm talking about, and they have all said that the male should step up to the plate, NOT THE FEMALE. (In this day and age, it should be either one of us talking about it, shouldn't it?)

**I asked this one Yahoo Answers! and I never received a response**

Condoms in a pinata...Yay or Nay

Discussion came up at work. I was asking my coworkers for ideas about what to put in a pinata....I'm having a grad party for my son. It's a family party but he is inviting 10 of his really close friends. I'm having a pinata for the younger children filled with normal stuff. I'm also having a pinata for my son and his friends. They're all going off to college in a few months. I put bandaids, mini first aid kits, travel size sunscreen, mouthwash, cash, gas cards, etc in it. I asked my coworkers for some additional ideas. One of them suggested condoms. I think it's hysterical but I'm pretty sure someones parents would not find it as funny as me. They're 18 and going off to college, as much as I would like to think no one has sex before marriage, sex is going to happen.... I'm not worried about the younger children seeing this pinata, it will be opened away from the younguns.
So what do you think, condoms yay or nay and of course, why?


Update: May 24, 2013.
Thanks for your responses. I'm not planning on doing it. Its not worth the drama that it may create. I did mention it to my son and he thought it was hysterical as well and swears none of his friends parents would mind but I assured him he is wrong. LOL. Have a good weekend everyone.

What is something that if you stick with it, it will stick with you?