Ladies: Why is it so damn difficult to just say the words, "No," or "I'm not interested?"
The other day some gal on Facebook blocked me after I discovered she was flaking out on me and giving me the runaround. She said "Well I have a new part-time job and I don't really have much time." Then I asked how she doesn't have time if she works less than 40 hours a week (which is what a part-time job is.) She said I come on too strong and that I'm an arrogant douche after I caught her in a lie when she then changed her story to it was a full-time job. That's not at all what I am. She apparently doesn't know I have Asperger's.
I AM a nice guy, but I'm not a weakling. If you don't want me to get all suspicious, then just be honest and forthright with me. Don't fucking lie to me, okay? If you don't want to hang out with me because you think I'm gonna bite your face off like every other shallow woman thinks because the media has all people with Asperger's painted as sociopaths, then don't lead me on. If you don't want me to keep asking questions, then give straight answers. The more disingenuous and vague you are with your answers, the more I'm gonna ask.
Another gal when I went to Houston over the 4th of July Weekend did the same thing. Rather than just say she wasn't interested, she kept leading me on and holding out on me at the last minute, I had my whole day planned on meeting her and then she finally flaked out on me at the last minute and ruined my day because she couldn't be inconvenienced to spend all but 30 seconds to tell me she wasn't interested. She shouldn't have even made plans with me if she got cold feet. Both of these gals were over 40 and had college degrees, too. It stands to reason they have the cognitive ability for abstract thinking because the frontal lobes of their brains were most likely fully developed.
Whatever happened to no means no? If every grown women has enough brain cells to use maxi pads and tampons, drive a car, polish her nails, tie her shoes, send text messages, apply makeup, and even earn college degrees, then why the flying fuck is it so hard to say "No?" It's pretty goddamn easy for ME to do. That's usually one of the first words little children and foreigners learn to say in English.
A good friend of mine who was born in Poland but raised in Germany knows how to say it when she speaks English not as her second language but her third language. She understands every single word coming out of my mouth, and she's never bitched or complained about anything I do or called me an asshole. This gal has never lied to me, either. That explains why the divorce rate in Europe is much lower than it is on this side of the pond even though women have more rights over there. They're not afraid to be upfront instead of beating around the bush.
This is exactly what got me in trouble when I was in AmeriCorps. Some gal latched onto me on a field trip and acted all interested. She forgot to be just honest and upfront and say the word, "No." Instead, she gave me her e-mail address and got all befuddled when I sent her an e-mail asking if she wanted to get together. What the fuck did she think I was gonna do? All she had to do was say, "No." I wouldn't have liked it, but I would've accepted it. I didn't tell any of these women I wanted to bang them. All I wanted was a friendly get together and nothing more.
If you have a high enough pain threshold to carry babies in your wombs for nine months and give birth, and you claim men don't know pain like you do then spending all but 30 seconds to articulate the words, "No," or "I'm not interested" should be a piece of cake. Is doing that like giving birth to a porcupine with its quills extended? Is it like yanking all your teeth out with a pair of pliers? Or is it like getting a pap smear with a meat hook? Then you all wonder why men hate working with women and don't trust them. That also explains why some guys get mail order brides from abroad because unlike their American counterparts, they know how to articulate the word, "No," and tell the truth.
Ladies, if you expect your men to be honest and forthright, then maybe you should do the same. Has anyone ever heard the phrase, "You get what you give?" How about, "Tangled is the web we weave when first we practice to deceive?" If a guy on the autism spectrum who's supposedly socially inept knows how to say know and just be forthright, then why can't women when 99.9999999999% of them are neurotypical?
- Asked by daugenstine
, A Creative, Male, 29-35, Political / Government