What to say to reconnect with an old friend?
(I'm sorry this is so long.)
I had a very close friend that I've known since 3rd grade. We were inseperable & her parents were never really there for her, so my family was like her family because she was ALWAYS with us. She pretty much was like the sister I never had. It's hard to explain how close we really were in just a paragraph, but it seemed like nothing could break our bond.
When I was 14, my family & I moved out of state for my dad's job. My friend was very hurt by this because she felt like her family was abandoning her. She was angry & took it out on me. She came to visit us a couple times after I moved & we remained in contact up until I was about 16...& I honestly don't even remember why we stopped talking or how it happened (I know we didn't get in an argument or anything). I think we just kind of grew apart, which is normal as people get older. Last year, she found me on Facebook & sent me a friend request, in which I accepted of course. She messaged me, we talked
& I soon discovered (by the way she was talking) it seemed like she was still kind of mad at me for the fact that I moved away. Which, is something that was out of my control. She said, "If you would've still been here, we would've still been close." I told her politely, that it was out of my control & I wish I never moved either. We have stopped talking since then, but we still remain friends on Facebook & I still wish her a happy birthday every year.
I've had many friends over the years, but it seems that I've never had a friendship comparable to the one I had with her. I really miss her & Iam always thinking of her. It makes me sad that our bond was broken. I don't expect things to happen overnight, but I would like to reconnect with her & try to have a friendship again. Even though it has been many years, it seems like a waste to let that go.
I would prefer to hear from people who have had a similar experience, but anyone is welcomed to give their two cents. Iam just really confused on how to go about this, or if I even should.
My question is, what should I say? It's almost like I have too much to say, that I don't even know where to start. I don't want what I say to come off as if I've never moved on, or as weird. But I just feel like Iam getting older & I don't want to live with the regret of never saying anything.
- Asked by christinaa8001
, A Thinker, Female, 18-21