18 year old girl with relationship issues? I can't see myself in a relationship any time soon...
I have had two relationships in the past, both last year. They were short-lived and could hardly be called 'relationships'. They were both casual arrangements and I never got any enjoyment out of that, in fact it made me quite unhappy and affected my day-to-day life. When I let myself get into that situation for a second time, I was so angry at myself and finally decided to call it quits and have a break from all that. Since then I have not been looking for anything, but I happened to meet this guy who I guess I clicked with. We have only known each other about a week, and went on our first date yesterday. It was a great date, we got on well, he was very sweet and I enjoyed myself. However, today he texted me (he texts me A LOT) and invited me to a family/friends gathering only 2 days from now. It freaked me out because I felt like that was way too soon, so I declined with some excuse and instead we are having our 2nd date in 3 days. Even this feels a little soon to me. I am the LEAST clingy person I know, so all of this communication is new to me, and makes me a little uncomfortable to be honest.
After our first date I also started worrying that I don't actually want to be in a relationship. I can't see myself being in one any time soon and so I don't want to lead this guy on because he seems really nice. I'm very content on my own and just the thought of being in a relationship with him (or anyone) makes me more stressed than happy or excited.
Should I try to work past this and see where it goes? (This is what I think I'm going to do, I'm going on another date with him to see how I feel). Or should I be listening to myself and stopping this before I get in too deep and end up unhappy? Do I have relationship/commitment issues? Or is it ok to just want to be on your own?
- Asked by A Creative, Female, 18-21, Sydney