GIVE ADVICE ON SEX & INTIMACY

Something to think about...

It isn't the mountain ahead that wears you out;
it's the grain of sand in your shoe.

But what if it happens after ?

The relationship
You break up and get offered lets be friends trough whole life offer ?
Does this change things would you accept and how would you understand this if someone told you that.

But also said that they still love you will always care and worry about you its just that you can't make it work as couple.



Does that just like this case mean you are friend zoned forever or there might be a chance sometimes again ?

GUYS.....the truth about the "friend zone"....

We see tons of guys on here upset to be in the dreaded friend zone with women. As a woman who has "friend zoned" a few guys in my time, this is the REAL reason why women friend zone guys.

She is not attracted to you romantically.

End of story.

So WHY does she keep calling you and hanging out? Because she thinks youre a great guy, fun, etc....but NOT fuckable. She feels bad just saying blunt out "I dont find you attractive". Its nice to have a male perspective and presence around, even if its not a guy you find sexually appealing. Men don't understand this. They dont typically keep girls around that they know are romantically interested unless they feel the same way. Even if ahe funny and cool, if shes not attractive to him
Sexually he will let her go.

The other problem, is that many guys think they are much more attractive than they actually are. I recently met a man who was interested in me through a friend. Hes about 50 pounds overweight, is covered in tattoos and has several facial piercings. He seemed like a cool guy, and i do not require a guy to be an adonis, but i did not feel ANY chemistry with him. Im sure there are othwr women who would find him appealing (perhaps a fluffier woman who likes tatoos?), but i am not. I wont put him in the "zone" because experience ha taught me that friend zone giys are not really friends, theyre just hanging on hoping youll change your mind. This is why so many women live thwir gay male friends. You dont have to worry that the friendship is actually a front for trying to get with you.

So, if you are friend zoned, say "buh bye" to this girl and find a woman who feels juat as excited about yoy as you are about her.

About that....like it or not, people tend to be attracted to others on a similar looks/interest scale. A gym bunny is unlikely to be attracted to an overweight gamer, just like a man whos fit would probably not be attracted to a sedentary overweight woman. This is ok and NORMAL. Charm does go a long way yes, but if you find someone physically unattractive, charm will make you want to be his friend at the most. Friend, NOT lover.

So stop chasing the girl who does not want you, and find the one that does. Stop whining about how the "nice guys never get the girl". Be nice to yourself (and her, since nobody needs a "friend" with ulterior motives), and DONT be friends with a girl you want...but does not want you.

Would you consider it sad, if you couldn't even get laid in your dreams?

Brain dominance and sexual orientation

I read that right brain dominance tend be found in gay men and straight females. Left brain dominance is found in straight men and lesbians. I am left handed. I took a brain dominance test and the results show I am right brain dominant. However I am straight. Are there exceptions? Does anyone know anything about this area of neuroscience?

Have you ever met someone super mysterious...

You get seduced by her beauty, and then they take over your world..hit you like a shot of vodka..it's like your senses become her slave..Spell bound her sight becomes engraved in your eyes..you can sense her halo around you..her voice capable of igniting sparks in your heart, her eyes, as if a colossal conspiracy capable of inciting storms in the seas of your emotions. intense passion flowing through your breaths..her presence capable of eroding the dimensions of time in your life. Subtle movements of her body, capable of lighting your heart on fire. Your soul igniting in the fire of lust.. hmm... Ever felt that way about somebody?...

I am just thinking outLoUd.

I have been seeing this amazing guy for almost four months now and we talk every single day, texting and sharing videos ect. We can talk about anything and I appreciate him saying this before that he doesn't jump into relationships and it is best to get to know someone first. I totally respect that and since then our friendship and trust has grown so much! Not good to jump into a relationship. We have such great respect and trust for one another.
One evening sometime last week we were just goffing around and I shared some sexy photographs with him and I teased that he is making me do naughty things and I don't normall do this. I said,"We have to be gf and bf so I can feel better about this!" I joked and he says,"It is just between you and me." I think I may be reading too much into this but what did it mean?
We haven't had sex yet since we want to wait and when I first met him he asked me,"Really you mean that you would call me your bf?" I said sure but maybe in the future if things go well. This is when we first met.

I thought it was interesting...he is one of my best friends.

Have you heard about the so called Monsanto Protection Act?

There was a march today around the world against the Monsanto Company who modifies food with genenic seeds. This is extremely serious!! There is no proof that our food grown with their seeds is safe. Also, if monsanto owns all the seeds, which I understand now they own ninety per cent,
they will own the worlds supply of food.

Cancer is on the rise, and millions of dollors spent each year to cure it. It actually could be
the food we eat that is killing us. Genes can now be placed in everything and clones could be the future. It's sad.

What can we do about it? Maybe not a lot, but anything pertaining to Monsanto we should not support, and stand up for what is right instead!

Thoughts

Thanks for your reply,
Don

Having sex with my ex

My ex dumped me about six months ago we have a child together so its hard to get over him I had sex with him 3 times it was in the car so we never stayed all night together but a few days ago I decide to stay at his house and I stayed the night we had sex all night I thought that he wanted to get back together because he told me that he missed me and that I was the best f*** he has ever had and nicest chick its been a few days now and I been asking him were we stand in our relationship and he just ignores the question I get upset to I started accusing him of being with other girls that's why he can't answer my question I am so confused I text him and he ignores all my texts like I don't matter after that great night (I thought ) and he picks my son up for the weekend and just acts like nothing happened between us
or he says I am acting crazy

Hes always ditching me lately...

My fi keeps ditching me and its driving me mad. I spoke to him about it and he denies it. Which really bothers me. What can I do? Im trying ot be calm about this but he ditches me for the stupidest things. ... Ps were LD right now which makes this even harder.

He will promise me a skype date then blow me off in the next breath. Idk Im starting to really feel like this is something im doing.

What can I say to him? I need help :( please

GRILLED EGGPLANT WITH GHEESE

1 large (1 1/2 pounds) eggplant, peeled and sliced crosswise 1/4 inch thick
4 large plum tomatoes, sliced crosswise 1/4 inch thick
Extra-virgin olive oil, for brushing
Salt
1/3 cup(s) green olives, chopped
2 tablespoon(s) oil-packed Calabrian chiles or other hot chiles, chopped
1/4 cup(s) basil, finely shredded
Basil leaves, for garnish
6 ounce(s) Fontina cheese, thinly sliced
Crusty bread, for serving

Preheat oven to 450 degrees F and heat a grill pan. Brush eggplant and tomato slices with olive oil and season lightly with salt. Grill eggplant in batches over moderately high heat, turning once, until softened and lightly charred, about 4 minutes. Grill tomatoes, turning once, until lightly charred but still intact, about 2 minutes.
In a bowl, combine olives, chiles, and shredded basil. Line a large rimmed baking sheet with parchment paper. In enter, arrange half of eggplant in a 9-inch square, overlapping slices slightly. Top with half of grilled tomatoes, olive mixture, and Fontina. Repeat with remaining ingredients, ending with cheese.
Bake in center of oven for about 15 minutes, until bubbling and golden. Let stand for 10 minutes. Garnish with basil leaves and serve with crusty bread.