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Stand by your man........... / Race, Religion & Politics / 7:16 AM - Friday June 19, 2015 Back To Top

Hillary did, and that's why I'm voting for her!

- Asked by Female, 46-55

The worst mess ever.. / Dating / 2:45 PM - Wednesday September 15, 2010 Back To Top

Months ago, I had a one night stand with my boyfriend of a few years cousin. The two of them had always been close, but very compeditive. They were like brothers growing up, but grew apart later. I had always been attracted to my boyfriends cousin. We had known eachother since childhood, but we weren't close. I thought he didn't even like me.
But as months went by, we started to see him more and more. He began treating me diffrent to. He started by teasing me in a playful way, she started calling me beautiful, he would wink at me, whisper in my ear, and stare into my eyes forever. He would flirt with me. At one point he said to my boyfriend that they would have fought over me if he had the chance. I was so shocked, I didn't know what to do. Later I messages him. We admited to a mutual attraction, he told me that he could even reject the idea of being with me. I senced he was becoming unfomfurtable. I avoided him for several months, in this time, he told family members that I was after him and had made sexual advances. I didn't hear any of this till months later.
Time passed and we started talking again. He was now diffrent, he had no problem with flirting with me and quickly he became sexual and eventually asked if I would sleep with him when we the chance. He said he cared for me, and how much he wanted me. He asked for pictures and sent me song lyrics. He bought condoms and we slept together. Right after it happened, he regreted it, he was scared to death that my boyfriend knew. Withen 24 hours, the whole family knew. Now I'm outcastes, and so is he. Everyone hates me and at this point Ive accepted the fact that I'll never be accepted into this family. At first he claimed he was way too drunk and accused me of taking advantage of him. He quickly recalled his statement and said it wasn't true before changeing his story again. I love my boyfriend and we've been able to work through this as well as much more emotionaly painful issues. What kills me is that the other hates me more then anything. He won't speak to me at all and he blames the affair on me. I cry all the time wondering if he cared for me in the first place or if he used me just for easy sex. He always said how beautiful I was, and how luck his cousin was. He had other women after him that night, but he chose me. I feel used and thrown under the buss. What's worse is I still care for him. I love my boyfriend and I care for them both. Now my boyfriend hates someone who was raised as his brother and I don't know what else I can do. I tried to take the blame for as much as I could, but it doesn't help.

Update: September 15, 2010.
I've only had 2 partners in my life, probably quite unlike all the 45 year old men who have responded to this post. And I've never dreamed of cheating until I wapitHy in that position It wasn't some random night of sex. We had become close and I truly cared about him, it was a matter of falling for the worst person possible even when I knew it was a terrible mistake. I can't just not care for him. I already know what I did was wrong, you don't need a PHD to figure that out. I'd really like to help the situation and move on, but everything is stagnent.0

- Asked by Female, 26-28

Abortion - Is it possible to be on both sides of the fence, at the same time? / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 2:38 PM - Wednesday March 10, 2010 Back To Top

Quick Win.

- Asked by bluegenel, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, Who Cares?, Technical

Is it fair to give your love a smoking ultimatum? / Dating / 8:31 AM - Wednesday January 06, 2010 Back To Top

I would never date a guy before that was a smoker, but my current boyfriend of three years whom I live with is a smoker. He smokes outside, but he promised when we first started dating that he would quit. Well that was 3 1/2 years ago. I got him niccorette for Christmas, and now he is hiding it. He will go over to his buddies house to smoke. I hate it! I had two uncles die of lung cancer, one of whom almost adopted me as a little girl, so I was devastated after he lost one lung, then continued to smoke, and eventually lost the battle. My boyfriend says he is trying, but he is not. Besides other aspects of our relationship not always being the greatest, he is overall a great guy. But I guess he wont' listen to me. Do I give him an ultimatum, or what do I do? Is that a deal breaker for you? I have no idea what to do!

Update: January 07, 2010.
Thanks again for all of your responses. I ended up having a heartfelt conversation with him last night, and told him that he might not care to do it for himself, but do it for me. I expressed how important it was to me to have him around as long as I can, and that I don't want something so silly as a stick of niccotene to come between that. Maybe an ultimatum wouldn't have been the best route, so I figured a heartfelt conversation expressing how important it was to me was the best bet, and I was right, hopefully. I said "what are you waiting for? its either now or never", and he agreed that I was right. So hopefully it works. He is a wonderful guy, and its not right for me give demands like that, but just to express my feelings in a meaningful way. Hopefully it works... there are more important things in life than a cancer stick. Like the person you love. Happy New Years to all, and here's to hoping that our goals for 2010 come true!! Best wishes, E

Update: January 06, 2010.
Thank you everyone for all of your very insightful responses, that was a huge help to me. I have decided to give him a mental time frame. He is the type of person that is not really big into long term goals, like myself. I am the one who wants to buy a house, and start a business, and travel, etc. He is comfortable sitting on the couch, drinking beers and smoking with his buddies. I have other, healthier plans for the future. If he does not quit by summer (our lease on our beautiful farm house on 140 pristine acres in rural PA is up in the fall), I will start looking for a new home. Sad to say, but I have things I want to achieve in life. I cannot be with someone who does not have the motivation to be better in life. We evolve, and must strive to be better then we were yesterday. End of story. If he doesn't quit by summer, I am telling him I am leaving. Thank you, I really love this forum for all of these intelligent and empathetic responders.

- Asked by hikingjunkie1, A Creative, Female, 29-35, Philadelphia, Financial / Banking

Little White Lies Part Deux / Dating / 9:48 AM - Thursday December 17, 2009 Back To Top

So a little while back I asked how often you tell a little white (harmless) lie to your significant other to avoid an argument and several respondents admitted to doing this.

Now my question is this - lets say you get caught in one of those lies and look very suspicious as a result - how do you recover? And if you are on the receiving end of the lie (but understand that it was harmless and why they did it) how do you get over it and trust in the future?

- Asked by eccentrica, A Hippie Chick, Female, 36-45

Men, what's your ideal vagina? / Sex & Intimacy / 11:45 AM - Friday September 25, 2009 Back To Top

Based on some traits and looks, what makes up your ideal vagina, IF you have a preference please answer:

Big labias/small labias?
Big clit/little clit?
Hair/No hair?
There isn't much you can describe about it, but if I left anything out, please feel free to describe what you like or don't like about it as well ;)

- Asked by dolcevita3, An Alternative Girl, Female, 29-35, Student

In a man situation, how many minutes of Orgasm Last? What is the average minutes take long? / Sex & Intimacy / 9:02 AM - Monday September 21, 2009 Back To Top

Its true it is varies what race are you belong?

- Asked by Male, 36-45

what is the magic word to keep A/O from showing an error and site can't be found? / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 5:16 AM - Wednesday September 16, 2009 Back To Top

I have tried please and open sesa me. but nothing works, it keeps closing down with that error. I has taken me half an hour to get this type and on this page, now I have to see if I can send it before the page closes, anyone got an answer?

- Asked by phoenixbandit, A Guy Critical, Male, 66 or older, Columbus, Law Enforcement

Do you use Answerology as your "life coach"? / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 7:49 AM - Wednesday September 09, 2009 Back To Top


Are you insane?

- Asked by wetwired, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 29-35, Vancouver, Who Cares?

How long have you been with answerology and how did you find it? / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 1:08 PM - Friday August 28, 2009 Back To Top

I've been here since early 2004 (seen a lot of changes) and found it through Redbook (I think from memory).


- Asked by sunset77, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 36-45, Who Cares?

I got drunk and had sex with my BF identical Twin, now I'm pregnant. / Sex & Intimacy / 7:04 AM - Friday August 28, 2009 Back To Top

My BF and I were visiting his identical twin brother for his birthday, we all had a great night celebrating.

I went to bed early and was awoken a few hours later by my BF who was feeling horny, we had sex and fell asleep.

In the morning I woke up and found my BF down stairs sleeping, he apologised for not coming to bed as he had too much to drink and passed out. However his brother was up stairs in my bed....I thought he was my BF, although he didnt say he was my BF I assumed it was my BF climbing into bed with me.

HIs brother apologised and said he didn't remember and was too drunk and begged me not to say anything to my BF.

I was on contraception when this happened and my BF always wore a condom, but that night his brother didn't and the result is I'm pregnant.

I know its possible it could be my BF's baby but due to drinking which can affect contraception, and that his brother didnt use a condom I think it is a more likelyhood of it being my BF brothers.

Can DNA test still test twins?

What should I do? Should I just carry on with my BF and not tell him and hope its his? Test when the baby is born then tell him if it isn't his?

As the baby will look like my BF should I just say nothing and not test and try living a normal life?

- Asked by Female, Who Cares?

I am beginning to think I am being too picky with men.... / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 10:19 AM - Wednesday August 26, 2009 Back To Top

since I am looking for one who is capable of conversation deeper than a pond.

Where did all the intelligent gentlemen go? really.

- Asked by Female, 36-45

Condom failure due to slippage / Sex & Intimacy / 12:38 PM - Monday August 17, 2009 Back To Top


I buy very large condoms, Magnum size plus. This tends to impress women and will lead to more sex.

However, my penis is average size and the large condoms tend to slip a lot during intercourse, sometimes it just slips off.

How can I stop the condoms from slipping off?

Update: August 17, 2009.
So my question asked how can I use these large condoms without slipping and I gave stars to those who gave me real answers. I know a "smaller size" would fit better but the fact is that women get impressed by magnums and that increases the chances of me getting sex. My dick isn't small it is a little above average so women aren't disappointed when a godzilla cock doesn't pop out.

- Asked by A Rebel, Male, 29-35, Houston, Technical

Would hosing By-tor down with a power washer ... / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 8:54 AM - Tuesday August 11, 2009 Back To Top

... get rid of his boy germs?

- Asked by wetwired, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 29-35, Vancouver, Who Cares?

When will people finally admit white women got it goin' on when it comes to sexual attraction? / Sex & Intimacy / 8:14 AM - Monday August 10, 2009 Back To Top

When it comes to sex. Honest to God and I am all heterosexual man here! White women take the cake! Now I'm sure a few online troll white guys out there are gonna chirp about how good the little Asian and Latina women can be and then there's always a few weirdos of various ethnicities that dig black women, but for the most part you white women got it!

- Asked by dagraham6, A Couch Potato, Male, 26-28, Who Cares?

Dont like your avatar / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 7:45 AM - Friday July 17, 2009 Back To Top

Do you ever lowball someone on the rating because you dont like their avatar? I have.

Sometimes they deserve a star but I give them a 2+ because I HATED their avatar, or I give them a 1 or 0 instead of a 2.

- Asked by A Sweet Sarah, Female, 29-35, Law Enforcement

When asking a question on here, please do everyone a favor. / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 5:54 AM - Wednesday July 08, 2009 Back To Top

Make sure you check the correct category that it pertains to. If I'm looking through questions on Sex and Intimacy, I don't want to see posts on Michael Jackson's death, how to get baby spit up off of clothes, did you like this movie, etc. Does this bother anyone else???

- Asked by Female, 36-45

Please tell me whether or not I'm a failure, because I feel like absolute sh*t lately. I could die. / Career / 8:00 AM - Tuesday July 07, 2009 Back To Top

I'm 23 years old, and own no home and no car. (Actually I have 2 cars that no longer work and I need to have them taken away soon, hopefully for cash.)

I just graduated from a 4 year university program which took me 5 years to complete because I decided to spend a semester studying in Mexico to learn the language. (Which I admitt was a success.)

I lived with roommates for those 5 years but am now back to living at home with my mom and brothers, only 1 with which I get along with. My Dad was an abusive alcoholic who has never paid child support and my mom has a hot-temper, and negative personality. Moving home has been so depressing because I'm coming back to everything I was so relieved to be away from.

My mom and I were getting along great for a while, until I had to get my wisdom teeth out last week and was bed-ridden - despite me telling her to leave my clothes alone, she put a bunch in the washer anyway and ruined a 100% silk top that my friend gave me for my 23rd birthday. I was devastated, and when I approached her about it, she yelled in my face and said sarcastically "Boo hoo!"

In the next month to two months, I will be going to South Korea for 1 year to teach English. I already have a job and my Visa is being processed right now.

Because my mom works as a letter carrier and my dad is useless, I had to pay my entire education myself, which I did through student loans. I will have a LOT dept to pay back eventually.

I am feeling lately like I want to die. I just want it all to end and have no pride in myself at all. Living at home is making me miserable! I've been here for about 2 weeks and have no drivable car, I can't go anywhere without begging my mom or brother to use their cars and I feel like a useless piece of crap. I see other people who have cars, live independently from their parents and it makes me feel worse.

Please, please.... if you have any advice for me, words that would help or anything I would greatly appreciate it.

Update: July 09, 2009.
Thank you all SO much for your thoughtful and helpful answers. I didn't expect to get so many responses! I was having a very bad day when I wrote this post, and although I agree I'm not a failure and don't have it that bad, your replies cheered me up and helped me to see the light at the end of the tunnel of the rough week I was having. Thank you for sharing with me your advice, personal experiences and giving me another way of looking at things. I feel much better now. :) I hope you all have a good day.

- Asked by Female, 29-35

These are luxury items??? / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 12:24 PM - Monday July 06, 2009 Back To Top

Let me get this straight, without picking any of these I could still drink my Jack Walker Green, my Courvorsier XO, my Guiness, my Moet & Chandon; smoke my Davidoffs; grill my angus, smoke my salmon and stripers, steam my shrimp and clams, have Ben and Jerry's.....

Please I'd keep all that and dump your whole list for blue tuna.

I mean really if you want to take away something that I can't live without, don't go for the easy list of overrated things in the world.

- Asked by sammann, A Mr. Married Guy, Male, 36-45, Self-Employed
Comment from bytor, Recommendation Leader:

we slept together. so what's the deal? / Sex & Intimacy / 8:33 AM - Monday July 06, 2009 Back To Top

there's this guy i'm seeing. on the third time we we met up, i had too much to drink and as the story goes, we did it.

i was uncomfortable after what happened since we never really talked about us as an item and we just really went out to hang out.

he has been asking me if we could do it again, and as much as i want to, i refused because i want some sense of security before going further (it might be too late anyway, but better late than never). so i said i can't because i don't feel right.

so he's pursuing me eversince. he still insisted that we meet up, and we did a few times but we never had sex again. he's sweeter and more charming than ever.

so i guess my question is, if i give it up again, will he suddenly lose interest? i'm afraid he's really just after the sex and if i give it to him again, i might end up with nothing. so how do i know if he's after something else other than just sex?

- Asked by A Career Woman, Female, 29-35, New York, Administrative

It's Always Nice.... / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 7:43 AM - Friday July 03, 2009 Back To Top

To be on A/O !!

So, after checking my messages, I see someone who answered my post was REALLY pissed about their rating.

Have any of you ever gotten chewed out for giving a crappy rating??

- Asked by dragonswagg, A Hip Hop Girl, Female, 29-35, Who Cares?

A message from Purrzn and myself.... / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 10:14 AM - Thursday July 02, 2009 Back To Top

Last night Purrzn and I went looking for a member that we both miss. She posted this and asked me to post it again this morning for the day crew. Some do not realize that they are truly missed when not seen for awhile on here. Cyber or not, a community is made up of people that do care about each other.

From Purrzn:

I know this is only a website BUT...
When a regular in our little community goes missing, it is sad for those of us who consider online friends as valid as those we interact with in our everyday lives.

We miss them. We worry about them. We get upset when we have no idea why they seemingly dropped off the face of the earth.

People, please let your friends here know when you are going to be on hiatus, or if you are sick, or whatever reason you are leaving. It doesn't have to be a public post, PM a few of your friends here so they can tell the rest of us when we start wondering what the hell happened to you.

I've been trying to find out what happened with one person in particular, and it was suggested to me more than once that I post about this.'s not just me...lots of people here will miss you if you just vanish.


- Asked by zibet58, A Thinker, Female, Who Cares?, Teaching

my man gets sex to easily, how do i make him work for it? / Sex & Intimacy / 11:29 AM - Tuesday June 16, 2009 Back To Top

ive been seing this guy for 8 months but i feel he can get sex too easily from me, how do i make him work harder for it? Play hard to get but without seeming uninterested.

Update: June 16, 2009.
I only asked this because last week in bed he said he got little bored sometimes because I made it a little too easy for him and I wondered if their was any other people with this problem.

- Asked by Female, 29-35

I have never finger fucked my girl. / Sex & Intimacy / 7:07 AM - Tuesday June 16, 2009 Back To Top

I have never finger fucked my girl but will love to do that.Really dont know how to go about it.I hear women like it.

- Asked by Male, 36-45

somebody not going out with you cause your not popular / Dating / 2:38 PM - Monday June 15, 2009 Back To Top

I like this guy and he likes me back but the only reason he doesnt want to go out with me is because im not really that popular and he is.I dont know if i should keep trying or just give up cause i really really like this guy.Help me please!

- Asked by beepbeep1995, A Thinker, Female, 18-21

ALL HAIL TO THE BYTOR AND THE MIGHTY PITTSBURGH PENGUINS!!!!!!!!! CONGRATULATIONS / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 9:46 AM - Monday June 15, 2009 Back To Top


FYI - Is this sufficient to pay up on the Bet?

- Asked by handsomedetroitguy, A Father Figure, Male, 36-45, Detroit, Political / Government
Comment from bytor, Recommendation Leader:
Bet Paybacks are the BEST!!!!!!

How do i cheat on my boyfriend?? / Dating / 5:00 PM - Thursday June 11, 2009 Back To Top

ok i have been with my boyfriend for about 3 years now. and we have lived together for about a year now and its getting kind of boring. so i met this guy a few weeks ago and hes kind of kool. what i wanna know is how do i date this guy without my boyfriend kowning?? what excuse can i give him without him being suspicious???? by the way my boyfriend and i breaking up is not an option

Update: June 12, 2009.
Thanks for all your "advice" 58 respondents is good enough. all i gotta say is "he without without fault cast the first fucking stone"

- Asked by Female, 26-28

Obsessive Compulsive Writing Habit's - Advice? / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 11:35 AM - Friday June 05, 2009 Back To Top

Many children find that writing about themselves is difficult. Accustomed to looking at subject material from an outside perspective, circumstances involving introversion become uncomfortable.

Literature appears to be no exception to that rule, as the child fears rejection by his classmates. However, to most children this skill becomes second nature with minimal practice.

My situation is an extreme example of something like this combined with an unusual twist: utilizing personal pronouns and reflexive verbs, identification words, cause emotional episodes to occur.

"I", "I'd", "I'm", "Me, "My", "Mine", "Myself", and "Elijah". All of these words cause me terrible anger, and bring about terrible thoughts.

Such everyday words. Words normally used without second thought. Even Elijah, my own f****** name, is in particular stressful to type. Three minutes of deliberation went into placing the last two words that are bother some.

The single letter "A", as in "a red apple", is frequently troublesome. Words that have double "L's", such as in the words "informally" and "peacefully" sometimes cause problems. Sometimes words like "are", "but", and "and" cause irritation.

Also, the number of letters in words (even number, better word), the proximity of words in paragraphs, and the justification of text, take time away from life.

It takes ten times as long to write something than someone without this issue, and even simple reports at work are most difficult.

I am really forcing myself to type like as normal as possible. It is forcible, however, every keystroke taken to write those words caused little twitches inside.

How does somebody overcome this? What causes this? Is this rare? Is it like perfectionism, or OCD, or insanity?

P.S. This question took three hours to write, and it sucks. Time was needed to minimize the use of the aforementioned vocabulary.

- Asked by Male, 29-35

I'm 7 months pregnant and my goodness i think about sex all the time..My due date is August 1. / Sex & Intimacy / 2:51 PM - Wednesday June 03, 2009 Back To Top

Is that normal?

When is it ok or safe to stop haveing sex?

- Asked by A Married Girl, Female, 29-35, Los Angeles, Administrative

Do you agree with m thanks / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 5:21 PM - Friday May 29, 2009 Back To Top

Do you concur/agree - AND NO RUDE ANSWERS?
Stacy who is a size 6/8 went to a store. Stacy was wearing a light weight jacket and was looking thru the blouse section of a department store: A heavyset girl by the name of Erica (Stacy asked her name) was there looking thru the same rack.
Erica: "This blouse will fit you" (She said this to Stacy)
Stacy: "Thanks" Stacy looked inside the blouse saw it was size 10, got a little upset.
Stacy: "When you took the blouse out did you look at the garment or the size"
Erica: "I just saw it wasn't my size"
Stacy: "Because I am a size 6/8" (Stacy said this kind of low)
Erica "These blouses run small I take a size 20 but I also get a size 22"
Stacy: "Just out of curiosity what size do you think I am"
Erica: "You look like a size 6/8.
Then they parted company but then bumped into one another
Stacy: "What size did you say you thought I am"

Of course Stacy called me and told me the story and asked me if she could accept the fact that Erica thinks Stacy is a size 6/8. And I told her yes she can accept it. MY Question: Do you agree/concur with me

- Asked by Female, 56-65

Knowing when to give good-advise. / Sex & Intimacy / 2:43 PM - Wednesday May 20, 2009 Back To Top

It,s very ironic how alot of women come on this site saying that they want to leave their husbands and everyone gives her a million ideas as to how she should go about doing it, what about the marriage vows, the kids, counselling, talking to a priest or pastor, where are the morals of some of you people, if you cant give good advise dont give any.

- Asked by steady4rhyne, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 56-65, Self-Employed

French kissing recall / Sex & Intimacy / 11:32 AM - Tuesday May 19, 2009 Back To Top


NEW YORK (Reuters Health) - Oral sex and open-mouthed "French" kissing increase the risk of acquiring oral infections of human papillomavirus, or HPV, a study shows.

"Performing oral sex is not without risks," Dr. Maura L. Gillison told Reuters Health.

It is associated with gonorrheal pharyngitis - a sexually transmitted infection of the tonsils and back of the throat that immediately causes symptoms, she noted, and now is associated with mouth HPV infections that are silent "yet may lead to oral cancer 10 to 20 years later."

Gillison from The Ohio State University, Columbus, and colleagues explored whether sexual behaviors were associated with the odds of oral HPV infection in 332 adults and in 210 college-aged men. They found that 4.8 percent of the adults and 2.9 percent of college-aged men had oral HPV infection.

Among adults, the odds of oral HPV infection were significantly elevated among current tobacco smokers and among individuals who reported having either more than 10 oral or more than 25 vaginal sex partners during their lifetime.

Similar risk factors applied to the college-aged men. For them, having at least six recent oral sex or open-mouthed kissing partners were independently associated with increased odds of developing oral HPV infection.

For the 28 percent of college-aged men who reported never having performed oral sex, having at least 10 lifetime or at least five recent open-mouthed kissing partners was associated with a significantly higher risk of developing oral HPV infection.

"Our data suggest that oral HPV infections that could predispose to cancer may be transmitted by very common behaviors such as open-mouth or 'French' kissing," Gillison concluded.

Given that the HPV vaccine does not have any therapeutic value against pre-existing HPV infections, "this may be relevant to the timing of administration of vaccination," Gillison said.

Although the CDC recommends that the vaccine be administered between the ages of 9 and 12 ideally, in practice, she noted, it is often administered to girls between the age of 14 and 16. Oral exposure to HPV may have occurred prior to that age.

- Asked by morningdust, A Creative, Female, 56-65, Self-Employed

I was at whole foods today and a young woman was sitting alone / Dating / 10:46 AM - Saturday May 16, 2009 Back To Top

looking out throught the windows. the guy sitting next to me approached her as he was leaving, she giggled but did not give him her number.

i was wearing jeans and a shirt.

i got up to get a napkin and she looked back to see where i was going. i could not intiate a conversation!!

she just sat there by herself...i had come over for brakfast after getting tested at the lab from the last woman i had seen.

i hate to admit- i couldnt take her saying no, or people around us seeing the reject and being happy becasue of it OR saying yes and then having crazy drama again..

you ever get through stuff like this?

- Asked by Male, 46-55

what is a good homemade barbeque sauce recipe / Recipes & Entertaining / 2:56 PM - Thursday May 14, 2009 Back To Top


- Asked by danaghost, A Guy Critical, Male, 46-55, Who Cares?

Tossed an old car battery into the river last week...? / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 1:03 PM - Thursday May 14, 2009 Back To Top

... because it was taking up space at my house and the garbage people won't pick it up. Someone told me this was bad -- how is this so bad? Won't it just corrode away? Heck, I suppose I shouldn't be pouring old motor oil into storm drains either...

- Asked by mattskaaaa, A Couch Potato, Male, 22-25, Student

I How do I over come my violent past.... / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 9:12 AM - Thursday May 07, 2009 Back To Top

So, I used to be an angry drunk and would go out every weekend, get drunk and fight all the time. Hell, I even beat up a couple of girls one night. Now that I have been in and out of jail, I have realized that I need to settle down and find me a woman. I know this really sweet and innocent girl who has no clue about my past. I want to make her my woman, but I'm not sure if I can control my boozing and beating of all people. Don't you think it would be best if I just kept all of this from her.

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People need to quit denying their past. Just because someone comes on here and tells you it is alright to lie and decieve someone, that doesn't not justify you not being honest about your past. It is very telling of one's character that they think they should be able to just wipe away past actions they are obviously ashamed of in the first place. You do the crime, you gotta do the time as I was once told. It is obvious this woman knows that the guy she is interested in has higher values in certain areas because she is afraid to tell him about her past. I just love how some tell her that it is completly acceptable to lie to another person about something that is important to them so the can decieve them. Man, what is this world coming to where people openly say it is completly alright to lie and decieve. Your past is a reflection of your character, and I just love who some women and men think that it is alright to run around and do something they themselves are obviously ashamed of, but then think it is alright to lie and decieve others. All I gotta say is that it is very telling of people's self centeredness that they think they should get a free pass when it c omes to undesirable past behavior...

I'd just like to know why people think that questionable past sexual behavior should be off limits when it comes to accountablity. Especially when it is done to dupe someone.

That's all

Update: May 07, 2009.
The first part was an example to show people how hiding the past is bad. I also want to tell everyone to give Bytor a star. He hit it on the head...Honestly is the best policy. I will admit sexual past isn't that big of a thing, but the fact that one purposly goes into a relationship hiding something is not a good way to start things off. Honesty is the best policy.

- Asked by juandontbeg, A Career Man, Male, 36-45, Self-Employed
Comment from bytor, Recommendation Leader:
Being honest to your potential mates:

Really I wrong to hold this information? / Sex & Intimacy / 10:16 AM - Monday May 04, 2009 Back To Top

5 years ago my daughter, who was 17 at the time, placed the son she bore for adoption with a couple she selected. She chose to place him out of love for him-the desire to give him what she could not, the stability of a mom and dad, financial security, maturity, and a better life all around. My daughter has been dealing with depression from a very young age. And although she has a good relationship with her step-father of 8 years, she has an estranged relationship with her real father, who has continually let her down. She is now 22, and appears to be in the first healthy relationship of her life. It is new, only 1 month old, and she is in the "buzz" of infatuation. She is happy.
I just found out Friday, that the couple who adopted my grandson has split. He just up and left her 7 months ago, has a new girlfriend with a son. It was an open adoption, so we get regular pictures and updates, every 6 months. It has taken this long for the adopting mom to be able to tell me. This breaks my heart. I feel like the sacrifice for US was for nothing if this little boy is now suffering the dissolution of his family. And the father seems to be in total denial, which is normal, but repulsive to me. It makes me sick. The whole reason she placed him, and believe me it has been difficult, was to give him what she couldn't-stability. And the only saving grace, the only shred of comfort from this has been knowing that he was given a better life, a chance. Now that is being destroyed, setting the foundation for instability. My ex-husband and I split when my daughter was 5, and I know this whole situation is going to tear her apart.
My husband says to let it be for now. Let her enjoy her budding relationship; give her a chance at a bit of happiness. That my telling her right now will do nothing to change the situation. She lives in another state and my conversation would have to be on the phone with no body there to pick up the pieces. I don't even know if the new boyfriend knows about my grandson, yet. My fear is that if I hold it very long she is going to be quite resentful when she learns I have known and she didn't. I know it,(the knowledge of their divorce and the circumstances), will push her over the edge.
What is the right thing? When does her being an adult and it being her business supersede my role as a parent to protect her and chose the right time for disclosure when I know it will be hard for her to pull out. This info could really send her into a spiral.

Update: May 05, 2009.
Hi everyone, and thank you for your responses yesterday. A lot of people asked, or commented, on why I was receiving the information instead of my daughter. Because my daughter has moved around quite a bit the last 2 years, the updates continue to come addressed to my daughter at our home. I DON'T OPEN THEM!!! But from time to time, the adopting mom and I have kept in touch through email. Mostly to see how we liked the recent packages, or to give an expected arrival date, but also to speak about how everyone, them and us, are doing. I had written her a few weeks back about something, and she wrote back last Friday with her sad news. I have decided to heed my husband's advice, as well as most of yours to wait to tell her at a later date. His birthday is next month and we normally get a box with pictures, etc. shortly thereafter anyway. So maybe his mom will tell my daughter then. If not, I will tell her when she shows me the pictures. Thank you again for your input.

- Asked by bbmcgee1, A Married Girl, Female, 46-55, Los Angeles, Home Maker

You forgot.................... / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 7:19 AM - Friday May 01, 2009 Back To Top

"I will keep asking until I get majority"

- Asked by mantis, A Creative, Male, 18-21

Moderators wanted... apply within / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 9:38 AM - Saturday April 18, 2009 Back To Top

Hi! AO needs more moderators! Please PM me here or email customer service if you are interested.

Update: April 20, 2009.
Thank you to everyone who responded. I'll be in touch soon with those who expressed interest. I appreciate the comments, even from those who aren't interested. Happy monday!

- Asked by mariposa555, A Thinker, Female, 36-45, New York

Do you ever feel like earlier versions of you are not really you? / Race, Religion & Politics / 2:30 PM - Friday April 17, 2009 Back To Top

I do. When looking back at my memories, its almost like looking at someone else's life. I have changed so much over the years.

But in a way I wish I could go back to old days.

Do you feel like this?

- Asked by sunset77, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 36-45, Who Cares?

** Simplifying the tax code ** / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 12:59 PM - Thursday April 16, 2009 Back To Top

I submitted my taxes yesterday. What a pain they are to fill out. And complicated. Do you think the tax code should be simplified? Do you think that would help reduce loopholes so everyone pays their fair share? Or do you think the system is working fine as it is? Is this something the new administration should tackle?

- Asked by majicou, A Thinker, Female, Who Cares?

IF you ever won the Lottery...WHO is the 1st person you would tell? (besides your s/o) / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 11:41 AM - Thursday April 09, 2009 Back To Top

I'd tell my son!

- Asked by dolphace, A Hippie Chick, Female, 46-55

what do OTHERS feel your role is on here? / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 12:18 PM - Wednesday April 08, 2009 Back To Top

perception could be that you think you are mr popular when in reality you could be the town jerk. anyone care to expand WITHOUT naming names?

- Asked by pizzatroll, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 46-55, Science / Engineering

any weight loss tips? please dont be smart / Diet & Health / 9:33 AM - Tuesday April 07, 2009 Back To Top

i have been overweight my whole life and diabetes runs through my family and i just need some help

Update: April 09, 2009.
Thank you to every one who replied. I hope that everyone who was also trying to lose weight achieves their goal. :]

- Asked by nmutua, A Creative, Female, 22-25, Alternative Medicine

I'm really stressed with work and maternity leave! Help relax me... / Career / 8:59 AM - Tuesday April 07, 2009 Back To Top

So I finally decided to start my maternity leave, 6 weeks after I'm legally required to.

The baby should be coming in 2 weeks, and I finally said I was going to stay home, relax, try to prep for the baby to come and read about birthing.

Today I get an urgent message that my not being there is putting my project funding at risk though. God, I'm really panicking.

I feel like I either have to give my prize project to someone else, or sacrifice time with the baby-neither is good.

People keep asking me to do work for them, I've put off a lot of my own things and today I get an email from a supplier complaining that if we don't hurry up and order things they are going to cancel a 50k order that was donated to us.

I hate to admit it, but since the pregnancy I've been really slow with things, exhausted and overwhelmed. The doctor did tell me to take it easy, so I've felt justified in being a bit slower, even though I've been working a lot I haven't been focusing on what should be "my project".

This supplier is a prick, I really hope he doesn't go running to our donors and complain that the pregnant lady is taking too long to use their donation.

Sorry for the vent, I'm just feeling really overwhelmed-I know I should be focusing on the baby and prepping for that instead of work, but this really threw me for a loop today.

- Asked by milla, A Thinker, Female, 36-45

Wow ................ / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 10:56 AM - Friday April 03, 2009 Back To Top

Some people seem to get their happiness by being nasty to others . I have read some really raunchy and rude responses to posts here recently

- Asked by HaastileLady, A Creative, Female, 26-28, Medical / Dental

Why is this site so gosh dang addicting? Do you have an answer? lol / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 12:35 PM - Wednesday April 01, 2009 Back To Top

(chugs water)

- Asked by dolphace, A Hippie Chick, Female, 46-55

How do you know when a guy is totally into you? / Dating / 10:28 AM - Wednesday April 01, 2009 Back To Top

Ive been dating a guy for 6 months but we only see each other once a week because we both work alot.

- Asked by Female, 36-45

ya know what really grinds my gears? / Sex & Intimacy / 9:22 AM - Tuesday March 31, 2009 Back To Top

I really need to take a second to rant, then I will step off my soap box!

It reallllllly bothers me that people come on here looking for advice, often on very sensitive subjects, from unbiased individuals that don't know their entire life stories, and get flamed for it.
So many people on here feel the need to cram their religious and/or moral standards down everyones throats until people are so afraid to ask for advice, that this site has become reduced to all anon posts of sensitive subjects.
Recently I was following a thread on abortion where 80% of the responses were about right & wrong, or "gods will". That poor woman came to us looking for advice, in a situation that we cant even imagine, and all most of this community could do was chastise her.
Another senario I was following was on a woman asking for relationship advice, where in a pop, she was called an adultress, although it clearly mentioned in her post that she was separated.

People we are supposed to be a community! Please learn to treat each other with more respect. We are all entitled to our opinions, and of course you should always be truthful in what advice you have to offer, but please remember there are real live human beings on the other end of these screens, with emotions. And more often than not, they come here for advice and or comfort, not to be judged.


- Asked by studebkrprincess, A Thinker, Female, 29-35, Charlotte, Who Cares?

The most annoying thing a person could say.... / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 9:11 AM - Monday March 30, 2009 Back To Top

" but we never did it that way before.
it can`t possibly work"

agree or not?

- Asked by rantingmadman, A Rebel, Male, 36-45, Hospitality

anyone here play with tarot cards? / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 8:59 AM - Friday March 20, 2009 Back To Top

i just got some and i was wondering how i could find more info about them online. i am really excited about them for writing and life inspiration, not future telling or black magic or any of that. any insight would be great!

- Asked by A Career Woman, Female, 29-35, Other Profession

Do women want guys with elephant trunks? / Sex & Intimacy / 8:49 AM - Friday March 20, 2009 Back To Top

okay, i am not penis envy or anything, i think i measure up to normal standards, but dont you think its insulting for women to advertise male inhancement products, why hit our egos about the size of our penises that we have to buy certain products to make our penis larger, its like saying your to small for the job or not good enough, most women would run from a guy that has an elephant trunk and can last 4-hours, so ladies stop putting us down in that department because your not perfect either.

- Asked by steady4rhyne, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 56-65, Self-Employed

Porn is poisoning my relationship, but my boyfriend won't stop looking at it. / Sex & Intimacy / 7:33 AM - Friday March 20, 2009 Back To Top

I'm in a great relationship, but I think that my boyfriend's porn habit is ruining it. I've talked to him about how much it hurts me on numerous occasions, which has led to us coming thisclose to breaking up, and he still won't stop, he just finds new ways to hide it. It's really taking a toll on my self-esteem: I don't believe him when he tells me I'm beautiful. Some women might not care, but I feel like it's very disrespectful to me and our relationship. He swears it means nothing, that it's meaningless, but if that's true then why can't he just stop?

- Asked by Female, 26-28

What do you know about Amway Global? / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 8:31 AM - Thursday March 19, 2009 Back To Top


- Asked by fallingalive, A Thinker, Female, 29-35

Should I apologize to my ex-girlfriend? / Dating / 3:12 PM - Saturday March 14, 2009 Back To Top

I was mean to her during our break-up and it has always bothered me. I thought about writing her a note apologizing. Is this ever a good idea?

- Asked by An Intellectual Guy, Male, 29-35

Not filing taxes, so what? / Career / 4:40 PM - Friday March 13, 2009 Back To Top

I am single.
I only worked part time in 2008 and made around $19,000.

I heard the IRS doesn't care or audit single people in that low income bracket. Is this true?

Because I am seriously considering not filing taxes, its' such a big bother. I heard they only go after "high income" people.

- Asked by A Father Figure, Male, 29-35, Philadelphia, Hospitality

Does this guy have anything else to do in life? / Sex & Intimacy / 1:30 PM - Thursday March 12, 2009 Back To Top

Gosh... he answers EVERY question. Doesn't he have a life? I've been here for less than an hour and I"m already bored to death. LMAO.

- Asked by veesix, A Player, Male, 36-45

Do you believe America should give up trying to democratize the world? / Race, Religion & Politics / 10:24 AM - Thursday March 12, 2009 Back To Top

I used to strongly believe that democracy was the BEST form of government, for all countries.

But Im starting to change my views, after reading a very enlightening article by Robert Kaplan. (online at http://www. 97dec/democ.htm if you're intersted!!)

Im so sad, I hate realizing Im wrong. Well anyways. What are your thoughts on democracy? And other forms of government?

- Asked by notsohawt, A Sportif, Female, 22-25, Toronto

How does someone debate with someone regarding religion v science? / Race, Religion & Politics / 7:22 AM - Thursday March 12, 2009 Back To Top

I've never been religious but can see the benefits of having faith and religion in ones life. Its never appealed to me, and i've always stuck to science to explain how we came to be etc.

A person I work with, a devout catholic, asked me what my views on religion were after reading about the arguments regarding science vs religion (evolution, big bang etc). I said I sided with science and found it nonsense that we were just all created out of nothing by a higher being. We found ourselves unable to back anything up and the debate came to a stalemate.

Can any of you explain why you chose religion/science, and why you think your choice is the better of the two?

- Asked by A Creative, Male, 29-35, Leeds, Administrative

Who is in your top 5? / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 4:38 PM - Monday March 09, 2009 Back To Top

If you had to list the top 5 people on here you think give the BEST answers, who would you say those people were?

Are they on the Superstars list or are they just regular people who don't make much of a wave?

You tell me your top 5 and I'll tell you mine.

Update: March 09, 2009.
Ok thats fair enough. My top 5 are - Bytor because he's hysterical and very kind. - Anonymouspersona because shes a total sweetheart. - Cubbiegal because she has been very supportive to me. - xxxhomophobiaisgayxxx because shes hot and I would so do her. and finally - Llafrohs because he hates me.

- Asked by dsampson09, A Hippie Chick, Female, 22-25, Chicago, Fitness

Another freiendly kicked out / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 3:33 PM - Monday March 09, 2009 Back To Top

But creating new profile person on here felt the need to go off on me for advise I gave which is why I'm here, to give my oppinion. I don't go on and go off on someone if I don't agree with the advise they gave another.

Do you respond to people who answered questions and go off because they don't have the same views as you do??

Does anyone know how on here you can report these people to get them off of here again?????

Update: March 09, 2009.
This is what I got on an answer so you all understand. They are now banned also ;) Why don't you grow the fuck up and get real. You tell the girl it doesn't matter the color of your skin. Just have the mixed babies. You should have said can't you find a white man or you should not give up on white people. It's mother fuckers like you I'd like you to have a pure bred Doberman and you leave her at my house for me to breed with my Doberman. Two months later you give me a call and say you ignorant mother fucker these dogs are mixed and I'd say well I heard you tell a White girl that mixed kids were just fine, so I said fuck it I'll just breed your Doberman with my Labrador. I mean they're all the same. A dog is a dog. What the hell difference does it make? You could choose just to not answer a question but to tell someone it is great is no kosher. We don't need more fucking mixed kids.

- Asked by melodyalise, A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Salt Lake City, Managerial

I need ideas for a friends birthday.. she's turning 21 and I want to do something different... / Sex & Intimacy / 1:29 PM - Monday February 23, 2009 Back To Top

I was thinking of having a 'sex toy' party.. a bunch of girls together... I'm brainstorming..I want to do something we haven't done yet... stripper was an option, but too expensive.. If you know of anything, please do tell. :)

- Asked by lizjo3, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 29-35, Miami

What's up............ / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 5:04 PM - Thursday February 19, 2009 Back To Top

I have over 25 unrated answers just since Monday. Does this not seem excessive? I know there are some who are slow to rate their questions, but it seems this is becoming a regular occurance on here. Anyone else having this issue?

- Asked by kdtxchic30, A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Who Cares?

Are people who post under ake profiles dicks? / Sex & Intimacy / 11:22 AM - Thursday February 19, 2009 Back To Top

Like this guy?

- Asked by vindicator, A Guy Critical, Male, 56-65, Dallas

Are women who get tattoos across the bottom of their backs get them to be called tramp stamps? / Style & Beauty / 10:33 AM - Thursday February 19, 2009 Back To Top

You go to the beach and all you see is tramp stmaps. They look them over and they make sure you can see them.

- Asked by wonderwhack, A Guy Critical, Male, 36-45

when is it too soon to be in love? / Dating / 5:46 AM - Thursday February 19, 2009 Back To Top

lets say...2 months? is that true love or infatuation?

- Asked by A Thinker, Female, 26-28

What the hell is wrong with people - is everyone nuts? / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 4:41 PM - Tuesday February 17, 2009 Back To Top

My husband is a taxicab driver. Last night he got a call -- somebody wanted him to drive them to a bar, wait and then drive them home. Well, they drank too much and I don't know what happened, but they winded up beating the crap out of him and stealing his car keys. I got a phone call from his around 4:00 a.m. and he could barely talk. He was beat all in his face, lips swollen, and his back is hurt. I wonder what is wrong with people in this world today. I am just sick to death over it. It costs us the money he made and the money to get Pop-A-Lock out to come and make a new key for his ignition so we could get the car. I am just feeling really sick about this crap. Thanks for listening.

- Asked by cremebrulee67, A Married Girl, Female, 46-55, Administrative

Have you ever met and fell in love with your twin flame? / Sex & Intimacy / 10:01 AM - Friday February 13, 2009 Back To Top

The Sacred Sexual Union of Twin Flames
By Paula
Submitted on 11/8/2008

The love that is shared between Twin Flames is unlike any other you could ever experience. Whether you know your Twin Flame as human, in another dimension, or both, you will know joy beyond anything in this world. The true nature of your sexuality will unfold and this higher plane of Christ Consciousness you will know but have a difficult time explaining. This is what I'll attempt to do in my current article.

Many see sexuality as showing physical love to one another. Other people see it as a way of procreation. There are some who even see it as physical sensations, and when these physical sensations occur they feel as this were love. Love can be many different things to different people but the sacred union of Twin Souls is one of attaining higher consciousness.

Twin Flames are of like vibrations. When Twin Flames come together and their love is shared tactically with one another, Kundalini fire ignites. The passion is a union of souls and sexuality becomes a sacred tool. The Twin Flame vibrations mirror one another and the sexual union becomes so powerful it is like "Touching Heaven."

Twin Flames are divine feminine and divine masculine souls. When these energies blend together, so many levels of magnetic and spiritual harmony simultaneously occur. Electrical energy flows and mirrors between them. Universal forces of destiny bring them together. If they relinquish themselves in this spiritual marriage of the souls, they will find themselves in the Universal Flow of Divine Energy. This is when one finds themselves in many different states of higher consciousness. This higher consciousness brings into alignment all of your chakras and the cosmic energy of the universe.

One will feel as if they are in simultaneous dimensions and an inner knowing fills one up completely. There is a meeting of the minds and of the souls. One will recognize the soul that is before you and in this deeply blissful feeling will encompass the Twin Flames. The sacred sexuality of this union is blessed in every possible way imaginable. One will find the universal truth by accessing sacred knowledge of these simultaneous dimensions. It is multi-orgasmic for both. Time and space do not exist when in spiritual bliss, nor does any one reality. It's a sacred marriage of Twin Flames.

I describe this as a Sacred Marriage of souls in my human/soul path. It's not like the church or law marriage. Those marriages are more about paper and human love. It is about the soul's marriage and the souls can be heterosexual, homosexual, or multidimensional in nature. Only the one who is in this Twin Flame marriage can see it for themselves. No one can tell another if this is a real Twin Flame experience or not. That is up to the individual itself. With the Twin Flame, experience comes all the synchronicities, the master numbers will present themselves, and you will have an inner knowing that this Twin is your own.

Sharing about Brendan and I has made me aware of just how sacred this sexuality of divine feminine and masculine really are. This recognition between our souls transcends all space and time. We reach such spiritual, multidimensional levels and can see our souls beyond any of our physical bodies. I can see so many things at once inside his soul.
I see the masculine of the man, the father, the brother, the son, and the feminine of the woman, the sister, the mother, and the daughter. He has described this of me also. As souls, we have found we may be male and female in our physical bodies but we are ALL in our souls. Divine masculine and feminine are within each of us. This takes our breath away just thinking of it. We have found we are both divine masculine and divine feminine by sharing with each other and completely loving one another unconditionally within our own Sacred Twin Flame Marriage. Both individual selves blended with universal twin flames make this s acred union. It's not just about intercourse. It's about experiencing each other's divinity.

During normal intercourse there is an expenditure of energy that leaves a person feeling drained. Men tend to fall asleep and women tend to go about their routines afterward. However, the union between Twin Flames is definitely a complete connection of energy building, Kundalini fire. Deep prolonged ecstasy occurs and the brain becomes harmonious with both left and right brain functioning to create an experience of an unclouded unlimited perception. There is equilibrium of mind, body, and spirit. Ones energy does not feel drained but revitalized.

During the twin Flame union, one is aware of both the conscious and the unconscious. It is both male and female essence. Its self-realization and spiritual harmony. It is a balance of soul and universe with God. This connection is indescribable in human words but there is an inner awareness of being one with all. It is a love of inner self, connecting with your mirrored twin soul and an experience many will begin to share as we reach the new age that is arriving. Many will come to find their twin flames and know what the joy of this sacred union is.

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Update: November 14, 2009.
I found my twin soul/ twin flame...or actually he found me..on here one day..all because I wrote a beautiful irish blessing... almost 2 years ago. This is what is said...... may the road always rise up to meet you may the wind always be at your back may sun shine warm upon your face and may the rain fall soft upon your fields..and until we meet again, may God hold you in the palm of his hand! All because he saw this isish blessing, he wrote to me and we have been twin flames twin souls ever since that day! I hope each and everyone of you find yours..or that they will find you!

- Asked by jamiesangel777, An Engaged Girl, Female, Who Cares?, Los Angeles, Other Profession

If someone is fat and they did this to themselves what do you think they'll do to you. / Diet & Health / 5:09 PM - Tuesday February 10, 2009 Back To Top

Fat people don't care about themselves or what they look like and you will only destroy yourself by being seen with them.

- Asked by loveofmoneyisevil, A Jock, Male, 29-35

Are any other atheists tired of theists demanding that we justify our lack of imaginary friends? / Sex & Intimacy / 5:05 AM - Monday February 09, 2009 Back To Top

Hey theists, I as an atheist don't believe in your god. I don't believe in Yahweh, Thor, Poseidon, Demeter, Osiris, Athena, Zeus, Hecate, or Loki. This is not a claim that I know anything for sure. Atheism is a LACK of belief.

YOU don't 100% know for sure that purple unicorns DON'T live on the moon, do you?

I don't 100% know that there is no god. But I don't believe in one, just like you don't believe that purple unicorns live on the moon.

So please stop badgering me about it. I'm talking to YOU, who took it upon yourselves to write private messages to me lecturing me on how I can't PROVE there's no god, therefore I should get on my knees and start worshiping.

Okay, YOU can't prove there's no Zeus, so get on YOUR knees and start worshiping.

Can you see things from my PoV now? I would appreciate it if you could back the fuck off!

Update: February 09, 2009.
You can be agnostic and atheist. Agnostic is someone who holds to the fact that god is unknowable. I'm agnostic about every thought-up god as much as I'm agnostic about the flying spaghetti monster. After all, the flying spaghetti monster COULD exist.

- Asked by treehumper, A Hippie Chick, Female, 29-35, Boston, Celebrity
Comment from bytor, Recommendation Leader:
Sometimes, people don't even know what they're talking about - - and they prove it....

Who are you gonna vote for? / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 8:12 AM - Friday January 30, 2009 Back To Top

Who do you nominate to be our Grand Puba of the order of Answerology's Water Buffalos?

I nominate our very own "Bytor" .... do I hear a second?

- Asked by wetwired, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 29-35, Vancouver, Who Cares?

By~Tor's Winter Driving Primer. . . . in case some of you have forgotten.... / Sex & Intimacy / 7:53 AM - Friday January 30, 2009 Back To Top

Apparently,. it's time again to remind some of you good people about winter driving rules....

* IF your car is one of those (i.e. "Mustang", "Camaro" or any car whose ass-end has no weight and is rear-wheel drive) that are notoriously bad in rain or on ice.... do us a favor and TAKE THE DAMNED BUS during snowstorms!! - - - You have no idea how your little pile o crap hinders everyone else behind you, as we sit on uphill slants before the stoplights.... just take the bus, & leave the winter driving to those with 4-wheel drives...

* Ice and Snow means. . . you CANNOT drive as fast as you usually do, or even at the speed limits. Stop trying to show us how "cool" you are by going 50 in-between those little snow-tracks in the lane. All you're going to end up doing, is spinning out and wasting your car, possibly causing some of the rest of us to crush your car underneath our ginormous wheels.... and then, scrape you off the bumper guard...

* Talking on the cell whilst driving in the snow: A purely suicidal idea, on its face. Just STOP it...

* Braking in snow or ice: This is why GOD put that little "2" and "1" on your gear shift.... use them, and watch as your stress level decreases.

* Wiping off snow & ice from your car: Yes, we WOULD like you more, if we didn't have a second avalanche of snow hitting our windshields behind you, just because you're too much of a wussy to wipe off your own car before heading out to the highway....

If you've never felt like taking your car & accelerating to 65 behind someone who's screwing up the road around you, and pushing them into a skid and, hopeully, off the road, then you have never truly "lived".....

Yeah - - - - I'm of my meds again.... wanna' fight aboudit?!~?!?!


- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer
Comment from bytor, Recommendation Leader:
Winter Driving exploits of the poor & selfish......

MODERATORS: Answerology Bade Taste / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 5:46 PM - Tuesday January 27, 2009 Back To Top

I received this message today on Answerology, and I consider it in exceptionally bad taste. Moderators please take appropriate action. The sender was "kingtorn."

Rumor has it this place started to take a turn for even worse...

I decided to start another site for people to hang at with none of the rules of this place and less of the closed door clique stuff of YLAM....

I'd love for you to give it a shot... it's a little slow now cause I JUST launched it, but once we start the ball rolling, it will be a blast!

come visit, and invite anyone and everyone you want!

if they screwed up the link just put this all together in your address bar:

yaylookatme .me

see you there!


- Asked by 2wheels, A Creative, Male, 56-65, Retired

Is it ok for a guy in a relationship to view porn? / Sex & Intimacy / 5:35 PM - Tuesday January 27, 2009 Back To Top

I've heard the phrase "I don't care where he gets his appetite as long as he eats as home!" It makes sense. I was just wondering what you guys think about it. It used to bother me when my boyfriend did it but now that I've heard that phrase and learned about it in religion lessons, I know that I am the girl he comes home to and when WE have sex, it's love. What do you guys think?

- Asked by Female, 22-25

How do I tell my husband to stop eating his black heads and pimples? / Diet & Health / 4:13 PM - Tuesday January 27, 2009 Back To Top

I'm so grossed out! My husband likes to pick and sometimes even eat his pimples and black heads. I never knew he did this till I walked into a room without him knowing I was there. Now he does it a lot and he doesn't think I see him. But I DO!I don't want to embarrass him. To me, this is grounds for divorce. What do I do????

- Asked by Female, 29-35

a group hug;why not have an A/O meeting, at a hotel ,as a group,for meals and conversations and / Friendship / 3:48 PM - Tuesday January 27, 2009 Back To Top

a central location,bring an other, meet opinionated and funny people.Answer questions,all weekend

- Asked by cocoon, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 46-55, New York, Alternative Medicine

is there a particular AO member that you love or hate their answers, or questions? / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 3:01 PM - Friday January 23, 2009 Back To Top

I have seen answers, and questions from "weekendbrew" and i think they are pretty hilarious but true, even tho sometimes he sounds like he's mean but its good advice.

then i see answers from "bytor" and seems very sarcastic, and some are always helpful, some always rude, some always funny, some just always ask dumb sex questions.. who do YOU like most or hate most?

- Asked by Female, 36-45

The "straight-shooter" question got me thinking... / Sex & Intimacy / 12:31 PM - Friday January 23, 2009 Back To Top

I wonder what the absolute WORST pick-up "game" would consist of?.....


"Hey, Baby!--What's YOUR sign?-- I just got in from Milan, and I wanted to tell ya' you have a shot to git' wit' me tonight, if ya' wanna' go right now... I'm a straight-shooter with a 14-inch monster dong, and I'll even let ya' toss my salad, while I text your sister on my Razr Z-300....

So, you know, if ya' wanna' git' wit' me, just run in there, fetch us a couple beers, and as you're blowin' me, I can set one on your flat head so's I can twist your nipples like radio knobs tuning in Paris One network, while you take my love spunk down your throat.... only thing though, is I am NOT into a chick who won't gag or me, so you'll NEED to cram the entire two feet down your gullet and at least pretend you love me..."

Yeah - - - - those days at Northwestern were something, huh???

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

do u think he will get me anything for v-day?? / Dating / 10:00 AM - Thursday January 22, 2009 Back To Top

me and this guy r like in luv (i no it sounds childish) weve been secretivly goin out for 2 months now and by v-day it will b 3 months, but do u think he will get me anything??? o and do u have any suggestions on stuff i could get him???

btw were hiding it from our parents not friends and were only 13

- Asked by oceanhottie7, A Player, Female, 18-21

When is it safest to cheat? / Family & Parenting / 5:05 PM - Wednesday January 21, 2009 Back To Top

I think it's much safer to cheat when you are married than when you are just dating. It's much easier to leave a relationship than it to get a divorce.

Marriage is a very strong emotional and legal commitment. So if you must cheat, wait until you are married and if you get caught, your partner will find it much harder to leave if you're married.

No one is saying cheating is right. The consequences of cheating depend very much on the timing.

- Asked by peermey, A Career Man, Male, 36-45, Dallas, Who Cares?

LOL....To there MORE Drama on this site OR is there MORE / Sex & Intimacy / 1:25 PM - Tuesday January 20, 2009 Back To Top

Drama in your life? LOL

Definately there is more drama on this site than in my wonder I love cumming in here/LMAO

- Asked by dolphace, A Hippie Chick, Female, 46-55

my son is sending and receiving picture messages of his body parts and i don't know how to punish / Family & Parenting / 9:47 AM - Tuesday January 20, 2009 Back To Top

my son is sending and receiving picture messages of his body parts and i don't know how to punish

- Asked by A Thinker, Female, 36-45

(sniff-sniff) Uhmmmmmmmm do you smell that? It smells funny / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 11:09 AM - Friday January 16, 2009 Back To Top

in this site....what could it possibly be?


Update: January 16, 2009.
Never mind....I just realized the smell was coming from me and my hangover ass/LMFAO...j/k...muahz

- Asked by dolphace, A Hippie Chick, Female, 46-55

I dunno about all of you, but.... / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 12:25 PM - Monday January 12, 2009 Back To Top

...all of a sudden, I've got a strange urge to go sign up for a Lasik Plus treatment!!!!!

"Mine Eyes Have Seen the Glory"!!!!

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

My boyfriend always goes fast when we are having sex is there anything we or he can do to last longe / Sex & Intimacy / 2:46 PM - Thursday January 08, 2009 Back To Top

goes with in 5min
is 10 years older then me

- Asked by A Life of the Party, Female, 26-28, Who Cares?

So. . . . . could it be said...? / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 2:39 PM - Thursday January 08, 2009 Back To Top

.....Do you think it could be said that I represent the "Conscience" of Answerology?.....

....Or am I just yet another sidenote to it?

Update: January 08, 2009.
Well - - - - at least you guys have a good sense of humor!....LMAO!!!!!

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

Methinks I'm seeing the world . . . . . . / Family & Parenting / 2:09 PM - Thursday January 08, 2009 Back To Top

....really go to hell in a handbasket at ever-increasing rates, nowadays.

* Kids, shaving each others' heads, out of thuggish spite...

* Kids, having more "free sex" than the hippies in the '60's ever THOUGHT of having....

* Kids, getting hooked on Oxycontin and Heroin at alarming rates....

* Kids, carrying guns to school and out on the weekends....

LISTEN UP PARENTS! - - - YOU are the ones to blame here, for not raising your kids to respect anything at all!--I don't BLAME the kids for their behavior, even if I find it personally reprehensible and ignorant... its not THEIR job to know everything... it's YOUR job to TEACH them!

But I suppose, when we leave MTV and "Magic106" to teach our kids for us, this is what we're gonna' get.

I bet within 5 years, we start seeing news items about adults, in their own homes, shooting kids who break in and commit property crimes... I see a vast wave of vigilantism coming soon, if we don't start doing something in our everyday lives, to change the direction our nation is heading...and Obama ain't gonna' save us.....

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

You might be from Texas if..... / Sex & Intimacy / 5:30 AM - Thursday January 08, 2009 Back To Top


U R A Texan If:

1. You can properly pronounce Corsicana, Palestine, Decatur, Wichita Falls, San Antonio, Burnet, Boerne, Nacogdoches, Mexia, Waco, Amarillo, and Waxahachie.

2. A tornado warning siren is your signal to go out in the yard and look for a funnel.

3. You've ever had to switch from "heat" to "A/C" in the same day.

4. You know that the true value of a parking space is not determined by the distance to the door, but by the availability of shade.

5. Stores don't have bags, they have sacks.

6. You see people wear bib overalls at funerals.

7. You measure distance in minutes.

8. Little Smokies are something you serve only for special occasions.

9. You go to the lake because you think it is like going to the ocean.

10. You listen to the weather forecast before picking out an outfit.

11. You know cowpies are not made of beef.

12. Someone you know has used a football schedule to plan their wedding date.

13. You have known someone who has had a belt buckle bigger than your fist.

14. You aren't surprised to find movie rental, ammunition, and bait all in the same store.

15. Your "place at the lake" has wheels under it.

16. A Mercedes Benz is not a status symbol; a Ford F350 4x4 is.

17. You know everything goes better with Ranch dressin'.

18. You learned how to shoot a gun before you learned how to multiply.

19. You actually understand this and you are "fixin' to" send it to your friends.

20. Finally, you are 100% Texan if you have ever heard this conversation:
"You wanna coke?"
"What kind?"
"Dr. Pepper!"

- Asked by oldman52, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 56-65, Sydney, Retired

I just Wanna Know..What Happened to Everyone???!!! / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 4:02 PM - Wednesday January 07, 2009 Back To Top

I leave for a few days,come back and it is like a ghost town around here!!! WT*???!!!lol! hello to all who are still around have a great day!!1 :) Carry on!!!Muah!! *hugs*... DBL;)

Update: January 07, 2009.
LOL I luv you guys! Glad you are all well! :) *doing the happy dance* Hasta manana all! *muah*

- Asked by dblchocgrl07, A Creative, Female, 46-55, Artist / Musician / Writer

answerology not the adult site it use to be! / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 3:21 PM - Wednesday January 07, 2009 Back To Top

has anyone noticed this is becoming more like a teenager site? alot of teens posing as 18-21 yr.olds when in fact you know from their post they are minors indeed! whats up with that?

- Asked by hutner, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Medical / Dental
Comment from bytor, Recommendation Leader:
What Happened to the OLD A*O?.....

Master Recipe List.. / Recipes & Entertaining / 11:20 AM - Wednesday January 07, 2009 Back To Top

If you're interested in a master of the recipes from the last few months, please let me know. DO NOT post an email address in a public response to this message.


Update: January 08, 2009.
List has been sent.

Update: January 07, 2009.
Good call bytor...this one is dedicated to our own bookman!

- Asked by cubbiegal, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Chicago, Administrative

How do I make him moan during sex? / Sex & Intimacy / 10:12 AM - Tuesday January 06, 2009 Back To Top

My man is always making me moan and orgasm during sex, let's face it HE IS REALLY GOOD :). But whenever I want to know if it was good for him, I don't find out until the end. Plus I want to pleasure him as he does me while having sex, so how do I do that? How do I make him moan and want more? I don't do BJ's and he knows that I'm uncomfortable about giving those things. I play with him and he likes it. But I want to really pleasure him when we are having sex. The problem is, he will not clue me in on what to do. So what do I do for him, that he will love every time and ask me for more? PLEASE HELP!!

- Asked by A Sweet Sarah, Female, 26-28, Retail

i hooked up with this guy for a month and i already knew he had a girlfriend and i was ok with it / Sex & Intimacy / 8:11 AM - Tuesday January 06, 2009 Back To Top

we talked on the phone he told me that i embarresed him in front of people who respected him and it's true i tried my best so that he'll forgive me but he wrote me a letter saying that i don't respect myself and that i did all that because i have a need for attention . The next day i wrote on my status on my facebook how much i loved and missed my other boyfriend in another country . i know i won't get him back that way but if he won't change his mind i thought i could get him jealous but it didn't work ! please help i need to get him back ... he's a good person and i was lucky to have him . HELP !

- Asked by A Player, Female, 26-28, Lyon, Student

i have this discharge. can you help me? / Sex & Intimacy / 12:06 PM - Monday January 05, 2009 Back To Top

It's nasty and smells dirty.

- Asked by Female, 22-25

Elvis has left the building?? / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 11:57 AM - Monday January 05, 2009 Back To Top

So are the kiddies gone? Are things back to normal here on A/O?
How did you all cope during the holidays?

Update: January 05, 2009.
I did get some pm's regarding other members leaving this site. Is that true? Where would you go if you left this site?

- Asked by seasons4, A Sportif, Female, 46-55, Financial / Banking

More annoying changes.. / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 4:04 PM - Friday January 02, 2009 Back To Top

Apparently, anons are no longer PM-able. That is ridiculous as from what I can see, they can PM whomever they please.

I hereby suggest that all Anon-to-Reg PM privileges be suspended. If I can't PM them, I sure as shit don't need them PMing me with their inane crap.

That is all. :)

Update: January 02, 2009.
LOL! I swear, I love you people! Thanks everybody! I'll rate as soon as I get home. :)

- Asked by southjerseygirl, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Administrative

What is your biggest obstacle to committing to a relationship? / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 8:49 AM - Friday January 02, 2009 Back To Top

In my opinion, there is one major obstacle to committing to a relationship and that is the difficulty in finding someone deeply compatible

- Asked by jayeshdewana, A Life of the Party, Male, 46-55

I have seen several questions over the past few months about "can I get pregnant by having anal sex" / Sex & Intimacy / 2:21 PM - Tuesday December 30, 2008 Back To Top

I have seen several questions over the past few months about "can I get pregnant by having anal sex"

What, do they not teach sex ed in schools anymore. If they don't then they had better start teaching it again. Common sense should give the person the answer.

- Asked by MaryAnne, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Regina, Managerial

AO urban legends or truth? / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 2:18 PM - Tuesday December 30, 2008 Back To Top

easy game, after each number tell me if it's Answerology urban legend or the truth:

1. Your genitals start to itch when someone gives you a jerk.

2. No matter where you are or what you're doing, you have a very strong urge to pee when your question is answered by more than one moderator.

3. For every penis question asked that you do not answer, you lose 11 minutes of your lifespan.

4. If you POP a question or your question gets POP'd, you will have sex within 48 hours.

- Asked by germansquad, A Guy Critical, Male, 18-21, Therapist

ok guys..wood u still date a gurhl even if she refused to give u head..but she always wanted u 2 eat / Sex & Intimacy / 1:54 PM - Tuesday December 30, 2008 Back To Top

ok guys..wood u still date a gurhl even if she refused to give u head..but she always wanted u 2 eat her out cuz it felt so good?.. she's scared to have sex cuz she ain't on the pill and she doesn't wanna get pregnant or get an std.

- Asked by Female, 26-28

Pimped By AO & Hearst / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 10:58 AM - Monday December 29, 2008 Back To Top

I finally found the AO/Cosmo site, thanks to Hubby. He sent in in a response to my question last night.

I went to go see and it's...disgusting. Not for the fact that these dim witted girls come on here asking for advice on belly button coloring and about these jerkoff guys they want to screw even though they're 13 years old but what's disgusting is that HEARST is abusing you as a user.

They're pimping out your advice to these numbnuts free of charge but none of the people asking for your advice are giving it in return, they provide nothing of substance. You're the ones who they count on to provide answers to these visitors streaming in with all of their idiotic questions and you do! You're what's feeding thier money making machine. You answer to all the anons and the ones who join just to ask one thing and Hearst doesn't give a flying f*ck about you as a member anymore. Now that your shining face is on the site of nearly every major magazines website answering questions with full disclosure while you think you're safe here.

It's the internet and nothing is private but now they have opened up your small community to a huge population, "The site will be be integrated into each of [Hearsts] 15 magazine sites and standalone sites.founder Milner is coming on with Hearst."

Thanks Matt....

Update: December 29, 2008.
Oh and http://answerology.mari http://answerology.cos They all have different color schemes and such... but no wonder we're flooded with nonsense.

Update: December 29, 2008.
Hubbyochris gave me the link: answerology.cosmopolita (no www. included) and yes I know about googling the screenname; it's always been that way. I'm amazed at what anansichick said though. Nice that they can claim our words...

- Asked by sweetness04, A Trendsetter, Female, 26-28, Artist / Musician / Writer

IS weed harmful when pregant? / Diet & Health / 10:21 AM - Friday December 26, 2008 Back To Top

when i was pregnant at first i refused to smoke it but then i had horrible morning sickness and told my mom and she told me she did too and her doctor told her to smoke just a lil bit each time. well ive also been told though that it somehow makes the baby smarter or something i donno that sounds weird...whats everyones opinons and or facts about this?

- Asked by milfmama08, A Cool Mom, Female, 22-25, Who Cares?

THE NIGHT BEFORE CHRISTMAS As told by Mamu / Sex & Intimacy / 3:00 PM - Wednesday December 24, 2008 Back To Top

'Twas the night before Christmas, when all through Answerology

Not a creature was stirring, not even anonymouse;

The fishnet stockings were hung by the chimney with care,

In hopes that Ol' Bytor soon would be there;

The answerologists were nestled all snug in their beds,

While visions of boobs and penises danced in their heads;

With wetwired in her 'kerchief, and nogirlie girl in her cap,

Had just settled down for a long mmm.massage.(yeah that'll work),

When out on the lawn there arose such a clatter,

They sprang from the bed to see what was the matter.

Away to the window they flew to give a quick flash,

Tore open the shutters and threw up their shirts.

The moon on their breasts

Gave the luster of mid-day to objects below,

When, what to their wondering eyes should appear,

But a miniature sleigh, and eight tiny dears,

With a little old driver, so lively and quick,

They knew in a moment it must be Ol'Bytor.

More rapid than eagles his beauties they came,

And he whistled, and shouted, and called them by name;

"Now, barbb! now, meowmeowww! now, purrzn and lacey07!

On, wolfspirit! on mindseye! on, lazvegzchk and luckycowgirl!

So up to the house-top the beauties they flew,

With the sleigh full of toys, and Ol'Bytor too.

And then, in a twinkling, they heard on the roof

The prancing and pawing of each stiletto-heeled foot.

As they lowered their shirts and were turning around,

Down the chimney Ol'Bytor came with a bound.

He was dressed all in fur, from his head to his foot,

And his clothes were covered with pretzels and beer;

A bundle of adult toys he had flung on his back,

His eyes -- how bloodshot! his dimples how merry!

His droll little mouth was drawn up in a smirk,

He had a broad face and a huge round belly,

That shook, when he laughed like a bowlful of jelly.

He was chubby and plump, a right snockered old elf,

And they laughed when they saw him in spite of themselves.

A wink of his eye and a twist of his head,

Soon gave them to know they had nothing to dread;

He spoke not a word, but stumbled through his work,

And filled all the stockings; then turned giving out some jerks,

And sticking his finger inside of his nose,

Giving a snort, up the chimney he rose;

He crawled to his sleigh, to his beauties gave a whistle,

And away they all flew like a wounded scud missle.

But they heard him exclaim, as he drove out of sight,

"Merry Christmas to all, (even the anons), and to all a good-night."

- Asked by themamu, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, Who Cares?

Your morning sociology connundrum.... "Youth Of America"- -[Rant] / Family & Parenting / 8:04 AM - Wednesday December 24, 2008 Back To Top

So, this morning on MSNBC, they had Tom Brokaw on and were asking him about stuff related to the shrinking news media, and he came up with the following observations, which I found interesting:

* The generation coming up today have never been brought up and nurtured to be newspaper readers.

* Attention spans are falling, even from the dismal levels of the '70's & '80's.

* This means many youth don't ven bother to read anything longer than "the first three lines of their text messages on their phones"...

* Their main exposure to news is through 30-second sound bytes on Colbert or Stewart.

* Book sales, especially of non-fiction and classics, are shrinking at amazing rates.

* World population is growing and the world is "shrinking", so to speak.

* With all this happening simultaneously, what we are witnessing is, basically, a generation that is being raised to be uninformed and uninvolved.

HOW can we expect these kids to grow up and make informed decisions, if they're not being "informed", to begin with? - - - Right now, I'll bet the vast majority of those who are scrolling PAST this post are under 30..... too much wordiness, for them to bother to read....

In this light, is it any wonder that in recent years, we've fallen into the traps of easy credit, overpriced housing, job-bouncing and other activities that have brought our nation to where it is today? - - - Yeah, it's MY generation, and the Boomers before me who got us here, and we are actually raising a generation now that is even LESS involved than WE were!!!!!

Look - - - they have never had to go without as our depression-era parents did, and so they've never been taught the lessons of saving.... they've never had a "real" war to decimate their minions (Iraq, for all it's gore, has only killed less than 4000 people total... Vietnam killed hundreds of thousands...). . . . In short, they have it SOOOO easy, that they're basically walking around wearing blinders to everything!

So, my question: HOW CAN WE EXPECT THEM TO DO ANY BETTER THAN WE DID, if we aren't even bothering to give them the (mental) tools to search out the truth through informing themselves via legitimate news sources????

If people grow up believing whatever the internet bloggers tell them, then they will make uninformed decisions and the quality of life here shall decline even further! - - - At some point, we HAVE to man-up to our responsibilities and show the youth of today HOW to find out the real truth and train them to act on it, to make the world a better place!

We have a myriad of problems to be concerned with, as you know: economic responsibility, ethical interpersonal relationships, government oversight (or the lack, thereof), taxes, medicare, social services and security for an ever-increasing aging population.... all this and more. And THAT'S just on our HOME shores!

This Christmas, do something good for your own future and the futures of the little ones in your lives... give them a good book... help start reversing the trend of illiteracy and literary malaise... watch the news with them.... do SOMETHING to help bring about the REAL CHANGE that will ONLY come through a generation that is taught how to make informed decisions BEFORE they act, rather than cry for help after they screw up...

I dunno why I got off on this topic this morning, and I didn't mean to bum anyone's Christmas Eve.... I hope you all have a wonderful holiday season, and that we somehow start a grass-roots level movement to truly educate our youth, before we find ourselves old, alone, and without anything left to be thankful for in our lives....


Update: December 24, 2008.
....And ONCE AGAIN, we make the case for A*O to add at least two (2) more stars to the poster to give out... there are so many star-worthy responses here, I feel like I cheated some of you.... thanks for caring, and thanks for responding!!!!

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

Okay. How do you deal with a long-ago sign of disrespect that you still can't let go of? / Married Life / 3:28 PM - Tuesday December 23, 2008 Back To Top

Some background information:

My husband and I were married a year and a half ago. We are Mormon, but his family is not. This made the wedding ceremonies a bit complicated, but we really were flexible and made a lot of sacrifices to make sure it was everything his family wanted, and that they were included in the whole thing. We went on to have the reception, and the night was absolutely perfect, minus his dad acting a little goofy.

6 or 7 months later, it was revealed to me that his family had actually snuck their own private store of alcohol into the wedding, and were quietly passing it around at their table.

I was pissed. I hate alcohol. It's ruined the lives of many people close to me. My abhorrence of alcohol goes so far above and beyond my religious health code. I am totally fine with them drinking in their own homes and at their own events, and would never dream of telling them to stop. BUT AT MY WEDDING?!?!?!? I feel completely disrespected.

We did not at all have a traditional "Mormon" wedding that they couldn't participate in. We sacrificed a lot so that they would feel included. They obviously knew I would have a problem with the alcohol, because they were so sneaky about it. But they brought it anyway, and a lot of my relatives and other guests probably noticed, which (yes I'm vain) is a little embarrassing for me.

I didn't find out about this that night, probably because anyone who saw knew I would have been totally pissed off, and didn't want to ruin the night (and I'm grateful for that). But now what can I do? I'm still mad. But it's been over a year. I've never brought it up to them, and really it didn't do any damage, so I have nothing to resent. No harm, no foul, right? But I still feel like they don't have any respect for me.

And I can feel a grudge building steadily within me. Which is obviously a bad thing.

Ugh. What should I do?

PS: This isn't an invitation to discuss the relative merits of drinking or not drinking. I know how I feel about it, and so do they. This is about how I feel I was treated by people who are now my family.

Update: December 23, 2008.
Just to clarify.... My husband didn't drink anything. He feels as I do about alcohol. It was just his family (mother, father, brothers, and cousins) who were drinking. He knew about it, but didn't tell me because he knew it would make me upset, and didn't want that on our wedding day. It didn't seem like a big deal to him..... I think he just has lower expectations for his family than I do. But yeah, he's totally off the hook. It's mostly just his folks.

- Asked by utahbabe, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 29-35, Philadelphia, Student

Just get the farg OVER it, already!!! - (By~Tor's 2008 Holiday Gift Guide) / Friendship / 11:40 AM - Tuesday December 23, 2008 Back To Top

Every year, right about this time, we get the inevitable slew of people who complain about how they just can't feel the "Christmas Spirit", or don't know why the holidays get them down....

I have to say-- I agree.... I don't know why, either!!!!

See, the holidays to me, are nothing more than a man-made excuse to celebrate, much as the pagans used to celebrate Winter Solstice... who knows WHEN Christ's "birthday" really was?... and for that matter, does it even matter at all, anyway?!?!?!

The point being, that we should ALWAYS be filled with the Spirit of our Creator, and do good things for each other and for ourselves, regardless of the time of year. I always hate those people who elect to give a homeless guy a dollar on Christmas, but then hop right over their carcasses every other day of the year in disgust... their hypocrisy shall not go unnoticed, by our Creator...

Yes, I know - - - maybe SOME people need a "reminder" that we are to be civil to one another and maybe Christmas fills that role... but in the end run, isn't it more important to be helpful and kind all the time, rather than just on "Special Occasions"?

This Christmas, I ask you guys to do a few things that MAY go a ways in helping better your own lives:

* Be overly kind and welcoming to that irritating cousin you can't stand... not just at the dinner table, but starting now, and going well into the future...

* Give money to a church - - ANY church . . . even if you don't go, or don't even BELIEVE in a God... these people make a career out of helping those in need, and they will route the money to where it can do the most good!!!

* Find a way to Bite Your Tongue to avoid just one altercation you could avoid by remaining silent... try it... you may lose points on ego & pride, but you'll gain twice as many back, in peace and the lack of drama in your life!!

* Send a Holiday card to one person you absolutely hate... think of something nice to say to them in it... the bridges can only be rebuilt, if someone picks up a hammer first and starts nailing in the nails, again...

* Tell someone who uses the holidays as an excuse to get depressed and/or drunk to get over it, already, and man up to the challenges in their lives!--yeah, it's "Tough Love", but the coddling doesn't work on 'em anyway-- it just enables them to continue doing the things that are ruining their lives!

There you have it; By~Tor's Holiday Gift Guide for 2008... none of these gifts cost a damned DIME, other than giving money to the church, but they'll give you back tenfold in happiness and maybe. . . . just maybe . . . help someone else be happier in their own life, too!

* Merry Christmas, Happy Chanaukah, Happy Ramadan, Happy Kwanzaa, Happy Festivus, Happy St. Brigid's Day, Happy Boxing Day, Happy St. Stephen's Day, and whatever the hell else you wanna' call it!!!!


Love and Kisses,


- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer
Comment from bytor, Recommendation Leader:
The Holiday Bloooze.... "SOLVED"!!!

What's up with the newbies posting? / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 4:14 PM - Friday December 19, 2008 Back To Top

They post anon...and then repost with screename...boy...I tell ya...rookie't clog up the board with multiple posts....of the same question! lol...we got it the first time...we got it! Who's with me?

- Asked by divatoonami, A Trendsetter, Female, 36-45, Administrative

Diggin' on Wet, for fun & profit..... / Sex & Intimacy / 10:49 AM - Friday December 19, 2008 Back To Top

This holiday season, I ask that we all take a little spare change and donate it to my new charity, designed to help make sure wetwired has a happy Christmas.... all proceeds will be used to purchase adult novelties and ship them to her for her enjoyment.

I call the charity, "Toys For Tw*&s".....

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

to all men: if you hav a gf u love then why cheat? / Dating / 9:06 AM - Friday December 19, 2008 Back To Top

or why txt other girls??

- Asked by A Thinker, Female, 22-25, London

my ex boyfriend and i have been having sex / Sex & Intimacy / 3:41 PM - Thursday December 18, 2008 Back To Top

whenever we come home from college and occationally when he comes to visit his friends at my college we hook up. this past thanksgiving we were both home and had sex like 4 or 5 times a day all break that christmas break is here i cant wait to hang out with him. is this bad since hes an ex and all

- Asked by Female, 22-25

sex pain in lower belly / Sex & Intimacy / 4:56 PM - Wednesday December 17, 2008 Back To Top

hi had pain in belly while haven sex it was like hurting while he pressed i.This happened 1 or 2 time be 4 but only when i had my legs around neck up high never any other postions i am also 6 weeks pregnant can some one help

- Asked by dors123, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 29-35, Dublin

"...The World Has never Seen Such Freezing Heat..." / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 4:44 PM - Wednesday December 17, 2008 Back To Top

A surreal scientific blunder last week raised a huge question mark about the temperature records that underpin the worldwide alarm over global warming. On Monday, Nasa's Goddard Institute for Space Studies (GISS), which is run by Al Gore's chief scientific ally, Dr James Hansen, and is one of four bodies responsible for monitoring global temperatures, announced that last month was the hottest October on record.

This was startling. Across the world there were reports of unseasonal snow and plummeting temperatures last month, from the American Great Plains to China, and from the Alps to New Zealand. China's official news agency reported that Tibet had suffered its "worst snowstorm ever". In the US, the National Oceanic and Atmospheric Administration registered 63 local snowfall records and 115 lowest-ever temperatures for the month, and ranked it as only the 70th-warmest October in 114 years.

So what explained the anomaly? GISS's computerised temperature maps seemed to show readings across a large part of Russia had been up to 10 degrees higher than normal. But when expert readers of the two leading warming-sceptic blogs, Watts Up With That and Climate Audit, began detailed analysis of the GISS data they made an astonishing discovery. The reason for the freak figures was that scores of temperature records from Russia and elsewhere were not based on October readings at all. Figures from the previous month had simply been carried over and repeated two months running.

The error was so glaring that when it was reported on the two blogs - run by the US meteorologist Anthony Watts and Steve McIntyre, the Canadian computer analyst who won fame for his expert debunking of the notorious "hockey stick" graph - GISS began hastily revising its figures. This only made the confusion worse because, to compensate for the lowered temperatures in Russia, GISS claimed to have discovered a new "hotspot" in the Arctic - in a month when satellite images were showing Arctic sea-ice recovering so fast from its summer melt that three weeks ago it was 30 per cent more extensive than at the same time last year.

A GISS spokesman lamely explained that the reason for the error in the Russian figures was that they were obtained from another body, and that GISS did not have resources to exercise proper quality control over the data it was supplied with. This is an astonishing admission: the figures published by Dr Hansen's institute are not only one of the four data sets that the UN's Intergovernmental Panel on Climate Change (IPCC) relies on to promote its case for global warming, but they are the most widely quoted, since they consistently show higher temperatures than the others.

If there is one scientist more responsible than any other for the alarm over global warming it is Dr Hansen, who set the whole scare in train back in 1988 with his testimony to a US Senate committee chaired by Al Gore. Again and again, Dr Hansen has been to the fore in making extreme claims over the dangers of climate change. (He was recently in the news here for supporting the Greenpeace activists acquitted of criminally damaging a coal-fired power station in Kent, on the grounds that the harm done to the planet by a new power station would far outweigh any damage they had done themselves.)

Yet last week's latest episode is far from the first time Dr Hansen's methodology has been called in question. In 2007 he was forced by Mr Watts and Mr McIntyre to revise his published figures for US surface temperatures, to show that the hottest decade of the 20th century was not the 1990s, as he had claimed, but the 1930s.

Another of his close allies is Dr Rajendra Pachauri, chairman of the IPCC, who recently startled a university audience in Australia by claiming that global temperatures have recently been rising "very much faster" than ever, in front of a graph showing them rising sharply in the past decade. In fact, as many of his audience were aware, they have not been rising in recent years and since 2007 have dropped.

Dr Pachauri, a former railway engineer with no qualifications in climate science, may believe what Dr Hansen tells him. But whether, on the basis of such evidence, it is wise for the world's governments to embark on some of the most costly economic measures ever proposed, to remedy a problem which may actually not exist, is a question which should give us all pause for thought.

From the Telegraph/UK

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

Why is it awkward at this point?? / Dating / 2:03 PM - Wednesday December 17, 2008 Back To Top

I had my boyfriend, break up with me over EMAIL of all things 2 weeks ago. We both have things that we need to return to the other, and he keeps calling to set it up but then either doesn't show or doesn't call. When I get him on the phone, he says it is too awkward to see me. I am friends with ALL of my exes and don't see why this one could be any different yet he is telling me that it is too "awkward". He is supposed to come over today, but have a feeling he will cancel again. What is the big deal with this guy?? He dumped me. He should be fine with at least us exchanging things......right??

- Asked by cuteblonde1, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 36-45, Self-Employed

Bytor's Wisdom...... / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 1:54 PM - Wednesday December 17, 2008 Back To Top

Alcohol doesn't solve any problems..............

........but then again, neither does milk.

- Asked by themamu, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, Who Cares?

what is herosexual? / Sex & Intimacy / 5:31 PM - Tuesday December 16, 2008 Back To Top

... does it mean straight cause if it does then i am because i am straight

- Asked by A Player, Female, 22-25, Who Cares?

Would you report a Dead Beat Dad or Mom? / Family & Parenting / 4:44 PM - Tuesday December 16, 2008 Back To Top

Christmas is the hardest time for single parents to afford presents plus living expenses. The Dead Beats are concerned that they continue to party and have Christmas...I believe they think someone else can take care of their responsibility. Report a Deadbeat Dad or Mom and get them paying for their children as they should. search Deadbeat Dads and it will connect you with organizations that are looking for the deadbeats..Do your part. Even if it is a picture and a web site ..

Update: December 16, 2008.
How strange that A deadbeat pops the question.

- Asked by roseytalks, A Thinker, Female, Who Cares?, Tampa, Who Cares?

"By~Tor's Barbeque 2009"..... / Recipes & Entertaining / 4:01 PM - Tuesday December 16, 2008 Back To Top

So, if I hosted a massive barbeque and party sometime in June of '09 here in Pittsburgh, would you come???

Update: December 17, 2008.
Alrighty then, for those of you who are saying "Yes", please make sure to follow through, as it looks like I'll be buying a HELL of alot of meat, now!!--LOL!!! If you responded yes, then of course you are invited... of course, I won't have room to lodge 20+ people, but there is a very nice Holiday Inn Expres, closeby... good rates, too... but I will host the Barbeque the last Saturday in June at our new house, and there'll be plenty of room for people to hang out and have a good time! ALSO, there's a great entertainment district just 2 miles away, on Carson Street, so live music and cheap drinks will be close by, for after the meat has settled into our gutty-works. Gotta' clean out them arteries, ya' know!!! Okay then - - - it's on, like Donkey-Kong!!! Ink the weekend on your calendars and start thinking about your plane/train tickets and if you need any personalised info, please I.M. me and I'll help all I can!!!!! :-D Mmmmmmmmmmmmm......Barb eque........

Update: December 16, 2008.
Allllllrighty then people.... so, go ahead and make your plans NOW for the LAST WEEKEND (Saturday) IN JUNE, 2009!! I'll send more info the closer we get to the actual date!

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

It's a sing along day gearing up for the holidays / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 11:39 AM - Tuesday December 16, 2008 Back To Top

Bytor the red-nosed Answerologist
Had a very shiny car
And if you ever saw it
You were probably at a bar.
All of the other AOers
Wondered how he got his dames
They thought he drank too many
To play in any bedroom games.

Then one foggy Christmas Eve,
Santa came to say:
"Bytor with your nose so red,
Won't you help me guide my sled?"
That's how the police found them
Wrapped around a maple tree
Bytor the red-nosed A-oler
He's a horny S.O.B.

- Asked by wetwired, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 29-35, Vancouver, Who Cares?

Here - - - now, we never have to read it again, after this.... bookmark it: / Sex & Intimacy / 10:14 AM - Monday December 15, 2008 Back To Top

This will be the LAST time you'll EVER see these questions on here, because now, you can ALL bookmark THIS one and just fish around for the answers!!!:

* I'm only 5"; is it big enough to please her?

* I can't get wet. Is something wrong with my snizz? He spends 47 hours in foreplay, but still, nothing....

* Is it okay to cheat on the person I said I'd love and be faithful to forever, even if I don't get caught?

* Do you like anal?...if so, why?

* Okay, so I texted my s/o with wtf? *&^(^RYULOVF#C$%EOUYuit p7to[3 tipu2iu10ut01uiuiog'jq rpioj1p
popiou joi5vthgyp....

Was I wrong to say that????

* Why do (insert any minority here) suck so bad???

* Do you hate Bush?

* Don't you just LOVE Obama?

* Are 99-cent sweaters the best? Where can I find them without fighting with my mom?

* Yaaaay, Communism!!!!!

* Is it okay to screw my 17 year old step cousin from another marriage?

There, folks.... now, they've ALL been asked ONCE, in one, succinct post.. we never have to look at them again.....


You're Welcome.

Update: December 15, 2008.
Wow--it got pulled... and THAT wasn't even controversial!!!!

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

Not ready, whtas going on? / Dating / 9:57 AM - Monday December 15, 2008 Back To Top

I cant understand why some men would say that they are not ready for a serious relationship seeing that we are always looking for sex and would jump at any given opportunity, so why do some men hesittate [ relationship ] if its being served on a silver platter?

- Asked by steady4rhyne, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 56-65, Self-Employed

Does everyone have PMS today? / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 9:34 AM - Monday December 15, 2008 Back To Top

I'm reading the questions and the responses are just over the top mean today! Sure, its the same old juvenile relationship "does he like me" sh*t, but give them a break! Why so hostile everyone?

- Asked by blueyedame, A Creative, Female, 46-55, Indianapolis, Who Cares?

IF, and ONLY IF you are one of the ones who DON'T rate your responses....... / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 3:45 PM - Friday December 12, 2008 Back To Top

Do you refuse to rate because:

* You know they'll all become +2's anyway in tribunal???

* You really don't care about the answers you get anyway, so why bother???

* You are a fake profile?

* Other _______________________ ____________

I'm just curious how this exists and why.....

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

"....back in MY day................" / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 1:08 PM - Friday December 12, 2008 Back To Top

I don't wanna' sound like y'all's grandfather here, but, Back in MY day (the '80's):

* It wasn't an "FWB"; it was a "f**k-buddy". . . or, in your parlance, just an "FB"....

* We didn't care if you came or not, because we knew you'd take care of it yourself, if we left ya' high & dry...

* The drugs were better, and cheaper...

* We didn't have all this drama surrounding our relationships, because the only thing we had to worry about was whether or not we'd told a good enough lie to cover up our philandering activities....

* If we had a friend, and we wound up sleeping with them, they automatically became "more than a friend"....

* It was always big enough, and if it wasn't, we'd use our tongues and fingers....

* We knew enough to either use a rubber or pull out when we came, if we didn't wanna' be daddies.... or mommies...

* Anal wasn't even an option......... neither was asking for a threesome......

* We were blissfully unaware that over 80% of everyone we knew had HPV and was passing it around like a hackeysack on crack....

I dunno if we had it easier or not, but it sure seemed to make more sense back then than what you young whippersnappers have decided to deal with, today.... in short, I think the main benefit of our day & age, was that we didn't overthink it so early on... we let everything come in its own due time....

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

Economy: The Auto-Bailout Failure and the UAW... / Race, Religion & Politics / 7:59 AM - Friday December 12, 2008 Back To Top

Now through BBC comes the news that the real sticking point that made repubs stall the auto-bailout bill last night, as that the UAW Union had refused to agree to pay cuts for the workers that would have put them on par with American auto workers who work at places like Toyota and BMW....

So, let me get this right... we have three major auto companies, all of whom employ more workers than Toyota or BMW do in the US, all of whom currently earn over $40 a man / hour, and the Union that represents Ford/GM/Chrysler workers refuses to negotiate to bring their pay in line with comparable non-union workers who, studies have shown, are more productive and produce better quality vehicles...

IT'S NO FREAKIN' WONDER that the economy is in the shape it's in, man!!!---This blatant DENIAL of the TRUTH, even when it hits you smack-dab in the FACE is EXACTLY what's wrong with America!!! We have seen the enemy and he is us, and STILL we deny it!!!

As a professionally-trained manager who earns over $40K per year (before taxes, insurance and child-support), I have to take offense that this union whose employees do one small job (usually impact-wrenching one part onto the car on the assembly line or something equally as banal) earn MORE THAN I DO AND have life-long benefits, all of which I'M expected to subsidize with this bailout!!!! - - I call "bullshit" on the whole thing!!!

If the Union truly cared about its workers, it would immediately move for a full union vote on whether or not to accept pay decreases in trade for continued work of ANY kind, considering the state of the economy and the potential result that bankruptcy would cause for the United States economy... but, a we've seen time and again, the Unions continue to holdout in blind ignorance of the reality of the situation:

* Ford, GM and Chrysler need money or they will be broke before Obama ever takes ofice.

* The "Big 3" have long been producing cars and trucks no one buys, because of contracts negotiated BY the Union with them.

* The millions of employees the Union represents will ALL be out of work, if nothing is renegotiated in good faith.

We are at a crossroads, America. . . . either we rein in spending and tighten ALL our belts a bit to get through this crisis, or we don't, and we drown in its cesspool of greed and shady politics...

It's don't take a Rhodes Scholar to figure this shit out, ya' know... all it takes is a fourth-grade level math knowledge, and the simple laws of Supply and Demand..... if I can figure it out, why can't they???

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

please rate NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!! / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 1:08 PM - Thursday December 11, 2008 Back To Top

I can't stand it when I see someone has failed to rate. I am almost to 1,000 points and quite frankly, I think it's rude.

Who's with me?

IJS because I rate immediatly.

- Asked by anunquietmind, A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Student

If people can't resolve their issues when they're together, then / Dating / 12:58 PM - Thursday December 11, 2008 Back To Top

why would they think they can work their issues out when they are apart?

- Asked by kungfudewd, A Career Man, Male, 36-45, Who Cares?
Comment from bytor, Recommendation Leader:
My Friend George and His ex......

have I had sex with somebody or not? Am I in an sms relationship? / Sex & Intimacy / 7:39 AM - Thursday December 11, 2008 Back To Top

this is weird, but things happen. Basically I have been sms'ing, emailing and chatting to a guy for the past 2.5 years who is in effect separated but living under the same roof as his (ex) wife. They have 2 kids.

We started off as friends, genuinely, just enjoying the witty banter and exchange of stories and intelligent minds. Then he started to depend on me a little, open up about his situation, and lately, sms me for long sessions at a time.

Last week, we ended up having sms sex! I know - this is weird and I've never done it before and not sure how it happened! But truth be told - it was full on, and lots of pics & real-time videos sent etc, and raunchy thoughts and he and I came hard (sorry for the detail!) a few times. It was unexpected, weird but enjoyable.

I'm now confused, have I had 'sex' with this man or not? Am I, in effect, in a relationship with this man or not? The talk between us is like lovers now, and we exchange communications in one form or the other every day. It is a very strange situation to be in. But the power of imagination and where is can transport loves is mentally one of the best. No denying it. I also admit that I have feelings for him. Thoughts?

- Asked by A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Who Cares?

I've been going out with mike for 2yrs off and on. This time around we've became very passionate. / Sex & Intimacy / 1:57 PM - Wednesday December 10, 2008 Back To Top

This is my Fifth time going out with mike (off and on) and it seems as though this time around it's going to last longer because we have the hots for each other and have become very passionate, and lusty for one another. We only did it once and thats when he took my virginity(which no one knows about) and when I think of him or when we're together he sends my body these uncontrollable signals that makes me want him even more. The problem is im only 15 and he's 16 and I can't control my hormones and the only thing that's stopping me from having a frequent relationship involving sex is that i'm scared of what my mother would think of me, what should I do? And how do you know you're having a ORGASM?
"Anonymous Wifey"

- Asked by Female, 22-25

What is ONE of the reasons as to why you like this site? lol / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 12:32 PM - Wednesday December 10, 2008 Back To Top

ONE of the reasons is that when I'm here...time seems to go fast/I LOVE IT/lol

Update: December 10, 2008.
Ohhhhhhhhhhhhh ''they'' didn't bother to mess THIS post cause it's ALL ABOUT THEIR SITE/LMFAO..

- Asked by dolphace, A Hippie Chick, Female, 46-55

My screen name is pretty self explanatory. it means I am greg's favorite.. / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 12:17 PM - Wednesday December 10, 2008 Back To Top

number is seven. What does your screen name mean or stand for??

- Asked by gregslove77, An Alternative Girl, Female, 29-35, Who Cares?

Maybe I'm startin' to get a li'l bit o' my Eeeeeeeeeeevil back....... / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 11:34 AM - Wednesday December 10, 2008 Back To Top

I still just LOVE it, whenever someone gives me a jer, it gets overturned in Tribunal, and THEN I get to put it up as one of my best answers, forever illuminating the idiots in the full light of their stupidity and ignorance!!!!

I think I'll stay alive awhile, just to keep shinin' that light for all to see!!!!

Muahahahahahahahahahaaa aaaaaaaa!!!!

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

Only answer if you really know about ASTRAL projection. AND NO RUDE ANSWERS / Sex & Intimacy / 5:00 PM - Tuesday December 09, 2008 Back To Top

Why are they astral projecting to me now? I mean I have fantasized about these men before? All of you said I can reach out to them to hear them but how? I mean how will I know if I am really hearing them? When it is happening it is alwys when I am lying down on my stomach why? Also I feel someone landing on me and then the f*ndling, f*ngering, intercourse and I feel someone breathng - of cousre no one is there? Can you explain all of this. And should I be worried?

- Asked by lover454, An Engaged Girl, Female, 56-65

Alot of Bitchin about Anon's this morning! / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 11:06 AM - Tuesday December 09, 2008 Back To Top

Why all the bitching about people going Anon?

Ever wonder why we do?

Hmmmmmm.. Could it be because the regal few who think they are the kings of this site are alloed to continue thier assults on posters with no replisal or danctions for thier assults on others..

One here keeps getting banned, but with in a day or two he's back on with a new screen name (in the genere of his old one) but the same old avitar.

It's like he's thumbing his nose at us all!

Why would we want to subject ourselves to the abuse when A/O wont stop them?

- Asked by Female, 29-35

I've figured it out, now.... / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 10:19 AM - Tuesday December 09, 2008 Back To Top

What with the recent slew of anons who don't rate their responses... I've figured out what I must do now, and I'm sorry to say, that if you don't have at the very least an avatar picture and one month under the belt on here, i will not be answering your questions.

I'm sorry that it's come to this, but the landslide of absolute crap is gonna' give me ANOTHER aneurysm if I'm not careful, and quite frankly, your questions really aren't worth it, since you're obviously not caring about the answers, anyway.....

To the REST of you, you'll still get the same ol' By~Tor, for good or ill...



- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

Should I use my ex, or forget about her? / Married Life / 9:27 AM - Tuesday December 09, 2008 Back To Top

I split from my ex 3 month ago, we hooked up 2 Fridays ago, she told me she missed me, and I missed her. The next morning we didn't really talk about the night before but we were good with each, nothing ackward.

I had an accident and was injured, so didn't see her all week, just friendly phone calls and texts. I'm fine now and back to work.

I just found out she hooked up with a guy last FridaY and its hurt me. I was so upset I just couldn't look at her, although we weren't together I felt that because of the week before there was a possibilty of us getting back, now I will not allow it, not only am i sturbbon, I also know it wouldn't be healthy to get back now, the relationship wouldn't last.

Now I'm at the stage I know we'll never get back together, I don't know if I should pursue a FWI, although I don't really see us hanging out as etc, I'm now only interested in sex. I can seperate between feelings and sex most of the time, and I don't feel ready to get involved with someone new, it wouldn't be fair to them.

Do you think this is wise? Or do you think I'll mess my head up more? I don't really care about her feelings now, she's shown shes only got one purpose and I have no respect for her now. I'd be treating her how she wants to be treated.

FYI, we ended 3 months ago because she felt she wasn't ready to become serious, when I was ready. I was a good BF to her.

- Asked by Male, Who Cares?

very personal and quite disturbing / Sex & Intimacy / 9:00 AM - Tuesday December 09, 2008 Back To Top

my boyfriend and i have been intimate for about four months now. recently after having sex just the other day he discovered small little bumps all over his penis. they were small and went away quickly. they came back the next day and this time they expanded, they got bigger. and now layer of skin fell off after that the bumps/pimples (whatever they are) went down, plus its very itchy he said. I on the other hand am fine, i don't have or didn't get anything. what went wrong? could it be he got an allergic reaction to something? this has never happened.

- Asked by A Sweet Sarah, Female, 29-35, Student

my boyfriend admitted to having sex with other men / Sex & Intimacy / 8:58 AM - Tuesday December 09, 2008 Back To Top

Every since he told me our sex life is crap, this is making me suspicious and insecure which is making everything worse

Update: December 09, 2008.
I am evaluating, hard. I have spoken with my doctor and yes had everything checked, thankfully everything is fine. Evaluating is the reason I am asking for opinions. Thanks to all whether I like what you say or not I do appreciate it.

Update: December 09, 2008.
I am trying very hard to be careful and the trust issue is just killing me. I just don't know what to do at this point and I am totally confused. We also have an 11 year old son who is estatic his parents are back together. Are there any males out there who are bi-sexual and can say they are not attracted to men it is different and that is why? Is there really such a thing as bi-sexual???

Update: December 09, 2008.
sex has always been great. in the last year or so he has been much more fixated on anything anal and has orgasmed from me just licking his ass. We talked about our fantasy of me watching him with another man and then I asked if he had and he said 5 times in the last couple of years. I started asking questions because I want to understand it, this made him freak out and I have tried talking to him about it since but he gets pissed off. It has been about 7 weeks since he told me and we went from sex daily sometime more than once to days without it and there is always a good excuse, I'm sick, his back, tired.... I'm trying hard to understand what he is going through but I even told him I want a 100% honest relationship and if someday down the road he really felt the desire to talk to me about it. He wishes he never told me. Did I mention 2 days after he told me he got a text from another man asking if he had a boner? He said he had not seen the guy since we became committed and did not plan on it. This is where it all went to hell for me and the insecurities and suspicion started. I was married to him for 7 years and have had a on again off again secret relationship with him for years and now we are back together openly for good. I have had my suspicions before but never thought it was a regular thing.

- Asked by A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Managerial

I have a little over 5inch penis, Im scared that I wont b able to please a woman. is that to small?? / Sex & Intimacy / 8:49 AM - Tuesday December 09, 2008 Back To Top

I have a little over 5inch penis, I'm scared that I won't b able to please a woman. is that to small? and do women only care about the size and not the man?

- Asked by A Guy Critical, Male, 26-28, Pittsburgh

Change is not good... / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 6:17 AM - Tuesday December 09, 2008 Back To Top

I find myself not coming on A/O as often now since it changed. I dunno why. Anyone else?

Update: December 09, 2008.
On the bright side...we are getting away with putting words like ass and bitch in our posts. :D

- Asked by amongyong, A Cool Mom, Female, 29-35, Retired

Only answer if you know about Astral Projection / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 5:16 PM - Monday December 08, 2008 Back To Top

What is happening can you explain this is for people who believe in astral projection no one else is to answer?
Can you help me figure this out?
I am a non-astral. However, about three weeks ago when I fantasized about my ex-boyfriend, my male ex-bosses and one male cuz - all of them very powerful men -no one ever defies them I started to feel them coming to me on an astral level to have sexual intercourse. The thing is in the past I have fantasized about them but nothing like this has ever happened. So what do you think? I am not astral and don't want to be. AND no it is not lucid dreaming.

Here are some questions I need answers to:

(1) Can the astral punish or reward the non-astral and can you give me an example of how the astral can do that?

(2) Can the astral also become the guardian angels of the non-astral?

(3) What about my male cuz. He and I email one another. I told him I wanted to see the movie "The Boy in the Striped Pajamas" and in the other emails he never would never mention sex and in this particular response to my email to him last week he said "I would see a movie more uplifting something with sex." Do you think he is also astral projecting to me as well and cluing me in when he mentioned sex in the email.
But my male cuz said he doesn't believe in Astral Travel, but do you think this is a cover I could have sworn at times I hear his voice as well - but not sure.

(4) Can these men talk to one another via astral? I mean they know one another when they are non-astral but can they communicate to one another astrally as well. And can I hear them when they do?

(5) Ok the astral projector comes to me every time I lye on my bed on my stomach watching TV. And 2 night when he did he *** inside of me and I felt the semen running down my legs but when I felt my legs dry but my vagina was moist from my liquid. Can this happen?

(6) How can I actually tell if the astral is speaking to me telepathically and it is not my imagination running wild.

(7) Last night I felt someone getting into bed with me but no one was there and no it is not an illusion. There was breathing. someone was astraling to me.

- Asked by Female, 56-65

Is sex on an out of town trip okay for men only, or can we do it too? / Sex & Intimacy / 4:59 PM - Monday December 08, 2008 Back To Top

I am married and I travel a fair amount, a couple of trips a month or more. I feel like society says it is okay for a man to have a meetup while he is away from his wife. What if I want to? I don't want the answers about if I am asking I shouldn't be married.

- Asked by A Thinker, Female, 29-35, Who Cares?

I've been seeing this married guy for 6 years. His 2nd wife left him but he's seeing 1st wife. / Dating / 4:07 PM - Monday December 08, 2008 Back To Top

According to rumor - he wants to try again with 1st wife. He won't return my calls and I'm crying myself to sleep every night. My company deals with his company every day and it's tearing me apart. How can I get some answers and some closure?

- Asked by A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Construction

Guys do you care about your g/f more when she doesnt question or get mad at you? / Dating / 3:31 PM - Monday December 08, 2008 Back To Top

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 3 months and i dont question him or get angry at anything he does of course he hasnt given me a reason to. but if he cant come over for some reason i just says its fine. and he says sorry baby and says that he cares about me.

- Asked by carolcarr, A Thinker, Female, 26-28, Tampa

WTF is DA PoiNt of TyPing Lyk Dis?! / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 12:22 PM - Monday December 08, 2008 Back To Top

Gag =P

What could be slightly appealing with that kind of spelling and what not.

"when i talk 2 ppl i want dem to thynk iz brainD3AD."

It makes me cringe every time, especially when someone is trying to talk with me casually, or even worse, seriously.

Okay, so basically anytime someone types like this in a non joking matter, makes me sick.

Agree? Disagree?

- Asked by chknugget, A Creative, Female, 26-28, Artist / Musician / Writer

Why Profile yourself? / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 9:05 AM - Monday December 08, 2008 Back To Top

Someone clarify this for me please -I don't understand this mentality:

Why would people try so hard to fit the profile of what the majority conceive as "bad news" if they don't want to be "judged" -or profiled is what I say?

I mean, if your whole culture tells me you're a badass/rebel/gangsta/mo tley crue wannabe and that you're "dangerous"... then -I BELIEVE YOU! When I avoid you -it's out of respect.

- Asked by jillopo, An Alternative Girl, Female, 29-35

is it better 2 tell him how i feel or keep it to myself? / Friendship / 8:56 AM - Monday December 08, 2008 Back To Top

i have feelings for my best guy a way always have since ive known him for so long n always looked up to him...we have been hooking up in the last few months and sometimes act like we r just friends but sometimes we act like we r together..kind of a weird semi relationship cos we r so close with or without the sex stuff..anyway we dont tell each other how we feel cos i think were both scared of making the friendship differnt.. but he is moving away permanantly after new years eve...just wondering if its better to tell him or keep it to myself..i dont want it to get awkward but i want him to know and know how he really feels but im scared! and i dont know how i would tell him! thaaanx :)

- Asked by Female, 26-28

Do you try to live up to the expecatations of the other person in your relationship???? / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 1:41 PM - Sunday December 07, 2008 Back To Top


Do you try to live up to the expecatations of the other person in your relationship????

Update: December 07, 2008.
NO one should try to live up to anyone else expecatations for them. You were not put on this earth to live up to anyone expectations but your own. Trying to please others and not yourself is where sooooo many relationships go bad. Everyone has expecations for themselves and those are the ones they should be working towards, not what someone else wants. When people learn this and put it into practice, there will be alot of changes in this world....for the good!!!!!

- Asked by barbb, An Alternative Girl, Female, Who Cares?, Other Profession

What wood smells the best when it's burnt? / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 1:14 PM - Sunday December 07, 2008 Back To Top

Does it all smell the same?

Does the smoke taste different also? I was just looking at all my dad's wood chips the other day, and wondering why he had so many different types of wood......I assume for smoking meats with.

- Asked by sharonpeters, A Thinker, Female, 29-35, Other Profession
Comment from bytor, Recommendation Leader:
Best BBQ Tips...

My boyfriend is still friends with his ex-girlfriend. He broke up with her. They talk once a month. / Dating / 4:54 PM - Friday December 05, 2008 Back To Top

I'm bothered about the situation but he tells me as a partner I should trust him and without trust what is our relationship. I know that is true. But it bothers me knowing she hears about our life, he hears about hers and me hearing updates about her life. I guess I'm happy he always tells me about their conversations. His family and friends really loved her and he really loved her and it was only a year since they broke up so I feel it too soon to be friends. My bf broke up with her because she wanted to get married and he wasn't ready for any of that. And he told me if he wasn't ready then it was because something wasn't right. I know I should trust him. But I can't help feeling jealous. They did so much together and have such a history and soooo many stories he has about the past include her. I just wish I didn't feel like this. Anyhow knowing how I'm feeling?

- Asked by An Alternative Girl, Female, 29-35, Halifax, Hospitality

What they do to waste airtime / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 3:07 PM - Wednesday December 03, 2008 Back To Top

Is there really a point to having a show to reveal the Grammy nominees? We can just find that out at the Grammy Awards like every other year.

- Asked by wudaddy, A Mr. Married Guy, Male, 36-45, Dallas, Law Enforcement

Only answer if you know about Astral Projection / Sex & Intimacy / 2:52 PM - Wednesday December 03, 2008 Back To Top

What is happening can you explain this is for people who believe in astral projection no one else is to answer?
Can you help me figure this out?
I am a non-astral. However, about three weeks ago when I fantasized about my ex-boyfriend, my male ex-bosses and one male cuz - all of them very powerful men -no one ever defies them I started to feel them coming to me on an astral level to have sexual intercourse. The thing is in the past I have fantasized about them but nothing like this has ever happened. So what do you think? I am not astral and don't want to be. AND no it is not lucid dreaming.

Here are some questions I need answers to:

(1) Can the astral punish or reward the non-astral and can you give me an example of how the astral can do that?

(2) Can the astral also become the guardian angels of the non-astral?

(3) What about my male cuz. He and I email one another. I told him I wanted to see the movie "The Boy in the Striped Pajamas" and in the other emails he never would never mention sex and in this particular response to my email to him last week he said "I would see a movie more uplifting something with sex." Do you think he is also astral projecting to me as well and cluing me in when he mentioned sex in the email.
But my male cuz said he doesn't believe in Astral Travel, but do you think this is a cover I could have sworn at times I hear his voice as well - but not sure.

(4) Can these men talk to one another via astral? I mean they know one another when they are non-astral but can they communicate to one another astrally as well. And can I hear them when they do?

(5) Ok the astral projector comes to me every time I lye on my bed on my stomach watching TV. And 2 night when he did he *** inside of me and I felt the semen running down my legs but when I felt my legs dry but my vagina was moist from my liquid. Can this happen?

(6) How can I actually tell if the astral is speaking to me telepathically and it is not my imagination running wild.

(7) Last night I felt someone getting into bed with me but no one was there and no it is not an illusion. There was breathing. someone was astraling to me.

- Asked by Female, 56-65

Who is annoying? / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 2:48 PM - Wednesday December 03, 2008 Back To Top

Name the two most annoying people on this site. You can be anonymous.

- Asked by Male, 29-35

The Auto Industry Issue / Race, Religion & Politics / 2:37 PM - Wednesday December 03, 2008 Back To Top

So now, they want $34 Billion more in addition to the original 425 billion.... and what will we Americans get in return?

* Union benefits continue to be paid to retirees and those out of work and not reassigned... ($71 per hour per person)....

* Cars and trucks no one wants because they are inefficient and overpriced in relation to what the competition provides....

* More government oversight as far as CAFE standards and emissions goes....

* Higher prices for the forseeable future.

All in all, I think this is a crap deal for America and for the auot industry. Here's what they need to do:

* Get rid of the UAW, no matter by hook or by crook. The UAW is a poison on the industry.

* Start making cars and trucks that are fuel-efficient AND powerful. I know the technology's already out there, so if you're going to charge us $25,000 for a vehicle, at least make that vehicle WORTH the money!

* Stop flooding the airwaves with sales ads day & night.... I'd bet that would save a HELL of alot of money....daily....

* Reduce the amount of cars produced each year to stimulate demand.

* Make cars that no longer have a "planned obsolescence", so that when we invest in one, we know it'll be good for 15-20 years or so, like back in the good ol' days....

JUST MY $0.02, that's all....

Update: December 03, 2008.
Yes, and thanks to keldog, I should add they could definitely reduce the number of dealerships as well!!!--Thanks!!!

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

How do I cope with this problem? / Married Life / 2:01 PM - Wednesday December 03, 2008 Back To Top

My beloved husband has had a stroke. He spent 4 months in the hospital recovering from all of the serious lung issues that devastated him physically. After he tracheostomy was removed, he has "word salad" or aphasia. Our entire relationship has changed. I feel like a mommy in charge of a child rather than a woman married to an articulate, opinionated, conversant, mature man.
Our marriage was predicated on discussion and talking things over, making joint decisions and sharing viewpoints. I feel despair and loss on a scale so huge that I feel as though he might just as well have died. And I can't even talk to him about it. Not only do I not understand his speech, he cannot understand me. Help.

Update: December 04, 2008.
Thanks to all of you who took the time to respond to my pain and despair. It is great to know you are all out there somewhere. Heads up--for those of you who have scolded me--I am not leaving. I am coping. As for what would happen if our roles were reversed, he would be gone and I would be on my own. I'm in love with him but I am not stupid or blinded. I took my vows just as seriously today as I did some twenty-plus years ago when we said them. But my mother didn't raise an idiot. If I were as dependent on him as he is on me, he would be gone LONG before I would be. To the guy who answered and told me of his own stroke--thank you so much for the look inside. I know he is trapped in there. He IS still in there. The doctors assured me that he could hear and understand and think, and you know how long it takes while every communication is blocked and time itself seems to string us along. But I AM in it for the long haul.

- Asked by Female, 56-65

Please answer in detail. / Sex & Intimacy / 1:55 PM - Wednesday December 03, 2008 Back To Top

my penis is near about six inches in length and four inches in girth. I want to know whether my size is ok and will I be able to satisfy women? I never had sex. I get hard rock erections and can sustain for 30 minutes at a stretch. I love sex. I am yearning for it, please help me. I am above 28 in age.

- Asked by isexappeal1, A Guy Critical, Male, 36-45

Still confused ! / Dating / 9:45 AM - Wednesday December 03, 2008 Back To Top

Any points of view why he might be doing this? I should also add that he is a very "proper" man with set ideas on whats wrong and right. Also, I have been with him for one year, intimately and saw him on and off for about 6 months before that. Honestly, I would rather work this out than leave him.

- Asked by Female, 46-55

Confused / Sex & Intimacy / 8:56 AM - Wednesday December 03, 2008 Back To Top

My b/f announced two nights ago that he would not be having sex with me anymore because he found out that (before him) I slept with a certain man (I was in a relationship with this man and actually left him for my b/f...never cheated).
My b/f says that had he known that I'd had sex with this man, he never would have slept with me. This is because he really dislikes this other guy.... nothing to do with the guy being a sl@t or anything like that.
He says that we can be friends and don't have to have sex. (If it helps my b/f is 54 years old.) Last night I slept over at his house as usual and sure enough ... no sex. So I asked weren't we gonna get intimate and replied NO....I said never again? and he said I Don't Know. I said that if we're not getting intimate, I feel he'll be doing it with someone else. He said no he wouldn't be, but if he ever had that intention he would tell me first (this has always been our deal .... no cheating)...
Then he asked "What do you do when you get horny and I'm not here"... I replied I masturbate... he replied "So there you are". Important to note here that he is going away for a couple of months tomorrow.... so it'll be a while before we see each other. What do you think this is all about - really - and what do you think I should do???? I'm at a loss.... I really care for him. Am looking for men's responses as to why he might be behaving this way, and woman's responses on what to do,,, Thanks !

- Asked by Female, 46-55

i dont want to settle for less / Dating / 4:04 PM - Tuesday December 02, 2008 Back To Top

im a big, tall girl, and i want to attract an awesome guy, but i dont seem to be able to. how can i get a guy i want without settling for less?

- Asked by jordybrooks7, An Alternative Girl, Female, 22-25, Who Cares?

Finding a balance / Dating / 3:29 PM - Tuesday December 02, 2008 Back To Top

Need help: guys, how do I play the appropriate level of "hard to get" without pushing him away? What do you appreciate about a new girl in your life that transitions her from fling to gf?

Update: December 03, 2008.
Thank you for replying, however, I am dismayed that you have all assumed I am playing games. In reality, I merely wished for help in not pushing him often does the line "I really like you" work? My last intention is to play games, I just don't want to make the typical mistakes that mess it up!

- Asked by A Thinker, Female, 29-35, Student

untitled / Dating / 10:18 AM - Tuesday December 02, 2008 Back To Top

questions about a pisces male.

trying to understand this pisces male. We spend maybe 1=2 weekends a month together we are very close, i live far away, therefore, i cannot be there all the time. i have met all friends and family and they all love me. However, when i'm away, he pulls away and gets mad very easily and actually i don't know what he get mad about.. will stop talking for a week or so and then out of the blue call again. I know for a fact there isn't anyone else, it is confirmed by very reliable sources, friends and family. I know when i go see him it is not just about sex, because we are constantly on the go doing things and enjoying ourselves. He won't tell me how he feels, but his actions tell me in heart he cares, he cooks for me, comforts me when sad, very attentive, when i leave he always makes sure the car is clean, safe for drive etc. expects call when i arrive home, whenever i arrive, the first thing he always wants is a big hug and kiss and when i leave he expects the same.. We are both adults but i'm so confused by his actions.

- Asked by A Sweet Sarah, Female, 46-55, Chicago, Administrative

untitled / Sex & Intimacy / 12:45 PM - Tuesday November 25, 2008 Back To Top

what does it mean when ur having sex with a guy and he asks u not to mourn or make any type of noise during sex

- Asked by Female, 29-35

he needs skills / Sex & Intimacy / 11:38 AM - Tuesday November 25, 2008 Back To Top

My boyfriend and I have been having really bad sex for, well, ever. He was a virgin when we met so I thought he would get better with time, but he hasn't. I tried to talk to him and get him to try some new stuff and experiment with me but he doesn't seem into it. How do I get him to improve our play time?

- Asked by qtbabe010, A Life of the Party, Female, 26-28, Student

Broken Condoms? / Sex & Intimacy / 5:29 PM - Monday November 24, 2008 Back To Top

If my guy cums, then the condom breaks, could I still get pregnant?

- Asked by sourpatchgirl, A Thinker, Female, 22-25

What do you like? / Sex & Intimacy / 10:19 AM - Monday November 24, 2008 Back To Top

girls,do you ever like dp ? a toy up your pu%$y and one up your ass ?

- Asked by walt3289, A Guy Critical, Male, 36-45, Managerial

Cost of living / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 7:13 PM - Friday November 21, 2008 Back To Top

What percentage of one's income should go on: a) Rent; b) Utility bills; c) Transport to and from work? Currently looking for somewhere else to live because arguments with my flatmate are starting to take a serious toll on my health (I fainted in the middle of one on Monday night: so far the doctors have found no possible cause other than stress), but can't find anywhere suitable at the price I'm currently paying, so I think I may have to go higher and I don't want to land myself in financial trouble.

- Asked by tabbycat1, An Alternative Girl, Female, 29-35, London, Internet / New Media

SCEPTIC / Diet & Health / 1:53 PM - Friday November 21, 2008 Back To Top


- Asked by A Thinker, Female, 22-25, Who Cares?

What the hell? / Race, Religion & Politics / 7:15 AM - Thursday November 20, 2008 Back To Top

Calif. Supreme Court to Take Up Gay Marriage Ban
Nov 19, 5:07 PM (ET)

SAN FRANCISCO (AP) - California's highest court has agreed to hear legal challenges to a new ban on gay marriage, but is refusing to allow gay couples to resume marrying until it rules.

The California Supreme Court on Wednesday accepted three lawsuits seeking to overturn Proposition 8. The amendment passed this month with 52 percent of the vote. The court did not elaborate on its decision.

All three cases claim the ban abridges the civil rights of a vulnerable minority group. They argue that voters alone did not have the authority to enact such a significant constitutional change.

Wait a minute. Forget the immediate issue and look at the real import of this. In the land of "We The People", if the people do not have the right to determine their own destiny and that right is taken from them and put in the hands of the few and the elite, then we don't have a democratic government. Comments welcome, but NOT on issue of homosexual marriage. This is about encroachments on the democratic principle of majority rule.

- Asked by 2wheels, A Creative, Male, 56-65, Retired

Drugs / Dating, Friendship / 5:13 PM - Wednesday November 19, 2008 Back To Top

Last night, I texted something about how I wish drugs and alcohol weren't such a focus for our group to my boyfriend. Some of his friends stole his phone, read it, and sent me a number of abusive text messages- 'f*ck you' 'shut up' 'you don't have to come to anything then'.

This REALLY upset me. I didn't see my texts as at all personally offensive and so to get that kind of reaction seemed over the top and just plain cruel.

These are supposed to be my friends (mind you, not close) too, you see.
So, I pretty much bawled my eyes out for hours, while just feeling completely hated and worthless.
This morning, I've calmed down but my reaction kind of worries me.

I have noticed that, in these kind of situations, I just cannot deal. If a friend (or even a random online person, sometimes!) says something mean to me, I cannot respond with something bitchy back. Instead, I avoid the situation all together so I can feel horrible on my own.

I also find myself feeling really panicked a lot of the time- my heart will beat really fast and I'll be so scared, but I can't pinpoint what of. One little thing is enough to send me spiralling into hours of darkness.

What do you think this is? What do you think I can do/say to make this easier on me?

- Asked by Female, 26-28

Hopefully this works..... / Sex & Intimacy / 10:29 AM - Wednesday November 19, 2008 Back To Top

I told my boyfriend last night that we are going to have sex everyday at least twice for two weeks.
I feel like we are disconnected from each other. At night when we go to sleep it's him on his side, me on mine no snuggling, no goodnight I love you or anything, and NO sex!!

Hopefully my little plan will bring us back together becuase I don't like where we are right now. We used to go at it like rabbits, and now I'm lucky to get it once a week.

What are some things I can do to suprise him in bed and make him "want" me more?

Update: November 19, 2008.
Thank you all for the wonderful ideas! To let everyone know, he doesn't feel the same way as I do. We have just been so busy and stressed out latley about work and money problems that at the end of the night we are just to tired to do anything. We both usually fall asleep once our heads hit the pillow. I'm not worried that he's cheating or anything, so I know thats not the problem, I just think we need to reconnect with eachother. I like the idea of having a nice getaway or having movie and dinner night, so we might just have to do that.

- Asked by missey7, A Life of the Party, Female, 29-35, Other Profession

How do you rate??? / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 10:35 AM - Monday November 03, 2008 Back To Top

Since we can only give 3 stars for each question asked, when you have more than 3 really excellent answers how do you decide who will get the 3 stars???

Update: November 03, 2008.
I never retract a star either, I just think it's wrong. Personally, when I'm stuck on who to give the last star out to I'll tell one of my kids to pick a letter (I give them the choices of the beginning letter of the person's screename). Which ever letter they choose, that's who gets it. I was just trying to come up with a better way to do it.

- Asked by mhnsmom, A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Who Cares?

The Final Countdown (Politics)...[Long Post] / Race, Religion & Politics / 8:43 AM - Monday November 03, 2008 Back To Top

Well, good morning, my A*O peeps!.....

We are now, THANKFULLY, down to T-minus one on the election countdown, and even though we all know Obama will most likely be our next president, and our first black president, there are still a few things to consider for those who may still be undecided... to wit:

* Nevermind Obama's "Cult of Personality". . . the congressional record shows that he has never really led anything more momentus than a Boy Scout fertilizer sale... Palin has, at least, run a city AND a state...say what you will about the locales involved, but being a big fish in a small pond still counts as "experience".

* Tax Breaks will NOT bring our economy back to any kind of health.... only the stoppage of reckless spending will do that, and his budget shows that the spending will INCREASE during his term.

* Obama's ties to characters we will politely call "sketchy" is not an indictment of Obama the man, but it is a sure signal that he has and will continue to coddle those whose personal objectives may well be to damage our nation in the long run...

* While electing the first black President may be a worthwhile goal in order to show the world that America can and perhaps has gotten past the racial divides that we've lived under for over 300 years, it still bears noting that voting simply BECAUSE he's black is the absolute WRONG reason to vote, just as voting for Hillary just because she's a woman is the wrong reason.... look at the candidate's voting record and general background BEFORE casting that ballot. If you still think he's ready, then by all means, please do vote for him.

......... and, to be fair...........

* McCain has admitted cheating on his wife and was heard stating that he wanted a certain posting because it would be "easier to get laid there"...

* McCain was, before his radical makeover into the "Maverick" of the Repub party, known for being a staunch pork-barrel projects man, and also had intimate ties to the Keating 5 scandal (for those of you under the age of 30).

* McCain, while having good plans for America, seems to suffer from the same communication retardation that G-Dub has, and we can expect many public gaffes.

- - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - -

So, in conclusion, while I may have a predisposition to lean towards McCain for purely philosophical reasons, I still have reservations about him.... and while electing our first black President may be very appealing to my ego and a statement to the world about our national ability to be "equal" and egalitarian, I have serious concerns about where Obama may lead us, as well.

NEITHER CANDIDATE has done anything of merit to really sway my opinion firmly in their direction, and this saddens me, since the Republicans have an opportunity to change National opinion on what our party represents, and the Democrats have an opportunity to break free from the policies that have polarized America for the last forty years and bring about GENUINE "change"...

More than anything, I'd like to see us ALL get past partisan politics and "heal" our nation, economically, spiritually and morally. . . . Unfortunately, all I see coming out of tomorrow's election is more of the same failed practices that have plagued us for as long as I can remember.

So there we have it; this election has come down to a vote for the Lesser Of Two Evils, and I think anyone who can't see that is truly blinded by partisan politics and they'll drink whatever Kool-Aid their candidate offers them.

So for you undecided voters out there, all god ol' By~Tor asks, is that you don't go in and pull a straight-ticket ballot. . . give some genuine effort to the duty you have in voting this year, because it really matters more than you may care to even know. Think of their voting records, their backgrounds, and their personal platforms (NOT the party platforms). Then, and only then, can you make an informed decision, and your vote mean anything at all...

And, regardless who may win this election, I pray they receive positive spiritual guidance to lead our nation through the tough times ahead, and that dignity be restored to our Presidential position, and to our nation.

God Bless America and God Bless Us All....

(and... for the record...... 100 Million write-in votes for "By~Tor: King of the Ice and Snow" would be the absolute best thing you could do.... because only I can offer the real change and character beyond reproach that we all crave.... you've all had opportunity to see my platform [available on my profile page], and I would never betray your trust....).

THIS is your LAST CHANCE, people. . . . let's get it right this time...........


- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

For me, its been 22, 30, 38. / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 8:33 AM - Monday November 03, 2008 Back To Top

So far, at what age have you felt the most powerful?

- Asked by Female, 46-55

Into me or Not / Sex & Intimacy / 1:54 PM - Wednesday October 29, 2008 Back To Top

how do i know if hes into me or not anymore

- Asked by Female, 26-28

Am I Pregnant? / Sex & Intimacy / 10:53 AM - Tuesday October 28, 2008 Back To Top

I had sex on a Friday night and the guy used a condom. The condom then got stuck inside of me and I didn't even know it. On Sunday while I was going pee the condom came out. What does this mean? Should I go the doctors?? Am I pregnant? What should I do?

- Asked by A Thinker, Female, 26-28

untitled / Dating / 4:09 PM - Wednesday October 15, 2008 Back To Top

my girlfriend's b/f told her that he wants to get married after he finishes college problably in the next 2,3,5 years who knows.they been together for 2 yrs but she doesnt know what to do. can anyone help.thanks

- Asked by A Thinker, Female, 26-28, Therapist

what is your score? / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 9:49 AM - Thursday October 09, 2008 Back To Top

Wolfspirit and bytor got me thinking. How long have you been visiting this site? What is your overall score. I have been on since December 2003, and my score isn't even 5000....lmao. What are your stats?

Update: October 09, 2008.
Thanks for responding. It's hard to rate a question like this. So in my infinite, I decided to only give one star. I was to dolphace, for the simple reason she makes me giggle with pretty much every post, and these days I really need that. Thanks :)

- Asked by lalalagirl, A Creative, Female, 36-45, Student

The 100K Club Gets a New "Lifer".... / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 8:45 PM - Wednesday October 08, 2008 Back To Top

If it hasn't already been one, we should all get together and congratulate Wolfie on hitting 100K and earning her lifetime subscription!!!!

I look at the 100K Club. . . . and I couldn't think of any better company.....

Guess we're stuck with each other, huh??

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

too tight / Sex & Intimacy / 8:36 PM - Wednesday October 08, 2008 Back To Top

Ever since I Have ben having sex guys have always been happy that my vagina was tight. But my boyfriend now complains that it is too tight. He says because he is too big, but i have had men bigger than him (i dont tell him that) Also I don't get real wet all the time. We just had sex about a hour ago and when he came he said it hurt because i was too tight. I know his dick isnt gonna get any smaller, is there anything that i can do?

- Asked by A Hip Hop Girl, Female, 26-28, Student

Go Ahead and Bitch........ (Economy) / Sex & Intimacy / 4:07 PM - Wednesday October 08, 2008 Back To Top

Bitch all you want, America. . . . . bitch about the republicans, the democrats, the banks, the oil companies, the unions, the rich, the poor. . . . .

The truth, is that we ALL crested this mess, by buying what we honestly couldn't afford to buy; We didn't "save", we spent.

You know it. . . . I know it . . . and the politicians know it. Just no one wants to say it and alienate all those who live in denial and lose those votes, because there's a HELL of alot of folks in denial.

So, WHY then, are we even surprised that our country, and even the world, is now in this economic crisis??? How can we look around and say we never saw this coming?

Bush had no more to do with this than you and I did. Neither did Clinton. All the Presidents ever do is try to communicate what they THINK the American people feel.... the Congress are the ones who pass the bills, laden with pork and earmarks that would make Rocky Dennis look normal (Google it, if ya' don't get that one...).

And WHO voted these dopes in?..... You and I did.

The last 8 years, the Repubs have been as bad as the Dems ever were, so I'm not making a partisan blanket statement here. I admit, my party has let me down, and I blame them, and me for championing them into office in the first place....

But for Dems to now say that its all Bush's fault, or all Republicans' fault, is ludicrous... this crisis has been looming ever since the late '80's, and as I remember it, the House and/or Senate has NOT been totaly Republican for twenty years.

So go ahead and accept some of the blame, people. It's YOUR fault, just as it is MY fault... the only thing Bush did wrong, was not start kicking these peoples' asses when he should have, and demanding more oversight over the "free" markets.

Suddenly, freedom doesn't seem so free, does it?

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

stealing and hurting friends / Friendship / 7:43 AM - Friday October 03, 2008 Back To Top

Im some one who has been this girl friend for 3 years.
Everytime i go to the shops she steals
even tho she got a lil bit of money.
anywayz i have been ganged up on and shes steals and does more shit then i do for example she lies ,drugs,smokes,drinks and now shes pregant.
shes has a problem about stealing from shops
can i tell the cops?.
even if later on?
shes turning everyone against me say im lieing and shit soo im pretty upset

- Asked by A Thinker, Female, 22-25

Meeting Aologists!! / Friendship / 12:49 PM - Wednesday September 24, 2008 Back To Top

So it was cool when I took my son to NYC, to see Steve67 again. In addition I got to meet the awesome FBomb! We hoisted a few shots at the Patriot in honor of Bytor (we missed ya bro) and slammed a slider there as well.

It is really cool that I have met several people from here that are so great! I think I am up to around 12 or so now. How many have you met from here?

Have a great day!

- Asked by kanaka, A Life of the Party, Male, 46-55, Dallas, Executive

Racial Divide, Still Goin' Strong..... / Race, Religion & Politics / 6:50 AM - Tuesday September 23, 2008 Back To Top

Good Morning, from Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania.....

An interesting news blurb this morning, and one which goes against my own previously mentioned posting about how America has finally gotten past race, in deciding Presidential or other political candidates:

"New poll shows that over 40% of Americans (including over 33% of liberals and "independents") have at least a 'partially negative view' of blacks..."


While part of me finds this astounding that we are so narrow-minded, another part of me can understand the point, as given. . . . after all, the rise of "Thug Life" as a very visible part of American culture in the black communities has, in my opinion, helped reverse alot of gains that blacks had made in America since the '60's...

I have to wonder, is the "partially negative view" they speak of based on a perception of blacks as thugs and criminals, or is it based on something deeper and, perhaps, even more scary, in a sociological tense???

For ME, at least, I can honestly say I have no ill will toward "blacks" per se, but that I DO have a hatred for the whole thug life and "street culture", because I find it denigrating to those who practice it, as well as socialy unacceptable in a larger context, as it perpetuates and celebrates negative viewpoints on women, money, work ethic and general social grace....

What are YOUR thoughts on this phenomenon, and on the poll, itself?

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

giving head / Sex & Intimacy / 1:31 PM - Monday September 22, 2008 Back To Top

how can i give a mind blowing blow job to my bf i dnt fink im to god at it plz help

- Asked by A Life of the Party, Female, 22-25, Student

"Proper" Pizza... / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 11:56 AM - Monday September 22, 2008 Back To Top

So many kinds of pizza out there and, as I sit here enjoying my fave, I have to wonder which is really the most "proper", as far as REAL Italians go....

* The New York variety, thin, greasey as hell, and huge, with loads of garlic on it... (My OWN Fave)..

* The Chicago "Deep Dish" variety; thick, deep pan crust and loads of toppings...

* The St. Louis-style... cut into squares with provel cheese rather than mozzarella...

* Other styles that I may no tknow about....

Come on, folks... weigh in on your fave and WHY IT should be considered the "Proper" Pizza Pie.....

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

By~Tor on You Tube.... / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 1:42 PM - Sunday September 21, 2008 Back To Top

Yeah, you read right.... I'm now on YouTube, as I begin my campaign to displace Howard Stern as the King Of All Media.... there's a video on my profile that my bass player and I did last night, as we jammed out to Live's "Operation Spirit", and it's not all THAT shabby, if I do say so myself... you are welcome to view it on my profile, but first, you'll want to scroll all the way down and disable the auto-play on my Music Player so it doesn't drown out the video.... Cheers!

Oh yeah - - -and GOOOO COWBOYS!!!!!!

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

::sings::: movin on up! / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 7:28 AM - Friday September 19, 2008 Back To Top

Hey I just noticed this morning, I'm a level 2 now!!! YAY! I wonder how long I have been a level 2.

- Asked by amongyong, A Cool Mom, Female, 29-35, Retired

The "F" Word / Sex & Intimacy / 6:35 PM - Thursday September 18, 2008 Back To Top


- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

What IS "Love"?....... / Dating / 1:19 PM - Thursday September 18, 2008 Back To Top

I've got a friend (No. . . . it's NOT "Stacy".... >:-S ) whose galpal/fiance' broke it off with him due to his inability to earn enough money during this rough time our economy is going through.

I keep telling him, as he tries in vain to reconcile with her, that she is prefacing her "love" for him on what he can do FOR her, not what he IS TO her...

Now. . . . . . . . . far be it from li'l ol' ME to expound upon the virtues of love or the lack thereof, but..........

My fiscal crisis is well known on here, and longsuffering ol' By~Tor has his work cut out for him... that said, my gal has never, even once, mentioned the idea of leaving me... and since our move, she hasn't been able to find decent paying work either, which only doubles our woes and makes it increasingly likely that something bad will be happening within a very short amount of time. . . . but again, not ven ONCE have I entertained the notion of going it alone, even if it might be easier to fend for myself than to try to provide for two....

In my book, Love sticks together throughout whatEVER bullshit life throws at ya', and even if we were reduced to living in cardboard boxes under the freeway, we'd still have each other and we'd still love each other.

So, maybe I'm an old fashioned softie or overly sentimental, but in the long run, I think this is what my God would want me to be like, as opposed to the self-serving and leeching type who then leaves their host once they've fattened up at the trough....

I wouldn't leave her i she got fat, developed cancer, or never worked another day in her life. . . . . or most any other reason, for that matter.... I love her because of who she is to me, not what she brings to the table...

So, who the f*&k ARE these people who decide to allow or disallow their love based on financial merit????

(...thinks of Elaine Benes' "spongeworthy" rant....)

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

It's All Too Serious..... or is it? / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 11:32 AM - Wednesday September 17, 2008 Back To Top

I have to wonder about human nature....

Earlier, I posted a nice, long and well-thought out post on the economic crisis. And of course, there just HAD to be one anon to make a snide comment, and then when I called them for the snide comment, they accused me of "taking the site too seriously" and stuff like that.... same old B.S. we've dealt with here for ever since I can remember...

Why is it that, anytime someone takes a stance against either a personal attack or a dim-witted attack on their post, they have to automatically be considered as "taking something to oseriously"?... That makes no sense to me... If I said something, I'm fully prepared to either debate it, or stand behind it and if I'm wrong, I'll always be the first one to apologize...

None of that means I take something too seriously... and if the respondent had ever looked at my extensive history of posts and responses on here over the years, they'd see I'm actually one of the more light-hearted and sarcastic bastards ON here... that's CERTAINLY not taking something too seriously....

So, where do they get off on this, and do ya' think they go about their offline lives in the same cowardly and accusatory manner with which they live their online lives?

If so, perhaps it is THEY who take it too seriously, eh?

And by the way. . . . . . . "boooooooger!!!" (With honors to Dr. Johnny Fever/WKRP)

Update: September 17, 2008.
Wow.... and to think, the very same day I received the BS taunts, I see Roseytalks has returned to grac us with her "wisdom".... How did I already know it, I wonder?!?!?!?!?

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

"...IT'S THE ECONOMY, STUPID".... / Race, Religion & Politics / 9:43 AM - Wednesday September 17, 2008 Back To Top

GOOOOD Morning, everyone..... Pittsburgh, PA Checking in...

Thought I'd go off a bit on the economy this fine day, in the hope of shedding some light on the current situation we in America, and to a smaller degree the rest of the world, are facing:

Basically, there are two economic systems in plac throughout the world. One is Capitalism (or, the pursuit of money) which the "free" world practices, and the other is Communism (or, the pursuit of egalitarianism), which the left-leaning world practices. These are diametrically opposed philosophies, and neither the twain shall meet....

In America, the recent Wall Stret and banking troubles can be directly traced to only one root cause.... "greed"... - - - The greed o the consumer, to have more than we can realistically afford, and the greed of the banks who loan them money, knowing damned good & well they cannot repay it. It is a long-term, leveraged buyout, at best, as the banks knew all along that someday, Rufus T. Escibibbie and wife Latisha, neither of whom work full time jobs with adequate income, would default on their loans, making repossession an all-too-real possibility.

Now, throw that example into a blender and multiply it exponentially, and we have the meltdown we face today, in a nutshell.

Now, in COMMUNISM, all applicants are considered "equal", and pay according to their means, rather than a fixed price. The government makes up the rest of the balance owed, for market-priced goods, services and commodities.

This too is flawed, as the people (Proletariat) feel they can also have more than they can afford, and the government backers have to devise ever-increasing taxation structures to continue to grow the expanding public programs. It, too, leads to an eventual day when payment is due....

So what do w do, to fix this mess????? The answer is simple.....


This is the ONLY way to be completely self-sufficient and succeed in either econmic structure. The ONLY one. You cannot spend your way to solvency nor subsidize your way there....

What the US Government is doing, in effect, is rewarding the bankers for having been greedy in the past, and even though it does provide a momentary band-aid to the system, it bodes ill for the long-term aspects off western economies, in that future monoliths will think they too can get a bailout/handout, should they gain enough market share as to become "indispensible" to the ruling government of the moment.

The whold damned thing reeks of a massive lack of discipline by ALL parties from the government on down to you & me...... WE are the ones who got ourselves into this mess, and WE are the ones who will be paying the bill to get back out of it, whether we wanna' admit it or not.

Personally, I think Free-Market capitalism is the way to go, but it, like all other forms of freedom and democracy, REQUIRES that its practitioners practice fiscal responsibility, in order for it to succeed. We simply cannot give ourself lavish gifts o houses and Escalades that we can't realistically pay for.... nor can we run up the Nordstrom's card and then expect them to just write it off, time and time again.

"People of the Earth, can ya' hear me" came the voice through the sky on that magical night......

Yes, the Children of the Sun are calling, and saying we will be swallowed up WHOLE and our bones spat out, should we refuse to heed the warnings our financial institutions are sending us.

Face it.... do you REEEEEEEEALLY "deserve" that BMW 725i, or did you really NEED it, or was it more of a lustful desire and a present to yourself for some perceived great accomplishment you think you made???

Did ya' REEEEEEALLY need a 3,500 square foot house, or was it simply what you or the wife "wanted"? - - - Sure, you can JUSTIFY it any number of ways, just like the TV pundits can find ways to justify any position they wanna' take.... how do you think we have both Republicans AND Democrats thinking they're "right", at the same time?>..... the answer, is that "TRUTH IS RELATIVE"....

That's right; the ARE BOTH RIGHT. . . . except for one thing.....

The Dems ideal of egalitarianism is more akin to Communist principles than the Repubs ideals of Capitalism - - now, I'm not saying either way is wrong, but BOTH ways STILL require us, as individuals, companies and consumers, to be fiscally responsible.

There IS no perfect world, Virginia, and Santa Claus long left the hemisphere to settle down in Cambodia... the economy requires our cooperation and self-sacriice, in order for it to regain health and vitality..... are YOU gonna' step up to the plate and pitch in, or are ya' gonna' continue your wasteful and selfish ways, without a care to how the outcomes affect everyeone else???

The time is NOW, for us to just stop & THINK about the damage we have caused, each and every one of us, in destroying our economy. We are ALL guilty, and we are all diseased with the bug of "ButWeDeserveIt-itis".. ...

....but the real truth, is that the chickens have come home to roost, and THIS is what we really dserved, all along.....



Update: September 17, 2008.
I love how the "anon" was the one to write the surly and irresponsible remark.... at least have the balls to show yourself, if you're going to slam a post that I took time & effort to create, you worthless prick...

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer
Comment from bytor, Recommendation Leader:
About the 2008 Economic Crisis in America

Answers at Al-Anon? / Diet & Health / 2:24 PM - Tuesday September 16, 2008 Back To Top

I'm serioulsy considering attending an Al-Anon meeting. (did I say/spell that right)?
My dad was an alcoholic and I want to understand better how that affects the choices I've made in the past and how I behave now.

Have you experienced Al-Anon?
Was it helpful?

- Asked by gettingstronger, A Cool Mom, Female, 46-55, Teaching

Poetry / Sex & Intimacy / 12:08 PM - Monday September 15, 2008 Back To Top

Nice flamebait. You came to the right place for that.

I don't share such sentiments, but I wonder if other men do.

AO men, does this poem express how you feel?

Update: September 17, 2008.
I assume this was just this guy's way of getting some attention. We see it a lot on here. Flamebait is boring though. I wonder how many men agree with this guy on some level but didn't respond. I hope not many.

- Asked by strongnrelaxed, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 46-55, New York, Executive

For the guys / Sex & Intimacy / 9:00 AM - Monday September 15, 2008 Back To Top

When you sleep with a new woman for the first time (not the first date) what does it mean to you emotionally, if anything.

Does it improve the chances of the relationship growing, becoming closer, ruin it, or does it depend? If it depends, what does it depend on?

(this is for the single guy, unattached, or the already committed, if he became single in the future)

- Asked by lasuz, A Thinker, Female, Who Cares?, Los Angeles, Retired

What are you 12? / Sex & Intimacy / 12:17 PM - Friday September 12, 2008 Back To Top

Why do people post private conversations up for all of us to read? Also, why in the world would ANYONE spend THAT much energy going back and forth over such a stupid issue? Leave your garbage in your yard, we don't need it.

- Asked by jackstraw, A Life of the Party, Male, 36-45, Who Cares?

She sounds like a bitter old cow anyway / Diet & Health / 7:43 AM - Friday September 12, 2008 Back To Top

Do you get a bit freaked if you go to answer the question of a member who you,ve never had any dealings with and find you are banned?

- Asked by tiddler, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 56-65, Lawyer

"9/11" - - An Official By~Tor Update.... / Sex & Intimacy / 9:51 PM - Wednesday September 10, 2008 Back To Top

Well no, I wasn't actually there on that date... actually, I was in St. Louis, but I did have the misfortune of watching the whole thing unfold live, on TV... and I still remember walking outside, along with virtually ALL my neighbors, and the only sights and sounds were F-16's in the sky... I remember the fear... I remember the feeling of Patriotism.... I remember the uncertainty...

In years following, once I'd moved to New York, I went to Ground Zero every year on 9/11, and then would go and have a few beers with the firefighters afterwards, at the Patriot Saloon, nearby... I remember the freaks at the ceremony... I remember seeing the Sanitation workers narrowly avoid starting fistfights with the "9/11 truth" nutjobs... I remember seeing the cops, nervously wondering whether this was the year some idiot would try to make a name for themselves by sabotaging the ceremonies... I remember the firemen, half-smashed on whiskey shots, remembering their fallen comrades...

Now, in Pittsburgh, only about an hour from Shanksville, PA, where Flight 93 went down, I remember the heroism of those onboard in trying to stop the airliner from reaching its destination, the White House.... who knows what could have happened that day, if it weren't for those brave Americans who gave their lives in defense of their country, even though they didn't really have time to think about what they were doing...

Yeah - - - - I remember. . . . . . . I remember it all too damned well. . .. and that so many have chosen to drive those memories down within them absolutely disgusts me, and their attitude is exactly the reason why it will wind up happening again, someday... we will not be vigilant... we will not stop them before they strike again.....

But, will the next time be enough to wake us from our national slumber?... Will the next time be enough to spur us into action to make sure the Land of the Free remains just that, "free"?....

This day, I ask you all to make yourselves remember... remember where YOU and your loved ones were, and how very different life might be for you today, had you been there at that moment..... I know of thousands of people whose lives are inextricably intertwined with the date 9/11, and even as we move on with our lives and the memories fade a bit, the danger remains... as should our Patriotic Spirit and we should use this date to renew our Patriotism and spur a call to action against terror and anti-Americanism, everywhere.

It's a (not so) Brave New World, my friends, and here in the bottom of the 9th, us Yankees are behind in the count and three runs down... we need a Grand Slam to win it........ guess who's up to bat?........ Yup - - - - You are.....

God Bless You All.

Update: September 10, 2008.

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer
Comment from bytor, Recommendation Leader:
9/11 Morality Update

Dealing with jerks on A/O / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 12:28 PM - Friday September 05, 2008 Back To Top

How do you deal with jerks here on A/O? If a respondent sends you a message and he disagrees with your point of view and you respond back only to get another message of the same nature, what do you usually do? I see no need to "beat a dead horse", in other words it's time to put an end to the discussion. I told him that but he continued with yet another message. I finally sent him a farewell message telling him there was no need for any further discussion and banned him from sending me any more messages.

- Asked by Female, 29-35

Why? / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 12:06 PM - Friday September 05, 2008 Back To Top

Why are there more women than men on Earth?

- Asked by A Sweet Sarah, Female, Who Cares?

AO / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 8:31 AM - Thursday September 04, 2008 Back To Top

Have you eve blocked an AO user becuase his or her answers were really shallow, one after the other?

- Asked by sailormoon, A Creative, Female, 36-45, Other Profession

my situation / Sex & Intimacy / 8:31 AM - Thursday September 04, 2008 Back To Top

i have a little situation. i am 31 years old and i have a wonderful man. he does a lot for me and my son and he's like the perfect man. we've been through a lot and he is very loving and compassionate. he pays the rent and he helps with the bill and he's like a father figure to my son.

but i am cheating on him with a guy at work. i've been having an affair for as long as i've been with him. ever since i've been with my man, i've been with the other guy at work, which is almost a year. i have sex with the guy at work and give him head too at work, then i go home to my man and my son. basically, the guy at work is my booty call. the guy at work (let's call him B) has hit me once, he's cursed me out plenty of times, we argue a lot and he stresses me out all the time but i love him. the sex is good. mind you, he has a girl of 13 years and 2 sons by her. but we love each other. we can't get enough of each other. i know he's bad news..i know he's no good. and i'm not the 1st girl that he's had sex with at our job. he's had sex with numerous girls at the job before i came along. but he's never loved them like he loves me. we're in love. we both our s/o's at home, but we love each other.

he doesn't give me money or take me anywhere. we only go to hotels once in a while, but we mostly have sex at the job or in each other's cars. he's brought me lunch only a few times, but it's ok. i just love him. maybe more than my boyfriend.

what do you think? be honest.

Update: September 04, 2008.
He does love me. He tells me all the time. He gets jealous when I talk to other guys. Everytime we argue, we make up. That's love right there. He does love me.

Update: September 04, 2008.
I don't know who gave that William45 guy "special powers" to believe that this story is made up, but I have better things to do than to make up a story like this. This story is real.

- Asked by Female, 29-35

untitled / Sex & Intimacy / 12:57 PM - Wednesday September 03, 2008 Back To Top

Have you ever played with a Ouija Board before? If so, what were your experiences and how would you say the Board moves? Do you think it’s all in the mind or something else (paranormal, perhaps)? I played once with my friends, our fingers were barely touching it and the pointer was flying all over the place. I stopped playing when it spelled out “I’m going to kill you.” But before that, my friend asked it a question about her grandmother passing away and it spelled the nickname that only my friend knew that people in her family had called her, and at that time only my boyfriend and my fingers were on the pointer and not hers so even if she wanted to spell it out herself and play some kind of trick on us, she couldn’t. these types of things things always fascinated me.

Update: September 03, 2008.
I agree with you guys, after I played with that thing, I tossed it right out! One of my best friends had one buried under a huge rock in her backyard for awhile and when she went to go find it, it disappeared. Tell me that isn’t creepy! Don’t need any gateways to hell in my home. I’ll pass!

- Asked by phillychickie311, A Cool Mom, Female, 29-35, Philadelphia, Administrative

How do I heal? / Sex & Intimacy / 12:52 PM - Wednesday September 03, 2008 Back To Top

So I recently confronted my husband of 3 months (yes, only months) about the huge amounts of porn I found on the computer as well as him not wanting to be sexually intimate with me.

He deleted everything, apologized, and assured me that there's nobody and nothing in his life other than me.
Of course...this was about a two hour ordeal...I'm just giving a synopsis.

But now what?
What do I do?
How do I begin to heal?

I feel like nothing. I feel like I have nothing to offer compared to the girls on the computer. I feel unattrative, unwanted, and like nothing.

We were able to talk through it and I do forgive him and I love him...I love all of him.
But what do I do to try to feel normal again? How do I go about being able to look at him in the eyes again? How can I even begin to feel comfortable in my own skin again?

He has been the one person in my life that I've been able to be comfortable in myself. I never had to pretend to be something I'm not with him. I was always confident in my personality and my physicality. But now...I feel like I'm nothing.

What do I do to begin the healing process?
What can I do to feel like myself again?
What can I do to make us feel like "US" again?

- Asked by mmb4736, A Career Woman, Female, 29-35, Hospitality

about tv / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 12:32 AM - Wednesday September 03, 2008 Back To Top

do you watch the show cheaters?

- Asked by prettysoul21, A Thinker, Female, 22-25

No Drinking / Dating / 5:15 PM - Tuesday September 02, 2008 Back To Top

Would you be happy and content with a gilfriend who was only okay with you drinking( alcohol) with her or only at home( you do not live together) but not with your buddies after work or anywhere else enless she is there with you???? How would you feel and do you think that is way to much to ask for?

- Asked by Female, 36-45

untitled / Diet & Health / 12:24 PM - Tuesday September 02, 2008 Back To Top

I'm a sophmore in college.

Last year, I was roommates with a complete drunken bitch. I had to stay up till dawn most nights to make sure she didnt choke on her own vomit and die.

There's a whole long list of bad things she did around/to me when she was drunk, and it has seriously put me off alcohol.

I come from a family of tea-totallers, so I was never very keen on trying the stuff, but now I'm afraid to be around it at all.

This means that I don't have many friends, because I don't go to parties (they all have alcohol) and about 90% of the people in this college are the drunk-all-weekend party set.

I'm very alone and isolated. It's really starting to take a toll on me. I'm depressed, stressed out, desperate, but I've got no one to talk to.

Do you think that if I just gave in and started drinking like everybody else that people would like me?

I'd proabably hate myself for giving in, but that seems to matter less and less as time goes on.....

- Asked by Female, 26-28

your fantasy / Sex & Intimacy / 2:49 PM - Monday September 01, 2008 Back To Top

Who or what do you usually think about when you masturbate?

- Asked by Male, 36-45

untitled / Dating / 2:39 PM - Monday September 01, 2008 Back To Top

What do you do when you know you love someone but you're not quite willing to give up certain things or accept certain things? Like, my boyfriend lives about 50miles from here, has his own house that's paid off. His life is based there, always has been for more than half of his life. When we discuss plans of our future, he mentions me moving in with him because it makes more sense since he has a house that's paid for. What he doesn't realize, & I've tried to explain, is that my life is here. 50miles is 50miles. It's not a significant distance but the differences between where we each live are significant.

I don't want to uproot my lifestyle. Finding work in his area would be more difficult & I love what I do at my job. Not to mention, his place would never feel like mine. I know about the territorial feeling, I've been there before. I feel like it would be much better for us to find a place together in between where we each live now so it wouldn't be such a huge change for either person. I have pitched this idea to him once & he didn't like it much. He didn't see the point in renting property since you have nothing to show for it & renting would be our only option right now since he is unable to sell this house til his grandmother passes.

Update: September 01, 2008.
Hey, trekking it between both places & appreciating both places, as some mentioned, would be grand but considering he's 40 & I'm 33, we're looking at a family & we can't exactly do the whole commuting thing with that in the equation. We're not trying for a family now before all this is resolved, but it is something we both want. How does this work?

- Asked by Female, 36-45

Help / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 1:57 PM - Monday September 01, 2008 Back To Top

I feel very sad today. Being alone, a single parent and am now losing my home and car due to financial stresses of this economy.

I'm feeling like a loser. I have worked all my life and have provided for my children. I am working two jobs and am exhausted all the time.

Please send me some ideas and encouragment.

Update: September 02, 2008.
Thank you for the great responses. Your thoughts and caring really do help.

- Asked by Female, 46-55

WHY???? / Dating / 1:26 PM - Monday September 01, 2008 Back To Top

Why do i keep being the rebound girl? I keep getting guys who just want sex and thats it. What the hell is wrong with me? Any advice!!!!!!!!

- Asked by A Thinker, Female, 29-35

Wind Turbines / Sex & Intimacy / 7:02 PM - Saturday August 30, 2008 Back To Top

Does anyone think this same theory of wind generation could be used to blow llafsroh off this site? Or is his theory acutally in place and being used to blow smoke out his @$$....

- Asked by blindjay, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 36-45, Dallas, Lawyer

Older Members of Answerology / Sex & Intimacy / 7:04 PM - Thursday August 28, 2008 Back To Top

For all you older people who contribute your advice on A/O. How do you feel regarding questions from younger members who are 20 maybe 30 years younger than you? Let's say you're happily married and have been for a long time. Things have changed since you lasted dated. Younger members need advice about their boyfriends/girlfriends, sexual matters, etc. Some of you older (don't misunderstand my term "older", I mean older as in more experienced) people may be retired and are no longer dealing with problems with bosses and co-workers. Do you feel because of your experience that you can offer the younger set better advice? Dating for you is history, you no longer have to worry about being stood up, nervousness on the first date, etc. How do you feel about matters of the younger generation that no longer pertain to you?

Update: August 28, 2008.
Everyone of you gave really good responses to my question. Wish I could give each of you a star but you know the rules, only 3 stars for each question. I can't single out which is the best response so I'm going to treat all of you equally and give out a +2. Thanks to all of you.

- Asked by Female, Who Cares?

Well yeah, I DID it. . . but. . . . . . . . . . . / Sex & Intimacy / 7:31 AM - Thursday August 28, 2008 Back To Top

What sexual escapade in your past are you most embarassed to admit, even to yourself????

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

Please Prevent from Popping a Page / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 12:10 PM - Thursday August 14, 2008 Back To Top

FYI: Recently four different people have attempted to Pop the long Email concerning the Russian situation. Please post your comments separately and reference that post.

Otherwise the Pop and Original Post will take up the entire first page again and push other people answers to second page before they are even seen--esp if it came through 3-4 times at same time!

That will start an influx of complaints from the people that had their questions pushed away. So to be fair, please be courteous and careful in popping very long Posts--paraphrase or reference.

:-)Friendly service announcement

- Asked by thottienc, A Career Woman, Female, 36-45, Who Cares?

The Patron Saint of Answerology..... / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 9:30 AM - Thursday August 14, 2008 Back To Top

So, if the A*O Secret Police came up to you at gunpoint and asked you to name who you thought was the "Patron Saint of A*O", who would it be and why?

Who best personifies the Spirit of Answerology???

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

untitled / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 7:40 AM - Thursday August 14, 2008 Back To Top

As to the update:

I disagree. I get along with just about everybody. I am very opinionated and have no problem making those opinions known. It's all in the presentation.


Update: August 14, 2008.
Bytor: I could not have said it better myself.

Update: August 14, 2008.
umm cowperson, I have always come up on the side of banning in virtually every post I have ever made or responded to here. Do your homework before you try to play with the grown-ups.

- Asked by southjerseygirl, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Administrative

456 / Dating / 5:59 AM - Thursday August 14, 2008 Back To Top

do u ever feel like people just HAVE to have drama in their lives? Like they are only happy when they are unhappy?

- Asked by lovelee4, A Thinker, Female, 26-28, Internet / New Media

so guys,what do u think?? / Dating / 8:19 AM - Tuesday August 12, 2008 Back To Top

do guys age teen guys go for girls that does extreme sports that guys themselves do not do?and somehow that girl is somehow known to be a guy in her own school,she is super open minded and do you guys go for these kind of girls??or??

- Asked by Female, 22-25

Me Love You Long Time / Sex & Intimacy / 7:40 PM - Monday August 11, 2008 Back To Top

How many Chinese love children do you think the foreign Olympians will father during these games? Do you think the Chinese government encourages fraternization between the west and their punici?

- Asked by llafsroh, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 46-55, Boston, Science / Engineering

Horny as hell and no time to buy condoms. / Sex & Intimacy / 1:46 PM - Monday August 11, 2008 Back To Top

I'm going to have some wild sex with this chick in 3 hours. I am
busy now so I don't have time to buy condoms. Could I just wrap
my dick in plastic wrap? Will that work?

- Asked by Male, 29-35
Comment from bytor, Recommendation Leader:
What a dumbass!!!!!!

Horny as hell and no time to buy condoms. / Sex & Intimacy / 1:46 PM - Monday August 11, 2008 Back To Top

I'm going to have some wild sex with this chick in 3 hours. I am
busy now so I don't have time to buy condoms. Could I just wrap
my dick in plastic wrap? Will that work?

- Asked by Male, 29-35
Comment from bytor, Recommendation Leader:
What a dumbass!!!!!!

Braless worker / Sex & Intimacy / 1:37 PM - Monday August 11, 2008 Back To Top

Two weeks ago, I hired a girl I know to hang some wallpaper in my house. I have only gotten to know her in the past few months, so we are not exactly buddy-buddy yet.
When she came over, she was wearing some cut-off jeans (not Daisy Dukes), and a baggy, sleeveless buttoned shirt. It looked like a man's shirt and she cut the sleeves off. The arm holes were quite large, and she was not wearing a bra! Although her boobs were not that large, when she bent over or turned at a certain angle, you could see one or both of her boobs, sometimes all of it, even her nipples.
My boyfriend was at the house too, and I'm sure he got an eyeball full more than once.
I did not say anything at all, but I sure wanted to.
Don't you think she was dressed inappropriately? I don't think she knew my BF was going to be there, but still I think she should have at least worn a bra. What do you think?

- Asked by Female, 46-55

BBW / Diet & Health / 10:53 AM - Monday August 11, 2008 Back To Top

What makes a woman a BBW?

- Asked by pokerking818, A Creative, Male, 36-45, Other Profession

back to reality / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 10:45 AM - Monday August 11, 2008 Back To Top

Do you let the things on the internet (ex: this site) affect your daily life?

If someone sends you a response you might not like, do you let it bother you once you've logged off?

me? I have way too much going on (although it doesn't seem like it, lol) to live my life through AO.

Update: August 11, 2008.
am I the only one lost as far as cowtrain today?

- Asked by busyb704, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Other Profession

untitled / Sex & Intimacy / 9:43 AM - Monday August 11, 2008 Back To Top

is this guy interested,if he texts me everyday and answers my texts and asks how i am? so confused.

- Asked by willowthewisp, A Thinker, Female, 36-45

untitled / Sex & Intimacy / 9:33 AM - Monday August 11, 2008 Back To Top

hi everyone,
I have this very lovely guy.The other day after making love, we decided to take a shower together, as we were washing each other, i grabbed his dick and said "Who would have imagined something this small would give me so much pleasure" He went off!!! He became so upset and he later told me that i have bruised his ego...Well, the truth is that i didnt mean that his dick was small...i just meant it has so much power...Anyway!
How do i clear this?

- Asked by 123123, A Creative, Female, 22-25

Does practice makes perfect / Sex & Intimacy / 10:01 AM - Wednesday August 06, 2008 Back To Top

Hi. I'm asking both sides this question. Do you feel that practicing with a toy will help you perform better with your partner or future sexual partners?

- Asked by Male, 29-35

Star Friendships / Friendship / 3:28 PM - Tuesday August 05, 2008 Back To Top

Ok, now I know ratings are not all that big of a deal on here (well... hrm... to most, anyway), but I just wanted to get your opinions on this:

Do you think that high ratings (namely stars, I guess) given by 'friends' are actually earned, or do you consider that 'cheating'?

In my case, regardless if I answer a friend's post or an Anonymous post, I would still give the same type of answer (because I think my friends deserve it, too), and also, I put in effort to earn their friendship, so I still feel that mine are earned.

What do you think about AO in general? =-)

- Asked by cutypy5840, A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Medical / Dental

What's the Password, Hon? / Married Life / 1:27 PM - Tuesday August 05, 2008 Back To Top


Honestly now, (it's just us you can fess up)...

Assuming you have your own online account that you do all kinds of different stuff on, whatever you'd like...
If your s/o casually asked you to say your password so that he/she could log in to your account and do something (that you both want to do together), would you give it, or find an excuse not to use 'that' account?

(This does not have to mean that you are doing anything wrong... it could simply be a issue of having your own space.)

Remember, if you give it and change your password later, your s/o could figure that out if he/she does try to sign in later. Hmmm... =-)

- Asked by cutypy5840, A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Medical / Dental

lol / Sex & Intimacy / 10:20 AM - Monday August 04, 2008 Back To Top

Text: ex is better in bed than my fwb, i mean, bigger!

- Asked by Female, 36-45

Unemployed / Career / 9:15 AM - Monday August 04, 2008 Back To Top

When you file for unemployment sometimes if you have not been working long enough or haven't made enough they wont grant it to you.

I think thats dumb. If you had a job to begin with either part time or full its bc you needed money.IF your filing for unemployment its bc you cant find a job and you need money right?

- Asked by carma45, A Married Girl, Female, 29-35, Chicago, Other Profession

Love Reigns O'er Me..but not everyone thinks alike / Sex & Intimacy / 7:14 PM - Sunday August 03, 2008 Back To Top

Alright, so a good, good buddy of mine (George) down in Dallas was ust last night dumped, by his fiance' of 4 years... a moneygrubbing strumpet I will refer to only as "Patricia, the Treacherous Road-Slag"....

George has had a particularly tough time in the past 6 months with finding decent work (he previously worked for Countrywide, before their historic meltdown), and the stress on the homelife was apparently too much for her... her "love" for him was prefaced by his ability to provide for her (her words), and even now that he HAS finally found a decent job with potential for great earning power, she decided to "try a separation", although she "cannot guarantee that she won't date or sleep with others" during this 90-day period...

My buddy is all about trying to show her that he's worthy of her, but my point to him was, that SHE is the one rejecting him and his love, over something as trivial and fleeting as money... She is quite willing to be on his arm when he has money, but fast to bolt for the exits, when he's broke.... or, in other words. . . . she's a "whore".....

What makes this so sad, is that he's NOT seeing how unhealthy it is for him to try and try to "show her" how worthy he is. . . no matter what he does, she has already made up her mind, and whatever he tries will never be "good enough" for her to give her unfettered love to him again...

I spent over 2 HOURS on the phone with him, going over all my own past failures and the futility involved in trying to win back something that doesn't want to be there with you in the first place... and I feel like it was all for naught, as I know he'll still go right back to trying whatever he thinks might work, to win back this gal who never really did support him emotionally to begin with, but merely stuck around long enough to bleed him dry, and then run out on the entire engagement, allowing money to overrule love, in the process.

The way I see it, if you TRULY love someone, then even if you wind up one day living in a freakin' cardboard box under the freeway, you still have each others' love... and that is riches beyond whatever money could buy....

BUT, if one alows money to be the defining characteristic of the love-relationship, then it wasn't "love" in the first place, because Love doesn't ask what you can do for it.... it asks what it can do for you.....

Yeah, yeah, I know; love don't buy food or pay rent, but then again, rent & food don't fulfill the soul; only the body....

So, what's the best way to get this guy to SEE just how twisted her priorities are, so that he can cut his losses and get on with moving on in his own life, and NOT have to go through the whole pathetic process of trying and failing to win her back?!?!?!

And yes, this is a serious question from me..... write this date down, as it shan't happen often!!!...LOL!!!

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

Chicago / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 4:30 PM - Thursday July 31, 2008 Back To Top

Im going to Chicago for the 1st time Friday is there anywhere I should go or any tips for me would be great!

- Asked by shirin123, A Career Woman, Female, 22-25, Other Profession

I'VE ACCOMPLISHED AND NOW I'M OUT OF HERE! / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 12:36 PM - Thursday July 31, 2008 Back To Top

Some of you say that once we are on this site there is NO way out...uhm, what if I told you that once I hit the 10,000 mark on the ''All Time Superstar List'' that I am out of here for good...Would you believe me? btw...I'm very very close to hitting that mark...LOL

Update: July 31, 2008.
Well...we shall see then...LOL

- Asked by dolphace, A Hippie Chick, Female, 46-55

POT CALLING THE PAN BLACK / Sex & Intimacy / 5:40 PM - Tuesday July 29, 2008 Back To Top


WHat's that say abt you ???????

Update: July 29, 2008.
Miss TW asks me: My name, and my posts, do NOT give anyone the right to make lewd PM's to me. if they're that immature, they should go back to myspace. Kind of lkike you. To which I respond: I didn't say anything lewd to you. Merely asked your motive and intent with the name you picked to represent and project your personal character and image. An honest q. What's imature abt that ???? It was civil and non-judgemental. I said nothing abt my opinion. I only asked your motive. Which you did not ans as yet.

- Asked by nuttyprofessor, A Guy Critical, Male, 66 or older, Transportation

Gotta' go gay now / Sex & Intimacy / 5:24 PM - Tuesday July 29, 2008 Back To Top

So, yesterday I posted asking who wanted to bang my ass. you should have SEEN the responses I got! It's really amazing, how even when someone posts an obviously "gag" oriented post, the sheer number of serious, and seriously fucked up, responses that comes in.

I'm convinced that most men are truly too immature for the poontang I could offer them, as well as the fame and money. I should just reconcile myself to going lesbo, and be done with you idiots forever.


- Asked by twatwaffle, A Hippie Chick, Female, 29-35, New York, Celebrity

AP Newswire: More Iran Troubles.... / Sex & Intimacy / 9:28 AM - Saturday July 26, 2008 Back To Top

TEHRAN, Iran - President Mahmoud Ahmadinejad said Saturday that Iran now possesses 6,000 centrifuges, a significant increase in the number of uranium-enriching machines in its nuclear program, the semi-official Fars news agency reported.

The new figure is double the 3,000 centrifuges Iran had previously said it was operating in its uranium enrichment plant in Natanz.

"Islamic Iran today possesses 6,000 centrifuges," Ahmadinejad told university professors in the northeastern city of Mashhad.

In April, Ahmadinejad said Iran had begun installing 6,000 centrifuges at Natanz. His reported comments Saturday provided the first public assertion that Iran has reached that goal.

The announcement is another act of defiance in the face of demands by the United States and other world powers for Iran to halt its enrichment work, which Washington and its allies fear Iran is intent on using to develop weapons.

Ahmadinejad said those nations — the U.S., Britain, France, Russia, China and Germany — have tempered their demands, asking Iran not to freeze enrichment but rather not to expand its current program beyond 6,000 centrifuges, state-run radio reported.

"Today, they have consented that the existing 5,000 or 6,000 centrifuges not be increased and that operation of this number of centrifuges is not a problem," Ahmadinejad said.

In its negotiation with Iran, the five permanent members of the U.N. Security Council plus Germany have offered a package of technological, economic and political incentives in return for Iran's cooperation.

A report by the U.N.'s nuclear monitoring agency delivered to the Security Council in May said Iran had 3,500 centrifuges, although a senior U.N. official said at the time that Iran's goal of 6,000 machines running by the summer was "pretty much plausible."

Uranium can be used as nuclear reactor fuel or as the core for atomic warheads, depending on the degree of enrichment. Iran says it is interested in enrichment only for its nuclear power program.

The workhorse of Iran's enrichment program is the P-1 centrifuge, which is run in cascades of 164 machines. But Iranian officials confirmed in February that they had started using the IR-2 centrifuge that can churn out enriched uranium at more than double the rate.

A total of 3,000 centrifuges is the commonly accepted figure for a nuclear enrichment program that surpasses the experimental stage and can be used as a platform for a full industrial-scale program that could churn out enough material for dozens of nuclear weapons.

Iran says it plans to move toward large-scale uranium enrichment that ultimately will involve 54,000 centrifuges.

Now, if THAT don't scare the shit outta' ya', you have brass balls!!!

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

Your Saturday Morning By~Tor Update / Sex & Intimacy / 8:40 AM - Saturday July 26, 2008 Back To Top

So, today should be a pretty good day in Pittsburgh..... at about 10:30 or so, I'm heading out to audition for the lead vocalist spot in a band, because after a five year hiatus, I feel its high time to bring my stage talents back out into the open, even if I AM a little bit larger than I used to be... I miss singing in smoky bars on Saturday nights, drinking cheap beer and entertaining the masses..... so hopefully, that'll go well enough...

After that, it's off to Sonic for a Hickory-Jalepeno Burger and a Cherry Limeade!!!!!!

And after THAT, then the drive home, to where I will be on the balcony, enjoying the night sky and a few Iron City's.....

Not a bad Saturday plan, eh?

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

ANSWEROLOGY GET-TOGETHER - 1ST WEEKEND IN OCTOBER! / Sex & Intimacy / 4:26 PM - Sunday July 13, 2008 Back To Top

Alright people; enough is enough....

All who are interested.....

1st weekend in October . . . the 1st Annual Allegheny Area A*O Meetup and Campout!!!!!

To be held at Ohiopyle State Park, just SE of Pittsburgh, PA.

You Bring:

* Your airfare to and from Pittsburgh (book now for cheap rates)

* Sleeping bag

* Personal effects and 3 days' clothing (or not!!!)

* Money enough to cover pitching in on beer, wine, food and "occasionals"....

* A good attitude!

This will be during the time the leaves are starting to change; the days warm, and the nights crisp.... campfires and good friends from A*O will warm the cockles of your heart, as the alcohol warms your bodies!!!

If interested in attending or for more info, Personal Message me on here!!!!----Let's quit talkin' about it and just DO it!!!!!

Update: July 13, 2008.
If you want to see the parks' website: (Remove spaces) http://www.dcnr.state.p hiopyle.aspx

Update: July 13, 2008.

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

Afraid / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 3:50 PM - Sunday July 13, 2008 Back To Top

Early this morning someone told me that many people on here were afraid of me on here. Does anyone else feel that way, and what have I done to make you feel that way?

Update: July 13, 2008.
The only reason I posted this question is I thought maybe I had hurt someones feels or said something that intimidated someone and it is NEVER my intention to do that....unless you are doing it to me and then...LOOK OUT!!!!!!!! I really appreciate all of the kind words I got from you all. The female that sent this to me is someone I have not seen on here before, so if my 4'11" frame is intimidating, I am sorry....but, don't expect me to change....I am ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Update: July 13, 2008.
This is what was sent to me early this m orning...I left out the name on purpose. people say your a minister. Why are so many people afraid of you here?

- Asked by barbb, An Alternative Girl, Female, Who Cares?, Other Profession

Regional Food oddities... / Sex & Intimacy / 9:03 AM - Sunday June 29, 2008 Back To Top

Here in Pittsburgh, they like to put french fries on every damned thing, from the insides of sandwiches to salads, and some places you can actually pick from a selection of about twenty different ways to have your fries....

I just thought it odd, that a regional food oddity would be the overt love of french fries....

I know Milwaukee loves its sausages, and Chicago, its hot dogs.. and Florida loves its "Cuban" sandwiches.....

What are the regional or local food oddities, where YOU live?????

(And no, "Vegemite" doesn't count, regardless of how rancid it is....)

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

Amazing / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 8:31 AM - Sunday June 29, 2008 Back To Top

WOW I never seen so many answers!

Has anyone else here seen so many?

- Asked by loveangel, A Career Woman, Female, 46-55, Philadelphia, Who Cares?

untitled / Dating / 8:31 AM - Sunday June 29, 2008 Back To Top

Okay, here first question on here, please be kind. :)
While I can't consider it a relationship, I have been corresponding with someone that I graduated from High School with...20 years ago. When we started chatting, he was single, but had a girlfriend, and the relationship was not working out anyway. Now he has a wife and a 4 month old daughter.
After the past year, I have grown to know his baby, and his other son. And I've grown to know him. All we do is talk on the phone, and I/M, I just feel a real attraction to this man, I feel guilty about the time I take out of his day, though. Yes, I've been stupit, and fallen in love.

- Asked by A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Other Profession

Ode to Carlin... / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 5:40 AM - Tuesday June 24, 2008 Back To Top

Thank you, George Carlin, for all that you gave us.

"The Day After Tomorow is the Third Day of the Rest of Your Life".....

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

Drinking, as a Commentary on something larger.... / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 1:55 PM - Monday June 16, 2008 Back To Top

Old Irish Saying:

"You never know a man until you have a drink with 'im, so never trust a man who refuses to have a pint with ya'..."

Agree or Disagree?....

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

untitled / Dating / 9:15 AM - Monday June 09, 2008 Back To Top

Ladies, Gents, Lend me your ears and mature responses.

Tell me the common traits of a Leo male. I know all men are different but i want to know the basics of the Leo male. Things that every Leo ( male) is known for.

Please you are going to tell me to not believe in astrology PLEASE DO NOT RESPOND.

- Asked by Female, 29-35

Girlfriends emails reveal emotional affair details / Sex & Intimacy / 6:35 PM - Thursday May 15, 2008 Back To Top

Around the beginning of the year, when we were going through some tough times, my girlfriend of 4 years had an emotional affair with another guy. She did come clean about it to a great extent, and she did end it so that she could work on saving our relationship. I'll never know with 100% certainty, but I tend to strongly believe her and others who have told me that nothing physical happened between them.

She has done a great deal to restore my trust in her, but the other day it suffered a setback. She left my house and had forgotten to log out of her webmail. It was sitting right there in front of me. So, of course I read all the email exchanges between her and this other guy. I was just curious to see how accurate my gut feelings had been, and how truthful she had been with me.

What I found was that she had been about 65% truthful with me, apparently didn't do anything physical with the guy, and had indeed cut things off completely him. In the end, she did a lot of the important things right and was more honest with me than not. I am trying to not let that be overshadowed.

But, there were numerous other, smaller things which left me hurt and furious. I learned of situations in which she outright lied to me and deceived me. (Like one day when she told me she had a meeting, it turns out she was really headed to lunch with him.) They are not big enough things to leave her over now (5 months later) but I would have dropped her in an instant if I had known about them at the time.

Now I'm just really, really angry. I want to talk with my girl about these things because I think she'd make them right and we could continue moving on. But I can't really say "hey I read your email the other day. can we talk about it?"

So what do I do? Carry this anger around and not communicate it to her? Or just tell her I read her email? Or should I leave her?

Update: May 15, 2008.
Did I mention that a lot of the things I'm mad about happened *after* she had admitted to seeing the guy and pledged to devote herself to our relationship? As in, it did eventually end, but went on for 3-4 weeks after she told me it was done.

- Asked by A Rebel, Male, 29-35, Washington, DC, Self-Employed

the mods have a sense of humor too! / Friendship / 6:29 PM - Thursday May 15, 2008 Back To Top

all of my questions keep landing in the "sex and intimacy" category as 'r' rated. LMAO. someone is having a little fun!

- Asked by mspragmatic, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 66 or older, Who Cares?

Morehouse valedictorian stands out -- he's white / Sex & Intimacy / 3:51 PM - Thursday May 15, 2008 Back To Top

Morehouse valedictorian stands out -- he's white

Joshua Packwood says college provided him a perspective he wouldn't have gotten elsewhere

Associated Press

From his first day at Morehouse College — the country's only institution of higher learning dedicated to the education of black men — Joshua Packwood has been a standout.

His popularity got him elected dorm president as a freshman. His looks and physique made him a fashion-show favorite. His intellect made him a Rhodes Scholar finalist. His work ethic landed him a job at the prestigious investment banking firm Goldman Sachs in New York City.

But it's his skin that has made all of this an anomaly. This month, Packwood is set to take the stage and address his classmates as the first white valedictorian in Morehouse's 141-year history.

The 22-year-old from Kansas City, Mo., will graduate Sunday with a perfect 4.0 GPA and a degree in economics.
He could have gone elsewhere, to a school like Columbia, Stanford or Yale, but his four-year journey through Morehouse has taught him a few things that they could not, and he makes it clear that he has no regrets.

"I've been forced to see the world in a different perspective, that I don't think I could've gotten anywhere else," he said.

"None of the Ivies, no matter how large their enrollment is, no matter how many Nobel laureates they have on their faculty ... none of them could've provided me with the perspective I have now."

Impressive credentials
When Packwood applied to Morehouse, he had frequent conversations with George Gray, an alumnus who was a recruiter at the school. Gray was impressed by Packwood's credentials and spent months trying to talk the sought-after senior into choosing Morehouse over other elite schools.

"He had outstanding numbers," said Gray, now director of admissions at historically black Philander Smith College in Little Rock, Ark. "He was the kind of kid we were looking for to be a presidential scholar."

After several conversations, Packwood began to suspect that Gray had no idea that he was white. His suspicions were confirmed when one of Gray's calls caught Packwood in the middle of track practice.

"Don't let the white kids walk you down," Gray quipped.
"Wait," Packwood re-sponded. "You know I'm white, right?"
Silence. Uneasy laughter. Confirmation.

"The challenge was to get the best student that we could, and Josh definitely fit that," Gray said.

And for Packwood, knowing that he had been picked on his merits, and not as a token white recruit, made the difference.

"That said I could come here and, ironically, be accepted for who I am," Packwood said. "I thought I made the right decision then, and I know I made the right decision now."

It was not as if this was the first time Packwood experienced life in the minority. He was among the few white students in his class at Grandview Senior High School in suburban Kansas City, Mo. He has mixed-race siblings and his mother was married to an African-American. Packwood's experiences growing up have helped him navigate black culture while remaining comfortable with his own complexion.

Packwood's mere presence on campus wouldn't make history at this school founded by a black minister and cabinetmaker two years after the end of the Civil War. Howard Zehr, Morehouse's first white student, graduated in 1966, and there have been dozens of other whites on campus since.

And so Packwood turned down Columbia University, postponing his dream of living in New York City. He ignored some in his family who warned that he might not have the same opportunities he would have as a Columbia graduate, and headed South.

Packwood still laughs when he remembers his first day on campus, wandering the grounds in pajama pants and getting stares from black classmates who wondered if the freshman wasn't a wayward student from Georgia Tech, Georgia State or perhaps Emory University.

After convincing the photographer to take his student ID, Packwood headed to his room in Brazeal Hall.

Shortly after, his roommate arrived with his mother. Four years later, Packwood still can't get over the irony: After years of being one of a few blacks at majority-white schools in Dallas, Phillip Smithey had come to Morehouse to get the "black experience."

Instead, he was sharing a room with the only white guy in his class.

An honest voice
When he came to Morehouse, Packwood was sweating a bit under his swagger, which is why he was reluctant to run for president of his dorm at the end of his freshman year. The novelty was wearing off, but Packwood didn't want his new friends to think he was the white guy trying to "act black" or take over their school.

Classes proved to be a challenge socially and academically when the discussions shifted to issues of race. Once, Packwood was asked to sit on a panel about interracial relationships. Though he had dated black girls since high school, he spent the first hour of the panel getting warmed up, feeling out the crowd and trying to couch his thoughts.

"It was kind of heated, and there were very strong views on both sides," he said. "But eventually I realized they put me on the panel not to just pander to the crowd, but to voice my opinion."

Packwood said such exchanges taught him a lesson.
"Sometimes I kind of wanted to hold back," he acknowledged. "A lot of the professors and students have been like, 'No, don't hold back. We want your perspective here. If we're not going to get it from you, it's going to be very difficult for us to get it somewhere else.' "

Both students and faculty, he said, seemed to appreciate his honesty.
"The few times I have held back and tried to pick my words wisely or even go against what I truly believe, that's when I've caught the most flak," he said.

Senior 'is Morehouse'
With each semester, Packwood's grades remained high, his confidence grew and his résumé became more impressive. Summers were spent on Wall Street at Morgan Stanley and Goldman Sachs, he studied abroad in London and Costa Rica, and his studies have taken him to China and Switzerland.

As Morehouse embraced him, Packwood became an unlikely ambassador for the school.

"Josh Packwood is Morehouse," the college's president, Robert Franklin, said in his inauguration speech in February. "He happens to be Euro-American and brings much appreciated diversity to our campus."

Wendell Marsh, a junior English and French major who is black, said talking to Packwood as a high school senior helped make up his mind to come to Morehouse.

"Right now we live in a time where people say the black institution is obsolete, that you can get a better education at a majority institution, " Marsh said. "To see a white guy who had declined Harvard for Morehouse, I figured it was good enough for me."

Packwood raised "the bar for everyone," said Stanton Fears, a senior economics major.
"The best man got it, that's how I look at it," Fears said. "It's about equality here, too. If he wants to come here and make a name for himself, he should be allowed the same types of things we're allowed."

Being surrounded by black men for his undergraduate career has taught him more about diversity, Packwood said.

"I've been here for four years and yet, I cannot give you the definition of black," he said. "I cannot tell you what a black man is. I really learned to look much deeper. It takes a lot of effort to know people."

- Asked by jpm51, A Thinker, Female, 56-65, Baltimore, Administrative

I Bitch, therefore I Am!.......... / Sex & Intimacy / 7:34 PM - Monday May 12, 2008 Back To Top

So, again, it's almost 8pm and she's still stuck in the ofice...last week raise at al this year..... and some dunce couldn't figure out management notes while they watched her do them for 2 weeks in a row, and so she has to stay afterhours to train them on it...

Yeah, it's overtime, but that's not the issue, when ou've got a 90-minute subway ride and another 15 minute bus ride home, and then you're expected to be back there at 830am tomorrow!!!

These cocksuckers couldn't see the value in giving her even one penny raise for the year, but they have no qualms in having her stay hours after work to train some doofus on something that only she knows... so, apparently, she's pretty valuable, after all.....

Corporate America sucks dick!!!!--I will be sooooo happy friday night, as she leaves that goddamned place for the last time and never has to take their shit again.....

Sorry-- I must've got some sand in my vagina or something..... but it just pisses me off..... the fucking nerve.....

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

untitled / Dating / 12:34 AM - Monday May 12, 2008 Back To Top

if a guy u are friends with sends u sms messages, and wants to meet for a drink, could there be a chance he wants to be more than "just friends" what r some signs to look for?

- Asked by Female, 26-28

like?normal? / Dating / 2:37 PM - Thursday May 01, 2008 Back To Top

This question is for all you really outgoing/hyper/ social people out do you know if a guy is interested in you or simply being himself?

Update: May 01, 2008.
Guys I meant no offense! I just figured someone would know their own personality better...ofcourse everyone's input is always welcome!

- Asked by A Trendsetter, Female, 26-28, Other Profession

AMERICAN IDOL IS RIGGED!!!!!! / Sex & Intimacy / 9:14 AM - Wednesday April 30, 2008 Back To Top

So last night, they did it..... they inadvertently let out how rigged American Idol is....

As Paula Abdul read her comments to the one filthy-braid-haired wussy, she told how the first song, she liked because it shocased the "lower end of his register", but on the second song, she just didn't see him "fighting to be in the top 4"......

Good critique, except for one minor issue.....


So, the scuttlebutt, is that their critiques are all scripted in advance, and the judges have been pawns all along, in a game where the network already knows who's going to win, from week to week....... America's vote really DOESN'T count, after ALL!!!!!

Glad I've never been a fan. . . . . I'd be feelin' pretty fuckin' stooopid, right about now, if I'd have been one of those who calls in, week after week.....


- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

YLAM!!!!! / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 7:42 AM - Wednesday April 30, 2008 Back To Top

Yeah. . . . . . that's right, bitches. . . . today's m' birthday!!!

The Big "4-1..."

In lieu of Happy Birthday wishes, I AM accepting offerings of Guinness....

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

Jerk rating? / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 11:14 AM - Tuesday April 22, 2008 Back To Top

Ok, I have been an answerology member for a couple years now and I just received a jerk rating. I am not familiar with this type of rating and obviously it's negative. What really gets me is there was no reason for it and of course I try to get as many star awards as I can and try to up my scores...what do I do? the "rater" had no reason to give me this rating and I am very disappointed...please fill me in.

- Asked by Female, 36-45

untitled / Dating / 3:33 PM - Thursday April 17, 2008 Back To Top

Why don't some people understnad that relationships need to be reciprocal. Both parties need to be equally into each other, not one more than the other. We are all people, no one belongs on a pedestal. Once you realize that I things become a bit easier lol.....

- Asked by kman12, A Rebel, Male, 29-35, Teaching

Fact or Fiction / Sex & Intimacy / 11:51 AM - Friday April 11, 2008 Back To Top

Do you believe in spirits or ghosts doing things to show/tell you they have been there?

Example: Turning lights on or moving things around.

A classmate of mine went on and on about all the things that have happened to her to show her that someone is with her. She said a figurine of a saint (can't remember which one) floated through the air from one side of the room to another. Her study group said they saw it happen.

Update: April 11, 2008.
I am a believer. I had a few experiences growing up but they could have been explained away. As an adult I've had at least one experience that simple couldn't have been anything but a sprit. I've also heard that they like to leave change behind to let you know they came to visit and one day I went to get in bed and pulled back the blanket to see a few dollars worth of change spread out on my side of the bed. I took it as they came to visit me and not my husband.

- Asked by trucksnastygirl1, A Hip Hop Girl, Female, 29-35, Detroit, Medical / Dental

Way Too Much Information / Sex & Intimacy / 2:40 PM - Tuesday April 08, 2008 Back To Top

Ok Guys (and Gurls) of AO:

Has HD (high definition) TV has improved your porno collection?

Would you pay more $$$ if you could get a title on blue-ray?

Would adding subtitles in a porno flick be distracting? (not sure how important this is since the majority of you are probably "going blind")

- Asked by wetwired, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 29-35, Vancouver, Who Cares?

YLAM / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 2:06 PM - Tuesday April 08, 2008 Back To Top

Overall Rating: 140000

It'll never happen again!--- Yaaaay, look at meeee!!!!!

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

Revealed And Down To The Knees / Diet & Health / 6:45 PM - Monday April 07, 2008 Back To Top

I am conducting a double poll here:

1. Ladies: Back in the day ladies wore less revealing outfits leaving it to the imagination. Now ladies are showing it all or wearing very revealing outfits. Do you think a man would respect ladies less because they leave nothing to the imagination?

2. Gentlemen: Back in the day men wore their pants all the way up. Now men are wearing their pants down to their knees. Why do men do this? And is this the type of attire you would wear to take a lady out on a date?

- Asked by Female, 46-55

Love is in the air. / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 6:34 PM - Monday April 07, 2008 Back To Top

I haven't been here for awhile. Has anything changed since Hearst took over or are we all still one big "happy" family?

- Asked by mallowcup, A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Self-Employed

Hypothetically Speaking... / Friendship / 6:29 PM - Monday April 07, 2008 Back To Top

If you knew someone you didn't like was being attacked, but they were being WRONGLY attacked, would you defend them, even though you didn't like them, or would you just let the chips fall where they may?....

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

Ban anyone!? / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 6:26 PM - Monday April 07, 2008 Back To Top

Have you ever banned anyone!? i just banned jeannebrady, this is my first ban ever! Even the anomies get by but not this one.. got to my nerves!

- Asked by troubledsoul, A Rebel, Male, 36-45, New York, Who Cares?

Matchology / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 6:21 PM - Monday April 07, 2008 Back To Top

Is it normal for girls to get hit on a lot on here? Last time I checked, it wasn't a dating service.

- Asked by ironcross, A Trendsetter, Female, 29-35, New York, Administrative

Purpose.... / Sex & Intimacy / 6:16 PM - Monday April 07, 2008 Back To Top

Do you ever have days/weeks/months that you feel totally & completely alone? My life feels so pointless some days. Work, home, work, home – that’s it.

Yes, I’m trying to mix it up & main priority get in shape by joining a health club. Still, will this be my answer? I have so many times that I feel as though I live so unnoticed. I don’t know where to find meaning to my life. Yes, I have two great teenagers. I volunteer & I really enjoy it, but there is still a stupid void. I know that finding love in my life isn’t the answer. That should only be icing on the cake. (sigh)

- Asked by firechick, A Cool Mom, Female, 36-45, Seattle, Celebrity

First time for everything / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 5:48 PM - Monday April 07, 2008 Back To Top

I just logged on, checked my messages and found that I had a new private message from someone who literally begged me to give them a star on a post I had already given them a 2...


Since when were 2s so bad?

- Asked by ashton05, An Engaged Girl, Female, 29-35, Teaching

Underwear survey / Sex & Intimacy / 5:26 PM - Monday April 07, 2008 Back To Top

I am taking a survey of how many men like to wear women's panties and also how many women enjoy wearing men's undershorts?

- Asked by A Creative, Male, 56-65, Philadelphia, Who Cares?

ever wish ill on someone / Diet & Health / 3:31 PM - Monday April 07, 2008 Back To Top

Are you a jealous person?

- Asked by honeywillow, A Life of the Party, Female, 46-55, Edmonton, Who Cares?

untitled / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 11:30 AM - Friday April 04, 2008 Back To Top

Sounds like Detroit.

- Asked by baalam666, A Player, Male, 29-35, Veterinary

untitled / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 11:30 AM - Friday April 04, 2008 Back To Top

Sounds like Detroit.

- Asked by baalam666, A Player, Male, 29-35, Veterinary

"Martin Luther's Racial Harmony Band" / Race, Religion & Politics / 7:42 AM - Friday April 04, 2008 Back To Top

I write this original piece, on the 40th Anniversary of what is one of the (forgive the pun) "blackest" days in our nation's history, when we killed a man of Peace and of Vision... Martin Luther King.

Certainly, I don't have to explain who he was or what he stood for, but I offer this retrospective, in the form of song, and to the tune of the Beatles' "Sergeant Pepper's Lonely Hearts Club Band"......

Yeah, that's right people... I went there.... would you expect any less from me?

- - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - -

Well it was 40 years ago, today...
That Martin Luther told the world to pray...
He's been goin' in & out of style....
But he knew how to raise a child...

So, let me introduce to you.....
The man who stood up to his fears.......

Martin Luther's Racial Harmony Band.........

Now, I don't really wanna' piss ya' off....
But this racism has got to stop.....
Our differences are rather small....
And there's plenty love for one and all.....

The Power of Mankind is Great....
Once we get past all this haaaaaate.....

Martin Luther's Racial Harmony Band.......... ... Exxxxxxxxx........

Now, What would you do, if I segregated you....
(Would you be angry that you're all alone?)
Lend me your ears, and let reality appear......
(Why should we have a bathroom of our own?)

Oh, we'll get by, with a little love, from our friends....

Ooh, we'll get high, and human rights, we'll defend...

Oooh, we're gonna' try, to get some love, from you friends....

(Do you want another handout?)
We just want equalty.....
(Could it be any handout?)
We just want equality....

Oh, we'll get by, with a little love, from our friends....

Ooh, we'll get high, and human rights, we'll defend...

Oooh, we're gonna' try, to get some love, from you friends....

We'll get past it with a little help from our.... last, with a little help from our frieeeeeeeeeends!

- - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - -

Whether you are black, white, brown, yellow, red, or some hodgepodge of "colors" within your racial makeup, try something today... reach out to someone of another race, who may not understand you or what you're about... use today, as a day to help heal the rifts between us, and to spread love amongst your fellow man. That's all MLK was asking for, in the first place.


- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

pop'd / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 3:46 AM - Friday April 04, 2008 Back To Top

I just popped my own question and the pop'd question shows me as anonymous.

I didn't do that. Why did it come up like that?

- Asked by jezmebaby, A Hippie Chick, Female, 46-55, Los Angeles, Self-Employed

Thank you Thank you...*blows kisses* LMAO / Sex & Intimacy / 8:01 PM - Thursday April 03, 2008 Back To Top

I am on 391 people's favorite cool is that? YES I'm showing off...LMAO

What about you? How many people have you on their list?


Update: April 03, 2008.
BTW...I don't know alot of them/LOL...nor did I knew they exsisted BUT oh well....neener-neener/ LMAO...Muahz

Update: April 03, 2008.
Go to your profile and click on ''who's list am I on'' and it will tell you...Don't be hatin now..*flips hair* LMAO

- Asked by dolphace, A Hippie Chick, Female, 46-55

Just sayin / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 7:35 PM - Thursday April 03, 2008 Back To Top

Courage is the fear of being thought a coward.

- Asked by themamu, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, Who Cares?

The Worm Turns, Gracefully... / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 7:23 PM - Thursday April 03, 2008 Back To Top

If you think the world is coming down on you... it's not....

If you think love has left you stranded. . . it hasn't. . . . .

If you are waiting for the other shoe to fall. . . .it won't...

If you doubt my words, then you will reap only sorrow.... if you believe my words, your reward is coming... so open your eyes and welcome it into your life... your turn is NOW!.....

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

untitled / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 5:11 PM - Thursday April 03, 2008 Back To Top

Hi everyone i am melvin bockwinkle and i want to make friend here for to enjoy party time

- Asked by melvinbockwinkle, A Rebel, Male, 56-65, Alternative Medicine

The Sound Of One Brain Cracking / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 3:58 PM - Thursday April 03, 2008 Back To Top

Who do you think God sounds like to her?

James Earl Jones or George Burns?

- Asked by llafsroh, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 46-55, Boston, Science / Engineering

>> L O L << / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 3:54 PM - Thursday April 03, 2008 Back To Top

Can you say "Of course"...?

Go on, you know you want to... lol

- Asked by bluegenel, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, Who Cares?, Technical

did I reaaly hear god / Race, Religion & Politics / 3:39 PM - Thursday April 03, 2008 Back To Top

I need help from bible readers on this one. I love my MAN but he is not being the person he was when I feel in love with him .. and I mean to a degree that disrespectful behavior has been displayed. I go to church he doesnt ..... I used to think I would here god say to me "help him". But I dont hear that anymore ,I dont know what is what now. Did I really hear it before . Things R so bad now I wonder if I heard god or if god changed his mind too:) I'm beginning to think I'm mental

- Asked by Female, 36-45

why some get all the men / Dating / 3:18 PM - Thursday April 03, 2008 Back To Top

what is the single differentiating factor between women who have lots of luck with men and romantic relationships and the women who just can't get a man? be straight: is it really looks? no low ratings for any answer.

- Asked by laprincipessa, A Trendsetter, Female, 22-25, Pittsburgh, Other Profession

You KNOW You're a TRUE Texan, when...... / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 2:31 PM - Thursday April 03, 2008 Back To Top

You KNOW You're a TRUE Texan, when......

Fish-sticks without barbeque sauce just ain't worth the hassle of cookin'....

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

>> perfect << / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 2:16 PM - Thursday April 03, 2008 Back To Top

Do you always land on your feet...?

- Asked by bluegenel, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, Who Cares?, Technical

untitled / Sex & Intimacy / 2:07 PM - Thursday April 03, 2008 Back To Top

Can a guy really tell if its LOOSE and how does that feel??

- Asked by Female, 36-45

tell me / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 1:48 PM - Thursday April 03, 2008 Back To Top

What's the nicest thing an Answerologist (one you've never met IRL) done for you?

Update: April 03, 2008.
There were so many great responses. Thank you. My story is that a wonderful person here made a donation to a fundraiser I'm doing, and I didn't even ask him to. :-) Have a great day, everyone!

- Asked by msviolin57, A Creative, Female, 46-55, Portland, Teaching

sleep / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 6:58 AM - Thursday April 03, 2008 Back To Top

Aren't you supposed to be....?

Well, what are you supposed to be doing?

- Asked by anothergentleman, A Father Figure, Male, 29-35, Los Angeles, Technical

untitled / Dating / 2:12 AM - Thursday April 03, 2008 Back To Top

Why are most men less responsible than most women? Everything gets pushed back to the last possible minute because they were playing online, involved with sports, watching TV, etc.

My fiance is driving me crazy! He asked me to move into his house, which is cluttered, unorganized & dirty. There is seriously no room for me to move my stuff in there until he takes care of this. I've told him I can't & won't move in until this mess is taken care of & yet it still sits there. He spends more time on the computer all hours of the night, or watching TV, or calling into radio shows to win concert/show tickets.

I feel like he doesn't want me to move in that badly, else he'd be taking care of business. :( And I don't want to nag him.

- Asked by Female, 36-45

Say again, please?.... / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 5:16 PM - Wednesday April 02, 2008 Back To Top

So, on this site, I see all the questions & responses in English, even when people say they're from places like Bangalore, Paris & Madrid.

A question then, if you are on here from a European, Asian or South Smerican country, do the questions & answers show up in your own language, or is it in English, no matter where you are at?

Update: April 02, 2008.
Hmmm.... no responses from Bangalore or Buenos Aires, yet..............

Update: April 02, 2008.
I think Steve hit it closest to the head of the nail... it would have to be a computer program which automatically translated... not humans, of course...

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

Sexual feeling... / Sex & Intimacy / 3:56 PM - Wednesday April 02, 2008 Back To Top

Ok, I know this is a personal question but it's something I'm curious about. How many couples can climax together. I mean really together, at the same time!!!! I've found that my S/O and I climax together quite often!! So I'm wondering are we unique or are we just as normal as everyone else..and please be honest.

- Asked by luv2rite22, A Thinker, Female, 29-35, Home Maker

untitled / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 3:38 PM - Wednesday April 02, 2008 Back To Top

If Bytor showed up at your door would you let him in??? LOL

- Asked by monkeymomx1, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 46-55, Administrative

SOLVING Inner-City Blight, Through EDUCATION / Race, Religion & Politics / 8:34 AM - Wednesday April 02, 2008 Back To Top

So, now we're told that in the Nation's top 17 cities, less than one-half of high-schoolers are graduating, and in the minority arena, the number drops to less than one-third.... that's only 33%.... or LESS!!....

Combine this with an increasingly older population who will need more and more benefits as they age, and a world economy that is increasingly high-tech, and I don't know about you, but I can sure see the writing on the wall. . . . . America is on the downturn...

This phenomenon is ONLY being witnessed in America, where liberal programs like "No Child Left Behind" are being proven to be failures, as desegregation was, before it... European minority students are excelling, in comparison to our system.

What are we to do, to right the shiop before we wind up a second, or eben third-class nation? HOW do we get the minority dropout rates to slow down and convince more o our underclasses to stay IN school so that they'll have a beter chance to rise out of poverty and contribute to society?

I'm interested in your answers, of course, but I also propose this solution:

INSTEAD OF forcibly busing minority students into predominantly white neighborhoods to go to school, and artificially forcing "integration" into white society (which only results in tired students spending inordinate amounts of time on buses and being less able to pay attention throughout the course of the day), why don't we find a way to better fund the inner-city schools, so that they can attract a higher caliber of teacher?

It makes all the sense in the world....

If I were a black or latino parent in an inner-city area, I wouldn't WANT my kid having to get up at 5am, just to catch a bus to the OTHER side of town... I'd want MY kid to go to our local school, only a couple blocks away, and get a good education there... also fostering a sense of community in the local area, where the kid sees, on a daily basis, what's going on in his own neighborhood...

Rather than encourage our kids to get OUT of the "ghetto", why don't we start at the schools level, to raise kids who can and will turn into adilts who will make changes IN that community and help bring it OUT of "ghetto" status...

I don't think that minorities necessarily do not possess "Community Spirit", but over the years, we've allowed their neighborhoods to become war zones, where teachers, businesses and money are SCARED to invest into them... this creates a vicious circle of poverty and social unrest. And then, when there's nothing left to loot in their own area, they migrate outwards, to commit crimes... creating, in essence, a larger "ghetto" area, as whites flee to the outer suburbs...

I'm not proposing anything new here, really... but it makes sense... if the problem starts in the center, then the solutions should start there as well, and migrate outward to encompass the entire areas blighted by teen crime and gang activity. GIVE THE KIDS SOMETHING OTHER THAN POVERTY TO SEE, AND THEY WILL CHOOSE THE BETTER WAY!!!

Agree or disagree, and why?

ALSO, if you have another solution, I'd love to hea it.....

Update: April 03, 2008.
My GOD, this thread is providing some of the most well-thought out answers I've ever seen on this board!!! - - - I wish I had about thirty more stars to give you guys, and I thank you for all the spirited and intelligent responses... even the ones I didn't necessarily agree with!!! :-D

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer
Comment from bytor, Recommendation Leader:
Commenting on the State of Our School System

grads / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 1:14 PM - Tuesday April 01, 2008 Back To Top

This is pretty sad

WASHINGTON (April 1) - Seventeen of the nation's 50 largest cities had high school graduation rates lower than 50 percent, with the lowest graduation rates reported in Detroit, Indianapolis and Cleveland, according to a report released Tuesday.

- Asked by bigcurt, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 56-65, Pittsburgh, Self-Employed

untitled / Race, Religion & Politics / 1:11 PM - Tuesday April 01, 2008 Back To Top

America was, is and will always be racist. Period.
Nothing gets under my skin faster than a 'Rah Rah,' American. Not much of a question, I just thought it needed to be said.

- Asked by hotspots00, An Alternative Girl, Female, 29-35, Vancouver, Who Cares?

untitled / Race, Religion & Politics / 1:11 PM - Tuesday April 01, 2008 Back To Top

America was, is and will always be racist. Period.
Nothing gets under my skin faster than a 'Rah Rah,' American. Not much of a question, I just thought it needed to be said.

- Asked by hotspots00, An Alternative Girl, Female, 29-35, Vancouver, Who Cares?

Trader Joes Rules!!!!!!!! / Race, Religion & Politics / 12:18 PM - Tuesday April 01, 2008 Back To Top

Yay Trader Joes!

Today they announced they will no longer sell products made in China!

Woo Hoo!

They are truly an awesome store. Awesome beer. Awesome wine. Awesome cheese. And awesome politics.

Who plans to shop there more often now?

Who else could we get to follow?
Imagine if Walmart did this?

- Asked by llafsroh, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 46-55, Boston, Science / Engineering

car talk / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 9:36 AM - Tuesday April 01, 2008 Back To Top

I am buying a certified pre owned car from a dealer. They offered me 6.9% interest on a 60 month loan. I have 740 for my credit rating. My bank offered 6.36%. Is that savings worth it? Thanks

Update: April 05, 2008.
I ended up finding out my credit score is 794 and the dealer was not honest. Another offered me 2.9% and I paid 100.00 over invoice. Did good I think.

- Asked by butternutbisque, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Who Cares?

why / Diet & Health / 8:30 AM - Tuesday April 01, 2008 Back To Top

why does it matter if a fifteen year old goes on this website to get advice (my cousin had gotten rude answers when she asked questions)

- Asked by Female, 22-25

News of the Weird - The Death of A*O / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 4:48 PM - Friday March 28, 2008 Back To Top

Read, and let me know what your thoughts are on all this, and whether you think changes would be a good or a bad thing.....

From Marketing Vox:

"...Answerology, a family and relationship site, has been bought by Hearst, which will likely integrate it into other family-oriented online sites. "

Well, there goes the sex & intimacy questions, huh?

From Search Engine Watch:

March 26, 2008
Hearst Jumps on Answers Bandwagon, Acquires Answerology
Searchers want answers, not just results. That's something Hearst Magazines is apparently abundantly aware of with its acquisition of Answerology, a relationship advice site. With Google becoming more of a destination site than a portal, companies like Hearst need to compete online by offering a robust destination site of their own. Hearst is poised to do just that with the addition of Answerology, which allows users to post questions anonymously and select specific demographics in which to seek answers from.

Update: March 28, 2008.
Very good answers so far, everyone. . . .. I hope the new ownership tkes heed. . . . .

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

Racial Ignorance in Eugene Oregon...... / Sex & Intimacy / 8:22 AM - Friday March 28, 2008 Back To Top

So now, the city of Eugene, Oregon, has decided they will need to train their populace how to be "racially sensitive" to blacks....

The PLAN, is for the US Track & Field Olympic Team to go there for a spell, and the waiters and hospitality industry staff are to "learn" how to "deal with black people".... I am NOT making this up....

One source quoted that he would have waiters "steer their (the blacks') orders more towards the soul-food menu..."


Can they be freakin' SERIOUS?!?!?!?!?!?!

Hell, I'm white as rice, and I would NEVER say something so ignorant to a black diner. . . . unless, of course, they ASKED me if we carried any soul-food items!!!!

Why don't they just come right out & say, "You wants some fried chicken & watermelon"???

I mean, this totally incensed me, and serves as one MORE example (as if we needed it) on how "political correctness" has ruined American society...


I think that, by calling ATTENTION to the POTENTIAL differences in their ordering characteristics, they are actually feeding INTO stereotypes, not breaking them down......

And if I was a black diner in THAT restaurant, I'd have no choice, but to go ghetto on their asses.... seriously!!!!

Update: March 28, 2008.
....and once again, so many great responses, and not enough stars.... sorry, kids... you'd all have stars on this one, if I had 'em to give....

Update: March 28, 2008.
By the way-- this is to be posted in "Race, Religion & Politics", not "Sex & Intimacy"..... I think that everytime you use a cuss word in the post, it automatically goes into "Sex", for some silly reason....

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

Stir it Up..... (NOT REGGAE).... / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 7:01 PM - Wednesday March 26, 2008 Back To Top

So, if you were going to ask one terribly inflammatory question on here, purely designed to piss people off and stir up the shit, what would that question be?

Bonus Points for Originality... and I wanna' see some of you old-timers & mods participate in this one, as well!!!!!

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

untitled / Diet & Health / 6:11 PM - Wednesday March 26, 2008 Back To Top

Have you ever had a time in your life when you felt like you were stuck in a rut. if so what did you do to get out of it.

- Asked by Male, 36-45

"Pressuring" in a Relationship..... / Dating / 6:05 PM - Wednesday March 26, 2008 Back To Top

Have you ever been in a situation where you started a relationship, and then the other person seemed to be pressuring you into moving faster than you were comfortable with?

If so, how did you resolve the situation to where everyone was comfortable and you could both move forward (hopefully) together?.....


ALSO - - - Is is somewhat selfish to ask someone to commit to an exclusive relationship, just because you had sex with them, or is that a preconceived notion we have created in society to ease our own fears of being thought poorly of by others, if we moved from person to person????

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

By~Tor for President 2008 / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 10:26 AM - Wednesday March 26, 2008 Back To Top

Well, I've finally decided.... I'm officially running for President!!

After studying all the candidates, I have my platform, and my experience basis for running...


* I am, technically, a deadbeat dad, and could use the money to pay my obligations... so I understand the plight of the average American...

* I did drugs back in my teens & 20's... lots of 'em... so I understand the scourge of drug abuse.

* I cheated on one wife, and was dumped by two others, so I understand women well...

* I have no bank account to view, so my financial records will be easy as pie.... or not...

* I am a Christian, but not a bible-thumper, so I understand that we have the right to believe whatever we want, so long as our belief does not infringe on anyone else's rights.

* I have kids, so I know what issues parents face with schools and taxes.

* I have held many jobs, so I understand about Americans' employment needs and our ability to outperform the rest of the world, when properly stimulated.

* I am an "Equal-Opportunity Racist", so no one ethnic or other group will be slagged upon out of proportion to the others, including my own...

And now, for my platform:

1. The IRS shall be abolished at the Federal Level. All Americans will be required to pay a "public service" tithe of 2% of their gross income to local authorities, who will disperse the funds as needed to cover costs of local government. We will also institute a "Consumption Tax" equal to 20% of value of every item sold. This will pay for everything else. If we run out of money, we'll hold a national poker game to get funding from suckers.

2. Schools will be required to conform to one national standard devised by the good people at M.I.T., in assessing student performance. Students not passing will be failed. Period. We WILL leave some children behind, if they can't pick up the pace a bit... and schools with perpetually low results will be considered for "Housecleaning", and we will hire teachers and staff who can and will do the job, instead.

3. Unions will all be abolished. ALL of them. It is communist, and counterproductive in a changing world. Companies found to be abusing workers' rights will be dissolved, and the proceeds given to the displaced workers, to tide them over until they find new jobs elsewhere.

4. EVERY American above the age of majority in their state, and not currently on parole or incarcerated, will have the right to carry firearms, after completing proper training courses. Those found to violate the terms of the right to carry shall be imprisoned for a minimum of fifteen (15) years. Crimes committed with guns shall carry a thirty (30) year minimum penalty.

5. We will get cars off roads... Public Transportation shall be required to become effective & efficient within a 12 month period, nationwide. Systems that fail to do so shall lose federal funding, and be required to raise 100% of their own revenue, without adding cost to the public who uses the system.

6. Terrorists will be pursued, and killed. We will empty our prisons if necessary, and allow the incarcerated to volunteer for armed forces training, and then ship the thugs to the home countries who sponsor or allow terrorists to operate within their borders. We have over 10 million prisoners in the U.S., and I say we let them fight for their freedom, and ours, as restitution for the crimes they committed. If they succeed, they will earn their freedom and their sentences commuted.

7. All Child Support cases shall be immediately subject to a flat fee to the obligant, of no more than fifteen (15) percent of their total income. This is regardless of how many kids they have fathered. Women who claim support for more than three (3) kids will be required to get jobs and day care, provided at cost by the State, or will lose custodial rights. They will also receive free hysterectomies. Men who father more than three (3) children and cannot or will not pay, will receive free vasectomies by university students.

8. The entire medical industry shall be revamped. ALL hospitals will be required to conform to the HippocraticOath taken by each & every doctor. If you need immediate help due to a life-threatening condition, you shall receive it. Insurance companies will be required to profit no more than twelve (12) percent off each policy written. Drug companies will earn a flat fifteen (15) percent profit off each drug. Any additional funds shall be earned, via the National Poker Game.

9. Trade shall be regulated, so that cheap imports will not constitute more than ten (10) percent of market availability. There are plenty of U.S. made products that are as good if not better, and once we eliminate the Unions, they will once again be affordable. You're welcome, Detroiters.... now don't ask for any other handouts....

10. National ID shall be created and required for all citizens, including aliens, based on your thumbprints or, in the case of not having any thumbprints, retinal scans. The Identification can only be used to prove identity, and shall NOT be used to cause damage to livelihood or to harass individuals or groups. Any person or entity found guilty of infringing upon human rights in this case shall be castrated, in the public square, by the person allegedly harmed by the misuse.

11. Grants shall be given to alternative fuels technology providers, and we shall form a national consensus within five (5) years on implementing a national program for energy feasibility and self-sustenance within ten (10) years, or I will personally shut off the power to the whole damned country, until we do come to a solution. The days of oil dependency are over, people.....

12. ALL workers shall be entitled to a minimum of three (3) weeks' paid vacation per year, as well as ten (10) sick days, and five (5) "mental health" days. Companies found to not enforce this shall be subject to dissolution and the proceeds split amongst the displaced workers and shareholders. Temporary staff shall be obtained through the use of agencies who provide temporary staff, in order to cover the missing employees and ensure manpower is at acceptable levels.

13. Any government employee who does not perform their due diligence in all capacities in the execution of their job roles shall be terminated and deported to Zimbabwe, where they may feel free to loaf off and not do any job at all, while people who earnestly want to help our citizenry take over their positions.

14. Drug Offenses shall be reduced to misdemeanors, and the convicted shall be required to attent Doctor Drew's Celebrity Rehab facility for a period of no less than 6 months per offense. 2nd Offenses shall be referred to Oprah Winfrey for treatment.

15. Utility companies shall be required to charge fair rates for service, and to provide adequate means to transport such utility to the consumer at all times. Utilities found in non-compliance shall be sold to the first Canadian bidder...

16. If you need a job, you will get a job if you cannot find one on your own. We will bring back the "W.P.A." (Google it....), and the jobless shall immediately be brought on and trained to help repair our nations' infrastructure. And without Unions, we can be assured that they will work for that money and not just stand around smoking and ogling blondes driving by...

17. Farmers will only be paid to produce goods.... subsidies to NOT produce will be immediately terminated. Any surplus goods shall either be sold to overseas markets or donated to UNICEF and other humanitarian organizations. World hunger will stop, and it will stop under my watch...

18. The "homeless" will be rounded up and given housing via the "Section 8" program. Those in projects who really don't need to be there will be evicted and fair-market housing will be made available to them, to make room for the homeless.

19. Real Estate will stay at market rates, but the market itself shall determine what the fair value is, not arbitrary numbers pulled out of the asses of big investment firms. Home loans shall be made available to all who can reasonably afford a home, and defaulters shall have their mortgage payments automatically deducted from their gross pay, much like child-support payments.

20. The Armed Forces shall receive whatever it needs, in order to effectively safeguard our interests at home or abroad. If this requires investment, we still have plenty of unemployed people who will be used to build the items needed and to provide manpower as needed for a secure defense against any potential attackers.

So - - - - there you have it... my twenty-point plan for a better America. This can all be done within a space of ten years, and under my fascist iat, it will be... your rights will remain safe, your jobs and homes will be secured, and you will pay less money while receiving better service.

Now, my past infidelity, insolvency and drug use really doesn't matter much, does it?.......

I didn't think so.....

Oh, I almost forgot the most important one.... Article 21...:

21. Anyone found guilty of murder or violent rape shall be executed within 6 months. "Eye for an eye" rules shall apply, in other cases of violence against your fellow man.

This Message is By~Tor Approved, and I thank you for your support....

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

How Many is Too Many? / Sex & Intimacy / 11:34 AM - Tuesday March 18, 2008 Back To Top

Men seem to take more seriously, the number of lovers a woman has had before them....

So ladies, what IS your actual mindset, when you sleep with a guy and then find out he's been with several gals before you?... Are you disgusted, or are you grateful that he's (hopefully) a good lover?

And guys - - - if she's had more lovers than YOU have, does that REALLY matter to ya', or is this overblown, as an "issue"?

How many IS "too many"?......

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

Unlovable / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 12:26 PM - Friday March 14, 2008 Back To Top

When you are an abrasive person, do you go about trying to start trouble for fun, or to feed some deep-seated need for superiority?

Would you rather someone told you how misguided you are, or would you rather stay behind the blinders and continue on, never knowing how folish you looked to everyone else?

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

Mentally sized? / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 12:48 PM - Tuesday March 11, 2008 Back To Top

Now I am getting crap for not awarding all of my stars.

I am about ready to really let some of these people have a verbal lashing...and it'll be one they'll not soon forget.

Do you think the mod squad might toss me for such behavior?

How about tossing some of these mental midgets who think they have the right to tell people where the bear shits in the buckwheat?

- Asked by drumboi2, A Guy Critical, Male, 56-65

untitled / Friendship / 10:28 AM - Friday March 07, 2008 Back To Top

Have you ever unwittingly caused damage to a friend or a friendship, when all you were trying to do was to be helpful?

"No Good Deed Goes Unpunished..."

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

In all seriousness... / Married Life / 6:57 PM - Thursday March 06, 2008 Back To Top

Just found out my ex-wife has been diagnosed with cancer.

okay, so we didn't make it as a team... we even got pretty nasty at each other, after the initial split.. that doesn't mean I still don't have a special place in my heart for her, because if you fall in love with someone, even for a brief moment, you should love them forever....

In this case though, "forever" might not be all that long.... Funny, how these things come along to f*&k with you, at the moments when you start thinking life might just turn out okay, after all.....

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

The Case Against Hillary / Race, Religion & Politics / 10:55 AM - Thursday March 06, 2008 Back To Top


THIS IS ONLY my basis for WHY I refuse to support Hillary Clinton NOW, or EVER!:

Clinton-Phobia, or Protection Against Clinton-Mania?!?!

The Clintons, to adapt a line from Dr. Johnson, were not only corrupt, they were the cause of corruption in others. Yet seldom in America have so many come to excuse so much mendacity and malfeasance as during the Clinton years. Here are some of the facts that have been buried.


- The only president ever impeached on grounds of personal malfeasance
- Most number of convictions and guilty pleas by friends and associates*
- Most number of cabinet officials to come under criminal investigation
- Most number of witnesses to flee country or refuse to testify
- Most number of witnesses to die suddenly
- First president sued for sexual harassment.
- First president accused of rape.
- First first lady to come under criminal investigation
- Largest criminal plea agreement in an illegal campaign contribution case
- First president to establish a legal defense fund.
- First president to be held in contempt of court
- Greatest amount of illegal campaign contributions
- Greatest amount of illegal campaign contributions from abroad
- First president disbarred from the US Supreme Court and a state court

* According to our best information, 40 government officials were indicted or convicted in the wake of Watergate. A reader computes that there was a total of 31 Reagan era convictions, including 14 because of Iran-Contra and 16 in the Department of Housing & Urban Development scandal. 47 individuals and businesses associated with the Clinton machine were convicted of or pleaded guilty to crimes with 33 of these occurring during the Clinton administration itself. There were in addition 61 indictments or misdemeanor charges. 14 persons were imprisoned. A key difference between the Clinton story and earlier ones was the number of criminals with whom he was associated before entering the White House.

Using a far looser standard that included resignations, David R. Simon and D. Stanley Eitzen in Elite Deviance, say that 138 appointees of the Reagan administration either resigned under an ethical cloud or were criminally indicted. Curiously Haynes Johnson uses the same figure but with a different standard in "Sleep-Walking Through History: America in the Reagan Years: "By the end of his term, 138 administration officials had been convicted, had been indicted, or had been the subject of official investigations for official misconduct and/or criminal violations. In terms of number of officials involved, the record of his administration was the worst ever."


- Number of Starr-Ray investigation convictions or guilty pleas (including one governor, one associate attorney general and two Clinton business partners): 14
- Number of Clinton Cabinet members who came under criminal investigation: 5
- Number of Reagan cabinet members who came under criminal investigation: 4
- Number of top officials jailed in the Teapot Dome Scandal: 3


- Number of individuals and businesses associated with the Clinton machine who have been convicted of or pleaded guilty to crimes: 47
- Number of these convictions during Clinton's presidency: 33
- Number of indictments/misdemeanor charges: 61
- Number of congressional witnesses who have pleaded the Fifth Amendment, fled the country to avoid testifying, or (in the case of foreign witnesses) refused to be interviewed: 122


- Guilty pleas and convictions obtained by Donald Smaltz in cases involving charges of bribery and fraud against former Agriculture Secretary Mike Espy and associated individuals and businesses: 15
- Acquitted or overturned cases (including Espy): 6
- Fines and penalties assessed: $11.5 million
- Amount Tyson Food paid in fines and court costs: $6 million


- As of June 2000, the Justice Department listed 25 people indicted and 19 convicted because of the 1996 Clinton-Gore fundraising scandals.
- According to the House Committee on Government Reform in September 2000, 79 House and Senate witnesses asserted the Fifth Amendment in the course of investigations into Gore's last fundraising campaign.
-James Riady entered a plea agreement to pay an $8.5 million fine for campaign finance crimes. This was a record under campaign finance laws.


Drug trafficking (3), racketeering, extortion, bribery (4), tax evasion, kickbacks, embezzlement (2), fraud (12), conspiracy (5), fraudulent loans, illegal gifts (1), illegal campaign contributions (5), money laundering (6), perjury, obstruction of justice.


- Number of independent counsel inquiries since the 1978 law was passed: 19
- Number that have produced indictments: 7
- Number that produced more convictions than the Starr investigation: 1
- Median length of investigations that led to convictions: 44 months
- Length of Starr-Ray investigation: 69 months.
- Total cost of the Starr investigation (3/00) $52 million
- Total cost of the Iran-Contra investigation: $48.5 million
- Total cost to taxpayers of the Madison Guarantee failure: $73 million


Bank and mail fraud, violations of campaign finance laws, illegal foreign campaign funding, improper exports of sensitive technology, physical violence and threats of violence, solicitation of perjury, intimidation of witnesses, bribery of witnesses, attempted intimidation of prosecutors, perjury before congressional committees, lying in statements to federal investigators and regulatory officials, flight of witnesses, obstruction of justice, bribery of cabinet members, real estate fraud, tax fraud, drug trafficking, failure to investigate drug trafficking, bribery of state officials, use of state police for personal purposes, exchange of promotions or benefits for sexual favors, using state police to provide false court testimony, laundering of drug money through a state agency, false reports by medical examiners and others investigating suspicious deaths, the firing of the RTC and FBI director when these agencies were investigating Clinton and his associates, failure to conduct autopsies in suspicious deaths, providing jobs in return for silence by witnesses, drug abuse, improper acquisition and use of 900 FBI files, improper futures trading, murder, sexual abuse of employees, false testimony before a federal judge, shredding of documents, withholding and concealment of subpoenaed documents, fabricated charges against (and improper firing of) White House employees, inviting drug traffickers, foreign agents and participants in organized crime to the White House.


Number of times that Clinton figures who testified in court or before Congress said that they didn't remember, didn't know, or something similar.

Bill Kennedy 116
Harold Ickes 148
Ricki Seidman 160
Bruce Lindsey 161
Bill Burton 191
Mark Gearan 221
Mack McLarty 233
Neil Egglseston 250
Hillary Clinton 250
John Podesta 264
Jennifer O'Connor 343
Dwight Holton 348
Patsy Thomasson 420
Jeff Eller 697

FROM THE WASHINGTON TIMES: In the portions of President Clinton's Jan. 17 deposition that have been made public in the Paula Jones case, his memory failed him 267 times. This is a list of his answers and how many times he gave each one.

I don't remember - 71
I don't know - 62
I'm not sure - 17
I have no idea - 10
I don't believe so - 9
I don't recall - 8
I don't think so - 8
I don't have any specific recollection - 6
I have no recollection - 4
Not to my knowledge - 4
I just don't remember - 4
I don't believe - 4
I have no specific recollection - 3
I might have - 3
I don't have any recollection of that - 2 I don't have a specific memory - 2
I don't have any memory of that - 2
I just can't say - 2
I have no direct knowledge of that - 2
I don't have any idea - 2
Not that I recall - 2
I don't believe I did - 2
I can't remember - 2
I can't say - 2
I do not remember doing so - 2
Not that I remember - 2
I'm not aware - 1
I honestly don't know - 1
I don't believe that I did - 1
I'm fairly sure - 1
I have no other recollection - 1
I'm not positive - 1
I certainly don't think so - 1
I don't really remember - 1
I would have no way of remembering that - 1
That's what I believe happened - 1
To my knowledge, no - 1
To the best of my knowledge - 1
To the best of my memory - 1
I honestly don't recall - 1
I honestly don't remember - 1
That's all I know - 1
I don't have an independent recollection of that - 1
I don't actually have an independent memory of that - 1
As far as I know - 1
I don't believe I ever did that - 1
That's all I know about that - 1
I'm just not sure - 1
Nothing that I remember - 1
I simply don't know - 1
I would have no idea - 1
I don't know anything about that - 1
I don't have any direct knowledge of that - 1
I just don't know - 1
I really don't know - 1
I can't deny that, I just -- I have no memory of that at all - 1


- Number of persons in the Clinton machine orbit who are alleged to have committed suicide: 9
- Number known to have been murdered: 12
- Number who died in plane crashes: 6
- Number who died in single car automobile accidents: 3
- Number of one-person sking fatalities: 1
- Number of key witnesses who have died of heart attacks while in federal custody under questionable circumstances: 1
- Number of unexplained deaths: 4
- Total suspicious deaths: 46
- Number of northern Mafia killings during peak years of 1968-78: 30
- Number of Dixie Mafia killings during same period: 156

It is important in considering these fatal incidents to bear in mind the following:

The fact that anomalies need to be investigated further carries no presumption of how a death actually occurred, only that there remain serious questions that require answers.

The possibility of foul play must be taken seriously in a major criminal conspiracy in which over two score individuals and firms have been convicted and over 100 witnesses have pled the Fifth Amendment or fled the country.

If foul play did occur in any of these cases, that fact by itself does not carry the presumption that the the Clinton machine was involved. Given the footprints of organized crime, drug trade, foreign espionage, and intelligence agencies on the trail of the Clinton story, such a assumption would not be warranted. It is also well to keep in mind the classic prohibition era movie in which the corrupt poitician's job was not to engage in illegal acts but to avoid noticing them.

- Amount of an alleged electronic transfer from the Arkansas Development Financial Authority to a bank in the Cayman Islands during 1980s: $50 million
- Grand Cayman's population: 18,000
- Number of commercial banks: 570
- Number of bank regulators: 1
- Amount Arkansas state pension fund invested in high-risk repos in the mid-80s in one purchase in April 1985: $52 million through the Worthen Bank.
- Number of days thereafter that the state's brokerage firm went belly up: 3
- Amount Arkansas pension fund dropped overnight as a result: 15%
- Percent of Worthen bank that Mochtar Riady bought over the next four months to bail out the bank and the then governor, Bill Clinton: 40%.
- Percent of purchasers from the Clintons and McDougals of resort lots who lost the land because of the sleazy financing provisions: over 50%


- Number of journalists covering Whitewater who have been fired, transferred off the beat, resigned or otherwise gotten into trouble because of their work on the scandals (Doug Frantz, Jim Wooten, Richard Behar, Christopher Ruddy, Michael Isikoff, David Eisenstadt, Yinh Chan, Jonathan Broder, James R. Norman, Zoh Hieronimus): 10


- Number of times John Huang took the 5th Amendment in answer to questions during a Judicial Watch deposition: 1,000
- Visits made to the White House by investigation subjects Johnny Chung, James Riady, John Huang, and Charlie Trie. 160
- Number of campaign contributors who got overnights at the White House in the two years before the 1996 election: 577
- Number of members of Thomas Boggs's law firm who have held top positions in the Clinton administration. 18
- Number of times John Huang was briefed by CIA: 37
- Number of calls Huang made from Commerce Department to Lippo banks: 261
- Number of intelligence reports Huang read while at Commerce Department: 500


- FBI files misappropriated by the White House: c. 900
- Estimated number of witnesses quoted in FBI files misappropriated by the White House: 18,000
- Number of witnesses who developed medical problems at critical points in Clinton scandals investigation (Tucker, Hale, both McDougals, Lindsey): 5
- Problem areas listed in a memo by Clinton's own lawyer in preparation for the president's defense: 40
- Number of witnesses and critics of Clinton subjected to IRS audit: 45
- Number of names placed in a White House secret database without the knowledge of those named: c. 200,000
- Number of women involved with Clinton who claim to have been physically threatened (Sally Perdue, Gennifer Flowers, Kathleen Willey, Linda Tripp, Elizabeth Ward Gracen, Juantia Broaddrick): 6
- Number of men involved in the Clinton scandals who have been beaten up or claimed to have been intimidated: 10


USA Today calls it "the hidden election," in which nearly 7,000 state legislative seats are decided with only minimal media and public attention. But there was an important national story here: evidence of the disaster that Bill Clinton was for the Democratic Party. According to the National Conference of State Legislatures, Democrats held a 1,542 seat lead in the state bodies in 1990. As of 1998 that lead had shrunk to 288. That's a loss of over 1,200 state legislative seats, nearly all of them under Clinton. Across the US, the Democrats controled only 65 more state senate seats than the Republicans.

Further, in 1992, the Democrats controlled 17 more state legislatures than the Republicans. After 1998, the Republicans controlled one more than the Democrats. Not only was this a loss of 9 legislatures under Clinton, but it was the first time since 1954 that the GOP had controlled more state legislatures than the Democrats (they tied in 1968).

Here's what happened to the Democrats under Clinton, based on our latest figures:

- GOP seats gained in House since Clinton became president: 48
- GOP seats gained in Senate since Clinton became president: 8
- GOP governorships gained since Clinton became president: 11
- GOP state legislative seats gained since Clinton became president: 1,254
as of 1998
- State legislatures taken over by GOP since Clinton became president: 9
- Democrat officeholders who have become Republicans since Clinton became
president: 439 as of 1998
- Republican officeholders who have become Democrats since Clinton became president: 3


Here are some of the all too rare public officials, reporters, and others who spoke truth to the dismally corrupt power of Bill and Hill Clinton's political machine -- some at risk to their careers, others at risk to their lives. A few points to note:

- Those corporatist media reporters who attempted to report the story often found themselves muzzled; some even lost their jobs. The only major dailies that consistently handled the story well were the Wall Street Journal and the Washington Times.

- Nobody on this list has gotten rich and many you may not have even heard of. Taking on the Clintons typically has not been a happy or rewarding experience. At least ten reporters were fired, transferred off their beats, resigned, or otherwise got into trouble because of their work on the scandals.

- Contrary to the popular impression, the politics of those listed ranges from the left to the right, and from the ideological to the independent.


MIGUEL RODRIGUEZ was a prosecutor on the staff of Kenneth Starr. His attempts to uncover the truth in the Vincent Foster death case were repeatedly foiled and he was the subject of planted stories undermining his credibility and implying that he was unstable. Rodriguez eventually resigned.

JEAN DUFFEY: Head of a joint federal-county drug task force in Arkansas. Her first instructions from her boss: "Jean, you are not to use the drug task force to investigate any public official." Duffey's work, however, led deep into the heart of the Dixie Mafia, including members of the Clinton machine and the investigation of the so-called "train deaths." Ambrose Evans-Pritchard reports that when she produced a star witness who could testify to Clinton's involvement with cocaine, the local prosecuting attorney, Dan Harmon issued a subpoena for all the task force records, including "the incriminating files on his own activities. If Duffey had complied it would have exposed 30 witnesses and her confidential informants to violent retributions. She refused." Harmon issued a warrant for her arrest and friendly cops told her that there was a $50,000 price on her head. She eventually fled to Texas. The once-untouchable Harmon was later convicted of racketeering, extortion and drug dealing.

BILL DUNCAN: An IRS investigator in Arkansas who drafted some 30 federal indictments of Arkansas figures on money laundering and other charges. Clinton biographer Roger Morris quotes a source who reviewed the evidence: "Those indictments were a real slam dunk if there ever was one." The cases were suppressed, many in the name of "national security." Duncan was never called to testify. Other IRS agents and state police disavowed Duncan and turned on him. Said one source, "Somebody outside ordered it shut down and the walls went up."

RUSSELL WELCH: An Arkansas state police detective working with Duncan. Welch developed a 35-volume, 3,000 page archive on drug and money laundering operations at Mena. His investigation was so compromised that a high state police official even let one of the targets of the probe look through the file. At one point, Welch was sprayed in the face with poison, later identified by the Center for Disease Control as anthrax. He would write in his diary, "I feel like I live in Russia, waiting for the secret police to pounce down. A government has gotten out of control. Men find themselves in positions of power and suddenly crimes become legal." Welch is no longer with the state police.

DAN SMALTZ: Smaltz did an outstanding job investigating and prosecuting charges involving illegal payoffs to Agriculture Secretary Mike Espy, yet was treated with disparaging and highly inaccurate reporting by the likes of the David Broder and the NY Times. Espy was acquitted under a law that made it necessary to not only prove that he accepted gratuities but that he did something specific in return. On the other hand, Tyson Foods copped a plea in the same case, paying $6 million in fines and serving four years' probation. The charge: that Tyson had illegally offered Espy $12,000 in airplane rides, football tickets and other payoffs. In the Espy investigation, Smaltz obtained 15 convictions and collected over $11 million in fines and civil penalties. Offenses for which convictions were obtained included false statements, concealing money from prohibited sources, illegal gratuities, illegal contributions, falsifying records, interstate transportation of stolen property, money laundering, and illegal receipt of USDA subsidies. In addition, Janet Reno blocked Smaltz from pursuing leads aimed at allegations of major drug trafficking in Arkansas and payoffs to the then governor of the state, WJ Clinton. Espy had become Ag secretary only after being flown to Arkansas to get the approval of chicken king Don Tyson.

DAVID SCHIPPERS was House impeachment counsel and a Chicago Democrat. He did a highly creditable job but since he didn't fit the right-wing conspiracy theory, the Clintonista media downplayed his work. Thus most Americans don't know that he told Newsmax, "Let me tell you, if we had a chance to put on a case, I would have put live witnesses before the committee. But the House leadership, and I'm not talking about Henry Hyde, they just killed us as far as time was concerned. I begged them to let me take it into this year. Then I screamed for witnesses before the Senate. But there was nothing anybody could do to get those Senators to show any courage. They told us essentially, you're not going to get 67 votes so why are you wasting our time." Schippers also said that while a number of representatives had looked at additional evidence kept under seal in a nearby House building, not a single senator did.

JOHN CLARKE: When Patrick Knowlton stopped to relieve himself in Ft. Marcy Park 70 minutes before the discovery of Vince Foster's body, he saw things that got him into deep trouble. His interview statements were falsified and prior to testifying he claims he was overtly harassed by more than a score of men in a classic witness intimidation technique. In some cases there were witnesses. John Clarke was his dogged lawyer in the witness intimidation case that was largely ignored by the media, even when the three-judge panel overseeing the Starr investigation permitted Knowlton to append a 20 page addendum to the Starr Report.


THE ARKANSAS COMMITTEE: What would later be known as the Vast Right Wing Conspiracy actually began on the left - as a group of progressive students at the University of Arkansas had formed the Arkansas Committee to look into Mena, drugs, money laundering, and Arkansas politics. This committee was the source of some of the important early Clinton stories including those published in the Progressive Review.

CLINTON ADMINISTRATION SCANDALS E-LIST: Moderated by Ray Heizer, this list was subject to all the idiosyncrasies of Internet bulletin boards, but nonetheless proved invaluable to researchers and journalists.


JERRY SEPER of the Washington Times was far and away the best beat reporter of the story, handling it week after week in the best tradition of investigative journalism. If other reporters had followed Seper's lead, the history of the Clintons' machine might have been quite different.

AMBROSE EVANS-PRITCHARD of the London Telegraph did a remarkable job of digging into some of the seamiest tales from Arkansas and the Clinton past. Other early arrivals on the scene were Alexander Cockburn and Jeff Gerth.

CHRISTOPHER RUDDY, among other fine reports on the Clinton scandals, did the best job laying out the facts in the Vince Foster death case.

ROGER MORRIS AND SALLY DENTON wrote a major expose of events at Mena, but at the last moment the Washington Post's brass ordered the story killed. It was published by Penthouse and later included in Morris' "Partners in Power," the best biography of the Clintons.

OTHERS who helped get parts of the story out included reporters Philip Weiss, Carl Limbacher, Wes Phelan, David Bresnahan, William Sammon, Liza Myers, Mara Leveritt, Matt Drudge, Jim Ridgeway, Nat Hentoff, Michael Isikoff, Christopher Hitchens and Michael Kelly. Also independent investigator Hugh Sprunt and former White House FBI agent Gary Aldrich.

SAM SMITH of the Progressive Review wrote the first book (Shadows of Hope, University of Indiana Press, 1994) deconstructing the Clinton myth. The Review provided extensive coverage of the topic.

By~Tor Rocks!!!

There is a huge amount of negative controversy surrounding Hillary Clinton that the press never mentions. A little research with an open mind will yield the truth.

Here's an article with some opinions and a lot of facts:

Hillary Clinton: Remarkably unqualified to be president
November 15, 2007

By Deroy Murdock

Don't make too much of Sen. Hillary Clinton's flip-flopping and inability to decide whether she's for or against issuing illegal aliens driver's licenses. That's the least of her problems. If you want an in depth look at her character read Bay Buchanan's book The Extreme Makeover of Hillary (Rodham) Clinton. For some reason it is probably the least publicized of the recent books on Hillary, but in my view it is the best, the most revealing, the most powerful and the most important.

Whether or not you are a supporter of Hillary, I suspect after reading the book you will be convinced of the author's claims: Hillary is a phony, hypocritical, congenital liar who won't accept responsibility; she's so insecure she relies only on gurus, consultants and other advisers instead of thinking for herself, she's unprincipled; she's far-left liberal despite her pose for purposes of the election; and she's likely to be a big spender and big taxer (she admitted to having a million ideas, which we certainly can't afford).

Take the liar issue as one prime illustration of her character problem. I consider William Safire, a former presidential adviser and columnist for The New York Times, to be one of the soundest, more careful, most reliable and most brilliant thinkers of our time. Here's what he had to say about Hillary (when Bill Clinton was president): "Americans of all political persuasions are coming to the sad realization that our First Lady - a woman of undoubted talents who was a role model for many in her generation - is a congenital liar."

Ms. Buchanan makes the case that Hillary was and is "no respecter of the truth or the law." She writes: "No matter what the questions were about - Whitewater, Madison Guaranty, Jim McDougal, cattle futures, Red Bone, Castle Grande or Rose law firm records - Hillary never gave a straight answer. She bobbed and weaved her way through every inquiry, whether the questions came from the press or from the investigators, whether it was a casual conversation, or whether she was under oath. Her explanation of what occurred changed constantly to keep up with facts that slowly found their way into the public arena."

For example, Hillary told investigators that the Rose law firm records of work for Castle Grande had been shredded. Suddenly, they were found to have been in the White House and finally fell into the possession of her secretary. Ms. Buchanan writes, "The miraculously recovered records proved beyond a shadow of a doubt that Hillary had lied about her involvement with both Madison Guaranty and the corrupt real estate deal, Castle Grande."

he yellow-billed oxpecker stands atop the mighty rhinoceros, gobbling ticks and chirping loudly when danger looms. This tiny bird would make a perfect mascot for Sen. Hillary Rodham Clinton's presidential bid. Akin to that creature, the New York Democrat leaves tiny footprints and has spent more than three decades riding aboard her outsized, accomplished husband, William Jefferson Clinton.

And, like the oxpecker, Hillary Clinton is remarkably unprepared for the presidency. Beyond helping to secure post-9/11 recovery funds for Gotham, her legislative achievements are rather slight. Lighter yet is her executive experience, which is measurable in grams.

While Clinton has been an outspoken liberal activist since the 1960s, she never has run a business, a city, a state or a Cabinet department. She was a partner at Little Rock's Rose Law Firm, but did not administer it. Arkansas Advocates for Children and Families aside, she headed none of the nonprofits whose boards her Web site says she joined.

While she conducted President Clinton's health-reform task force in 1993, the plan it concocted in secret collapsed in public. This 1,368-page prescription for government medicine quietly vanished, sparing a Democratic Congress the embarrassment of euthanizing it.

Since her 2000 election, Clinton never has chaired a Senate committee. However, she does lead the Senate Superfund and Environmental Health Subcommittee. As its Web site explains, the panel oversees "recycling, federal facilities and interstate waste."

Clinton has presided over something. She commanded the Wellesley College Republicans in 1965, and then became student-government president.

Despite repeated requests, Clinton's campaign did not identify the executive experiences that supposedly merit her presidency.

Conversely, Clinton's Democratic rivals display relevant resumes.

Bill Richardson was elected New Mexico's governor in 2002. He handles a $13.7 billion budget, guides 20,816 state workers and serves 1.9 million constituents. He was a U.S. House member between 1982 and 1996. He also gained valuable global expertise as U.N. ambassador from 1996 to 1998. Under Presidents Clinton and George W. Bush, Richardson has negotiated nuclear issues with North Korean generals and helped free Americans from Cuba, Iraq and Sudan. As energy secretary from 1998 to 2000, Richardson addressed Arab-oil dependency and nuclear nonproliferation, and maintained America's atomic arsenal.

First elected in 1972, Delaware's Joseph Biden chairs the Senate Foreign Relations Committee and also directed it between 2001 and 2003.

Connecticut's Chris Dodd, elected U.S. representative in 1974 and senator in 1980, chairs the Banking, Housing and Urban Affairs Committee.

Even far-left eccentric Rep. Dennis Kucinich was Cleveland's one-term mayor, years before his 1996 House win.

Elected in 2004, former Harvard Law Review President Barack Obama's credentials are limited. Nonetheless, the Illinois senator is 2008's "fresh face" — a phrase rarely in the same sentence with Hillary Clinton.

Clinton's Republican competitors offer considerable executive dexterity:

Rudolph Giuliani was mayor of New York, America's largest city, with 8 million people. Between 1994 and 2002, he managed budgets as high as $40 billion and as many as 222,836 employees, a payroll surpassed only by Uncle Sam's and California's. As U.S. attorney, Giuliani supervised 130 prosecutors and some 200 support staffers between 1983 and 1989. In 2002, he launched Giuliani Partners, a security consultancy that reportedly earned tens of millions in revenues.

Mitt Romney founded Bain Capital, a prosperous enterprise, before becoming Massachusetts' one-term governor in 2002. His final, $36 billion budget funded 43,979 personnel who aided 6.4 million citizens.

Mike Huckabee was Arkansas governor between 1996 and 2006. His final, $15.6 billion budget financed 29,151 staffers who covered 2.8 million Arkansans.

Arizona Sen. John McCain was a decorated Navy pilot and Vietnam-era POW before his 1982 U.S. House victory. He was elected senator in 1986 and has chaired the committees on commerce and Indian affairs.

To Clinton's credit, she represented America as first lady in 82 countries, perhaps her most pertinent duty. This may qualify her for secretary of state, a position she could execute with energy and discipline.

However, facing a $2.9 trillion federal budget and 5,120,688 civilian and military employees, Clinton is ill-equipped to become president of the United States, commander in chief of the armed forces and leader of the free world. Her executive experience is lighter than a fistful of feathers.


The term "plausible deniability" has been heard when Hillary was asked about this tactic. Do you think its just business as usual for her and her staff or that she is truly trying to run a clean campaign?

"In recent weeks, two Clinton volunteers in Iowa resigned after forwarding false e-mails falsely saying he was a Muslim and a threat to national security. Matt Drudge, said his Web site, The Drudge Report, that he was e-mailed a picture of Obama in a turban and robe by the Clinton campaign.
The photo was taken when Barack Obama was presented with the outfit while on a visit to his late father's native Kenya. Clinton campaign officials have said they did not condone any such dirty tricks."

Hillary Clinton has been telling America that she is the most qualified candidate for president based on her 'record,' which she says includes her eight years in the White House as First Lady - or 'co-president' - and her seven years in the Senate.

Here is a reminder of what that record includes:

--- As First Lady, Hillary assumed authority over Health Care Reform, a process that cost the taxpayers over $13 million. She told both Bill Bradley and Patrick Moynihan, key votes needed to pass her legislation, that she would 'demonize' anyone who opposed it. But it was opposed; she couldn't even get it to a vote in a Congress controlled by her own party. (And in the next election, her party lost control of both the House and Senate.)

--- Hillary assumed authority over selecting a female Attorney General. Her first two recommendations, Zoe Baird and Kimba Wood, were forced to withdraw their names from consideration. She then chose Janet Reno. Janet Reno has since been described by Bill himself as 'my worst mistake.'

--- Hillary recommended Lani Guanier for head of the Civil Rights Commission. When Guanier 's radical views became known, her name had to be withdrawn.

--- Hillary recommended her former law partners, Web Hubbell, Vince Foster, and William Kennedy for positions in the Justice Department, White House staff, and the Treasury, respectively. Hubbell was later imprisoned, Foster committed suicide, and Kennedy was forced to resign.

--- Hillary also recommended a close friend of the Clintons, Craig Livingstone, for the position of director of White House security. When Livingstone was investigated for the improper access of up to 900 FBI files of Clinton enemies (“Filegate”) and the widespread use of drugs by White House staff, both Hillary and her husband denied knowing him. FBI agent Dennis Sculimbrene confirmed in a Senate Judiciary Committee hearing in 1996, both the drug use and Hillary's involvement in hiring Livingstone. After that, the FBI close d its White House Liaison Office, after serving seven presidents for over thirty years.

--- In order to open “slots” in the White House for her friends the Thomasons (to whom millions of dollars in travel contracts could be awarded), Hillary had the entire staff of the White House Travel Office fired; they were reported to the FBI for 'gross mismanagement' and their reputations ruined. After a thirty-month investigation, only one, Billy Dale, was charged with a crime - mixing personal money with White House funds when he cashed checks. The jury acquitted him in less than two hours.

--- Another of Hillary's assumed duties was directing the 'bimbo eruption squad' and scandal defense:

---- She urged her husband not to settle the Paula Jones lawsuit.

---- She refused to release the Whitewater documents, which led to the appointment of Ken Starr as Special Prosecutor. After $80 million dollars of taxpayer money was spent, Starr's investigation led to Monica Lewinsky, which led to Bill lying about and later admitting his affairs.

---- Then they had to settle with Paula Jones after all.

---- And Bill lost his law license for lying to the grand jury

---- And Bill was impeached by the House.

---- And Hillary almost got herself indicted for perjury and obstruction of justice (she avoided it mostly because she repeated, 'I do not recall,' 'I have no recollection,' and 'I don't know' 56 times under oath)....56 TIMES!!!!

--- Hillary wrote 'It Takes a Village,' demonstrating her Socialist viewpoint.

--- Hillary decided to seek election to the Senate in a state she had never lived in. Her husband pardoned FALN terrorists in order to get Latino support and the New Squar e Hassidim to get Jewish support. Hillary also had Bill pardon her brother's clients, for a small fee, to get financial support.

--- Then Hillary left the White House, but later had to return $200,000 in White House furniture, china, and artwork she had stolen.

--- In the campaign for the Senate, Hillary played the 'woman card' by portraying her opponent (Lazio) as a bully picking on her.

--- Hillary's husband further protected her by asking the National Archives to withhold from the public until 2012 many records of their time in the White House, including much of Hillary's correspondence and her calendars. (There are ongoing lawsuits to force the release of those records.)

--- As the junior Senator from New York, Hillary has passed no major legislation. She has deferred to the senior Senator (Schumer) to tend to the needs of New Yorkers, even on the hot issue of medical problems of workers inv olved in the cleanup of Ground Zero after 9/11.

--- Hillary's one notable vote; supporting the plan to invade Iraq, she has since disavowed.

Update: March 06, 2008.
Sorry Kids - - It's NOT from some "republican website".. these are all facts, proven to be true by a variety of sources, mostly newspapers. Face it - - the Clintons are, always have been, and always WILL be crooks.... Just admit it!!!!

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

By~Tor's Midweek Update - - Pittsburgh-Bound / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 8:08 AM - Wednesday February 20, 2008 Back To Top

Okay. . . . so the li'l lady & I took a four-day weekend and went to Pittsburgh, where it looks like we'll be moving to, in the very near future.

I have to say, I think the Steel City has had somewhat of a bad rap, as far as how outsiders think of it here in the States... I was under the impression that I was going to find soot-filled, smoggy air, and a grey, dank environment. . . . well, even though it WAS cloudy the entire time we were there (due to a weather front), the area was absolutely breathtaking in its beauty! - - - The city of Pittsburgh itself is situated on several hills, high enough that to Kansans, they might even qualify as "little mountains"...

We got in Friday afternoon and went straight to Primanti Brothers for the "Ultimate Pig Out" sammich and an Iron City brew. Imagine my surprise to discover that not only does Primanti Bros put french fries in their sandwiches, but so does everyone else!---And in the salads, too! I actually got a steak salad at a Crowne Plaza that had a shitload of french fries IN it.... it's a Pittsburgh thing, I hear...

We spent the next two days looking at over twenty houses in and around the area, and late Sunday night, we saw it: The Perfect House...

Situated on flat ground, but high up enough to have a view, it had two working fireplaces, newly carpeted, but good hardwood flors underneath, a nice sized backyard, off-street parking, and a fourth bedroom that'll make a GREAT walk-in closet once I'm done with it..and all for the low, low price of..... (drumroll, please...)........


That's right, New Yorkers; eat your hearts out... for about $700 a month, we're going to BUY a 4 bedroom home and stop wasting our money on renting a postage-stamp in the Bronx....

There were several other worthy candidates, but this one had it all, except for a big kitchen, and I'm already planning on how we'll extend that by building on, after a couple years....

So, I suppose I'll be packing up once again fairly soon and headin' west, young man... and I want to thank WP2007 for all his help, and even though we didn't get a chance to hookup for that beer JUST YET, rest assured that it WILL be coming son, my friend... and then, we'll have to see about starting up a few Pittsburgh-area A*O / YLAM Meetups!!!

Yeah - - I said it. . . . . YLAM!!!. . . and I mean it, too.... YAAAY, look at MEEEEE; I'm movin, bitches!!!!!!!

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

falling out of love / Dating / 7:59 AM - Wednesday February 13, 2008 Back To Top

will people eventually fall out of love?
im afraid...just when you "think" the relationship is flowing naturally and going well, it breaks like a glass. someone falls out of love with you or they just didn't really love you in the first place.
maybe its more common that you see it coming. but i don't know why. i just find myself being scared of this situation for no apparent reason.

- Asked by laylayla, A Thinker, Female, 29-35, Who Cares?

Who Many? / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 11:15 AM - Friday February 08, 2008 Back To Top


How many A/O members does it take to change a light bulb?

One to change the light bulb and to post that the light bulb has been

Fourteen to share similar experiences of changing light bulbs and how
the light bulb could have been changed differently.

Seven to caution about the dangers of changing light bulbs.

Seven more to point out spelling/grammar errors in posts about
changing light bulbs.

Three to correct spelling/grammar errors.

Six to argue over whether it's "light bulb" or "light bulb".

Another six to condemn those six as stupid.

Fifteen to claim experience in the lighting industry and give the
correct spelling.

Nineteen to post that A/O is not about light bulbs and to
please take this discussion to a light bulb (or light bulb) forum.

Eleven to defend the posting to A/O saying that we all use
light bulbs and therefore the posts are relevant to A/O.

Thirty six to debate which method of changing light bulbs is
superior, where to buy the best light bulbs, what brand of light
bulbs work best for this technique and what brands are faulty.

Seven to post URLs where one can see examples of different light

Four to post that the URLs were posted incorrectly and then post the
corrected URL.

Three to post about links they found from the URLs that are relevant
to A/O which makes light bulbs relevant to A/O.

Thirteen to link all posts to date, quote them in their entirety
including all headers and signatures, and add "Me too".

Five to post to A/O that they will no longer post because they
cannot handle the light bulb controversy.

Four to say "didn't we go through this already a short time ago?"

Thirteen to say "do a Google search on light bulbs before posting
questions about light bulbs."

Three to tell a funny story about their cat and a light bulb.


One A/O lurker to respond to the original post 6 months from now
with something unrelated and start it all over again.

Update: February 08, 2008.
No secret here...I stole it from a post I got from a yahoo group.

- Asked by cubbiegal, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Chicago, Administrative

...and By~Tor Endorses.......... / Race, Religion & Politics / 7:41 AM - Tuesday February 05, 2008 Back To Top

Well, since everyone else is levying their unwanted endorsements, I figured I'd do the same, what with this being "Super Tuesday" and all....

As many know, I espouse mainly conservative viewpoints, although I do have many areas where I'm more of a social liberal.- - - In reality, I am a Libertarian, who believes in the Rights of Individuals over that of Government, to best decide what works best for ourselves.

And as such, and because my OWN candidacy never really got off the ground (even though, as you may remember, I offered to run last year...), I offer:


By~Tor endorses Barack Obama... Barack represents the only real CHANCE for "change" in either party, and being someone who remembers the 8 years of Clintonian fiascoes and constant drama and embarassment that dwarfed anything Bush ever did, I certainly know I don't want a repeat of that mess. That may sound like I'm voting more against Hillary than for Obama, and that's about half-right... but the other half, is that Obama truly is different from most of the pols you see in Congress today, and we all know that we want Washington to change somehow, and be more streamlined, efficient and better represent the WILL OF THE PEOPLE IT SERVES.- - - To me, I have to go with Obama, and at least give the new guy a CHANCE to fail or succeed. . . we already know Clinton failed; why repeat that????

If you are voting Democrat today, I URGE YOU to vote for Obama, for the good of our country.


This one is tougher, because Repubs have to think about which candidate really represents their personal views and ethos... for me, if I could put half or Ron Paul with half of Mike Huckabee, I think we'd have the perfect candidate....

I stand for personal liberty and less governmental interference. But I also believe in abortion rights and some form of health care expansion to those who truly cannot afford any (like me).

But Repubs ALSO have to think about which person actually has a chance to beat out the Democratic nominee, which by all accounts, still seems to be Hillary Clinton and the Clintonistas....

AS SUCH, I think the best chance the right has, is to solidly vote for JOHN MC CAIN.

McCain is the only one who can both beat the Dems AND who has proven over time to be a true bi-partisan who can and has reached "across the aisle" to get things achieved rather than let them languish in gridlock. He makes firm decisions and stands behind them, taking personal responsibility for his choice, which is a rarity in today's Washington. As much as I like Huckabee and Paul, neither has a snowball's chance in hell, but I DO think either would make an OUTSTANDING Vice-Presidential running mate (Hear me, McCain???).

So, if you are voting Republican today, I URGE YOU to vote for John McCain, and vote for a combination of a proven background, a strong military, economic solutions by the private sector rather than by government, and individual liberty that will not be encroached upon further by terror-paranoia.

You now have my endorsements, and I hope above all else, that you vote your conscience today. If you are someone who doesn't pay much attention to politics or care much, then I urge you to not vote at all, because regardless of what MTV tells ya', an uninformed vote IS a "wasted" vote, and does nothing good for the country.

Cheers Kids, and Let The Games Begin!........

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

truth or..... / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 7:32 PM - Monday February 04, 2008 Back To Top

is it just my perception, or is it totally factual that if you don't agree with the poster or most of the respondents, that you are just not in the clique?

- Asked by divadancer2, An Alternative Girl, Female, 46-55, Other Profession

where IS KANAKA ? (besides atop the LIST) / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 8:22 PM - Friday February 01, 2008 Back To Top

Something kinda baffles me... (well obviously?)

We just started off Feb., we have a re-set SUPERSTARS list... My eyes are falling out
from lack of sleep to answer SO MANY POSTS

I do not see KANAKA 's avatar on the board like EVER, yet already he leads the pack and has three times over what I Kill myself trying to amass...

Is there a special board (a hundred points "per") which He & maybe Bytor only, have access to?

Update: February 01, 2008.
OKAY, I truly DON'T GIVE a flying "F" <<< (can you believe I'm editing myself?) but, I never SEE the name up on the baord, and then POOF! "#1" (with points out the arse) so I was a bit curious, to how the scoring's done it don't much matter, but i wondered about that?

- Asked by heroic, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 56-65, Boston, Other Profession

To Nyuszi.... / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 3:37 PM - Thursday January 31, 2008 Back To Top

Dedicated to Nyuszi..... a little bit of Carbon Leaf:

"A Life Less Ordinary"

Live a life less ordinary
Live a life extraordinary with me
Live a life less sedentary
Live a life evolutionary with me
Well I hate to be a bother,
But it's you and there's no other, I do believe
You can call me naive but...
I know me very well (at least as far as I can tell)
And I know what I need.......

The night you came into my life
Well it took the bones of me, took the bones of me
You blew away my storm and strife
And shook the bones of me, shook the bones of me
By the way, I do know why you stayed away...
I will keep tongue-tied next time............

Live a life less ordinary
Live a life extraordinary with me
My face had said too much
Before our hands could even touch
To greet a 'hello'
(So much for going slow...)
A little later on that year
I told you that I loved you dear
What do you know?
This you weren't prepared to hear
I'm a saddened man, I'm a broken boy
I'm a toddler with a complex toy
I've fallen apart, since the ambush of your heart..........

The night you came into my life
Well it took the bones of me, took the bones of me
You blew away my storm and strife
And shook the bones of me, shook the bones of me.
By the way, I do know why you stayed away
I will keep tongue-tied but.........


Honey understand, honey understand
I won't make demands
Honey understand, honey understand
We could walk without a plan.
Honey understand (honey), honey understand
I won't rest in stone all alone
Honey understand, honey understand
I'm all ready to go
But you already know......

Live a life less ordinary
Live a life extraordinary with me.
If I could name you in this song
Would it make you smile and sing along?
This is the goal: to get into your soul
If I could make you dance for joy
Could that be the second-chance decoy?
The bird-in-hand I would need
To help you understand?.........

The night you came into my life
well it took the bones of me, took the bones of me
You blew away my storm and strife
And shook the bones of me, shook the bones of me
By the way, I do know why you stayed away
I will keep tongue-tied next time.......

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

Read or write? / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 9:30 AM - Friday January 25, 2008 Back To Top

On AO, do you spend more time answering questions or reading other people's responses?

- Asked by carinabay, A Cool Mom, Female, 46-55, Lawyer

WTF? / Sex & Intimacy / 5:27 PM - Wednesday January 23, 2008 Back To Top

Thought you might find this of interest. It's the Wikipedia entry for "fuck":

Fuck is an English word that, as a verb, literally means "to have sexual intercourse with." Its use is generally considered censurable and offensive in most formal circles, but may also be rather common or expected in certain situations or social groups.

It is unclear whether the word has always been considered vulgar, and if not, when it first came to be used to describe (often in an extremely angry, hostile or belligerent manner) negative or unpleasant circumstances or people in an intentionally offensive way, such as in the term "motherfucker", one of its more common usages.

Fuck is used not only as a verb (transitive and intransitive), but also as a noun, interjection, and, occasionally, as an expletive infix. The etymology of the word is uncertain (see below).

Sources such as the Oxford English Dictionary contend that the true etymology of fuck is still uncertain but appears to point to an Anglo-Saxon origin.

Flen flyys and freris
The usually accepted first known occurrence is in code in a poem in a mixture of Latin and English composed some time before 1500. The poem, which satirizes the Carmelite friars of Cambridge, England, takes its title, "Flen flyys", from the first words of its opening line, "Flen, flyys, and freris" (= "Fleas, flies, and friars"). The line that contains fuck reads "Non sunt in coeli, quia gxddbov xxkxzt pg ifmk". Removing the substitution cipher[1] on the phrase "gxddbov xxkxzt pg ifmk" yields "non sunt in coeli, quia fvccant vvivys of heli", which translated means "they are not in heaven because they fuck wives of Ely" (fvccant is a fake Latin form).[2] The phrase was coded likely because it accused some Church personnel of misbehaving; it is uncertain to what extent the word "fuck" was considered acceptable at the time.

John le Fucker
A man's name "John le Fucker" is said to be reported from AD 1278, but the report is doubtful: an email discussion on Linguist List says:

This name has been exhaustively argued over ... The "John le Fucker" reference first appears in Carl Buck's 1949 Indo-European dictionary. Buck does not supply a citation as to where he found the name. No one has subsequently found the manuscript in which it is alleged to have appeared. If the citation is genuine and not an error, it is most likely a spelling variant of "fulcher", meaning soldier.[3]

An Anglo-Saxon charter [1] [2] granted by Offa, king of Mercia, dated A.D.772, granting land at Bexhill, Sussex to a bishop, includes the text:

Þonne syndon þa gauolland þas utlandes into Bexlea in hiis locis qui appellantur hiis nominibus: on Berna hornan .iii. hida, on Wyrtlesham .i., on Ibbanhyrste .i., on Croghyrste .viii., on Hrigce .i., on Gyllingan .ii., on Fuccerham 7 and on Blacanbrocan .i., on Ikelesham .iii.;
Then the tax-lands of the outland belonging to Bexley are in these places which are called by these names: at Barnhorne 3 hides, at Wyrtlesham [Worsham farm near Bexhill ] 1, at Ibbanhyrst 1, at Crowhurst 8, at (Rye? The ridge north of Hastings?) 1, at Gillingham 2, at Fuccerham and at Blackbrook [may be Black Brooks in Westfield village just north of Hastings ] 1, at Icklesham 3.
The placename Fuccerham looks like either "the home (ham) of the fucker" or "the enclosed pasture (hamm) of the fucker", who may have been a once-notorious man, or a locally well-known stud male animal.

Older etymology

Via Germanic
The word fuck has cognates in other Germanic languages, such as German ficken (to copulate), Dutch fokken (to breed), dialectical Norwegian fukka (to copulate), and dialectical Swedish focka (to strike, copulate) and fock (penis).

This points to a possible etymology where Common Germanic fuk–, by reverse application of Grimm's law, would have as its most likely Indo-European ancestor *pug–, which appears in Latin and Greek words meaning "fight" and "fist" (cf. the Latin-derived English words pugnacious = "combative", and pugilist = "fighter, boxer"). In early Proto-Germanic the word was likely used at first as a slang or euphemistic replacement for an older word for intercourse, and then became the usual word for intercourse.

The original Indo-European root for to copulate is likely to be *h3yebh– or *h3eybh–, which is attested in Sanskrit yabhati, Russian ????? (yebat'), Polish jebac, and Serbian ?????? (jebati), among others: compare the Greek verb ??f? (oipho) = "I have sexual intercourse with", and the Greek noun ?ef???? (zephuros) (ref. a Greek belief that the west wind caused pregnancy).

From Latin?
Other possible connections are to Latin futuere (almost exactly the same meaning as the English verb "to fuck"); but it would have to be explained how the word reached Scandinavia from Roman contact, and how the t became k. From futuere came French foutre, Catalan fotre, Italian fottere, Romanian futere, vulgar peninsular Spanish follar and joder, and Portuguese foder. However, there is considerable doubt and no clear lineage for these derivations. These roots, even if cognates, are not the original Indo-European word for to copulate, but Wayland Young (who agrees that these words are related) argues that they derive from the Indo-European *bhu– or *bhug– ("be", "become"), or as causative "create" [see Young, 1964]. A possible intermediate might be a Latin 4th-declension verbal noun *futus, with possible meanings including "act of (pro)creating".

(The Spanish verb follar has a different origin: according to Spanish etymologists, it (attested in the 19th century) derives via fuelle ("bellows") from Latin folle(m) < Indo-European *bhel–; the old Spanish verb folgar (attested in the 15th century) derived from Latin follicare, also ultimately from follem/follis.)
A derivation from Latin facere = "to do", "to make" has been suggested.

From Celtic?
A Celtic origin has been suggested: compare Irish bot and Manx bwoid (penis), Common Celtic *bactuere (to pierce), from the root buc– (a point).[citation needed]

From Greek?
Greek phyo (f??) has various meanings, including (of a man) "to beget", or (of a woman), "to give birth to".[4] Its perfect tense pephyka (pef??a) has been likened to "fuck" and its equivalents in other Germanic languages.

False etymologies
One reason that the word fuck is so hard to trace etymologically is that it was used far more extensively in common speech than in easily traceable written forms.

There are several urban-legend false etymologies postulating an acronymic origin for the word. None of these acronyms was ever heard before the 1960s, according to the authoritative lexicographical work, The F-Word, and thus are backronyms. In any event, the word fuck has been in use far too long for some of these supposed origins to be possible. Some of these urban legends are:

That the word fuck came from Irish law. If a couple were caught committing adultery, they would be punished "For Unlawful Carnal Knowledge In the Nude", with "FUCKIN" written on the stocks above them to denote the crime.
That it came from any of:
"Fornication Under Carnal/Cardinal Knowledge"
"Fornication Under [the] Control/Consent/Command of the King"
"Fornication Under the Christian King"
"False Use of Carnal Knowledge"
"Felonious Use of Carnal Knowledge"
"Felonious Unlawful Carnal Knowledge"
"Full-On Unlawful Carnal Knowledge"
"For Unlawful Carnal Knowledge"
"Found Under Carnal Knowledge"
"Forced Unlawful Carnal Knowledge", referring to the crime of rape.
There are unproved stories that fuck arose as an abbreviation of one of the versions containing "unlawful":

In armed forces log books, when reporting courts martial of men accused of homosexual intercourse.[citation needed]
On tombstones around English cemeteries, referring to being put to death for crimes against the state and the church.[citation needed] No such tombstone has been provably found.

Usage history
Main article: History of the word 'fuck'

Early usage
Its first known use as a verb meaning to have sexual intercourse is in "Flen flyys", written around 1475.

William Dunbar's 1503 poem "Brash of Wowing" includes the lines: "Yit be his feiris he wald haue fukkit: / Ye brek my hairt, my bony ane" (ll. 13–14).

Some time around 1600, before the term acquired its current meaning, windfucker was an acceptable name for the bird now known as the kestrel[citation needed].

While Shakespeare never used the term explicitly; he hinted at it in comic scenes in several plays. The Merry Wives of Windsor (IV.i) contains the expression focative case (see vocative case). In Henry V (IV.iv), Pistol threatens to firk (strike) a soldier, a euphemism for fuck. A Midsummer Night's Dream uses the word "foot" to pun on the French equivalent, "foutre".

Rise of modern usage
Though it appeared in John Ash's 1775 A New and Complete Dictionary, listed as "low" and "vulgar", and appearing with several definitions[5], Fuck did not appear in any widely-consulted dictionary of the English language from 1795 to 1965. Its first appearance in the Oxford English Dictionary (along with the word cunt) was in 1972.

In 1928, D. H. Lawrence's novel Lady Chatterley's Lover gained notoriety for its frequent use of the words fuck, fucked, and fucking.

Perhaps the earliest usage of the word in popular music was the 1938 Eddy Duchin release of the Louis Armstrong song "Ol' Man Mose". The words created a scandal at the time, resulting in sales of 170,000 copies during the Great Depression years when sales of 20,000 were considered blockbuster. The verse reads:

(We believe) He kicked the bucket,
(We believe) Yeah man, buck-buck-bucket,
(We believe) He kicked the bucket and ol' man mose is dead,
(We believe) Ahh, fuck it!
(We believe) Buck-buck-bucket,
(We believe) He kicked the bucket and ol' man mose is dead.

The liberal usage of the word (and other vulgarisms) by certain artists (such as James Joyce, Henry Miller, Lenny Bruce, and Peter Cook and Dudley Moore, in their Derek and Clive personas) has led to the banning of their works and criminal charges of obscenity.

After Norman Mailer's publishers convinced him to bowdlerize fuck as fug in his work The Naked and the Dead (1948), Tallulah Bankhead supposedly greeted him with the quip, "So you're the young man who can't spell fuck." In fact, according to Mailer, the quip was devised by Bankhead's PR man. He and Bankhead didn't meet until 1966 and did not discuss the word then. The rock group The Fugs named themselves after the Mailer euphemism.

The science fiction novel That Hideous Strength (1945), by C.S. Lewis, includes lines of dialog with the word bucking used the same way as fugging would be in Mailer's novel, published three years later.

In his novel Ulysses (1922), James Joyce used a sly spelling pun for fuck (and cunt as well) with the doggerel verse:

If you see Kay,
Tell him he may.
See you in tea,
Tell him from me.

Memphis Slim had a melancholy blues about lost love entitled "If You See Kay".

The Catcher in the Rye by J. D. Salinger featured an early use of fuck you in print. First published in the United States in 1951, the novel remains controversial to this day due to its use of the word, standing at number 13 for the most banned books from 1990-2000 according to the American Library Association.[6] The book offers a blunt portrayal of the main character's reaction to the existence of the word, and all that it means.

The Australian vaudeville comedian Roy Rene once had a comedy 'skit' where he would act with another person and would write the letter 'F' on a blackboard (on stage) and then ask his co-actor: 'What letter do you see' to which he would reply: 'K'. Mo would then say: 'Why is it that whenever I write F you see K?'

The first use of the word fuck on British television came on November 13, 1965 on the satirical show BBC-3 (no relation to the present channel of that name). The theatre critic Kenneth Tynan declared, apropos of nothing, that "I doubt if there are any rational people to whom the word 'fuck' would be particularly diabolical, revolting or totally forbidden."[3] Kenneth Tynan was soon-after fired for his free use of the word.[citation needed]

One of the earliest mainstream Hollywood movies to use the word fuck was director Robert Altman's irreverent antiwar film, MASH, released in 1970 at the height of the Vietnam War. During the football game sequence about three-quarters of the way through the film, one of the MASH linemen says to an 8063rd offensive player, "All right, bud, your fuckin' head is coming right off." Also, former Beatle John Lennon's 1971 release "Working Class Hero" featured use of the word, which was rare in music at the time and caused it to, at most, be played only in segments on the radio. In 2007, some 36 years later, Green Day did a cover of Lennon's song, which was censored for radio airplay, with the "Ph.." sound being audible but then phased out.

Former Saturday Night Live cast member Charles Rocket uttered the vulgarity in one of the earliest instances of its use on television, during a 1980 episode of the show, for which he was subsequently fired. [4] [5]

Comedian George Carlin once commented that the word fuck ought to be considered more appropriate, because of its implications of love and reproduction, than the violence exhibited in many movies. He humorously suggested replacing the word kill with the word fuck in his comedy routine, such as in an old movie western: "Okay, sheriff, we're gonna fuck you, now. But we're gonna fuck you slow..." Or, perhaps at a baseball game: "Fuck the ump, fuck the ump, fuck the ump!" More popularly published is his famous "Filthy Words" routine, better known as "Seven Words You Can Never Say On Television."

Use in politics
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Fuck is not widely used in politics, and because of this[citation needed], any use by notable politicians tends to produce controversy. Some events of this nature include:

During the 1968 Democratic National Convention, Chicago mayor Richard Daley became so enraged by a speech from Abraham A. Ribicoff that he shouted "Fuck you, you Jew motherfucker!" Daley would later claim that he was shouting "you fink, you" and calling Ribicoff a "faker."
During a 1971 debate in the House of Commons, Canadian Prime Minister Pierre Trudeau mouthed the words "fuck off" under his breath (perhaps almost silently) at Conservative MP John Lundrigan, while Lundrigan made some comments about unemployment. Afterward, when asked by a television reporter what he said, Mr. Trudeau famously replied "Oh, I don't know... fuddle duddle, or something like that". "Fuddle duddle" consequently became a catchphrase in Canadian media associated with Trudeau.
The first modern use in the British House of Commons came in 1982 when Reg Race, Labour MP for Wood Green, referred to adverts placed in local newsagents by prostitutes which read "Phone them and fuck them". Hansard, the full record of debates, printed "F*** them", but even this euphemism was deprecated by the Speaker, George Thomas.
Shortly after Tony Blair was elected Leader of the Labour Party, the then left-wing Labour MP George Galloway told a public meeting "I don't give a fuck what Tony Blair thinks" when questioned about the party's move to the right.
In late 2003, US presidential candidate Senator John Kerry used the word fuck in an interview with Rolling Stone. Referring to his vote in favor of the resolution authorizing President George W. Bush to use military force in Iraq, Senator John Kerry stated, "I voted for what I thought was best for the country. Did I expect Howard Dean to go off to the left and say, 'I'm against everything'? Sure. Did I expect George Bush to fuck it up as badly as he did? I don't think anybody did."[7]
In June 2004, US Vice President Dick Cheney told Senator Patrick Leahy to either "fuck off" or "go fuck yourself" during an exchange on the floor of the Senate,[8] to which Patrick Leahy cried foul.
In February 2006 (Australia), New South Wales Premier Morris Iemma, while awaiting the start of a COAG media conference in Canberra, was chatting to Victorian Premier Steve Bracks. Not realizing cameras were operating he was recorded as saying "Today? This fuckwit who's the new CEO of the Cross City Tunnel has ... been saying what controversy? There is no controversy."[9] The exchange referred to the newly appointed CEO of a recently-opened toll road within Sydney.
In April 2007, New Zealand Education Minister Steve Maharey said "fuck you" to a fellow MP during parliamentary question time.[10] He apologised shortly afterwards.

Use in marketing
In April 1997, clothing retailer French Connection began branding their clothes "fcuk" (usually written in lowercase). Though they insisted it was an acronym for French Connection United Kingdom, its similarity to the word "fuck" caused controversy.[11] French Connection fully exploited this and produced an extremely popular range of t-shirts with messages such as "fcuk this", "hot as fcuk", "mile high fcuk", "fcuk me", "too busy to fcuk", "fcuk football", "fcuk fashion", "fcuk fear", "fcuk on the beach", "the joy of fcuk", etc. The company recently announced that the "fcuk" label is to be phased out[citation needed].

Freedom of expression
In 1971, the U.S. Supreme Court decided that the mere public display of fuck is protected under the First and Fourteenth Amendments and cannot be made a criminal offense. In 1968, Paul Robert Cohen had been convicted of "disturbing the peace" for wearing a jacket with "FUCK THE DRAFT" on it (in reference to conscription in the Vietnam War). The conviction was upheld by the Court of Appeals and overturned by the Supreme Court. Cohen v. California, 403 U.S. 15 (1971).

In 1983, pornographer Larry Flynt, representing himself before the U.S. Supreme Court in a libel case, shouted, "Fuck this court!" during the proceedings, and then called the justices "nothing but eight assholes and a token cunt" (referring to Justice Sandra Day O'Connor). Chief Justice Warren E. Burger had him arrested for contempt of court, but the charge was later dismissed on a technicality.[12]

Popular usage
In the United States, the Federal Communications Commission fines stations for the broadcast of "indecent language", but in 2003 the agency's enforcement bureau ruled that the airing of the statement "This is really, really fucking brilliant!" by U2 member Bono after receiving a Golden Globe Award was neither obscene nor indecent. As U.S. broadcast indecency regulation only extends to depictions or descriptions of sexual or excretory functions, Bono's use of the word as a mere intensifier was not covered.

In early 2004, the full Commission reversed the bureau ruling, in an order that stated that "the F-word is one of the most vulgar, graphic and explicit descriptions of sexual activity in the English language"; a fine, however, has yet to result. Notwithstanding widespread usage and linguistic analysis to the contrary, the reversal was premised on the conclusion that the word fuck has always referred to sexual activity, a claim that the FCC neither explained nor supported with evidence. Even on cable television, which is not regulated by the FCC, few channels in the United States will broadcast the word fuck due to fear of backlash from advertisers or the FCC.

The British television show T.F.I Friday officially stood for "Thank Four It's Friday" (the reference to Four being Channel Four on which the show was broadcast). However, it was widely understood in fact to stand for "Thank Fuck It's Friday"; it has been suggested that it would have been broadcast with that title had it not been decided to broadcast it before the watershed. The show also holds the record for the most frequent use of the word fuck to a pre-watershed audience, owing to guest Shaun Ryder using the word 9 times whilst impersonating the Sex Pistols' Johnny Rotten, despite the best efforts of Channel 4. Ryder is now the only person to appear by name in the Channel 4 policy document.[13] The show inspired another show named O.F.I Sunday, or "Oh Fuck It's Sunday". Although for decades the word was widely considered taboo on British television, at most only appearing in late night programmes and films on secondary channels BBC Two and Channel Four, and even then edited or faded out on occasion; by 2006 there appear to be few limitations on the use of the word after the 9pm watershed, and it is commonly used.

Band names
The word fuck has been used in a number of band names. And although most of these bands are in the aggressive, non-mainstream genres of punk and metal -- Fucked Up, Fuck... I'm Dead, Fuck the Facts, Total Fucking Destruction, the Fucking Wrath and The Fucking Champs -- bands like Holy Fuck and Fuck fall into the categories of more accessible forms of electronic rock and pop.[14]

Common alternatives
Main article: Minced oath
In conversation or writing, reference to or use of the word fuck may be replaced by any of a large list of alternative words or phrases, including "the F-word" or "the F-Bomb" (a play on A-Bomb / H-Bomb), or simply, "eff" (as in "What the eff!" or "You eff-ing fool!"). In addition, there are many commonly used substitutes, such as flipping, frigging, fricking, freaking, fire-truck or any of a number of similar sounding nonsense words. It may also be called "F-sharp" (as in the musical note)[citation needed] or "the Effenheimer". The overuse of swear words is often called "F-ing and blinding". In print, there are alternatives such as, "F***", "F - - k", etc.; or the use of a string of non-alphanumeric characters, for example, "@$#*%!" (especially favored in comic books).

In the popular 1983 film, A Christmas Story, Ralph, the main character, says the offensive word, but written into the script is its own censorship, for the audience only hears the boy say fudge. The highly popular comedy Meet the Parents spawned a 2004 sequel with the eponymous title, Meet the Fockers.

In some television science fiction shows, altered versions of the word have been created to allow characters to express themselves without getting into trouble with the censors. For example, in Farscape the word is frell, and in Battlestar Galactica the word is frack, while Red Dwarf uses smeg in a similar context. In the series Firefly, the characters will often switch to Mandarin to swear, frequently using the word "Gorram" and derivatives as a replacement for 'Fuck', 'Shit, and 'Damn it', again avoiding any accusations of indecency. A similar ploy was used in the Irish sitcom Father Ted, where the characters regularly say feck (although the term was not invented by the show's creators and is actually considered acceptable slang in Ireland).

In the science-fiction Future Dystopic British comic 2000 AD and Judge Dredd the words 'Drokk' and 'Stomm' were created by the authors to avoid the censorship issue during the 1970s, whilst also creating expletives that still had the cathartic release mechanism by the way it sounded when voiced by the main character.

In the science fiction series by Douglas Adams, The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy, the word fuck is replaced in common usage by the characters as zark. In the book So Long, and Thanks for All the Fish, the narrator openly uses the word in the sexual connotation. In the original version of Life, the Universe and Everything the word is a basis of a short joke. In the U.S. version, however, it is replaced with the word Belgium and a scene from the radio series involving that word is added almost verbatim, although in a completely different context.[15]

In the popular NBC television series Scrubs, female doctor Elliot Reid consistently uses the word "frick."

A common replacement word used mainly on the internet is "fsck", derived from the name of the Unix file system checking utility.

Other languages
The word "fuck" is touted to be one of the few 'universal' words that can be uttered in any country in the world and yet be understood by anyone. Even so different countries do have their own versions.

In Afrikaans, the slang word fok has been adopted as an Afrikaans equivalent of fuck (and fokkof as "fuck off"), due to the influence of English media and language in South Africa. Coincidentally, the Afrikaans word neuk, which resembles the Dutch neuken, is used in the context of to strike. In Afrikaans the strong expletive for sexual intercourse has always been and remains naai.[citation needed]

Chinese languages
The Shanghainese verb and adjective ?? fage is derived from the English "fuck" and is used in the exasperated context of things or people "fucking up" or "being difficult." Although fage is often used pejoratively, the term has lost its sexual connotations. In Cantonese, the slang word ? diu2 is used in a similar way as the English word "fuck." Similar terms in Mandarin are ? cào (sometimes written ?), ? (simplified ?) gàn, and ? gao, the latter used more commonly in Taiwan.

In Dutch, the cognate fokken means "to breed". In the past fokken was sometimes used to indicate sexual intercourse, but this is no longer the case. The literal translation of English "fuck" is neuken, and naaien (literally, "to sew") is a milder form roughly equivalent to "screw". The equivalent of "fucking" used as an all-purpose meaningless expletive is klote (kloten is a crude word for "testicles").

Recently a slang word "modderfokker" (literally: "one who breeds mud") has developed in imitation of English "motherfucker".

In French, the word for seal (the animal) is phoque; the word for foresail is foc. Their pronunciation in French resembles that of the word fuck in English. In France, phoque or foc sounds like the British pronunciation of fuck while in Québec French, they sound like the North American English pronunciation, due to regional influences (although this actually is coincidental, and neither term has any relation to the English word). As well, the English term has been adopted as the adjective fucké, a slang term commonly used in Québec French to describe something that is broken or off-kilter, or someone who is not in their right mind. It is not considered particularly offensive.

In Québec, the French word tabernacle, meaning the church tabernacle, is often used in the same way as fuck in English, except in sexual-related usage. It is only used as interjection, noun or adverb. Other Québécois-French swear words (which are pretty much all of clergical origin) such as Christ, calice (chalice) and hostie (communion wafer or host) are much more versatile, particularly when used in combination. Although commonly used, these terms are considered much worse since they are blasphemous, rather than merely vulgar (the words would be comparable to the use of goddammit in the English language). They are widely used as the only remaining part of the backlash against the domination of Québec society by the Roman Catholic church, which lasted until the "Quiet Revolution" of the 1960s.

Note that in Québec French, English swearwords such as "shit" (or the French equivalent, merde) and "fuck" are considered to be much less offensive than if used in the same context for an English speaking person, since they are merely vulgar, or crude, and not blasphemous.

The French word foutre is an approximate translation to "fuck". It was commonly used as an interjection during the French Revolution, and often printed in some newspapers of this period. It is now mainly used in the passive participle adjectival form foutu(e) = "fucked".

The word "to fuck" literally translates as ficken, but the force of "fuck" usually equates with Scheiße (shit), or Mist (crap or manure). Nonetheless the exclamation "fuck" itself has been borrowed into German as a swear word and is in occasional to frequent use among some (especially younger) Germans. Ficken is used much in the same way fuck is used in English and has a pronounced vulgar meaning for other (especially older) speakers.

Official censorship for language or voluntary "self-censorship" is far less common in German. The using of alternative expressions like "the F word" is highly uncommon (although Scheiße may be sometimes seen as Sch...). In addition, geographical regions differ with respect to usage and perceived profanity of swear words.[citation needed]

In the German language there are germanized forms of the word, like the pseudo-anglicism abgefuckt "fucked up". German as a language, especially in colloquial and often young slang, borrows deeply from English, including a limited number of English swear words; the two most common examples are fuck and shit (although North German Schiete also means "shit," but is not a loan word). Scheiße is fairly well understood as an expletive among English speakers, although often mis-pronounced with medial [z] instead of [s].

The verb ficken is historically used also in a non-sexual context, but still is related to friction. Examples include:

ein Schwert ficken: the process of cleaning Slag, Tinder and Ash off a Sword's blade after blacksmithing it; this is done by hanging a Sandbag from the ceiling, lancing the blade through it and then quickly moving the sword back and forth until the blade is clean
More recently, the abbreviation FAQ has been used on German websites and forums, for example on the German wikipedia subsite. The pronunciation is not clearly defined: each letter can be pronounced separately or as one syllable (, which is similar to the English pronunciation of fuck). To avoid confusion regarding the abbreviation in itself, the acronym FAQ is generally changed into the full term "Frequently Asked Questions" or into the literal German translation "Häufig gestellte Fragen" in formal everyday speech.

The English fuck can be used in Interlingua, given its widespread, international use. The actual Interlingua words for to fuck, however, are fottar and futuer.

Japanese has the word fakku (????, fakku?). The term is a foreign loan from English, but the pronunciation has been adapted to the Japanese phonology. Semantic usage is not as broad as English as it is only used as a slang term for sexual intercourse.[16]

Korean has the word ssipal (??), ssip'al (??) for a strong expression, and the word chonna (??, ??) or yot mogita (? ???) for a weak expression. Those are Korean translations from the English word "fuck". Koreans rarely say "fuck" (p'ok ?) in their daily life, but they say "fuck you" (p'ok'yu ??) instead. Some Korean emoticons like "?" , "?-o-?", "?" are also used over the internet.

The above Korean romanisations were from the McCune-Reischauer system for romanising Hangul.

In Norwegian, the word fokk means either foresail or something that gets blown in strong wind; drifting snow (snøfokk) or streaks of foam and spray at sea.[17] A Norwegian expletive which is somewhat analogous to the English fuck is the word faen. This is short for fanden, a Norwegian word for devil.[citation needed] Knulle or pule is the most vulgar Norwegian colloquialism describing sexual intercourse. It is also common to use fuck in Norwegian conversations, like "fuck dette, jeg vil gjøre noe annet", ("fuck this, I want to do something else").[citation needed]

In Swedish, the morpheme fack is pronounced almost identically to the English fuck, and means a box or compartment, for example a letterbox for internal mail. As a prefix, the morpheme fack refers to something pertaining to a certain trade or profession, for example in the words facklitteratur (literature pertaining to a certain profession) and fackförening (trade union, colloquially referred to as facket (= "the fack")).

Fuck can also be used in colloquial Swedish as an English loan word, with basically the same meanings as in English.[18]

In the Welsh language fuck has been transliterated as ffwc or ffwcio which is basically pronounced the same and has the same meaning as in English.

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

growing apart / Married Life / 12:46 PM - Wednesday January 23, 2008 Back To Top

My parents were one of those couples who split up after being married over 25 years. This seems to be fairly common and many will say "we just grew apart". My question is how does a couple prevent this from happening? How do they make sure that they "grow together"? Is this even something the couple has control over?

- Asked by eccentrica, A Hippie Chick, Female, 36-45

According to Bytor / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 6:25 PM - Wednesday January 16, 2008 Back To Top

....and on the 8th day God said, OK Bytor, you take over.

- Asked by themamu, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, Who Cares?

Little-Known Facts About Me............ / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 6:10 PM - Wednesday January 16, 2008 Back To Top

Here's a couple you probably didn't know:

* Born in Dallas, April 1967.

* Mensa-Confirmed IQ of 190 - Age 13

* Former Lead Vocalist / Songwriter for Frozen Rose

* Three divorces, three kids, and no regrets...

* Comes on here primarily to help others if he can, and to be a smart-ass the rest of the time, but everything said is said either in the spirit of fun, or with love in my heart for the multitude of "strangers" I have decided to allow into my life on here....

* Believes wholly, in the theory that the Karma you create DOES ALWAYS come back to you, when you most need it but least expect it.

* Unrepentant smoker, drinker and YLAMMER...

* Biggest Fear is dying before I get the chance to make up to my kids, for not being there with them as they grew up.

* Biggest dream: To own a home in the mountains and have my family near me over a snowy Christmas Eve.

* Life Motto: There's a little pile of ashes where my old life used to be
Credit cards and memories all dumped into the sea
Well this ain't no time for bullshit as I fly into the sun
Well you can't trust anybody if you can't trust number one

Well the man tells me my future, their's not so far away
And get ready for tomorrow, I gotta waste my whole today
My inner luck knows better, it's what I wanna hear
Just like a diamond bullet where it's crystal (crystal) clear

Oh yeah

I can slap a tornado
I can dry up a sea, yeah
When I live for the moment
There ain't no (ain't no) with me

NOW!----YOUR TURN!!!!!!

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

Online Feuds and Distrust / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 4:48 PM - Wednesday January 16, 2008 Back To Top

Those who know what I'm talking about know that there's been many online feuds on here, basically caused by issues of mistrust, over the years.

Some people may use alternate ID's to hurt other people, while others just get all-out postal on others they disagree with.... whatever the reason, I find it sad, that we can't all come here each day, and just have fun being smartasses and helping others out with their life-issues, without resorting to creating dramas for ourselves and others.

There was one incident in particular, about a year or so ago, wherein a faked illness caused a BUNCH of people to start mistrusting each other, and it has harmed many online friendships that COULD have been....

As one of the biggest resident Smart-Asses on here, I want to offer my mediation if desired, and I hope that we can all somehow get to communicate with each other, in a way that will dispel all the rumors and innuendo, and start the "healing" process, so that we can get back to doing what we do best on here, without all the bashing and name calling..... there's alot of different personalities on here, and sometimes, we ALL suck.....

But then again, sometimes, we all can also do things much greater than we ever knew we could......

Update: January 16, 2008.
Just so you guys know, this is not about any ONE feud, and is not meant as that - - it's a general question, hopefully designed to help bring a general end to all the general bullshit! Just saying there was one instance a long time back which caused the root problem which has lead to increased mistrust amongst so many more people......

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

untitled / Sex & Intimacy / 12:44 PM - Tuesday January 15, 2008 Back To Top

just wondering

y do people get hard when they get turned on

thnx so much


- Asked by Female, 29-35

What to do...What to do / Race, Religion & Politics / 4:48 PM - Monday January 14, 2008 Back To Top

Ok, here's my dilemma...

Next Sunday at 3:00 my pastor is being ordained. This is a once in a lifetime event for him. My husband is the deacon chairman and assistant pastor and I am up for election as a deacon and I teach preschool Sunday School so we are deeply involved with the church and MUST attend the ordination.

My dilemma comes in because the Pats are playing the Chargers next Sunday at 3:00.

Do you think it would be too disrespectful to slip out after the ordination and skip the luncheon so I can catch the rest of the game?

Should I mention that I am also social committee chair and am responsible for setting up this luncheon. Oh woe is me!

I know I could tape it but it just wont be the same as watching it in real time.

Any and all advice will be considered.

Update: January 14, 2008.
Dash it all! Looks like it's the DVR. Maybe with a little prayer, I can catch the 4th quarter. Pats will win anyway...but I love the excitement of the game. I have to put my priorities in order, but I'm bringing a radio and may have to go to the bathroom more often than normal! I'm sure there will be plenty of guys there wanting to know the score.

- Asked by mistyjean, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Self-Employed

That is all / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 4:43 PM - Monday January 14, 2008 Back To Top

Don't ya hate getting jerked for providing factual information?

- Asked by leah178999, An Engaged Girl, Female, 29-35, Atlanta, Student

Breast Awareness Month?..... A Good Idea? / Sex & Intimacy / 12:13 PM - Monday January 14, 2008 Back To Top

We have "Breast Cancer Awareness" month.....

Wouldn't it make sense to also just have "Breast Awareness" month?

Us men could walk around wearing little ribbons with two little boobies on them, and anytime we run across a gal, we could point at their breasts, and let them know we're "aware" of them!!

Hell, I could see all sorts of activities to commemorate the month, and even competitions, to see who could describe the most amount of different breasts... kinda' like birding, only with boobs....

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

Time To Short Sell / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 5:13 PM - Friday January 11, 2008 Back To Top

Do you think the investors in the Dow-Jones are expressing their opinion on the coming election?

Do you think they fear Obama and are selling accordingly?

- Asked by llafsroh, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 46-55, Boston, Science / Engineering

is he "good"? / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 2:24 AM - Friday January 11, 2008 Back To Top

What do you think of adguru? In his pictures he looks so nice with his sweet and pretty wife, but then I've seen him write some nasty things. Does he just "call it like it is?". Is this a good approach?

- Asked by Female, 29-35

Am I being Unreasonable .. ?? / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 9:41 AM - Thursday January 10, 2008 Back To Top

My husband has this "friend" who is an alcoholic. He comes to our house to get drunk because his room mate is in AA and has declared his home a "No Drink" zone. In addition to the alcohol, he does some heavy drugs (not at our house but sometimes comes over after having done them elsewhere). He does however bring pot over and my husband smokes outside with him because I don't want my kids involved.

I'm beginning to get uncomfortable with this every (for the most part) day arrangement though and now that I have found out there could be legal consequences for me and my property should my neighbor see them out there, I'm even less comfortable.

I tried to tell my husband my feelings on this, that some of the neighbors are beginning to ask questions because they know his friend's reputation and how I don't want social services showing up, or the police, because of him being here all of the time, not to mention I'm tired of my home getting messed up when his friend is over here sloppy drunk, nor do I like the way he behaves in front of my children when he is messed up. My husband told me I was overreacting and then he got p*ssed at me for saying that he was sounding like someone who could care less what our kids get exposed to, then he accused me of running "hot and cold" because I use to not mind about his friend. This is true, it use to not be a big deal to me but that was before I realised just how frequently his friend is messed up and that sort of reputation that follows him around. My husband's response, " There was a time you didn't care what anyone thought." and my reply was, "That's true, but I was young, had no children and nothing to be lost either, you can't compare that time to the present."

Needless to say he is angry with me and feels I am being unfair, that I am dictating who his friends are and who he can invite to our home. I don't see myself as being that way, am I wrong?

- Asked by Female, 46-55

untitled / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 6:54 PM - Wednesday January 09, 2008 Back To Top

Okay, so I guess I'll cruise outta' here for now, maaaans and maaanettes... thanks for the love and all, and I'll pop back in whenever injustice strikes, duuuude!


- Asked by seattlicus, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Artist / Musician / Writer

Know it all???? / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 10:04 AM - Wednesday January 09, 2008 Back To Top

Has it become politically incorrect on Answerology to say anything negative about the young?

And conversely....Has it become fashionable for young members to target insults at our elder A*ologists?

News flash...You may THINK that YOU know it all, but no one does.

- Asked by drumboi2, A Guy Critical, Male, 56-65

just cause I can Huckabiotch.... / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 7:11 PM - Tuesday January 08, 2008 Back To Top

When Chuck Norris plays Oregon Trail his family does not die from cholera or dysentery, but rather roundhouse kicks to the face. He also requires no wagon, since he carries the oxen, axels, and buffalo meat on his back. He always makes it to Oregon before you.

Rather than being birthed like a normal child, Chuck Norris instead decided to punch his way out of his mother's womb. Shortly thereafter he grew a beard.

Chuck Norris recently had the idea to sell his urine as a canned beverage. We know this beverage as Red Bull.

Chuck Norris sold his soul to the devil for his rugged good looks and unparalleled martial arts ability. Shortly after the transaction was finalized, Chuck roundhouse kicked the devil in the face and took his soul back. The devil, who appreciates irony, couldn't stay mad and admitted he should have seen it coming. They now play poker every second Wednesday of the month.

To prove it isn't that big of a deal to beat cancer. Chuck Norris smoked 15 cartons of cigarettes a day for 2 years and aquired 7 different kinds of cancer only to rid them from his body by flexing for 30 minutes. Beat that, Lance Armstrong.

The original theme song to the Transformers was actually "Chuck Norris--more than meets the eye, Chuck Norris--robot in disguise," and starred Chuck Norris as a Texas Ranger who defended the earth from drug-dealing Decepticons and could turn into a pick-up. This was far too much awesome for a single show, however, so it was divided into two shows.

Chuck Norris lives by only one rule: No fat Chicks.

Chuck Norris once shot a German plane down with his finger, by yelling, "Bang!"

A man once asked Chuck Norris if his real name is "Charles". Chuck Norris did not respond, he simply stared at him until he exploded.

Chuck Norris does not sleep. He waits.

Chuck Norris can make a woman climax by simply pointing at her and saying "booya".

Before each filming of Walker: Texas Ranger, Chuck Norris is injected with five times the lethal dose of elephant tranquilzer. This is, of course, to limit his strength and mobility, in an attempt to lower the fatality rate of the actors he fights.

Chuck Norris found out about Conan O'Brien's lever that shows clips from "Walker: Texas Ranger" and is working on a way to make it show clips of Norris having sex with Conan's wife.

The chief export of Chuck Norris is pain.

Chuck Norris doesn't have normal white blood cells like you and I. His have a small black ring around them. This signifies that they are black belts in every form of martial arts and they roundhouse kick the crap out of viruses. That's why Chuck Norris never gets ill.

One of the greatest cover-ups of the last century was the fact that Hitler did not commit suicide in his bunker, but was in fact tea-bagged to death by Chuck Norris.

Chuck Norris is currently suing NBC, claiming Law and Order are trademarked names for his left and right legs.

After much debate, President Truman decided to drop the atomic bomb on Hiroshima rather than the alternative of sending Chuck Norris. His reasoning? It was more "humane".

If you can see Chuck Norris, he can see you. If you can't see Chuck Norris you may be only seconds away from death.

Chuck Norris clips his toenails with a chain saw. But he holds it backwards.

Chuck Norris’s belly button is actually a power outlet.

Chuck Norris has a pet kitten - every night for a snack.

A Handicap parking sign does not signify that this spot is for handicapped people. It is actually in fact a warning, that the spot belongs to Chuck Norris and that you will be handicapped if you park there.

Many don’t know this, but Peter Jackson is coming out with a sequel to “King Kong” known as “Chuck Norris”. He’s currently having trouble finding other cast members.

Chuck Norris refers to sex as core training.

Chuck Norris doesn’t have a shadow, light avoids him at all costs.

chuck norris doesn’t milk cows…he roundhouse kicks them in the face ’til the bucket gets filled.

Ask not what Chuck Norris can do for you. But what you can do for Chuck Norris

Aliens do exist, they are just waiting for Chuck Norris to die before they attack

If you ask Chuck Norris what time it is, he always says, “Two seconds till.” but before you can ask “Two seconds to what?” he roundhouse kicks you in the face.

Chuck Norris doesn’t read books, hes stares them down until they give him the information.

Chuck Norris does not go hunting. the word hunting infers the probability of failure. Chuck Norris goes killing.

Chuck Norris is 1/8th Cherokee. This has nothing to do with ancestry, the man ate a fucking Indian.

According to Einstein’s theory of relativity, Chuck Norris can actually roundhouse kick you yesterday

The quickest way to a man’s heart is with Chuck Norris’s fist.

Chuck Norris never actually shoots a gun…in reality he roundkicks the bullets into his enemies.

When the Boogeyman goes to sleep every night he checks his closet for Chuck Norris.

Chuck Norris always has sex on the first date. Always.

If Chuck Norris is late, time better slow the fuck down.

To save money on executions, the State of Texas is considering death by Chuck Norris instead of lethal injection.

Bullets dodge Chuck Norris.

Chuck Norris’ stock trades publicly on NASDAQ under the name “Chuck Norris, LTD.” His four-digit stock symbol is “PAIN”.

Chuck Norris doesn’t pay for anything. Instead, he hands cashiers a note that says “I’ll kill your children and use their corpses as ventriloquist dolls.”

Before invading Iraq, the US government considered sending in Chuck Norris solo, but they didn’t want to get accused of committing crimes against humanity.

Chuck Norris doesn’t have to shave, all he has to do is flex his face muscles.

The leading cause of death in the U.S. is Chuck Norris.

If you’re still alive, its because Chuck Norris hasn’t gotten around to killing you… yet.

Chuck Norris was responsible for the Holocaust. The fact that all the people were Jewish was merely a coincidence.

According to the Bible, Jesus Christ died to save us from our sins. In the original translation, “sins” was Aramaic for “Chuck Norris.”

When Chuck Norris runs with scissors, other people get hurt.

When Chuck Norris starts having sex with other men, it’s not because he’s gay. It’s because he ran out of women.

Sharks don’t live in the ocean because they breathe water. Sharks live in the ocean because Chuck Norris doesn’t.

There are only two kinds of people in the world besides Chuck Norris: people too afraid to fight him and mutilated dead people.

Chuck Norris is Darth Vader on the weekends.

Video didn’t kill the radio star, Chuck Norris did…

Chuck Norris got kicked out of the marine corp for making his drill instructor cry

Chuck Norris’ blood is, in fact, not blood at all, but a rich, smokey-sweet barbeque sauce.

On the 6th day God created Chuck Norris.
On the 7th day God did not rest, he was knocked unconscious by way of roundhouse kick for not creating Chuck Norris on the first day.

Chuck Norris’s birth was supposed to herald the apocalypse. The other four horsemen are simply late.

Chuck Norris donates blood every day. But its never his.

- Asked by maleficpresence, A Guy Critical, Male, 46-55, Chicago, Technical

Need Legal advice! / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 6:30 PM - Tuesday January 08, 2008 Back To Top

Any Lawyers here? On Sat my apt said it would allow me to pay my rent over my next 2 checks, today I get home and I have a 3 day notice to get the F out or forfeit my possessions inside!!! Can they do this? I have been here 8 yrs and never have been late with my rent....

- Asked by kmf1, A Life of the Party, Female, 46-55, Minneapolis, Who Cares?

How To Tell If He Is Really Interested? / Dating / 5:12 PM - Tuesday January 08, 2008 Back To Top

How do I know if a certain guy likes me?

- Asked by shybutbold26, A Cool Mom, Female, 29-35, Oklahoma City, Administrative

Congrats to Bytorrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!!! / Friendship / 10:40 AM - Tuesday January 08, 2008 Back To Top

Give him a big hand, he has worked hard to become the most colorful and recognized person here on Aology!!

Way to go bro! Now you are a lifer with Rexy, Lina and I!

Oh and by the way, my wife was going to "expose" guys just should have gotten off the subway when we did! LOL

- Asked by kanaka, A Life of the Party, Male, 46-55, Dallas, Executive

The 100K club has another member!!!!!! / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 10:23 AM - Tuesday January 08, 2008 Back To Top

Well, I missed it.....

".....All-time Rating: 100005...."

My computer screwed up on me, and now, I've crossed over the vaunted 100,000 point threshhold here, and I don't even know where it came from!


Well, in any event, a HUGE "Thank You" to everyone who has been so generous to me, and I only hope I have given you half as much fun and enjoyment as you have given me, over the last year and 3/4's....

I will reason to assume I hit 100K faster than anyone (yet....), so at least I have THAT A*O record to hold onto, for awhile yet.... LOL!

Anyway, seeing as now I've (supposedly) earned a free lifetime membership here, I suppose you guys had better get used to seeing me here..... looks like we're gonna' grow old together!!!!

Thanks again, and Party On, Garth!!!!

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

BT / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 10:07 AM - Tuesday January 08, 2008 Back To Top

By~tor needs 8 points to reach 10,000...give him a star! Congrats

- Asked by nowornever, A Thinker, Female, 66 or older, Financial / Banking

Brother Bytor hitting 100K!!!!!!!!!! / Friendship / 9:30 AM - Tuesday January 08, 2008 Back To Top

Here comes number 4 to hit 100k, number 1 in your hearts!!

My question is about aology friends......would you spend vacation time, with your family, with a friend from here? I know I have! Exposing my wife to Bytor and Steve67.....what the hell was I thinkin''??? LOL

Have a great day everyone!

Update: January 08, 2008.
By the way, I didn't mean VACATION together, I meant "While on your vacation, would you spend time with a friend from here....WITH your family!".

- Asked by kanaka, A Life of the Party, Male, 46-55, Dallas, Executive

January 8th, 2008 - A MOMENTUS DAY!! / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 5:27 PM - Monday January 07, 2008 Back To Top

In honor of Elvis' Birthday tomorrow, january 8th, I, "By~Tor the Almighty King of the Ice and Snow" shall obtain my 100,000th overall point on here, thus joining a fairly exclusive club

Since no one will apparently notice this vast overachievement on their own, I shall be the one to offer up the "YLAM" in my own honor, as only "The King" would do....

You shall all eat Peanut Butter and Banana Sandwiches, in honorarium........

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

Back from the Land of the Banned! / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 5:29 PM - Wednesday January 02, 2008 Back To Top

I actually did it!

I got BANNED!!

Anyway I've learned not to criticise the site or the mods since they are only human and while they pull posts that are good they also clean up the board of other crap!

Nice to be back and hopefully speak to u all soon!

Take care

chilled ;)

Update: January 02, 2008.
this is what i got banned for - so be careful what u say and keep this place clean :) Hi there, looks like you got banned, perhaps because of your post below: "Mods on this site are shit! I bet MY post here will get pulled but this dickhead gets to keep posting homophobic stuff. Sometimes the management here really pisses me off with the way they let idiots post and allow some people to see the identity of 'anonymous' people who are revealing deeply personal things. " I'm sorry you're upset. If you have a problem with how things are run, please feel free to let me know. Calling the mods "shit" is no way to treat other community members who help patrol the site. They're human and they make mistakes. If they make one, just let us know and we'll corect it. Saying that we "allow some people to see the identity of 'anonymous' people" should never be posted because it is untrue. If you'd like to be unbanned just let me know. james

- Asked by chilledoutboy, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 22-25

Well Oiled / Sex & Intimacy / 4:10 PM - Monday December 31, 2007 Back To Top

Its nearly new years here in lil ole england and i feel like confetting the stars tell me you like monicas legs hair shoes tits or any damned s**t !!

- Asked by tiddler, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 56-65, Lawyer

Who is the police for the police? / Race, Religion & Politics / 11:18 AM - Friday December 28, 2007 Back To Top

Why do corrupt police officers get the opportunity to resign from there current position so they can get a new job in adjoining counties or cities as police officers? Is this not called passing the trash, and what does this say for our the ones who are suppose to be protecting our constitutional rights?

- Asked by A Guy Critical, Male, 56-65, Atlanta, Retired

take our own advice? / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 8:39 AM - Friday December 28, 2007 Back To Top

Can you honestly say that the advice you give on here, is something that you actually follow, that you would take your own advice? I don't think its so true. I see a lot of people tell others in a relationship to give it up over such minor things, or those who deal w/ cheaters or possible cheaters say don't deal with it and move on (but honestly, most people do deal with it and try to work things out). I think we are quick to tell advice, b/c we are outsiders looking in, but when it actually comes down to it, we wouldn't be so quick to take our own advice. What are your thoughts?

- Asked by Female, 29-35

Your Parcel of Info For the Day!!!! / Sex & Intimacy / 6:45 PM - Thursday December 20, 2007 Back To Top

Okay.... more STACY....

So there's this hot skinny girl I work with her and her mother and her trailermates, and we went to the rodeo last night and STACY decided she'd rather be at the all-night bingo hall instead. Rather than wait for the barrel-racing to get finished, she hopped in thye truck (her truck, of course) and took off, leaving us there, miles away from anywhere! The nerve of her! So I, after a fifty mile hitchhike home, where I had to blow two truckers and a cabbie, got my rifle and after filling it up with buckshot, went over to her condo (yes, she had a CONDO!!!) and when she opened up the door, I splattered her head all over the freshly-painted mocha walls. I then hid the body down in the swamp behind my trailer park and I hope that she decomposes before Anne starts looking for her. MY QUESTION: Do you agree with me?...........

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

untitled / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 1:57 PM - Thursday December 20, 2007 Back To Top

A couple of posts today- on on "cougars", and a POP on female driving, got me thinking....It's like some YA-YA sisterhood or secret sorority...and no offense to the gals.

Why is it always that the gals hop on the defense when something even ~mildly~ negative is said about a woman? (Not that I condone them).

It just seems seems male-bashing has become the point where it seems it's almost a hobby.

People are people, good and bad, of every kind.

Just my $.02. Thoughtful responses appreciated...

Update: December 20, 2007.
Thanks folks. Some great thoughts for sure. What a great bunch of people here ;)

- Asked by lashernyc1, A Rebel, Male, 36-45, New York, Technical

Soapbox Moment / Sex & Intimacy / 12:20 PM - Thursday December 20, 2007 Back To Top

I just wanted to say that I am in absolute wonderful love with the most awesome wonderful guy! And I still can't believe even after two years of being together that he's in love with me!

He is the answer to my prayers, and then some, in what I've wanted and needed in a significant other: supportive, sweet, communicative, funny, intelligent, wise, devoted, affectionate, loving, sexy, sensual, warm, family oriented, fun, I could go on & on...

He is the best guy for me, and I strive to be everything he needs and wants in a significant other. I look forward to every day sharing with him, and spending the rest of our lives together.

Love You, Baby!!!!

- Asked by gildalilly, A Trendsetter, Female, 36-45, Pittsburgh, Administrative

Star Light Star Bright / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 8:10 AM - Thursday December 20, 2007 Back To Top

Don't you just love it when a member rewards your answer to their question with a "STAR" .... then decided later to give it to someone else !!!


- Asked by wetwired, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 29-35, Vancouver, Who Cares?

All I want for Christmas ... / Sex & Intimacy / 10:28 PM - Monday December 17, 2007 Back To Top

For Stacy, wherever she may be ...

I got a sweater for Christmas. I really wanted a moaner or a screamer, but I had to settle.

- Asked by regnadkcin, A Father Figure, Male, 56-65, Boston, Artist / Musician / Writer

Stacy and Anne about to throw hands / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 8:27 PM - Monday December 17, 2007 Back To Top

More Stacy. STACY SMELLS LIKE BRIE AFTER IT'S BEEN LEFT OUT IN THE HOT SUN FOR TWO DAYS. Stacy was wearing a down coat because she wanted go go shoplifting and she needed a place to stuff the sweaters. Today while Stacy was at the 99 cent store getting the sweaters a woman walked up with a clothespin on her nose. So one woman (who I will call Anne for purposes of this story) told the clothespin woman to "Step off, ho, if you know what's good for you." Stacy began to cry.

Stacy stopped to thank Anne for stopping the other woman from wearing the clothespin on her nose in front of Stacy. Anne replied “You are welcome provided you wash that smelly ass of yours. Try using a sweater and some liquid chlorox. It is large and toxic.” Stacy said “But I am stanky” Anne replied “Well so am I. Well I really am not stanky but I might be able to get out the door without setting off the shoplifting alarm.” Stacy said “Do you think I stank?" and Anne replied “NO way”. Then a few minutes passed and Stacy said “I'm turning your ass in to the Crips." I told Stacy no Anne was not saying that at all. Anne even told you that and that other woman could have been talking to any one. MY QUESTION: DO YOU agree/concur with me.

- Asked by longducdong10, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 46-55, Los Angeles, Financial / Banking

untitled / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 8:15 PM - Monday December 17, 2007 Back To Top


- Asked by carnivalqueen, An Alternative Girl, Female, 36-45, Who Cares?

boring live with boring girls / Sex & Intimacy / 7:21 PM - Monday December 17, 2007 Back To Top

i think the girls here are not horny girls,all they want to talk about is there trouble lives.they don't like having fun on there cams ether,all the girls here must live a boring life.this question will stir up lots off girls.

Update: December 17, 2007.
well girls thanks for all your response but like i said i am lookinf for girls who want fun,so if there are girls out there who want to have the fun i di ,well you know what to do,buy and i thank all the girls who responed to my question

Update: December 17, 2007.
maybe your one of the girls who lives that boring live,i di9d to but i got up and said enough,i want to have fun,and there a girls out there who want the sme ,when i find them then baby i will.and noty pay money to girls just to get your rocks off eather.

- Asked by hotpantyboy12, A Guy Critical, Male, 36-45

What's with them? Why do it? / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 2:40 AM - Sunday December 16, 2007 Back To Top

How do you deal with jerks? People that PM or POP you just to be inflammatory!

- Asked by Female, 36-45

My Little Buddy / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 2:58 PM - Thursday December 13, 2007 Back To Top

How about the Torn award?

A YLAM Production.

Update: December 13, 2007.
They hate me for my freedom. But the terrorists from Ylamistan will never win if we don't give in to their demands. And to think their Mullah wants to be a moderator here.

- Asked by llafsroh, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 46-55, Boston, Science / Engineering

Jerky Girl / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 12:43 AM - Thursday December 13, 2007 Back To Top

Have you not noticed my sarcasm? What does a woman have to do to get a jerk award??

- Asked by marykate, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 36-45, Charlotte, Political / Government

What joke? / Friendship / 6:05 AM - Wednesday December 12, 2007 Back To Top

What do you do with someone who has no sense of humor?

- Asked by hands, A Creative, Male, 46-55, Hong Kong, Who Cares?

Real Estate Makes No Sense, Anymore!!!.... / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 7:45 AM - Tuesday December 11, 2007 Back To Top

Alright, so first, I just want to thank everyone who replied to last nights' real estate dilemma I'm having, but I'll also post a bit more about it here, just for the sake of maybe finding a few more answers, one of which might help...

Sorry, for the length, in advance:

So, my gal & I have been actively looking to BUY a detached, single-family house NEAR the NYC area, ever since we ruled out moving to Rochester a couple months ago, due to the distance away from her aging relatives.

Our budget is a house (NOT a condo) for about $130K-140K, tops... my credit is shot due to three divorces & a bankruptcy, so I can't even BE on the paperwork for the loan, because it would only harm our chances....

I knew coming in, that NYC real estate doesn't follow the "rules" of the rest of the country (only San Fran & L.A. are as bad), but it seems the rest of the area surrounding it doesn't, either!

We've looked in Jersey City, Newark (!!), Southern Connecticut and even upstate, about halfway to Albany... and what we're finding, is that as soon as we DO reach the areas where living would be affordable (in mortgage terms), now we have to deal with the double-edged sword of insane commute times and/or drive time to the City. And, if we stay close enough to the city to commute, we'd have to live in Gangland, basically, and fear for our lives on the jaunt between home and train stop. Or the grocery store. Or the pub. Or the church..... or the backyard....

So, on the one hand, we can't afford to rent anymore, and get nothing in return but "deeper in debt".

On the other hand, we can't afford to buy anywhere that she'd realistically be able to retain her current job (with all the benefits that come with it), so if we DID move, we'd also have to find two new jobs, right off the bat, that would allow us to PAY the mortgage...

I understand the sacrifices we'd both HAVE to make either way, and I'm leaning toward moving & finding work, but of course, that's easier for ME since my company isn't making any money, anyway... it's not hard to say Goodbye to something that isn't working out for ya'... but in HER case, it represents a HUGE committment and chance for failure that she hasn't had to deal with before.

So, I think we'll likely be looking at Southern Connecticut, simply because there are no less than four major cities closeby for career opportunities and the housing seems to be realistically priced, by Northeast standards.

I just hate, how this market is so immune to price fluctuations that the rest of the country has to follow, and I hope that God in Heaven punishes those who arbitrarily determine real estate "value" here, by chunking them in a lake of fire, and telling them they COULD buy their way out, for about $750,000....

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

"say you" knew what a period was / Sex & Intimacy / 8:55 AM - Monday December 10, 2007 Back To Top

She has a good question, but the way it is written out just makes it confusing.

I come across questions like this that I normally would answer, but quite frankly I'm not up for figuring out where all the periods should be. I was never good in English, but there are some basics that everyone should know.

And the "say you have" phrase ... grrrr, it bugs me. Just spit out the issue instead of fogging it up.

Rant over.

- Asked by audbal82, A Career Woman, Female, 29-35, Tampa, Science / Engineering

Whats your goal today? / Career / 8:04 AM - Monday December 10, 2007 Back To Top

Mine is to make it through the day and have a better tomorrow.

- Asked by chefcasey, A Life of the Party, Male, 29-35, Food Service

Your Children / Diet & Health / 3:35 AM - Monday December 10, 2007 Back To Top

I pray my daughter never sees me as the drunk that I am. That she will believe that her father is the greatest person who never had any weaknesses.

What do you/have you wished your children would have?

- Asked by zerotohero, A Rebel, Male, 36-45, Who Cares?

& does it mean anything to you / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 7:42 PM - Thursday December 06, 2007 Back To Top

how do your jerks measure up to your stars?
me jerks 39
stars 163

- Asked by rukidding, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Construction

untitled / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 5:06 PM - Thursday December 06, 2007 Back To Top

I have to be a good boy, now....

Apparently, I can no longer call out the perverts on here and make fun of them, even if they deserve it. I'm sorry, if I broke the rules... okay- - - that's a lie; I'm NOT really sorry, but I'll try to be better...

That's okay though; I'll just flood the Customer Service email with complaints whenever you guys (and you know who I mean) get all pervy or start threatening...

One way or another......

Update: December 06, 2007.
Thanks for your support... actuall, they're right, that I WAS being "bad", but the case is, that if the ultra-pervy and personally threatening stuff would be treated HALFWAY as serious as my sarcastic little rebuttals are, then the place would be so much the better for it. What's a man to do, when the people in charge of reining in the idiots doesn't do it? Can I really be blamed for speaking my piece, and calling them (the idiots, that is..) for the slackers they are? Charles Bronson had it right, all along.... :-D

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

Bytor, say it ain't so!!!! / Sex & Intimacy / 9:25 AM - Wednesday December 05, 2007 Back To Top


I. at the tobes of hades
The tobes of hades
Lit by flickering torchlight
The netherworld is gathered in the glare
Prince by-tor takes the cavern
To the north light
The sign of eth is rising in the air
By-tor, knight of darkness,
Centurion of evil
Devils prince

Ii. across the styx
Across the river styx
Out of the lamplight
His nemesis is waiting at the gate
The snow dog, ermine glowing
In the damp night
Coal-black eyes shimmering with hate
By-tor and the snow dog
Square for battle
Let the fray begin

Iii. of the battle


Iv. epilogue
The battles over
And the dust is clearing
Disciples of the snow dog sound the knell
Rejoicing echoes
As the dawn is nearing
By-tor in defeat
Retreats to hell
Snow dog is victorious
The land of the overworld
Is saved again

Is this you bytor? Someone, anyone know if this is him? "Centurion of evil, knight of darkness"????

What kind of beer would someone like that drink? Pabst? LOL

- Asked by kanaka, A Life of the Party, Male, 46-55, Dallas, Executive

untitled / Sex & Intimacy / 9:15 AM - Tuesday December 04, 2007 Back To Top

Can somebody please tell Tiddler that he's a sick man and needs professional help? This shit ain't funny, witty, or anything other than an invitation for me to kick his monkey ass.....

(Male, 46-55) asked:

my wife and i are distraught this morning.My wife found a big patch of semen in our 14 year old daughters panties.My wife wants to know how we should question her when she gets in from school.There seem to be 3 possibles A) shes had unprotected sex and its seeped out into her panties,b) shes wanked a guy off and wiped up the mess in her sexy little panties ,c0 our 16 year old son has found her cute panties in the laundry basket and wanked in them,D) i,ve wanked into my daughters panties and am hiding my tracks-what do you advise?

Update: December 04, 2007.
And when you think of the thousands, perhaps millions of kids out there who are abused by adults everyday, it makes me just turn red with rage... I don't even care if my post gets pulled, because shitstains like that who have deep seated emotional and sociopathic tendencies simply need to be taken off our streets.... because if I see them acting out in MY world?...... the smack I lay down will land me in the penitentiary......

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

untitled / Sex & Intimacy / 9:12 AM - Tuesday December 04, 2007 Back To Top

Screenname: concord22

If I'm 1/2 Welsh and 1/2 Hungarian? What am I?

Answer: You're still the dick who banned me...

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

Load the Shotgun! / Sex & Intimacy / 6:02 PM - Monday December 03, 2007 Back To Top


Why does every one of my daughters get pregnant by the age of 13? Is 13 considered a lucky number for teens nowadays?

- Asked by Male, 56-65

Who cares? / Friendship / 5:24 PM - Monday December 03, 2007 Back To Top

Why do people on this site really care about their ratings?

- Asked by dubw2004, A Father Figure, Male, 56-65, Atlanta, Artist / Musician / Writer

"Emotional Affairs" / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 4:32 PM - Monday December 03, 2007 Back To Top

All this talk about "Emotional Affairs".... I have to wonder...

We ALL have friends we let in on our lives, our loves and our worst days... those we cry to, long for, laugh with, and all that.... so, in all actuality, wouldn't THOSE be called "emotional affairs", if we were relaly honest about it?

I have female friends I've had all my life and never slept with {shock!!!}, for whatever reasons... I'd still share just about anything with them, and I do love them dearly.... so, are THOSE "affairs" as well?

What IS it that makes a legitimate "Emotional Affair", and WHY is it so damagiong to a relationship?

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

By~Tor the Benevolent Speaks From the Mount..... / Friendship / 2:36 PM - Monday December 03, 2007 Back To Top

Alright, so I logon for the first time all month (notice how I'm not in the Superstars list, just yet....LOL!...), and I've got PM's and emails about some apparent craziness on here.... again....

People just don't seem to get it, that even though we do spend a great portion of our days and/or nights on here with each other, that in the end, it really is just a website, and not a church gathering or anything... we act sometimes, as if we simply had to have the approval of others on here, just to justify our own beings, and I say that's wrong... Wrong, wrong, wrong!!!

There are always going to be people who don't like you for whatever reason, and God knows I have more than my share of those tools in my life as well, but if we let it get to us, then what really happens?..... I'll tell ya' what happens... "They" WIN!!!

Everytime we get all up in a bunch about someone who spreads rumors, slams us personally or whatever... we don't win that battle... sure, we may call them out in public as an ass or something, but we also show that the person "got to us", and that we are the ones who lost control.

Don't get me wrong; I love you fuckers. . . each and every one of ya'...the ones I'm pals with, as much as the ones who hate on me.... the only distinction I make, is that the ones who seem to like me (and on the 'net, can you ever reallllly be sure???) get to know me just a little better than those who seem to hate my very being....but in no case do any of ya' ever get to see the Full By~Tor in all his Majestic Glory!..... Not, unless we meet in person and strike up a "real world" friendship, that is...

The few of you I've actually met in person, I'd stand and fight for, in any war, because we are physical parts of each others lives, to some degree... and those of you who I THINK like me that I HAVEN'T met (yet...), I would tend to go out on a limb for.... but at the end of the day, when the computer shuts down and the rest of life goes on, I really don't give any thought to this site, or any other site, for that matter.... life's too short to waste, worrying about online feuds and such...

If anything, I do like to try to help bring parties together to resolve differences, if I can, and so I. . . much like our good friend in Venezuela, Hugo chavez, am officially offering my services as a mediator..... that's right... an arbitrary mediator of grievances....

If there's ever any way I can help mediate and get a problem resolved, I'll be happy to try.... I've already been called a fence sitter on more than one occasion, but I find that on the fence, it's easier to see both sides, and then, once I have the clearest picture available, I am able to make a fair and informed analysis of the situation, bringing resolution about in a timely and effective manner.

I have nothing to gain from it, and certainly, nothing to lose... so, whenever you guys start feelin' froggy and ya' just gotta' jump. . . . . jump on over to ME, and let me take a stab at fixing it, if I can... because if I can't fix it, it ain't worth bein' fixed anywa, so throw it out and get something else better....

Cheers, and Peace!!!!!

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

untitled / Sex & Intimacy / 11:02 AM - Friday November 30, 2007 Back To Top

my wife and I have discovered some of the joys of anal sex. Since I always use a condom,when we do it,she says she wants to experience my actual ejaculation in her butt. I am slightly concerned about any side effects of that semen in her rectum.
Ladies have you had your lovers cum in your rear and
didn't have any inconvenience?

Update: November 30, 2007.
thanks for your answers,but only to those who answered properly.

- Asked by Female, 56-65

Why are we here, what's the purpose of it all? / Race, Religion & Politics / 9:13 AM - Friday November 30, 2007 Back To Top

Why are we here?

Where are we going?

Why do we exist?

Is there a purpose in life?

We get an education inorder to to gain an occupation to gain money to exchange for goods and services.
So essentially we exist to continue existing, what for?

Is there a God or a devine creator/designer?

If so, who created the creator and why can we not see it?

- Asked by Male, 18-21

untitled / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 10:59 PM - Thursday November 29, 2007 Back To Top

why would there be chat cliques?

- Asked by kitkat19, A Thinker, Female, 56-65

Get out...RIGHT NOW / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 4:44 PM - Thursday November 29, 2007 Back To Top

WHY...Why do people like HER have to join us in here?
Dang it...*waves hand up and down on face*


Update: November 29, 2007.
Okayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy yyy Bytor is right....I'm sorry doll...*bats lashes*

- Asked by dolphace, A Hippie Chick, Female, 46-55

simple pleasures :) / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 3:09 PM - Thursday November 29, 2007 Back To Top

does seeing the little white envelope when you have AO mail/responses make anyone else happy?

Does it make anyone else sad when the little envelope disappears after you've looked at all your responses?

I like the little white envelope :)

- Asked by skystar13, A Player, Female, 46-55, San Antonio, Artist / Musician / Writer

What the hell is going on / Sex & Intimacy / 2:00 AM - Thursday November 29, 2007 Back To Top

Ok people, I joined a few days ago, got totally excited and have not been to bed before 3 am since.

So pumped up about the days events, the conversations I have had in the past couple days and then come home to get back out there and see where my new friends are respond to our latest emails and tell them the great news.

Then reality comes in I get out here post replies, email my two buddies I have just met and no response, sounds like my damn love life.

I had higher hopes for AO than this. Tell me people is there TRUE AO out there is there really that AO that will fill my needs hopes and desires?

The Tim McGraw look alike broke my heart when he was such a jerk on a post that I could not believe came out of his mouth. Maybe he needs meds don't know not a doctor but that one really blew my mind.

Ok so I don't think I took my meds today can't remember and don't want to OD if I took them again.

So I need a question so I can get some love from the AO's out there. I feel as if I am the new kid on the block and everyone is ignoring me and I am so trying hard to fit in.

Is it true or not, should I believe everything I see and hear out here?

If so then my sexual inhibitions should be gone today and my true love will respond to the present I left him today.

Hell I don't think the therapist did justice compared to AO

- Asked by A Cool Mom, Female, 46-55, Financial / Banking

loud and proud / Sex & Intimacy / 2:44 PM - Wednesday November 28, 2007 Back To Top

Who are the sex screamers in here?

= 0

- Asked by Male, 36-45

A*O, as a microcosm of life... / Sex & Intimacy / 7:56 AM - Wednesday November 28, 2007 Back To Top

Ya' know what I just LOVE?......

Many of you who have been on here awhille understand my sense of humor, and sarcasm... and SOME of you may even [shock!!] like it...

But I just love when I post something or pop something in a stupid way, and I get 99% replies from people who "get it", and the responses are always every bit as funny as my original post/pop...

But, there's ALWAYS that 1%. . . people who, for whatever reason, just don't get it, and they hit me with some kind of vicious, personal attack, telling me how I need to die, shut up, fall off a cliff, or something equally as banal...

It got me thinking... could it be, that this 1% represents the people in all of life, who will NEVER "get it", and whose constant bitching & whining about trivial matters (whether political, cultural or otherwise) is the root cause of most of the wasted efforts of government interference in the world, today???

EXAMPLE: Just this morning, there was a story about a school, which is putting on a play of Agatha Christie's "Ten Little Indians".... a story about one, who happily murders Indians, one at a time, and the old nursery rhyme song is a part of the play--haunting at the very least, and genius, at best...

Do ya' think the complaint was about the serial murder taking place, or anything like that?

NO!!!---- it was all about the usage of the word "Indian" in the title.....

I mean, come the fuck ON, people!... Don't ya' have MUCH better things in life to focus your anger and hatred upon, than the word, "Indian"?

Hell, even most of your vaunted "Native Americans" call THEMSELVES "Indian", and it really doesn't seem to bother too many people, because "Indian" is not really a derogatory term.... it's not like calling someone a racial slur or anything...

So, back to my point- - - do you see the corollary I'm talkin' about, here? Are those "One-Percenters" the REAL cause of cultural malaise and Inertia in our Society today?

I think it is... and I'll be willing to bet an Indian-head Penny that there's a vast majority who will agree.....

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

Festivus: For the REST of Us!!!!! / Sex & Intimacy / 6:34 PM - Tuesday November 27, 2007 Back To Top

Yup!--I'm sick -n- tired of the commercialization of Christmas, and since I'm not black or Jewish, Chaunakah and Kwaanzaa hold nothing for me....

So that's why, THIS year, I'm celebrating:




Festivus is an annual holiday invented by Reader's Digest writer and editor Dan O'Keefe.[1] It was introduced to popular culture by O'Keefe's son Daniel, a scriptwriter for the TV show Seinfeld, on December 18, 1997, in the episode "The Strike".[2] (Season 9, Episode 10) The holiday is celebrated each year on December 23, but many people celebrate it at other times, often to avoid the Christmas rush.[2] It includes novel practices such as the "Airing of Grievances", in which each person tells everyone else all the ways they've disappointed him/her over the past year, and after a Festivus dinner, the "Feats of Strength" are performed, involving wrestling the head of the household to the floor, thereby pinning him or her.

Many people, influenced or inspired by Seinfeld, now celebrate the holiday, in varying degrees of seriousness; some carefully following rules from the TV show or books, others humorously inventing their own versions.

Festivus Rituals
Festivus is introduced in The Strike (Seinfeld episode), which revolves around Cosmo Kramer returning to work at H&H Bagels. He does so after learning that a 12-year strike in which he participated has ended (because the minimum wage has risen to the level of the wages demanded by the workers fifteen years earlier).

Kramer becomes interested in resurrecting the holiday with Frank when at the bagel shop, Frank Costanza tells him how he created Festivus as an alternative holiday in response to the commercialization of Christmas:

Frank Costanza: Many Christmases ago, I went to buy a doll for my son. I reached for the last one they had, but so did another man. As I rained blows upon him, I realized there had to be another way.
Cosmo Kramer: What happened to the doll?
Frank Costanza: It was destroyed. But out of that a new holiday was born: a Festivus for the rest of us![3]
Frank Costanza's son, George (Jason Alexander), creates donation cards for a fake charity called The Human Fund (with the slogan "Money for People") in lieu of having to give office Christmas presents. When his boss, Kruger (Daniel von Bargen), questions George about a $20,000 check he gave George to donate to the Human Fund as a corporate donation, George hastily concocts the excuse that he made up the Human Fund because he feared persecution for his beliefs, for not celebrating Christmas. Attempting to call his bluff, Kruger goes home with George to see Festivus in action.

Kramer eventually goes back on strike from his bagel-vendor job when his manager tells him he can't get time off for his new-found religious holiday. Kramer is then seen on the street with a sign reading "Festivus yes! Bagels no!", and chanting to anyone passing the store "Hey! No bagel, no bagel, no bagel..."[3]

Finally at Frank's house in Queens, Jerry, Elaine, Kramer and George gather to celebrate Festivus. George brings Kruger to prove Festivus is real.

The Festivus Pole
In the episode, though not in the original O'Keefe Family celebration, the tradition of Festivus begins with an aluminum pole. During Festivus, the unadorned Festivus Pole is displayed. The pole was chosen apparently in opposition to the commercialization of highly decorated Christmas trees, because it is "very low-maintenance," and also because the holiday's patron, Frank Costanza, finds tinsel "distracting." The basics of the Festivus pole are explained by Frank in two separate situations.

Cosmo Kramer: Is there a tree?
Frank Costanza: No, instead, there's a pole. It requires no decoration. I find tinsel distracting.
Frank Costanza: It's made from aluminum. Very high strength-to-weight ratio.
Mr. Kruger: I find your belief system fascinating.

[edit] Festivus Dinner
In "The Strike," a celebratory dinner is shown on the evening of Festivus prior to the Feats of Strength and during the Airing of Grievances. The on-air meal appeared to be meat loaf or spaghetti in a red sauce. In Festivus: The Holiday for the Rest of Us by Allen Salkin, drinking is encouraged with hearty beer, rum, bourbon, or wine. In the episode, no alcohol was served, but George Costanza's boss, Mr. Kruger, drank from a flask.

[edit] Airing of Grievances

Frank Costanza starts off the Festivus celebration with the Airing of Grievances.The celebration of Festivus begins with the Airing of Grievances, which takes place immediately after the Festivus dinner has been served. It consists of lashing out at others and the world about how one has been disappointed in the past year. Every household has its own traditions; in one house, the Airing of Grievances consisted of writing the grievances on the fridge in marker.[4]

Frank Costanza: And at the Festivus dinner, you gather your family around, and tell them all the ways they have disappointed you over the past year!
Frank Costanza: I got a lot of problems with you people! And now, you're gonna hear about it. You, Kruger. My son tells me your company STINKS!
George Costanza: Oh, God.

[edit] Feats of Strength
The Feats of Strength is the final tradition observed in the celebration of Festivus. Traditionally, the head of the household selects one person at the Festivus celebration and challenges that person to a wrestling match.[5] The person may decline if they have something else to do, such as pull a double shift at work. Tradition states that Festivus is not over until the head of the household is pinned in a wrestling match. The Feats of Strength are mentioned twice in the episode before it actually occurs. In both instances, no detail was given as to what had actually occurred, but in both instances, George Costanza ran out of the coffee shop in a mad panic, implying he had had bad experiences with the Feats of Strength in the past.

Jerry Seinfeld: And wasn't there a Feats of Strength that always ended up with you crying?
George Costanza: I can't take it anymore! I'm going to work! Are you happy now?!

Frank Costanza: I've brought one of the cassette tapes.
Frank Costanza (on a tape recorder): Read that poem.
George Costanza (on a tape recorder): I can't read it, I need my glasses.
Frank Costanza (on a tape recorder): You don't need glasses! You're just weak, weak!
Estelle Costanza (on a tape recorder): Leave him alone!
Frank Costanza (on a tape recorder): All right, George. It's time for the Festivus Feats of Strength!
George Costanza: No! No! Turn it off! No feats of strength! I hate Festivus!
Frank Costanza: We had some good times.

[edit] Festivus Miracles
Although it is not an official element of the holiday or its celebration, the phenomenon of the Festivus Miracle is mentioned twice in the original episode, both times occurring in the Costanza household, and both declared by Kramer.

Miracle #1;

Betting Shop Guy: Hello again, Miss Benes.
Elaine Benes: What are you doing here?
Betting Shop Guy: Damndest thing. Me and Charlie were calling to ask you out, and, uh, we got this bagel place.
Cosmo Kramer: I told them I was just about to see you. It's a Festivus Miracle!
Miracle #2;

Gwen: Jerry!
Jerry Seinfeld: Gwen! How did you know I was here?
Gwen: Kramer told me!
Cosmo Kramer: Another Festivus Miracle!!

[edit] Etymology and origin
The English word festive derives from the Latin word festivitas meaning "holiday", and the related word festus meaning "feast".[6][7] The O'Keefe tradition did not have a set date, but would take place in response to family tension, "any time from December to May".[8] However the original holiday took place in the "Past" day before the presentation of presents which fostered altruism in the community when supplies were diminished, and the "Future" which represented the hope of the coming year. The phrase "a Festivus for the rest of us" also derived from an O'Keefe family event, the death of the elder O'Keefe's mother.[8]

The elder O'Keefe wrote a book that deals with idiosyncratic ritual and its social significance, a theme with great relevance to Festivus tradition.[9]

[edit] Other references
"The Real Festivus", by Daniel O'Keefe, provides a first-person account of the original Festivus holiday as celebrated by the O'Keefe family, and how O'Keefe amended or replaced details of his father's invention to create the Seinfeld episode.
"Festivus: The Holiday for the Rest of Us" is the name of a book by Allen Salkin about the origins of the holiday and its celebration in the real world.[10]
The Wagner Companies of Milwaukee, Wisconsin, began manufacturing Festivus Poles for the 2005 season.[11]
"Festivus" was the name of a seasonal Ben and Jerry's ice cream flavor made in 2000 and 2001 in honor of the holiday. In 2004, the flavor made its return as "Gingerbread Cookie", and has since been retired to the Ben and Jerry's Flavor Graveyard.[12]
"Festivus" is a term used by the Baltimore Ravens (and their fans) to denote the playoffs. During the 2000 National Football League season, Ravens head coach Brian Billick banned his players from using the word "playoffs" during the season as he wanted his players to focus on every game and not look ahead. Players substituted the term "festivus" for playoffs and "festivus maximus" for the Super Bowl. The Ravens eventually went on to win the Super Bowl that season.[13]
Presumably unaware of the irony, the Brisbane Marketing organization has adopted the name "Festivus" to refer to its summer holidays program of events in Brisbane[citation needed].
Oklahoma-based winery, Grape Ranch, began producing Festivus wine in 2003.
A 2004 episode of Jeopardy! had a Seinfeld-themed round, featuring a category entitled Festivus, in which contestants answered questions about holidays. Incidentally, this was the final episode in which long-time champion Ken Jennings played, until returning for the Ultimate Tournament of Champions.[14]
"Oh Festivus" (also known as "The Festivus Song") was first sung in Dallas, Texas, bars and taverns in the 2004-2005 holiday season. It is set to the tune of O Canada.[15]
In 2005, Wisconsin Governor Jim Doyle was declared "Governor Festivus".[16]

[edit] References
^ Origins of Festivus. Festivus: The Holiday for the Rest of Us. Retrieved on 2007-11-02.
^ a b Festivus for the rest of us. LJWorld. Retrieved on 2006-12-25.
^ a b The Strike. Seinfeld Scripts. Retrieved on 2006-12-25.
^ Airing of Grievances. Festivus Book. Retrieved on 2006-12-25.
^ Feats of Strength. Festivus Book. Retrieved on 2006-12-25.
^ festivity. Online Etimology Dictionary. Retrieved on 2006-12-25. included in the Seinfeld episode.
^ Our day, our way. Journal Sentinel Online. Retrieved on 2006-12-25.
^ a b Allen Salkin (2005). Festivus: The Holiday for the Rest of us. ISBN 0-446-69674-9.
^ O'Keefe (1982). Stolen Lightning: A Social Theory of Magic. ISBN 0-8264-0059-0.
^ {{cite web | title=Festivus Website | work=Allen Salkin | url=http://www.festivus }
^ Festivus poles now are for the rest of us. MSN NBC. Retrieved on 2006-12-25.
^ Flavor Graveyard. Ben & Jerry. Retrieved on 2006-12-25.
^ Matte, Tom; Jeff Seidel (2004). Tales from the Baltimore Ravens Sideline. ISBN 1-582-61754-6.
^ Show #4657. J! Archive. Retrieved on 2006-12-25.
^ Oh Festivus. NODEWORKS Encyclopedia. Retrieved on 2006-12-25.
^ Gov. Festivus!. Retrieved on 2006-12-25.

[edit] External links
"How to make a Festivus Pole" - Short documentary on Milwaukee company that makes Festivus poles
"A Festivus for the Rest of Us" - A Lawrence Journal-World Article
"Fooey to the World: Festivus Is Come" - The New York Times, Dec. 19, 2004.
Retrieved from "http://en.wikipedia.o rg/wiki/Festivus"

http://en.wikipedia.o rg/wiki/Festivus


http://www.festivus spoles.htm


- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

Mean Practical Jokes / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 4:06 PM - Tuesday November 27, 2007 Back To Top

Real Fun for Bored Youths.....

* Stand outside a battered women's shelter at night, screaming, "I know you're in there, Bitch!--I'll getcha'!!!".....

* Two people walk into Wal-mart at opposite ends of the store, both pretending to have Tourette's... walk around the store, cursing unexpectedly, and then "meet" in the middle of the store, and hold a long conversation, peppered with curse words!

* Fill out fake insurance claims forms and submit them in your friends' names to various insurance companies....

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

I am officially a jerk / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 9:45 AM - Monday November 26, 2007 Back To Top

I feel so much like a part of A/O now. I received my first JERK! Move over Bytor! I might get banned next!

- Asked by nice2mc, A Life of the Party, Female, 36-45, Houston, Administrative

Privacy / Sex & Intimacy / 8:28 PM - Sunday November 25, 2007 Back To Top

How safe is it to post sensitive stuff on here?

Like if you answered a question about doing something like try drugs or buy a prostitute or something like that. How open and honest are you about stuff here?

Update: November 25, 2007.
Thanks guys! Curiosity satisfied :-)

Update: November 25, 2007.
haha my concern was about admitting to something illegal on here. I mean legally can they use that against you? I guess you could always argue that you were just making it up freedom of speech and all... haha I guess I'm just being paranoid. lol "and you people.. well.. i dont have to look at you tomorrow. ;)" I'm not really worried about being judged here, just the legal aspect and getting into real trouble.

- Asked by Female, 29-35

"The Great Race Debate", Part 256........... / Sex & Intimacy / 9:53 AM - Friday November 23, 2007 Back To Top

Going off my earlier post, regarding the story in the Harrisburg Register....

When will we, as a nation, learn to teach our kids that words only hold as much power over us, as we ALLOW them to have?

Of course, the teacher was certainly out of line, and SHOULD have been fired, for using the word in public, in front of black kids, and while on the state payroll.... that's not up for debate, at all.

But, in all honesty, haven't we taken the hwole thing (The "N" word debate) a little too far?

It's well known, that there will ALWAYS be parts of our culture (Worldwide, not just America), where people simply don't believe other races are equal to their own.... it happens in ALL races, and amongst ALL nations of the earth.

Russians and Chinese... Chinese & Japanese.... Anglo & Negro....Negro & Latino.....Hell, here in the States, we even make fun of people, simpluy because they come from another STATE!---And some of them Kentucky jokes are pretty funny, really!

What I'm saying, is that does it REALLY matter whether someone calls you a honky, mick, wop, nigger, spic, chink, jap, jew, or whatever???--- I mean, other than knowing that it may be meant as a derogatory term, does it really "hurt" you, in the least?

Does it change your perspective on who you really are????

NO, it doesn't.....and it never will.... unless you have a weak sense of self-esteem anyway, and in that case, then you have other, MUCH larger issues to worry about in your life, other than what some idiot says about your heritage...

I think that we have to come to a place in our cultures, where we accept and are able to laugh about the differences between us, rather than try to artificially assimilate everyone into one, dull and homogenous "culture", where all are equally non-descript and as plain and featureless as the Kansas landscape....

Sure, there WILL always be differences between races, religions and cultures.... and I think that's a beautiful thing, because we can all learn about each other and incorporate things into our own lives, that we take from that learning process.... but also, I don't think we should be trying to "force" people into liking each other, or even into being artificially civil to each other, in the name of political correctness... it does no one any good, and only forces the underlying racism to bubble away underneath, and manifest itself in other, maybe even LESS desirable ways....maybe, even more dangerous....

We can't legislate "morality", no matter how hard we try--- we only create double-standards, where people say one thing to our face, but secretly think something else, underneath, and I call "bullshit" on it all!

I'd rather have peoples' racist tendencies up top, out in the open, so I know who NOT to trust, and can prepare myself to be the target of their hatred, however undeserved it may be.... Personal Responsibility, is the name of that game, my friends...

I truly believe, that once we stop living in denial of the issues that separate us, we can truthfully start to come together more, recognizing that we are all different, and that that's NOT such a bad thing, after all!!!...

My rant over; your responses welcomed!

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer
Comment from bytor, Recommendation Leader:
The BASIC question about race relations....

untitled / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 10:47 PM - Tuesday November 20, 2007 Back To Top

Sorry -- It was bytor that popped this question. I never said that the POA was an email. His sarcastic remark, quite "jerk" worthy when he popped this question, created a very negative avalanche of responses. Wake up people, some of us are real, and on this for the RIGHT reasons, not to mock others, but to help and be helped, and to ask whatever we feel.

- Asked by Female, 29-35

A*O Secrets 101 / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 7:42 PM - Tuesday November 20, 2007 Back To Top

INRE: The Superstars issue, someone posted a reply, basically saying that "the clique" rates each other, as if no one else ever got ratings or rated anyone...

It's no Mutual Admiration Society, let me assure you...

In fact, every morning, I go over the pervious nights' posts and I give out between 100 and 200 C-stars , even before I start replying or posting!

Guess what? - - You get points for that!--It's called, "Community Service".....and I don't do it for the points, so much as do it, because usually they haven't even received a rating from the idiot who ASKED the question in the first place, so at least they get something for their time & trouble, once I see the response, and it doesn't matter WHO made the response. The best one gets it, period.

And I tend to get alot of stars from people who don't even really LIKE me, because I DO give good advice...and I'll bet that the other "Superstars" get the same treatment.

People are more honest than you might wanna' admit.... so, if you're not getting the points or recognition you believe you may deserve, it's probably a better idea to look inward at what you might be doing WRONG, as opposed to hatin' on those who are, obviously, doing it RIGHT!

By~Tor hath Spoken; So Mote It Be......

PS - - There's a REASON I'm #5 on the All Time list, after only a year....... and now, you know the secrets, yourself. Get on it, Skippykins!!!

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer
Comment from bytor, Recommendation Leader:
SOME people just really need to rent a clue.....

A*O November 2007 Awards! / Jokes, Polls & Anything Else / 1:37 PM - Monday November 19, 2007 Back To Top

Okay, Kiddos!---Once again, it's time to list your nominations for the November 2007 edition of A*O Awards!!!- - - Please take a momnent to answer each category as honestly and thoughtfully as possible, utilizing examples, where possible!


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Update: November 19, 2007.

- Asked by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer