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Dating / 5:21 PM - Monday January 05, 2009

Online dating tips..

OK, so apparently I am not the only master of online dating out there. I got a bunch of responses from others who have found amazing partners through this venue.

As Stoney recommended in response to my post below, here are some of the best tidbits of wisdom I have gleaned in my vast and highly successful online dating experience.

To those other experts out there- please add some more or feel free to edit mine!

1- Keep your expectations low!
Go into each new meeting expecting nothing more than to meet and get to know a new person. Do not expect to find the love of your life. Hopefully, you will one day, but most likely it will take meeting a bunch of mismatches first. Look at each date as an opportunity to get out and have a good time, not to grill the person and find out if they are the love of your life. If they are, you will figure it out eventually.

2- Keep your options OPEN and the commitment level LOW until you have dated someone a while- at LEAST a month, if not more. Expect the other person to do the same. Never ever expect the other person to be dating you exclusively until you have had an open discussion about it.

3- Be honest- of course. Put up a lot of pictures that are from within the last year. Include full body shots so that others know your body type. Who wants to go out with someone that is not attracted to them? No one does.

Those are the first things I can think of. Any other ideas?

- POP'd by zahararica, A Thinker, Female, 29-35, New York, Who Cares?

I am the online dating guru.

I declare myself the online dating queen. I did it for two years, dated a bunch of guys from various sites, and I eventually found the awesomest boyfriend ever. I won. Big time.

If any of you are doing it, or are considering doing it, this is your big chance to benefit from my vast wisdom. Ask me for advice. Come on. You know you want to.


Update: January 05, 2009.
Hey Keldog! Great question. Let me ask you a few questions that might help us determine the source of your problem. Which websites are you using? I would say that as a rule of thumb, ANY site that is free tends to attract many more men who are not in the market for a serious relationship. Guys who really want a partner will shell out the $30 or whatever to join match.com or one of the other pay sites. Also chat rooms, or sites like this one are much much more difficult to find someone on. Though not impossible (we all know a few happy couples that have met on AO), you have a much better bet with a dating website that charges a fee. My favorites are match and yahoo personals. Other than that, I would probably say that, unfortunately, many guys out there are just looking for sex, and that may be more of a problem with older guys, who might be content with their lifestyle and not looking to settle down. However, I guarantee you that there are some men out there who are. Just keep looking. Remember what they say- it IS a numbers game. The more men you get in touch with and meet, the better the chance of finding the right one for you. That was absolutely true in my case. I met around 30 guys and communicated with many many more before I found my match. As far as preferring younger looking men- I think that sounds reasonable. We all have our preferences. It's important to be a little flexible about what kind of person you're looking for, but I don't see why you should date someone you're not attracted to. Best of luck to you!!

Update: January 05, 2009.
In response to newnumbrsguy32: Although I haven't tried adultfriendfinder, I know people who have, and I would say that if you're a guy, the pickins are slim. If you're a woman who's just looking to get laid, generally it would probably be easier to pick up a drunk guy at a local bar.

Update: January 05, 2009.
In response to lab01's question: Online sex is only better than real sex if the real sex you're having or have had is seriously LAME. Next question?

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