What reasons would you have for not being sexual with your wife?
My husband and I have been married for three years. Second marriage for both and dated for four years before marrying. I am 40 and he is 35.
On average, we have sex twice a week. When we do have sex, it is a lot of fun; we are both sexually adventurous. I always have a good time. He says he does as well; he is very complimentary of me. Unfortunately, I want sex a lot more - and passion and everything that goes along with it.
I've repeatedly asked my husband to flirt with me by text. He won't and ignores the texts I send to him when I try. We cuddle and hug and all of that, but nothing flirtatious or that even resembles foreplay.
I've been turned down for sex flat out more times than I am willing to admit.
Yesterday morning, I asked him for his help in having an orgasm. He refused. I cried. I sent him a message (sometimes things are easier to type than to say) and told him that I felt sad and rejected when he didn't respond to me. I asked if there was anything I could do to help remedy the situation.
He didn't respond.
Yesterday evening, I took a suggestive picture of myself when I got out of the shower. It wasn't a nude, but it made me feel pretty. I sent it to him. He jokingly asked if I had used XXPro or Valencia filter. I was humiliated.
We both have children from our previous marriages, mine is 12 and lives with us full time with very few breaks and his lives with her mother, but is often at home with us.
He recently started a new job that he is enjoying and does not *seem* to be stressed out by it. Just recently we became a two income household, so money is not an issue.
I'm at a loss and feeling sad, unattractive, and wondering what I did.
Any help you can give would be appreciated.
- Asked by Female, 29-35