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Pets / 20 hours ago Back To Top

Does anyone have a cat they can not stand?

I know this is going to sound crazy but I am getting to the point where I can not stand this cat. We have two cats, one is wonderful the other one can be a pain in the a**.
We have had her spayed, all her shots, she has a loving and clean home. Everything a cat could possibly ask for but she is so destructive she makes me so angry.
My husband and son adore her, especially my husband and he makes such a huge fuss over her that you would think she was made of diamonds...long story.
Anyway; every single day she's in the garbage, trash on the floor as soon as I turn my back she is in it. She has broken a few of my things and broke 3 window mini blinds.
Jumps on the counters, walks on tables, throws litter out of her box. I have tried everything and it doesn't work. The other cat is calm and well behaved and watches her like she is some type of lunatic. She will love you one moment and claw you the next. I am cleaning like mad, husband thinks this is normal and that she is sweet. I am sorry this is so long, I just feel this cat is taking over and I am the only one here who feels this way. Has anyone dealt with a cat like this before? Spaying has not worked, it has only made her more fruity. Sometimes I am half tempted to take her for a ride and leave her somewhere.

- Asked by Female, 36-45
Pets / 1 day ago Back To Top

Cat euthanized without permission of the other spouse...

My husband who has dementia has taken one of our cats, the only male to be euthanized. He was the sweetest and most handsome male we ever had. He must have gotten attacked by a racoon and his hind leg was torn out of its socket. He never asked me what we should do but while I was at work he took the cat to our vet and they put him down. He was only 8 most old. I would pay for the operation, but I wasnt even consulted. Since my husband has dementia he isnt making rational logical decisions anymore. Should vet have also consulted me and waited to hear from me ? Is vet responsible for doing this without having a permission from both spouses ? What would you do in this situation ?

Update: April 23, 2014.
The problem here is that my husband should have consulted me first. The cat has been injured three days prior, and was eating and sleeping and not moaning from pain. He was wrong to make this decision on his own, because I would pay for the surgery. The vet also knows that we are a couple and have been in with various pets, so he should have consulted me also. He has made a few quite dangerous irrational decisions lately and that scares me. Some of you even mentioned that if he can drive he couldnt be that demented. I would get informed before putting that online, because dementias very last memories that are lost are called implicit memory. So someone who is quite demented, forgetting big time and being confused can still drive, swim and type because that is implicit memory and it is lost last. Making bad decisions and getting confused are one of the earlier signs. He thinks he is making good decisions but he isnt. Also the vet might think that if he drives an old truck and wears old clothes that he is poor. Since this wasnt a huge emergency and the cat wasnt even bleeding he should have consulted another vet also. I found a vet who would fix disjointed leg for $500. Some people here were even rude and I would like to ask them why they come to AO if not to ask for help and info. Some didnt even understand the question and were telling me that the vet and my husband have done the right thing, and that they would do the same, but they didnt even know all the circumstances and I wasnt asking here what should have or shouldnt have been done to the cat, I was asking if it was right that my husband made this decision on his own and also if the vet was in the right to euthanize a pet that was also mine without my consent. I was interested to learn what you would do in case someone took your pet to the vet to have it put to sleep and if you think that the vet should do this without talking to the other owner who is willing to pay.

- Asked by ana325, A Career Woman, Female, 56-65, Vancouver, Other Profession