If I'm acting as a housekeeper, should I be obligated to pay rent?
A little while ago, I lost my job and needed a place to stay to get on my feet. My then boyfriend opened his small apartment to me, which I really appreciate. As a courtesy, I offer him a small amount of rent of about $100-200 monthly and buy most of the groceries, even though mind you, I moved in to get on my feet. I also clean up the apartment, which is tough because he is a complete and total slob.
I don'd mind and actually expect to do my part as a showing of gratitude. But I find myself having to pick up after him if he drops stuff on the floor or leaves things laying out. And there is a big hygiene problem. I clean the toilet for him after he leaves shit on the toilet seat and wipe blood off of the sink after he's brushed his teeth or given himself a medical injection.
I told him that he will need to be more conscientious of me being there. I'm working hard to get out as soon as possible but at this time have no where else to go. I think he takes advantage of this and makes me feel like I owe him, even sex. He has even requested that I pay half of the rent, even though that is more than what I paid at the last place before I lost my job, and he thinks I should just clean up after him.
It doesn't help that at 40+ he is a mama's boy. He is used to her doing things for him and she has told me in so many words, that it is my role.
Is this right? What would you do in this situation?
I just got hired somewhere else and will be in a position to leave in a few months. But in the meantime, should I just shut up and deal with it, or put my foot down?
I remember being in a position to let a good friend live with me for free when he was in between jobs. He stayed with me for over a year and didn't offer me a dime and I wouldn't have expected him too, as he was in a bind. Its funny that now that I need a hand, I have an exboyfriend who takes advantage of that.
- Asked by Female, 36-45