Well I feel stupid now.
I was a member of this writing critique group before I moved cities (2 hrs away) for a job. I'd signed up for a creative writing class, then when it finished, we all kept in touch and decided to continue on by ourselves. It was great- I wrote a couple of stories and got them critiqued at different times. More people joined, some people dropped out, it was fun. I didnt make it to every session but I tried to make it to most. We'd meet once every 2 weeks and would critique 2 members' stories in a 2 hr session, we'd take turns hosting. I remember getting delighted to hear the feedback, both constructive and positive on my stuff, and frustrated and slighted when a couple of members, both times, whose input I valued, didn't have 'the time' to read my story and therefore to give me feedback, but had all the time in the world to read the other person's story, while praising it. But I'd get the feedback eventually by email.
Anyway, some of the nice people dropped out, some people got cliquey, and some pretentious writers joined. I felt judgment from 1 pretentious guy, in particular. I also felt like they were cliquey since most of them, both men and women, were new parents, or had young kids at home, and then there's me, who' doesn't have kids (and, might I add, am quite relieved as I'm not ready yet- wayy too much I want to do this year. But we won't get into that ;) don't want anyone lecturing me on my biological clock). ANYWAY!
I eventually moved away and unfortunately had to miss out on the bi-weekly critique meetings. I'm still a part of the Facebook group, and after 5 months of disappearing, I decided to update them on what I'm up to by posting in the group tonight. I thought I'd tell them about my new job and where I'm living and why I haven't been at the meetings, and, more importatnly, about the new writing courses I've been taking, as I've branched off into doing something else with the genre that they praised me and my skills in, and on the fact that I've taken on a new challenge to write a screenplay for a festival. I'm pretty proud of myself, and excited, and scared, which I said in the post. I also asked if anyone has any suggestions or recommendations for books or whatever, to let me know.
Lately people have been posting in the group about getting their writing published, which is awesome, and I always congratulate them in the comments. I'm not there yet, but I thought I'd share the new exciting things I'm doing with my writing. Anyway, I posted at 6:30PM, and now almost 5 hrs later...all I get is 2 "likes". No one even commented?! The leader of the group has written screenplays, I was sure he'd at least comment by saying "awesome lisa, good job!" or "congrats! I recommended this book: ___".
But none of that. 2 pity likes. God, I guess they really don't like me. Cause if they did, I'm sure they would've commented.
Now I feel like an absolute FOOL and an idiot for posting that, because their "silence" on facebook is basically screaming "WE DONT CARE!!" I thought they'd be interested in what i'm doing work-wise and writing-wise, but it's practically gone ignored. Now I'm embarrassed.
- Asked by A Trendsetter, Female, 29-35