Which parenting style do you think is best? Which is the worst?
I was reading an article on parenting styles, and it made me start thinking about what kind of parent I want to be some day. Those of you that are parents or want to be one day...which style (or mix of styles) do you think is best? Which one is the worst?
Permissive Parents- Very warm,
but undemanding. They are
indulgent and passive in their
parenting, and believe that the way
to demonstrate their love is to give
in to their adolescent's wishes.
Permissive parents invoke such
phrases as, "sure, you can stay up
late if you want to," and "you do
not need to do any chores if you
don't feel like it." Permissive
parents do not like to say no or
disappoint their children. As a
result, teens are allowed to make
many important decisions without
parental input. Parents do not
view themselves as active
participants in shaping their teen's
actions; instead they view
themselves as a resource, should
the adolescent choose to seek their
Authoritarian Parents- Display little
warmth and are highly controlling.
They are strict disciplinarians, use
a restrictive, punitive style, and
insist that their adolescent follow
parental directions. Authoritarian
parents invoke phrases such as,
"you will do this because I said,"
and "because I'm the parent and
you are not." Authoritarian
parents do not engage in
discussions with their teen and
family rules and standards are not
debated. Authoritarian parents
believe the adolescent should
accept, without question, the rules
and practices that they establish.
Authoritative Parents- Warm but
firm. They encourage their
adolescent to be independent while
maintaining limits and controls on
their actions. Authoritative parents
do not invoke the "because I said" rule. Instead, they are willing to entertain, listen to, and take into account their teen's viewpoint. Authoritative parents engage in discussions and debates with their adolescent, although ultimate responsibility resides with the parent.
- Asked by Female, 18-21