This may be petty but it still bugs me.
MY only child got married a couple of years ago and we invited one of her very close friend. Because we were on a tight budget we couldn't invite every single person we would have liked to.
Not only did we invite this very close friend but we invited her whole family. Mother, sister and boyfriend, cousins, aunts and uncles, even grandfather and grandmother! Why you ask? because she has known them since she was 13 years old and they were and are like family to her. THrough out the years my daughter has been invited to birthdays, dinners, family get togethers etc. She was very close to them, with some relatives more than others.
Because I know them also, I was included in some of these gatherings sometimes as well but I'm not as close to them as my daughter is. Because we were on a very tight budget, they weren't even going to be invited but when they found out about this, everyone was very upset and hurt that my daughter would not invite them. So we changed it to include them also. My daughter is half black and I'm not and this family is black, sometimes I think they, meaning this family and my daughter, have a special connection but not with me. IDK I'm not sure.
Now here is what is bugging me. This very close friend is getting married next week and only daughter and my son in law were invited, not me. I know I'm being an idiot and should just forget it but it irritates me.
Update: August 31, 2015.
Ya'll brought up something that I didn't think about. We did go overboard in inviting all of them. It was stupid because, we had to not invite some people that we could have, that I would have been very happy to be there (other close friends of my daughters), if we didn't invite all of them. Just makes me sad. But I will let it go, what's done is done.
Update: August 31, 2015.
Thank you everyone for your responses, I feel much better after reading your responses and appredciate the support. I decided to just let it go and forget about it and not let it bother me. I still do see the family from time to time at family gatherings and other functions because we have mutual friends. My daughter just told me last night that hubby is not going because he lost a front tooth and doesn't really want to go out until he gets a new tooth. She is coming over this wednesday to use our sewing machine and will talk to her about this but I already know what she will say. That I shouldn't worry about it and that it's no big deal. Also anonymous 22 -25 year old., you are dead wrong race was not on my mind at all. Funny how the race card always gets brought out.
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