Spouse and I losing weight
My wife and I have been losing some weight. Its not a competition and it really wouldn't be fair to frame it that way. She gave me 2 beautiful children and I know it is just a battle to pull off the baby weight. Also, guys just have it easy in comparison, our hormones work so much more in our favor.
Here is the rub. I've lost 25 lbs over the summer, I'm near my goal weight ~155lb, 5'8". Its been a lot of work, i've been hungry a lot of evenings and exercise a lot. My wife on the other hand kind phones it in and tries for a day then gives up for 3, then tries for 2 days and relaxes for 4. I've been there its not a successful way to lose weight, but its really hard to do this, so I am not faulting her. Thing is she gets really upset at me for how well i've done. She gets upset when I bring it up, which bums me out because I have put a lot of effort into this and just want her to say good job. I'm not pressuring her to lose weight. I know its hard, she's is the one putting the pressure on herself. I will support and love her whatever the scale says (and I've told her that many times). I'm just looking for some support, but she is taking it as me rubbing it in her face.
I don't know how to handle the problem so I just keep my mouth shut, but I feel that is unfair because I would be celebrating her success. I'm looking for advice; should I just be silent if it bothers her so much? Or is there a delicate way to discuss it?
- Asked by Male, 29-35