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Should I tell her how I feel?

I became good friends with a young woman a few years back when I joined a College/Young Adult group at the church I was going to at the time. Very quickly, I found myself developing feelings for her.

Two years ago, I sent her an anonymous Valentine, but I never came out and said anything to her because at the time I felt that I wasn't spiritually mature enough (she was raised as Christian, I became one more recently) for her. In the meantime, we've each had a failed relationship with other people and I've grown quite a bit as a Christian.

We just saw each other a few weeks ago for the first time in almost a year (she was student teaching in Germany), and I realized that the feelings I thought were abated are still there. I still have definite feelings for her.

She's going to be leaving for a three month mission trip in September, and I'm applying for a new job in different cities, but I have the desire to let her know my feelings for her before we part ways - possibly for the good.

Should I tell her and get this off my chest (assuming she doesn't already have some idea) even though it's likely nothing will come of it? I'm also concerned that a part of this motivation to tell her is due to selfishness (ie wanting to feel better about having said things).

- Asked by Male, 29-35

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Dating / 2 hours ago

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And more random questions.....

Which would make you feel more appreciated by your DH / SO: bringing home flowers, doing a chore without being asked, or asking you on a "date?"

- Asked by kdtxchic30, A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Who Cares?

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Dating / 4 hours ago

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How do I prove I love her?

Im a guy but my profile is showing up as female not sure why and I am new to this. Anyways I have upset my gf a lot recently and now she says she can't trust me everytime I say sorry she says she has heard it too many times and it's not enough, and that I should prove it ... but when I ask her how she tells me figure it out for yourself I've tried so many things but nothings ever good enough for her. I don't think she even knows how to forgive me or when she says prove it that she even knows what she wants. Girls please help me figure your minds out...

- Asked by Female, 22-25

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Dating / 6 hours ago

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I like my boyfriend very much...I don't want to make

I don't want to make the wrong decision, but at the same time don't want to be a victim. My boyfriend of nearly a year told me he had 3 serious relationships. He gave me(his version)of the reasons the relations ended. He went on to tell me that they all cheated on him, though he is not entirely sure about the last one. I listened carefully to him and noticed that he was a walking contradiction.
The first wife (he was 24)left him after she slept with someone else.The second serious relationship lasted 6 years. He said this lady had no sense of humour, hardly speaks and is a cold as ice. Yet, he told me he watched her have sex (12 years ago) with another man, twice. The last lady, they were married for 3 years. He said she left him and he doesn't know why, but believe it is because she is seeing someone else. After all, her mother told him "maybe it's the sex" :)why her daughter left him.
The last lady have his 3 year old daughter. I kept telling him to go back and try and work it out. He said sex with her is boring, and that she acts like a prude. All that was proven to be a lie. He wanted to try and convince me that he was telling the truth about his life so he gave me his computer to go through. Smart eh? Well, I found pics of him and last lady-she posing on her knees with her dress up, and a variety of different poses. There were also part of a video that I saw where they were totally enjoying themselves, which is fine. However, why not call a Spade a Spade. I never asked him anything about his ex to begin with, he volunteered all the info. I asked him why he lied. He said she is not really like that he had to force her. There were no force, it was all fun. She acted like a teenager, giggling and enjoying the moment.

Now I can't trust him. Advice and input are all welcome.

P.S. He thought he erases all the videos....or what I shouldn't see. I have ways and means.

- Asked by Female, 36-45

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Dating / 6 hours ago

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How Can I show my Fi that he has the potential to go to school? He wants to go to school...

but he says hes not school smart. He compares himself to me, but I work really hard in school, and I told him I would help him if he ever needed it, (math is my strong point, and its his weak point)... I want to show him how smart he is, I can tell him all I want but he doesnt seem to believe me. Help? He avoids going to school bc hes scared of failing again, I told him he should just go to school for something he is passionate about. any ideas would be appreciated :)

- Asked by A Thinker, Female, 22-25

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Dating / 8 hours ago

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How come I look around a see so many pretty women around me, but I don't find one who is attractive?

it's weird. I feel like all the good ones were taken in college or grad school. I use to get these intense feelings or adrenaline when I saw a woman I liked. Now that I am older I don't get that anymore. Should I wait for that feeling again and ask out of woman or should I just ask out anyone I remotely think looks pretty and see where it goes from there?

- Asked by A Creative, Male, 29-35, New York

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Dating / 11 hours ago

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Maintaining a healthy relationship?

So ive been seeing this girl for the last few months it started out casual but we began to hang out more and more and i stopped talking to other girls as she started to rise to the top and beat all these other girls out because she is by far pretty awesome in lots of way and she ditched guys to hang out with me so it was a mutual slow growth with eachother. So now that we have been spending alot of time together. When im not with her i miss her like crazy and i start to think oh no im losing her even tho it has been a day with minimal txting talking. So im just looking for some reassurance from women when your man is busy do you miss him like crazy but you don't msg him because you don't want to bother him? and from guys what has been your experience with this situation?

- Asked by A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 29-35

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Dating / 11 hours ago

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is it possible to be in love again after being rejected by the man u ever wanted?

i mean would your heart let someone else in it after all that pain??..i'm no more confident about my decisions conserning love,relationships and marriage..i'm afraid i'd give a chance to someone who seems interested in me just to take my revenge from the one who rejected me to show him that i'm wanted too!!!!i hate to think like that..i just can't get over that pain..i'm afraid i won't be able to love again as long as i still carry this harsh experience in my whole body..

- Asked by rosewater24, A Thinker, Female, 22-25, Student

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Dating / 18 hours ago