|6:12 PM - Wednesday July 23, 2003|
my boyfriend stands me up alot. he will ...
my boyfriend stands me up alot. he will tell me that he is coming over and never show up. he has done this to me alot lately, most of the time its only for one day, but there has been a time or two were he doesnt call me or anything for a week or so. i know he isnt cheating on me. he just hanging out with his friends. but i just dont understand why he cant just tell me he is hanging out with the guys, i dont care if he hangs out with his friends, i just want him to let me know that he isnt coming over so i dont wait on him. i have told him this before. me and him have a good relationship, been together 2 yrs and never had a fight. so can you help me understand why he dont call me when hes not coming over?
- Asked by A Sweet Sarah, Female, 18-21, Miami, Self-Employed
I think he does that as a way to control you: he does not want to spend time with you at the moment, but wants to know exactly where you are (at your home) and what are you doing (thinking of him).
Not to put too fine a point on it, but he's taking you for granted, being selfish, immature, inconsiderate and flaky. Faithful or not, chances are you can do better than someone who puts everything else first and doesn't bother to call.