What is wrong with him?
Right. I'll try to keep this long story as short as possible.
Been "seeing" this guy for approx. 5 months now on and off. Met through mutual friends. We hooked up and then always when we met at a party we ended up at my place. Sometimes he picked me up when I was partying and stayed the night. Now after a few months of booty calls and facebook chat I kind of had enough. He used to stay here at my place the whole afternoon, chatting, cuddling but never iniciated any contact after the weekend. So I just told him straight up at our friend's birthday party that I wasn't interested being the girl he just "hooks up" with, and if he wishes to have me in his life we could date like normal people or just forget about it. He told me that he was not going into a relationship, that he just wasn't at that stage in his life, was afraid of it (was brutally cheated on in his last relationship which was 3 years ago). So I just thanked him for letting me know at we didn't talk for about a month. I started dating a guy, which he heard about and was (what i was told) jealous.
Now the story starts over again, but with a twist. He went on a weekend trip with his family and offered to buy me some make up I wanted, so he went with his sisters and bought for me some stuff, all his family knows who I am which also contradicts the "just a girl i hook up with". And 3 weeks ago, I texted him quite drunk and he immediately picks me up, and stays the night, doesn't go home until 4 in the afternoon. Now on wednesday night we meet up sober for the first time, watch a documentary and just cuddle and chill, no sex ...
So I am getting mixed signals here. He's a handsome fellah, he can hook up with girls if he wants. Why would he want to continues this thing with us, knowing that I have feelings for him, and be in this "mess" for almost half a year if he wasn't "that" interested. I have tried to ignore him and that just doesn't work, everytime I come back, he walks right back to me, so it's hard. What should I do? Whats his deal? Why let his family know who I am and come everytime I call him but not willing to go to the next level?
- Asked by A Career Woman, Female, 26-28, Managerial