|Dating / 5:14 PM - Monday May 27, 2013|
My boyfriend treats me differently when his kids are around...
I've been dating a man 10 years older than me for about 8 months. We both have children from previous relationships. I have my daughter full time while he has 2 of his kids every other weekend. The other one lives out of town. He and I get along fine when we are together however when the kids are present, it's a different story. For one, he treats me differently when his children are around (little affection, acts like I'm another child, even belittles my suggestions or wishes in front of them). He is also quick to demonize my child for the very same behavior his own children are guilty of. For example, his middle daughter constantly leaves a messy trail whenever she visits (dishes, clothes, hair items). When I point it out, he gets defensive and tells me my daughter does the same thing, which is always addressed at the time. His middle child is 13, mine is 6. Doesn't make it OK, but he is always dismissing his kids bad behavior to demonize my child. My child is not an angel and I don't make her out to be one however I do check her behavior when she's out of line. I'm hurt because rather than supporting one another as parents, I feel like its me and my daughter against him and his girls when we are all together. It's now to the point where it's extremely uncomfortable and I no longer want to be around him when his kids are present unless something changes. Any tips or advice??
- Asked by A Cool Mom, Female, 29-35, Political / Government
Also I meant to say that you should protect your child first and foremost. Men come and go. Don't let this person be destructive to your child, who is there for life.
If you don't like the treatment and you are uncomfortable..imagine how your child feels.