|Dating / 9:56 PM - Wednesday February 13, 2013|
How do I handle my ex if he text messages me on Valentines Day?
I haven't seen my ex boyfriend in just about over a month. We were together for almost 4 years. We never officially sat down and had a conversation about ending anything. We used to spend most of our time together but he started pulling away and things were beginning to happen only on his terms. I realized the pattern after a few weeks of us seeing each other for maybe 2 or 3 days out of the week. I have tried to speak with him about the situation but he refuses to speak about it. The only response was "I always hope things between us get better. I haven't seen any action on his part, just words and not many. The last time we spoke about anything I was getting my things from his house and he had me convinced that he wanted things to work out. I have been very independent for the past few months so I have given him plenty of space but now it's just hurting so I have started no contact even though it's killing me. I have received text messages from him for well over half the days in the month. He has texted me pretty much this whole last week. I have ignored most of them and I have tried to call him but he won't get on the phone. Last time I saw him, he seemed down and was not taking care of his appearance(beard, no haircut, gained a few lbs). I know he has a troubled family life. Now Valentines day is coming and if he texts me I was thinking about texting him back on a nice note. Is that a bad idea? I can't understand how someone you spent all this time with can just dissapear and finds it perfectly okay to contact me only through text. I have called him out about him wanting a friendship with no response. All i get is "im trying to keep things positive." He texted me on our anniversary this month, reminding me "it's the 3rd!" This situation is just so mind baffling. Any advice would be greatly appreciated </3
- Asked by ldski1982, A Life of the Party, Female, 29-35, Other Profession
My recentest ex cut me off from ever contacting her. I wasn't even doing it very much, either. It's what I've experienced from most women-- No Contact means NO CONTACT, ever again.
Handle this the same way you have handled similar messages on other days. If you want to talk to him, talk to him. If not, don't.