No, dear. He calls you these things because you let him. You had a child by this so-called "man" and then allowed yourself to be degraded, insulted, and put down by him, all the while crawling back to take more. He calls you these things because he sees you as nothing more than just some, please forgive the expression, dumb whore who'll give it up whenever he comes calling. You're nothing more than a toy to him, hon, and one he has little use for and even less respect for. You know that he doesn't care for his own offspring, let alone you, and yet you admit that you'd be willing to suffer the degradation just to feel some sense of closeness to him.
I love and respect my wife. If I've ever called her a bitch, it's either in the sense of "Stop acting like a bitch" because I know she's better than that or it's in the bedroom when we go roleplaying. I have never, ever called my wife a whore, slut, cunt, or any other sexually-demeaning term when it doesn't relate to use in the bedroom during our shared time. Why? Because I love and respect her. I know damn-well that using those terms outside of accepted play is just a vicious insult designed to tear her down and destroy the very woman she is.
In your case, though, he's using them because he MEANS it. He means that, to him, you're nothing more than a bitch, a whore. And if you willingly go back to that, suffering it just to have him near you again then at what point are you proving that you care for or respect your child or yourself? When have you shown yourself or anyone else that he's wrong? Is that the image of yourself that you want to give your baby? That it's perfectly fine for any "man" to insult a woman, treat her like shit, and utterly disrespect her simply because she's a woman?
Please, listen to what I'm saying here very closely. There are real men out there that prize a woman's heart and mind. Those that look past the scars of the past, that see a woman's strengths and weaknesses and loves her for each and every one of them. Do not let yourself be fooled into thinking that one person, this one ignorant, misogynistic fool is the best you will ever be able to do in your life. Find yourself. Learn to accept who you are and to love yourself and learn to ignore the heartless insults thrown your way. When you can do that, when you can see yourself and who you want to be then someone else will see it, too. You'll never have to suffer the degradation again unless it's something that you've both accepted as part of your intimate play, but then it's not degradation. You can be happy without this "person" ever again in your life save to give you the money that your child deserves. Trust me, it'll be more than worth it in the end.
- Response by doom2ruler
, A Guy Critical, Male, 29-35, Technical