|Friendship / 11:43 PM - Sunday July 01, 2012|
Can two people who have feelings for each other be just friends (please read details)?
I'm falling for my brother's best friend, and we have discussed our feelings for each other on multiple occasions. He's had a girlfriend, so nothing has ever come of these feelings, but last night he told me he didn't think we could ever be together. He cited fear of losing both our very close relationship, and fear of how my brother would react as reasons. I need advice. Thank you in advance.
- Asked by Female, 22-25
Only if you can accept it for what it truly is. A two sided crush that was not meant to go anywhere. He cares about you and respects you and your brother enough not to jeopardize the closeness you all do share. You both have confessed interest but don't have history and have maintained boundaries, so it is possible to value his friendship if you can set your romantic feelings aside for friendship's sake. Don't know if he still has a gf but you should be respectful of that too if he is unavailable. If he is available you could fess up to your bro-your feelings, not the friends- to see what he thinks without expecting him to feel any which way about it. It can be touchy but it's understandable how your attachment could grow. Your bro might not like the idea of sharing his bff with his sister or how it would affect him if things turned sour.
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