A woman that desires a FWB simply want to friendship, companionship, sex, and no commitment to an exclusive relationship. She can see her "friend" whenever she want to, and not deal with him when she doesn't. She's free to date any man that she meet. And, can have multiple FWB's if she want to. Some are FWB, but have an agreement to let each other know when they are desiring to have sex with another person. That's what's in it for her. It's the same thing that is in it for men.
Just because you want a FWB, doesn't mean you want to screw anybody or strangers that you don't know.
Because, there are some feelings of respect, love, and friendship there. You can have those and not be "in love" or in a committed relationship. People love their friends too. It's not the same as meeting a stranger and saying, "Hey, want to f*ck?" It's more than that. Now, there are f*ck buddies. Those merely get together for sex. They don't have to be friends or anything else.
If you're the one desiring a FWB relationship, you do not "resign" yourself to being a booty call. That is more like a f*ck buddy. FWB are actually friends that enjoy each other. It's more than just a booty call. It's a non-committed relationship. You do care about each other just like friends. There is sexual attraction there. It's not like you're just waiting for a phone call from some guy to come over and have sex with you, while you're hoping it's something more than that.
Because, this is your decision. It isn't really about the guy. I understand not desiring to be in a FWB relationship. It was fine with me at one time too. But, not now. Now, I actually desire a relationship. As an older woman I can tell you, yes. It's just as easy for us to get sex. No, it isn't true that it's only younger women. People can change their mind. But, your sister might truly mean what she's saying.
If so, she'll be an older woman who enjoys a relationship with no commitment or exclusivity. She'll enjoy her freedom. But, have no responsibility to be a wife to a husband. There are a ton of young people who are fwb's and don't know it. And, there are tons of older people enjoying great marriages. There are those who don't want to marry.
You can have children without marriage. Many do it everyday. For some older people being FWB might work, and for some it might not. I don't believe it's any harder for older woman than anyone else. Unless, you've allowed yourself to go and you are unattractive. Then, it might be harder for you to have any type of relationship. Some young people believe it make more sense.
Look at the ages of those on here always asking questions about if the guy is ever going to marry them. These women relationships are not that different from a fwb. In the end, age has nothing to do with what type of relationship you personally are desiring or happy in. It's all about what the individual person want. A lot of people don't desire that type of relationship. And, that's cool too. To each their own. It's all about what makes you happy. Why worry about what makes someone else happy? IJS
- Response by thelovedovefor1
, A Creative, Female, 46-55, Atlanta, Who Cares?