So what does this opinion you have say about your general opinion of men? Sure seems to be pretty low and quite negative. And you know what? I whole heartedly disagree, even with your star answer woman above who is quite clueless actually. It's all fine and dandy to lash out at men like this and finger point but you are doing not only yourself, but all the people in your life a great disservice... Nothing is going to set you up for a life of sadness than assigning blame and pointing fingers at everyone else instead of making that effort to improve your outlook and your life in general. Anyone can find sex anywhere if they want it bad enough and with whatever. But it's hollow, not for the heart and destroys a soul. It's that simple. If you want real connection and commitment and love then you make different choices.
In life we seek out, find, and surround ourselves with like-minded individuals so our own biases, and thoughts are confirmed and re-inforced... heck.. even on here people star and jump cartwheels to "fit in" or find someone who agrees with their world view or point of view so that they don't feel alone... but therein lies the issue... if all you are looking for is someone to agree with you and reinforce and negative view then how do you expect to grow and blossom as a human being? Part of what's cool with this place is you can test your theories or thoughts, maybe even your heart, and throw it out there to see what perspectives may be had... it can help you gain perspective or even change your mind a bit... but to just find a few that agree with a rather negative perspective and then perpectuate a harsh outlook?
You, or she, may have run into oafs that just wanna a hump a leg like a dog, but that's not all men... that's like saying all women are sluts and then looking for verification... that's just not true..... blanket statements condemning something in its entirety is simple and foolish, uneducated and rash, juvenile and vain.... but you run into that here often and it just reinforces my view that some people become a bit of a lost cause... sometimes it's experience, sometimes it's reflection, sometimes it's a come to Jesus moment... sometimes it's never... that people will gain that new view/new lease on life when they can see things anew and truly "see" what's up... do you "see"?
I really wish you well and your bf sister as well.. but to grow and learn and inspire and feel and love and live... takes effort... being static is easy but to work towards becoming more enlightened in life.. does that seem to be a noble effort?
I'd challenge you to go to school, learn, educate, and challenge your views in places that disagree with you so you can gain perspective. Disagreements are great if the ultimate goal is perspective... Best I got at the moment... good luck.
- Response by timeforanoverhaul
, A Father Figure, Male, 36-45, Managerial