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What would you think if your s/o did this?
Dating / 11:52 AM - Sunday February 05, 2012

What would you think if your s/o did this?

Me and my boyfriend have been together for two years and we live together, last night he went out and told me he would be home early but he didn't come home til 10:30 this morning. he did this a couple weeks ago and I explained to him that it would make me feel better if he would at least text me and tell me he's not coming home, but he still didn't text me or anything. And when he did this a couple weeks ago this girl he works with brought him home and I told him it made me uncomfortable because he was staying with her, not by himself there were other people staying there too (or that's what he told me) but it still makes me feel uncomfortable because he's always texting this girl everyday from early in the morning until late at night and he's always erasing the messages and she bought him some valentines day stuff and I just feel like their relationship is kind of inappropriate...but anyways this morning the same girl brought him home so it's like he completely disregarded everything I was trying to explain made me uncomfortable. When I confronted him about it after he got home he said we should just break up because he was tired of having to explain himself and answer to someone else. I feel like he's not even trying and he's just so quick to give up everything. Do you think he was cheating on me with that girl?

- Asked by alexandriaapple, A Thinker, Female, 22-25, Who Cares?

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His behavior is suspicious to say the least. In addition, he seems to show you little respect. It's almost like he wants to force you to be one to break up. You have mentioned these types of problems in the past. He seems to not want to be in a truly committed relationship with you. I worry that this guy will continue to cause you pain and anxiety. Maybe it's time to move on and find a better match and someone who deserves you.

- Response by mld1221, A Career Man, Male, 46-55, Los Angeles, Managerial

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Ok--Im Not Being Harsh With You But- Are You The Same Girl Who Said He Cheated On You While You All Were Living Together And Then He Moved Out Or Something Then He Came Back -?

Leave His Black Ass!! Just Like He IS Tired Of Explaining Himself You Should Be Tired Of His Bullshit! Dont Let Him Abuse You Like That! That Is Emotional Abuse!

I Mean - Coming Home @ 2am Might Be Questionable But Coming Home @ 1030am Is Unacceptable! Especially When Who He Is and Has Been Fcking IS With Him- That Is ALL OUT DISRESPECT!!



- Response by bevann2012, A Career Woman, Female, 36-45, Executive

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i'm going to speak from my heart on this and as a man. if you are hanging with another woman without your gf around you are more then just friends.

all the signs are there and he trying to tell you that he's cheating without just coming out and saying it. time to move out and move on. sounds like he getting his cake and eating it.

- Response by belf12, A Guy Critical, Male, Who Cares?, Other Profession

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Yes I do believe he is cheating on you with this girl and why is because he can careless about your feels and keeps staying out with out calling and texting you to let you he sleeping over where he is. I believe his chaeating on you for sure.

- Response by pawbuddys, A Thinker, Female, 46-55

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I have no clue about him cheating but I do think he took the oppertuinity to break up to pursue this girl.
I like to give freedom to my partner and I like my freedom
but when ever I have felt things were not right , they wern't.

And I am sure if you disapeared over night he ..would be asking you were you were. It is only common courtisy to let someone know you wont be home .

- Response by morningdust, A Creative, Female, 46-55, Self-Employed

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Do pigs have tails? Honey, it's clear as day that your boyfriend is cheating on you and he's not doing a very good job tying to hide it. I'm sorry he's doing this to you, but it's time to kick this dude to the curb and move on. Don't be a door mat and don't try to make excuses for him. You SHOULD know you deserve better.

- Response by nico76, A Creative, Female, 29-35, San Francisco, Who Cares?

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oh no...i just read the not coming home and talking to another girl part and no...you need to tell him to stop this b.s.... he is not respecting you by staying with some other girl..he is trying to turn the tables on the arguments you guys have...tell him to stop with the b.s. or you will end it. If you let stuff like this by he will continue doing it

- Response by silenceiskey77, A Thinker, Female, 22-25

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Whenever a guy other than my boyfriend is persistent trying to romance me, I tell him to bog off. He shouldn't be putting up with this attention all day every day. It would be understandable if it was a female friend speaking to and hanging out with him intermittently, but this seems a little excessive.

- Response by stiffkittenbabelfish, Female, 26-28, Administrative

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I would think he wants you to break up with him as he doesn't care what you think anymore. Throw his things out and tell him to leave. He is disrespecting you by not letting you know where he is what he is doing and texting that girl all day and night. He is obviously having some kind of relationship with her and doesn't care what you think.

- Response by hulagirl55, A Sportif, Female, Who Cares?, Who Cares?

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