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Spouse sleeps all weekend every other weekend..is this normal/tolerable behavior? Im growing annoyed
Married Life / 6:40 PM - Saturday February 04, 2012

spouse sleeps all weekend every other weekend..is this normal/tolerable behavior? Im growing annoyed

We dont have kids or any kind of weekend responsibilities, but just about every other weekend he spends the majority of it sleeping. He works long hours during the week, then goes to the gym, and then we have dinner/hang out and get to sleep. But come Saturday and Sunday, he pretty much only gets up to eat or use the bathroom. I have explained to him that I feel frustrated when I want to use that weekend time together to have a date, or do household work together, need his help with something, or just spend time together in general...and he tells me that he is tired and needs to catch up on sleep. I have tried negotiating like saying how about get up at like 2pm or 3pm instead of constantly sleeping but he always tells me that he is exhausted and doesnt want to be forced to wake up at a certain time. If i try to go in the bedroom and try to coax him into getting out of bed he hollers for me to leave him be...Any thoughts here? He is not on any medications or suffering from depression or anything like that. His mom told me that as a child he required alot of sleep as well. I just cannot take it anymore....

- Asked by Female, 29-35

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Woman that man is tired. You just said he works long hours during the week! At least he's trying to relieve some stress and keep himself looking great and being healthy by going to the gym. You said, he does this every other weekend. Well, on the weekends that he isn't sleeping all day, what are you two doing together? If he never want to do anything with you or for you; and he seems to be too tired for you.

Maybe, he's cheating with someone he is spending all of that energy on. Who knows? I hope not. But, it doesn't sound like this is really about you. However, if you find yourself in a relationship with a man that isn't considering how you're feeling in the relationship, you might need to rethink being in a relationship with a man like that. Good luck.

- Response by thelovedovefor1, A Creative, Female, 46-55, Atlanta, Who Cares?

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Some people do NEED an extra amount of sleep.
I know this guy who sleeps 16 to 17 hours straight.
Also, there is an illness that causes people to fall asleep.

- Response by kismet331, A Thinker, Female, 36-45

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I feel your pain. My husband works every weekend (mandatory). I deal with it by finding things to do on my own or getting together with friends.

- Response by experience101, A Thinker, Female, 56-65, Who Cares?

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If he slept like this as a child mabe with his long hours he needs this sleep.I would do some things with friends on the weekend.

- Response by frenchkiss49, A Thinker, Female, 56-65, Tampa, Who Cares?

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Oh, no a guy working long hours in this day and age? Dump him as fast as you can. The idiot decided to work hard and that is a clear sign of someone that cares. No, dump him and find a guy who does not work and will live off your dime. You guys can spend bunches of time together.

- Response by william45, A Career Man, Male, 46-55, Chicago, Teaching

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