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Is my fiance an alcoholic?
Diet & Health / 4:44 PM - Saturday February 04, 2012

Is my fiance an alcoholic?

He only drinks on Friday night and Saturday night, and he only drinks wine. But he will finish a full bottle all to himself on each of those two nights. Then come Sunday - Thursday its back to the usual water/milk/iced tea. He doesnt get angry or irresponsible or any other sort of negative behavior, but im thinking about his liver/health long term having two bottles of wine each weekend. Any thoughts?

- Asked by A Thinker, Female, 29-35, Technical

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That's less than a lot of poeple drink. Unless it's disrupting work/home life, or he's drinking and driving..I wouldn't worry about that. Is it optimal for his health? no..but lots ofthings are bad for you..and lets face it..one bottle of wine is only about 3 glasses(unless he's got the magnum)

- Response by girldownunder, A Life of the Party, Female, 29-35, Sydney, Medical / Dental

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Chances are .. if it doesn't negatively affect his life or relationships, he's probably not an alcoholic.

I wouldn't worry about it too much. But, if he gets regular checkups .. maybe he could ask the doctor .. or you could ask your own doctor about it. I know drinking red wine can be helpful .. but overindulging in anything isn't a good idea.

- Response by mrscleaver16, A Married Girl, Female, 56-65

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I drink the same way,except I carry it on into Sunday. As long as he does not get irresponsible or abusive it should be no big deal.He may have a stressful job or is worried about losing his job(who isn't these day?)I am 53 years old and my health is not an issue.

- Response by terdboy, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 46-55, Los Angeles, Who Cares?

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Yeah , he is fine chika , really , there should be no liver damage or nothing , just let him have his wine as-long as he is responsible , he is fine , and you said it your self he doesn't drink alcohol during the week . so no worries. its just his way of relaxing .

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- Response by champia24, A Thinker, Female, 22-25, Food Service

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No. He is not. But he does need some direction. He may be lost as to what life is about. Is it just you and dinner? He is lost on a purpose and has no Idea what that Idea is. He needs your help finding a purpose in life. You can help. Should he volunteer some time to others? The community? He needs help finding life fullfilled. Friends? Family? Become his becon. Show him the next step. Only show him. Do not try forcing him. If you trully love him, you will help him over this tiny bump. Best Wishes.

- Response by nomadbum, Female, 56-65, Chicago, Self-Employed

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I think not. If you're worried about his liver---have him get his dr to run a liver panel....


- Response by bobbysg1rl, A Cool Mom, Female, 36-45, Pittsburgh, Medical / Dental

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he is fine.

- Response by wakeforester, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 36-45

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That doesn't sounds too bad, actually. If he had a bottle of wine EVERY night of the week, then it would be an issue. He drinks less than most people who drink alcohol, I'd say.

- Response by silver75, A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Stockholm, Other Profession

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There are such things as functioning alcoholics. I didn't even know my dad was an alcoholic until my late teen years because I had never seen him drunk.

That's not to say your fiance is one. I would agree with those who said to talk to your doctor about it if you're concerned. I bet there's some kind of hotline or something you can call anonymously too.

Yup, this is the hotline at the National Council for Alcoholism and Drug Dependence. 800-622-2255

It can't hurt to call and see what they think if you're really worried about it.

- Response by rslizzle, A Thinker, Female, 22-25, Student

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If it's red wine it's beneficial to his health. I think if he only does it 2 days a week it's not bad.

- Response by frenchkiss49, A Thinker, Female, 56-65, Tampa, Who Cares?

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I must start by saying this. I drank excessivly for over 25 years. Starting when I was young. Ended up drinking over a fifth of whiskey/vodka daily. Thats one-fifth of a gallon. Alot of the times more. I have been not only sober for over 3 years but have re-constructed a new outlook on life. Its completly overwhelming..still. By the grace of God.

Health issues are of course a concern. The deep concern is actually the dependency. It can (will) be such a slow sneakiness that fools almost everyone. It took years for it to creep up on me and completly takeme over. I do not wish this on a biting dog. It ruins a person physically but mostly spiritually. It will drain the life out of all of your loved ones and at last, the drinker. I know this for a fact.

That is the mild version of the worst case senerio. Possibly he would never consume anymore. He is developing a crutch pattern though.

Try altering his Friday and or Saturday night plans to put him in a position where drinking is not an option. Waatch his reaction at even the mention of this. This will answer your question acurratly. Dont do this more often than to get your answer as he will figure you out quickly and trust will leave.

Most important, be honest with him. Tell him your wishes and concerns. If he.... I need say no more.

- Response by spongy98, A Guy Critical, Male, 36-45, Consulting

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No worries...

- Response by candiedcherry69, Female, 36-45, Miami, Who Cares?

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Technically wine is supposed to be healthy for you. My aunt read it somewhere that wine is healthy for a person. She started giving my grandpa a little last year whenever she had it around.

- Response by hampgyrl, A Life of the Party, Female, 22-25, Administrative

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