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Married Life / 4:21 PM - Saturday February 04, 2012

With So Many Other Beautiful And Wonderful Men And Women In The World...

How is it that you remain faithful to your partner or spouse?

- Asked by blakrose08, A Thinker, Female, 22-25, Who Cares?

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I've been married for 41 years .. we're both faithful because we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. We both found our "wonderful" person and made the right choice.

When you're truly in love with someone ... being faithful is natural .. you do it because you want to.

The problem with many relationships is that people get together for the wrong reasons and with the wrong people. That's what creates the discontent and constant search for someone "better".

The solution is not rushing into relationships ... better to be single if you're not absolutely sure .. so you can play the field honestly .. until you find the right person.


- Response by mrscleaver16, A Married Girl, Female, 56-65

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You can have sex with anyone; however, there is more than that involved in a relationship. When I am with someone, he has my mind and heart and that keeps me faithful. That's not to say there is anything wrong with appreciating other people, but at the end of the day he's the only one I want because he is the one I love and desire on more than just a physical level.

As to the person who said things become "monotonous," that goes back to how active, connected, creative, and experimental your sex life is with your partner. If you don't have a mental and emotional connection with the person, which takes some effort and time to maintain over the years, then it is bound to get boring.



- Response by undecidedfuture1, A Creative, Female, 36-45

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Without a moment hesitation, my Kelly is the beauty holding my heart.

- Response by ilom, A Mr. Married Guy, Male, 46-55, Halifax, Science / Engineering

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You could, but after a while that becomes so monotonous.

- Response by greenwind, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 56-65, Construction

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It's called love. Love isn't a feeling, it's an action. It covers everything else required for a healthy marriage. We've been married 32 years.

- Response by mistyjean, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Self-Employed

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Lying, cheating, and stealing are character flaws.......

- Response by stanorocks, A Guy Critical, Male, 36-45, Denver, Therapist

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It comes down to commitment and respect.

- Response by terdboy, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 46-55, Los Angeles, Who Cares?

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I hate Dating , seriously I hate it , everything about it I hate blind Date I hate when friend set you up I hate it !!! but i do love being in a relationship , I love my boy friend and he dose so much for me , He loved me since he first met me , i actually though he was annoying , but he has been around for years , and just been there waiting for me , and when i fell in love with him ... It was the most wonderful feeling to know it cant end in divorce .......But yeah i love my boy friend and I hate dating .Thus i stay faithful because of that .

Much Respect
TCB>

- Response by champia24, A Thinker, Female, 22-25, Food Service

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Because HE is the one that makes me smile. He is the one who steps up when other have not. He is the one who makes me feel loved, sexy, powerful, vulnerable and silly all at the same time. I have been with a lot of men..but no man has ever done all of this for me. Previous relationships were about compromise, glossing over, forgiving bad behaviour over and over. I don't seem to ever have to do that with this man.

Are there other men out there who are probably wonderful too? I"m sure there are. I found the one I want howver, so why should I keep looking for something I already have?

- Response by girldownunder, A Life of the Party, Female, 29-35, Sydney, Medical / Dental

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Because THERE IS nobody else. that is all.

- Response by rafiki910, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, Who Cares?, Boston, Body Work

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she told me she stayed for the kids sake.

- Response by nuttyprofessor, A Guy Critical, Male, 56-65, Transportation

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Because I'm beautiful ?

- Response by headscratching, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 46-55, Science / Engineering

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Love is an emotional response. We blame love for many things.

When we commit.. it's a decision -- not ruled by emotions.

When you put the two together:

Relationship = Committment x Love

Good luck.

- Response by skycop, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 36-45, Consulting

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...True love!! That is the main ingredient! With love, it's easy to be faithful.

- Response by jennafire, A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Los Angeles, Who Cares?

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I think it's easy. If you really love someone, you would never do anything that would risk their health or through action consider to risk their health by engaging in risky behaviors.

I can see an expensive restaurant full of beautiful plates of food but resist the urge to go from table to table, using others silverware to taste each plate and drink from their cups...

I just don't risk that kind of stuff when I love the person because I would rather protect them from harm, both physically and emotionally... being a persons caretaker of heart is the most beautiful thing in the world.

- Response by timeforanoverhaul, A Father Figure, Male, 36-45, Self-Employed

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Once can appreciate beauty from afar; while remaining truthful to the one in their heart.

- Response by nysbikergirl, An Alternative Girl, Female, 46-55, Who Cares?

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The thing that would hurt me more would be for my husband to cheat on me. With that thought in mind I know I could never do it to him.Common decentcy.

- Response by frenchkiss49, A Thinker, Female, 56-65, Tampa, Who Cares?

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Well, I don't expect to.

My bf and I are happily open, and have adventures together.

- Response by A Player, Female, 22-25, Who Cares?

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It just comes natural
I love the fact that I get to wake up in the morning, roll over and give him a huge smoocher. hehe. =)


- Response by lady_kryptonite, A Thinker, Female, 22-25

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One word - obligation.

- Response by myrtletyrtle, A Cool Mom, Female, 46-55, Who Cares?

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Because, when you find "the one", you really just don't want anyone else. It doesn't even cross your mind that someone else could take their place. Ever heard guys say "that's my rib"? It's like they're just a part of you, that couldn't be replaced by anything else.

I used to wonder why some widows/widowers don't get remarried after years go by. I get it now. When it's really right, there isn't anyone who could ever take their place.

- Response by manny, A Hip Hop Guy, Male, 36-45, Technical

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