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| Married Life / 12:37 PM - Saturday February 04, 2012 |
Should marital status change your friendship?I think it should not. I remember being the only singel person in my group of all married freinds. Fast forward to now, Those same friends are divorced or in opn marriages, and I am newly married and had a new baby. I never thought our friendships would dissolve. I have not been able to attend every function I was invited to and I think my friends (or former friends) are upset. It's a lot of work with a new baby and since I have been married - I don't spend a lot of money anymore on expensive dinners. I would rather spend it on my family. Now, I'm not invtied anymore and I understand, but I thought they would understand. WE have all had children and couldn't hang out as much. I just happened to have mine late. I feel that I have been removed from the circle because I've sent holiday, birthday cards, texts and phone calls and no returned calls and my usual holiday cards never came. I feel bad about it, but am also feeling that I should just move on and enjoy my life. - Asked by babysta, A Married Girl, Female, 36-45 |
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Yes and No! Your best and true friends are always their for you thru thick and thin. Everyones life changes thru the years according to the situation at hand. Your friends married and had children before you but you where there for parties and gatherings because of your availablity at that moment. Now you are married and have a child which takes alot of your time. You also seen that their relationships took a turn for the worst and you do not want to follow in their footsteps. You want to put as much time into your own family because that is what is expected to have a happy home. You have reached out but recieve no return replys. It is time to find new connections that are on the same level you are about life and family. Home is first and friends come second. Find a new group of friends that like doing the things your family are interested in and continue to enjoy life as you planned. Good things sometimes do come to an end, but it opens doors to new adventures and surroundings. It sounds like you can use a new view to bring sunshine in.
- Response by lowmy, A Mr. Married Guy, Male, 46-55, Baltimore, Student
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Your eyes are wide open. Don't close them now. You are right to move on. People and times change. Sometimes for the good. Sometimes for the worst. In your case for the good. Would you like to be in a situation where a husband hits on you and his wife( your friend) finds out? Of course not. This is where these things can lead. Perhaps your having sex with a husband of a friend. The grass for them allways seems greener on the other side of the fence. Put razor wire over the top of yours.
- Response by nomadbum, Female, 56-65, Chicago, Self-Employed
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No, I don't feel that marital status should change your friendships. However, not everyone feels this way. Many people just feel that if you turn down a handful of invitations, then you must not be interested any longer and therefore you just fall of the RADAR. If that's the case with your old friends, then find some new ones. Time to get out and make some new contacts.
- Response by taichichuan, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 46-55, Washington, DC, Consulting
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Move on as they are on a different plains,Find real friends with kids like you.You have to wonder why some change.
- Response by frenchkiss49, A Thinker, Female, 56-65, Tampa, Who Cares?
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Now is the time to make new friends.
- Response by dambreaker, A Father Figure, Male, 56-65, Retired
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