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Help! I went to dinner with my boyfriend of 5 months. He asked the hostess for a table for 1 and 1/2
Dating / 4:33 AM - Saturday February 04, 2012

Help! I went to dinner with my boyfriend of 5 months. He asked the hostess for a table for 1 and 1/2

I tried to laugh it off, but it was humilating. The hostesses were laughing. He said he got the idea from the family before us who told the hostess they were a party of 4 1/2. He's always trying to be funny. He said he didn't know what the 1/2 meant. How could he, when he is 38 and frequently goes to restaurants? I'm thinking I should have told him to take me home.

- Asked by Female, 29-35

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Would you like some cheese with that whine?

You are being way too sensitive.

..................:B)





- Response by beemerdoc, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 56-65, Celebrity

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I'm thinking you might be overreacting. Your bf might not have a great sense of humour, but that's something you're picking up on early in the relationship, and if it's not going to work for you, you still have a chance to get out.

Maybe he just didn't get the joke. That's no reason to ask him to take you home. And hostesses have to deal with a whole bunch of people everyday and their stupid jokes, they're used to it and won't even remember your bf next time he goes there.

Ease up and accept him for who he is, cause I'm sure you also annoy him sometimes and appear irrational to him as well.

- Response by tanyao, A Married Girl, Female, 26-28, Johannesburg

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I really think that you're overreacting about this, he was only trying to be funny I don't think he meant anything by it at all - don't be taking offence at nothing. Hostesses are used to people telling silly, stupid jokes and they'll not even remember you next time. Plus, I think your bf will think that you're being irrational if you mention it.

- Response by kaylou321, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 22-25, Administrative

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This isn't really anything to be upset about! He was merely making a joke!

- Response by cougar01, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Self-Employed

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Maybe I'm missing something here? The family in front was likely either expecting or making a playful spin on "my better half". Either reference is totally harmless even if you didn't find it funny.

You say he is always "trying" to be funny so I take it you don't necessarily find him funny or get his sense of humor. If that's the case, re-evaluate the whole relationship because humor is and should be a big part of a relationship. I once dated a guy who's humor I didn't get and he didn't get mine. It was always awkward, terse and ultimately boring.

If you took his joke as a slight, I suggest you keep it to yourself because it'll make you seem like some dainty dame who can't take a light joke. OR he'll be walking on eggshells to try to avoid upsetting you in the future. That wouldn't last long.

- Response by thottienc, A Career Woman, Female, 36-45, Who Cares?

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back when they had real 'service' gas stations, the guys that worked there were prolly not rocket scientists. unless it involved turbo chargers and maybe jets for nitrous.
anyway, this dude had his first finger amputated - drove in to get gas, the attendant said how much buddy? the guy held up his 4 fingers and the guy (goober) said.. gotcha 3 1/2 gallons comin right up
never batted an eyelash. we however were ROLLING

- Response by mortishia99, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Medical / Dental

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Dude, lighten up. He was trying to be funny, no deep meaning there.

- Response by cam80, A Career Woman, Female, 29-35

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he was trying to be funny.

- Response by dzeusmitch, A Player, Female, 22-25, Hospitality

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A baby?

- Response by rafiki910, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, Who Cares?, Boston, Body Work

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An OBESE person?

- Response by rafiki910, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, Who Cares?, Boston, Body Work

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You were the one and he was the 1/2....

- Response by englishrose4945, A Life of the Party, Female, 66 or older, Miami, Alternative Medicine

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Way overreacting.

- Response by A Guy Critical, Male, 46-55, New York, Who Cares?

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At that point, you speak up and say: I'm the one, he's the half ;)

- Response by lioness21, A Player, Female, 29-35, Consulting

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We are talking about a guy here...

Are you sure your not hyper-sensitive about your weight?

He thought he was being cute or funny but he wasn't -- if anything I hope you become more aware of your perception of yourself...

The experience becomes the label we give it.

Good luck.

- Response by skycop, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 36-45, Consulting

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wow... your kind of a stick in the mud arent you

- Response by boxer1, A Life of the Party, Male, 36-45, Self-Employed

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sounds like he just doesn't know how to tell or understand a joke..

- Response by michellekia, A Thinker, Female, 29-35, St.Louis, Other Profession

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At least he didn't say he'd like a table for one and one for my overly sensitive thin skinned whiney bitch girlfriend. You should have asked him to take you home? Show a little confidence as not everything is about you.



- Response by patresi, An Intellectual Guy, Male, Who Cares?, Who Cares?

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I think your whining over nothing.

- Response by mynekogirl, A Trendsetter, Female, 36-45, Executive

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He told a joke. Did you think the joke was that you're so skinny you look like half of a person or something? Because, I could understand if he overheard that being said from other customers, and decided to repeat it as a joke. Or, are you upset that he caused the "hostesses" to laugh at his joke? I'm glad he has a sense of humor.

However, if you were the butt of the joke, I'd let him know not to continue doing that if it truly upsets you. Personally, I think you should lighten up. To take it so serious that you actually considered asking him to take you home is kind of ridiculous. You should have had a good laugh with them all. Only you know the story behind why this upset you as it did. It seems a little harmless from what I've read here though.

- Response by thelovedovefor1, A Creative, Female, 46-55, Atlanta, Who Cares?

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Sorry, I'm not getting it.

What does the half mean? The only thing that makes sense is if your talking about a child, we sometimes say 2 and 1/2 when we go out with our son, or maybe if someone is pregnant, but 1 and 1/2 just sounds like a cheasy joke calling you short. It's definately not a fat or pregnancy joke, as that would be 2 and 1/2.

Sorry, I don't get the code. Unless your really short or half his age, I don't even get the joke.

Unless you know more about the code than I do, chalk it up to him being a goof.

Please send an update explaining it, because I'm feeling like a doof not getting it!

Thanks!


- Response by milla, A Thinker, Female, 29-35

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Are you short? Maybe he was just being silly. Don't be too upset.

- Response by lady_kryptonite, A Thinker, Female, 22-25

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you would be doing him a favor if you left now...

- Response by strongbow, A Jock, Male, 29-35, Who Cares?

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