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My brother jn law and his wife recently got married a few months ago. it's strange but I feel as
Married Life / 4:30 AM - Saturday February 04, 2012

My brother jn law and his wife recently got married a few months ago. it's strange but I feel as

Though they've changed so much. I don't know why? They try so hard to act like adults but deep down they're still kids. I don't understand why they just can't be themselves. Have fun and laugh for a second. My brother in law used to have a great sense of humor but we rarely hear a joke from him nowadays. What's going on? Why so serious all the time? I'd rather talk to their parents sometimes because they enjoy life more. Even though they're closer in age to us, it feels like we're millions of miles apart! This might be a problem when they move out on their own and it's dreadful to hang out with them. Can someone please explain? Anyone who's had the same situation happen?

- Asked by Female, 29-35

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You don't know what's going on behind their closed doors. They might be having marital problems, or financial problems, or some kind of problems that are making them seem stuck up all the time recently.

If it really bothers you that much, talk to your B-i-L about it, or ask your husband to talk to him about it. Maybe they just don't realise what it looks like when they're acting this way, or are even aware that they're acting in any specific way.

Don't write them off if they aren't completely horrible to you when you get there. If they're still showing good manners and at least trying to converse with you, then hang in there and give them a second chance.

- Response by tanyao, A Married Girl, Female, 26-28, Johannesburg

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Cold hard REALITY has set in.........The ole BALL AND CHAIN!!!

- Response by rafiki910, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, Who Cares?, Boston, Body Work

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Getting married is a BIG adjustment; and there's a LOT of grown up responsibilities that come with it. Unless you're in the day to day behind closed doors with them you have no idea what's going on. They could have marital issues, financial issues, space issues, living issues, etc. Be supportive and be kind. They may also have issues if they're living with someone else.

- Response by lioness21, A Player, Female, 29-35, Consulting

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