|Sex & Intimacy / 1:17 AM - Sunday January 08, 2012|
Why does my boyfriend want to keep our relationship a secret? :'(
Well, my boyfriend and I have been dating since June and we both attend the same university. He's really sweet and I adore the time we spend together. He's a DJ on our campus and in the area so he's always on the go and usually has a lot of females around him. Trust me we've had our fair share of arguments about the groupies but that's not the subject at hand. My boyfriend pretty much refuses to acknowledge our relationship in public. I can't get a hug or kiss, we don't hold hands or anything. He's even gone so far as to only call me his friend when we're out and happen to run into one of his friends. He hates that I put his name in my bio on twitter because it states he's my boyfriend and even called me to ask me to remove it. We've had numerous talks about this but he just says he doesn't wan't people in our business and while I understand that they don't have to be. All I wan't is acknowledgement. People can know OF our relationship without knowing DETAILS. I just hate that he can't see how much this hurts my feelings. It makes me feel like he's ashamed of me and even like he might be cheating. I feel like I shouldn't stay in a relationship if I'm going to be kept a secret. In my eyes it's disrespectful. I don't know what to do. How would you feel if you were in my situation? Why do you think he's doing this to me?
- Asked by kennedyjayden, An Engaged Girl, Female, 22-25, Paris, Student
Your bf is a player who is keeping his options open darlin. Lack of a declaration here isn't about business when he does this with his friends. He is cruising on the downlow...and if that is not your gig you ought to opt out.
If it were me, my feelings would be very hurt too. And, I would be confused about my actual 'status' in this person's life.