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My boss is a bitch. Please help?
Career / 12:41 AM - Wednesday December 21, 2011

My boss is a bitch. Please help?

I have a job I really like overall. And at first everyone was very nice. But now my boss is being a real bitch. If she's having a bad day, she's passive-aggressive and bitchy to everyone and will pick on you under the guise of "I'm just joking!" A few of my coworkers have also noticed this.
Basically, my boss is a very pretty woman who, I believe has always gotten her way because she's cute. When she doesn't get her way, she gets very nasty. And as another woman, frankly, I don't give a shit. I do my job and I'm very good at it. And yet all I get is flack. I don't need someone who's going to kiss my ass at every turn, but all I get is criticism, and it's often presented very rudely. Instead of "I'd like to you to do this differently next time" it's "that looks horrible! I'm so stressed! I can't deal with this and you did a terrible job and I don't know why you can't do anything right"
Do I talk to her about this? I cannot live in an environment with a woman constantly needing to make me her bitch and make me feel inferior, but I can't lose my job. What's the best way to handle this??

- Asked by bluelotus, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 26-28, New York, Artist / Musician / Writer

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Welcome to the real world. Bullying doesn't stop once you leave school. It carries on in the workplace a lot.

We've got the same situation where I work.

People either leave, a few have gone up against her (none have won), and the rest just avoid her as much as possible.

Those are your choices in the real world.

- Response by bluegenel, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, Who Cares?, Technical

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There seems to be one at every job. Moving on won't help.I know it's hard but try to avoid her and ignor her bad comments.

- Response by frenchkiss49, A Thinker, Female, 56-65, Tampa, Who Cares?

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The No Eye contact rule and hiding worked for me for 15 years in a job once. I just never looked at my boss, I always pretended to be Very busy if she came near me. OR If I saw her coming I would go to the restroom or go fax something. You could go to HER boss and talk to them or to HR. If you get a group to go with you, they can't fire all of you....Chances are they know she is a spoiled brat and her looks probably have gotten her perks. Is her boss a man? If so, he isn't going to help you. Next time she yells at you tell her she needs to talk to you nicely--what can it hurt? My guess is that no one has ever said one word about her behavior to her. I would make sure someone or a group of people hear you ask her nicely to address her critiquing you in a polite way...a witness is always handy. Or do what I did once. The supervisor at this stupid temp job was always screaming at me and ordering me around like I was a dog so when she yelled at me I went WOOF and said I AM NOT A DOG! quit talking to me like I am. She never once raised her voice to me again and was nice after that. I don't recommend that method if you have a job you like though...

- Response by kmf1, A Life of the Party, Female, 46-55, Minneapolis, Who Cares?

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You can't lose your job. And I doubt you can challenge her either. I would save talking to her about the problem as last resort.

I survived a bitchy boss by using humor to get through each day. I would make cartoons on the computer. If she did something stupid, I would pull in some clip art from the Internet and put some wording with it. Try it. Make some cartoons.

- Response by cancel9, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 56-65

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Some people just don't know how to be a good boss . teach her how to be a better boss .

- Response by headscratching, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 46-55, Science / Engineering

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