|Married Life / 12:45 PM - Thursday June 30, 2011|
I just found out my husband cheated on me 5 or 6 years ago.
My husband does not let me know he'll be late coming home. It is his business to travel. He goes to San Diego, Baja and Guadalajara. Some times it's a one day trip sometimes it's for 2 weeks. Sometimes I don't heard from him for 24 hours. The only way I know where he's been is to check our bank statements. I never know if he is at his place of work or out of town. It's making me feel unsecure. There I said it. But in all fairness to meself He just told me he had an affair 5 or 6 years ago. So now I am wondering how to turst him. His job requires him to travel and he feels he doesn't need to inform me of his whereabouts as he is an adult.If I were to go back and forth to Los Angeles or San Bernandino he would like to know, just in case something should happen to me. I feel stuck.What is my next move. Ignore everything let him come and go? How do I stop being angry? I am at home waiting for him to spend time with me. I see he entertains his clients often. Lunch here dinner there. I know he gets tired. I have been patient for many years now. All I would like to know if he'll be home late so I can maybe make plans with a friend to go to dinner or go see a movie. I cannot just stay home and wait for the call that never comes.
- Asked by Female, 56-65, Los Angeles, Student
You know you should not wait for him. Make plans and enjoy doing things with your friends there is nothing wrong with that!
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