|Sex & Intimacy / 7:38 AM - Tuesday June 28, 2011|
What would you do if your husband constantly talks to his ex-wife about you?
My husband has a daughter with his ex-wife. I am OK with them discussing their daughter and what she needs. But he is also discussing our marriage with her. He tells her about our disagreements and basically leads her to believe that he is not happy. She has now started making passes at him. This weekend he told her about our vacation plans. She told him that he should leave his family at home and take her on vacation, just the two of them. This visibly stroked his ego and he loved the fact that she was hitting on him. I got upset and he told me that I was crazy, that she was just joking. My marriage is not a joke to me. To make matters worse, he also tells his family that he is not happy with me. He tells them and the ex-wife that I am a crazy, over the top person and that he is not happy. I called his ex-wife and told her not to be calling and hitting on my husband! The ex-wife is now sending me hateful emails, calling me nasty names. His family has now sided with the ex-wife and has told me that I am crazy and need to get over the fact that the ex-wife is too involved personally with my husband. His mother laid into me over the weekend and said some very hurtful things. She also said some things about our personal life that he has told her. I have had all that I can take. I told him months ago that he needed to tell the ex-wife to respect our marriage and stop this immature crap. He refuses to do that. Of course, from his behavior, he doesn't appear to respect our marriage either.It came to a boiling point over the weekend. He told me to get out. I said OK, that I would end it to put us both out of our misery. He is now begging me to stay and telling me how much he loves me. His ex-wife hates me. His family, thanks to him, now hates me. Why would someone run you in the ground to others, but behind closed doors tell you that they love you and they can't live without you. I am at my wits end with this man! If I leave, I will have to go live with my parents, which I don't want to do. So for now, I just suffer in silence praying that I get a full time job, so that I can get out of this mess.
- Asked by charlielee, A Cool Mom, Female, 36-45
tell hubby that you are uncomfortable with him discussing your and his relationship with his ex.
That's horrible. I feel really bad for you. Your husband is wrong for sharing your personal problems with his family including his ex. Of course they're going to hate you. He needs to cut that crap out. The best suggestion I can give you if you're looking to save the marriage is to consider counceling for both of you if he is willing. Otherwise, get a good lawyer and get out of the marriage, you shouldn't have to suffer this way. Good Luck and don't be afraid to reach out to people like us. Remember, you deserve to be happy.