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Would the No Contact rule work for the dumper?
Dating / 1:24 AM - Thursday June 02, 2011

Would the No Contact rule work for the dumper?

I've dumped my ex-boyfriend twice because he was controlling and manipulative, and the second time, he mentioned in his text that he hopes that we won't lose our friendship and that we had to discuss some things. He also mentioned that he would give me a third chance. When I called him yesterday, he never responded to both of my calls. And he still hasn't. So I've taken the hint that he's had a change of heart and is done with me.

Would the contact rule work for me? Is there anyone in the same situation who dumped their ex, but got him/her back?

- Asked by Female, 29-35

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Would the NO Contact rule work for the dumper? Probably better than this on/ off again relationship that is basically wasting your time & emotionally draining to you. You dumped him for real reasons. You said he is controlling & manipulative. You are letting him still manipulate you by keeping ties with him. He might win you back since he is so suave with you. You are even calling him still. He's got you right where he wants you. You sound ready to cave in & take him back, but he can only manipulate you if you let him. You made the choice to end things yet it doesn't sound like you've closed the book on him. Next time you think to dump someone you should say what you mean & mean what you say if you don't want to be played a fool by a control freak.

- Response by melmac, A Thinker, Female, 29-35

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Are you refusing to take your medications, again?

- Response by fehkarfight, A Couch Potato, Male, 46-55, Who Cares?

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No you no call again, he no call you either. Neither of you talk again, remember... He is "controlling and manipulative" All guys controlling and manipulative, remember... Woman are liars and sneaky cheaters. That drive guys to be controlling and manipulative to find out your sneaky ways. He no good for you, three time too much. He tired of you tricks and games. Go F with someone else now

- Response by A Rebel, Male, 46-55

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Forget about rules. The truth is that in this situation, you placed the last phone call and it is now in his lap, to return it or NOT.

That is the only rule you need to be concerned about right now. You both already broke all the other rules. lol

- Response by randyl, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Los Angeles, Who Cares?

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Give it a Rest

- Response by boxer1, A Guy Critical, Male, 46-55, Self-Employed

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he was controlling and manipulative ? you're showing all the opposite with your question.

- Response by headscratching, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 46-55, Science / Engineering

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Amy person who feels the No contact rule is a winner move is a stupid fool who does not appreciate good people. The person who dumps is usually the one who should of got dumped. It really is not about dumping someone, it is about your happiness and compatibility with people who have hte same interest as you. Sometimes we get dumped because we fool with people who are beneath the arena we stand for. They rather be simple and mediocre without goals and future quest, and you probably have in mind to do something that is well above their potential. Whenever some of these men and woman notice that the person they are with is moving forward and is progressing in new endeavors, suddenly they do not support you, began to drift away and stop calling, and eventually you are out of their mind. So the No contact is not a rule, it is only something psychological that will sometimes get folks killed when you dump someone wrongfully and you meet a fool that comes back and let you have it. Be careful with who you dump. It hurts to be dumped when you did all the good and the other person the user only had in mind to let you go and laugh at you later on. Psychos are on the move these days. Pain inflicters...Good Luck

- Response by velb, A Career Woman, Female, 56-65, Miami

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Amy person who feels the No contact rule is a winner move is a stupid fool who does not appreciate good people. The person who dumps is usually the one who should of got dumped. It really is not about dumping someone, it is about your happiness and compatibility with people who have hte same interest as you. Sometimes we get dumped because we fool with people who are beneath the arena we stand for. They rather be simple and mediocre without goals and future quest, and you probably have in mind to do something that is well above their potential. Whenever some of these men and woman notice that the person they are with is moving forward and is progressing in new endeavors, suddenly they do not support you, began to drift away and stop calling, and eventually you are out of their mind. So the No contact is not a rule, it is only something psychological that will sometimes get folks killed when you dump someone wrongfully and you meet a fool that comes back and let you have it. Be careful with who you dump. It hurts to be dumped when you did all the good and the other person the user only had in mind to let you go and laugh at you later on. Psychos are on the move these days. Pain inflicters...Good Luck

- Response by velb, A Career Woman, Female, 56-65, Miami

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it might work for you worked for me a few times but u only get a few chances ... where you from i hang out with you and you will forget him ...lol ...

- Response by realtreejoetoatinga223, A Life of the Party, Male, 29-35, Administrative

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