Back to Active Questions

Active Questions

Why does a man run away from a woman loves him unconditionally, that he loves too??
Dating / 9:09 AM - Monday April 11, 2011

Why does a man run away from a woman loves him unconditionally, that he loves too??

Why is that a negative thing to some men? Why isn't knowing someone is in love with you such a bad thing?? He supposedly loves her too and is scared to death. I will never understand it. I will never understand how that is so meaningless to some people no matter how hard the person tries to make him understand that that she is in love with him..UGH!!

- Asked by Female, 36-45

Read more about the Rating System


It could be that he has real issue's with relationships or committment, and thats something that you alone cannot fix. If he and you are able to get counsel then you have a chance. If he truely loves you and still is running/pushing away, then he may have problems that he does not want to burden you with. And, then, the bad answer, maybe he loves you but is not "in love" with you... No matter how hard you try to convince him that he is loved, he has to want to be loved and he has to feel the same way or its just not going to work. I wish you luck and I hope I've helped you have some more things to consider.
God Bless

- Response by wiseone30, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 36-45, Hospitality

Rating Received:


The question should be why does a woman stay with a man who runs away from commitment. You are only asking for disaster. Rosey

- Response by roseytalks, A Thinker, Female, Who Cares?, Tampa, Who Cares?

Rating Received:

Community Rating: Community Star

The short answer to that questions is, he doesn't run away from a woman he loves and want to be with, period. It is only a negative thing when the feelings are not reciprocated. Or, the "love" is an unhealthy attraction. It isn't a bad thing to know someone is in love with you. Unless it is from someone they don't want to love them. Or, maybe it's some sick way of loving someone and the girl just thinks it's real love. No one is running away, unless, there is a problem somewhere.

Who has the problem I don't know. But, when two people have a healthy love for one another, they don't run from each other. Whatever issues there are, they work on them together. You're speaking from a third party perspective. So, there are no details of what actually happens throughout the relationship. It seems as if you've only heard her side of the story, and her reasons for why he ran away. But, just because you love someone unconditionally, and they appreciate your love. Doesn't mean, they are in love with you. It also doesn't mean if they at one time were in love with you, that this will last forever.

Please, the "scared to death of love" excuse should be retired! The one thing about human nature is, regardless of fear. What we want or feel we need bad enough, we'll risk anything for. Her love and what she's given for a time, doesn't have to be meaningless to him. But, just because he is not responding in the way she wants, when she wants, doesn't mean he doesn't value what she have contributed to his life. We don't have the real story. Just what she's told you. You don't make someone understand you're in love with them. They either know and reciprocate those feelings, or they know and do not feel the same way. It's really that simple. IMHO

- Response by thelovedovefor1, A Creative, Female, 46-55, Atlanta, Who Cares?

Rating Received:


You sound like you feel he owes it to you to want to be with you. Until you learn to respect other peoples feelings and respect who they really are (especially when that person is different from who you really want) then you are not ready for a healthy relationship.

- Response by A Guy Critical, Male, 46-55, Technical

Rating Received:


Maybe it feels like "stalking."

- Response by greenwind, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 56-65, Construction

Rating Received:


You are way to old to not form a complete thought when you are posting. I dont even know what you are asking or conveying or complaining about. But if you are asking why a man will run from a woman who loves him too much, it bcz she is a stalker. Men DONT like to be chased.

- Response by clueless37, An Alternative Girl, Female, 36-45, Celebrity

Rating Received: