|Dating / 4:49 PM - Tuesday March 08, 2011|
How do I make my relationship work with my boyfriend who is overly sensitive and extremely stubborn?
My boyfriend is 31 and I am 25. He is extremely attentive and the best boyfriend I have ever had. He treats me extremely well and we have a lot of fun together. We have been together a year and I am starting to fear that there are some bigger issues than even I am aware of. He is extremely sensitive and we often joke that he is the girl in the relationship. The senstitivity doesn't usually bother me unless it turns into stubbornness. Whenever he gets upset about something he overreacts and digs his heels in. He refuses to see any side but his own and claims that no matter what the situation is, it unfair to him. He gets upset with me when I don't do what he thinks is the best thing for me. (example: taking the bus to work. If I drive its a big deal because its a waste of gas and I'm putting "unecessary" miles on my car)These little things become huge things and end up causing large fights. I don't want to be told what I should and shouldnt do and he wants me to take his concerns seriously. We recently had a huge fight that came close to resulting in a break up. We luckily got that issue cleared up, but now it's like he is picking every fight possible with me. When we first started dating he had gotten into an arguement with his mom and refused to talk to her for almost a year because she wouldn't tell him he was right. I'm just really unsure as to how I should be handling this type of thing. I tend to overreact sometimes and can also be stubborn as I have come out of a bad relationship in the past. I'm not sure if this is because I'm fighting so hard not to give in like I have in the past and that is what is causing this.
- Asked by Female, 29-35