|Family & Parenting / 5:59 AM - Friday February 04, 2011|
what do you do when your 17 year old daughter is out of control? and her dad, in home, won't help?
my daughter comes and goes as she pleases. it is now almost 4 am and i have not heard from her. she won't answer her phone. Every day she is late for school, if she shows up at all. this is not the first time she has been out all night. she hits me, kicks me, and tells me off, all the time. her dad, my husband, does nothing to punish her. he gives her money for gas or pretty much what ever she wants. he says its easier to let her do what she wants. she does not do any chores around the house. my other two children do what they are asked. No matter what i say, she will do just the opposite. i am so at my wits end. i feel all alone in my own home. not only does she do what she wants, but, when i try to get her dad to punish her by taking her keys away or making her do chores,or just grounding her, then her actions cause a huge fight between her dad and me. i found a home prego test kit in her room. she said it was her friends, and that she was just throwing it away for her. Yeah, right. that was at the end of december. she says she's not!! but, i guess only time will tell. when she is home she is always ready to beat her 13 year old brother up. they always fight. she comes into a room and in 10 min, our house is in a complete state of anger. i just don't know what to do. she got a ticket at 4:14 a.m on jan. 22. she got home at 5 am, and by noon she was gone again. yet again, she got no punishment. when i was asking my husband about it, (i was a little mad) he told me I better shut up before he says something that will piss me off. well, that resulted in us not talking for about a week. i feel completely let down by my partner,and daughter. it is now 3:54 AM. i am tired. and she is still not home. someone please help me.
- Asked by A Thinker, Female, 36-45
I i were you i'd pack up the younger kids and leave for a while, let hubby deal with her alone. Maybe that will change both of their tunes.
I personally think she is crying out for Help.. Maybe therapy will do the trick. Her dad is very passive & maybe she thinks he just don't care, she's really angry about something..Take her to therapy!!!!