He was flattering you. He happened to have a night where he didn't have anything going on. He chose to text you all night to keep from being bored. He was dateless, and his friends probably were busy. He said some things to make you wonder just as you're doing. If he can get you think that he still wants you, he's done his job. You'll allow that window to stay cracked open a little. He wants to be able to engage you as he had as your boyfriend, without actually being your boyfriend. He doesn't want that window shut all of the way to where he can't creep back in.
However, he can also ignore you and see anyone else too. You will not be able to get angry about it. Because, as you've stated, "We're not together!!" Believe me, he knows that already. You see? What you do is keep on doing exactly what you're doing, and don't play into this mind game. And, yes some men most certainly DO play them! He knows if you're no longer together you will eventually move on.
But, he wants the memory of him to be there so you will not COMPLETELY move on for thinking every little thing he does is a sign that he's still wanting you. When he meets a woman he truly is into you will not hear so much from him. And, he will no longer comment on what you're doing. Then, you'll feel a little sad. Because, you would have believed he was still into you by what he told or texted you before. Don't fall for it. It's one of the oldest tricks in the book to keep the opportunity there or to keep you from truly moving on for HIS benefit. It isn't about you. IJS
- Response by thelovedovefor1
, A Creative, Female, 46-55, Atlanta, Who Cares?