|Family & Parenting / 10:36 PM - Friday December 24, 2010|
My 15 year old teenage daughter wants nothing to do with me....
We've been fighting more - she wants to just hang out in her room and be left alone. We've been fighting a lot because her school grades are slipping, she's not doing her chores and I'm always nagging her. So after a fight, she decided she wants to live with her father now (we have 50-50 custody). It's been a month that's she's been over there and doesn't even want to go to my place for the weekend or even a night! And why should she? She has no chores at her dad's, she has no rules or chores either. I went over there to hang out one night, just to see her and by 11pm, she still hadn't taken a shower or eaten dinner - on a school night! I didn't say anything, but I was fuming her dad didn't tell her to go to bed or bother to feed her. I've scheduled counseling - she'll have sessions by herself and then we'll have family sessions (with dad along too). But until then, I call her every night and her answers are short - like I'm bothering her. What should I do - should I continue to call her once a day and visit her over at her dad's or should I just leave her alone and not bother her until we start counseling (which will be hard, but it's also hard after I get off the phone with her and feel like she wants nothing to do with me). This is breaking my heart and I cry all the time over this. Any help would be appreciated.
- Asked by Female, 46-55
the problem here is that you are always nagging her! don't you see it. You are so negative she just wants to stay away from you.
Its not an easy answer. I've dealt with the same thing with my then 17 and 15 year olds... and they moved in with their mother and in the end now they are 22 and 19 and not talking with me at all now for years... it's a heart break that no parent should endure, but sadly many do in broken homes... you have no power over this and life is too short to make it all encompassing in your life.. all you can hope for is they come around some day... there is estrangement going on like crazy these days and I too feel it should not be so prevalent, but our society is a throw away one and parents are thrown away often....