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What are 10 Reasons a husband should NOT leave his wife for his married lover?
Married Life / 8:54 AM - Friday December 17, 2010

What are 10 Reasons a husband should NOT leave his wife for his married lover?

What are 10 reasons a husband should NOT leave his wife for his married lover? Please add your own suggestion to the list?

1) Divorce is expensive and more so for the man.

2) Who leaves whom first?...She may not leave her husband for you and then you are left with nothing.

3) Men are more likely to get caught cheating in a long term affair because they are just not that good at it...and then wifey leaves you and you have no where to go since your girlfriend is still at home with her husband.

4) You will need un realized down time between relationships to decide if you are really ready.

5) Your girlfriend is not giving up wife status to go back to girlfriend status with you so what are you really prepared to offer her...?

6) You will always remember what she did to her husband to spend time with you and secretly hold it against her.

7) You have the best of both worlds...why screw that up...stability and boredom at home and the best sex you've ever had...too bad they aren't from the same source.

8) She will get the house because of your behavior and you will get a lovely, small apartment to start all over again with cheap furniture.

9) You are not mature enough to handle a relationship. 9b) She is hot now only because you are taking her from another...what happens when that adrenaline really wears off?

10) You will regret cheating in the first place and want your family back and it will be too late.

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- Asked by A Career Woman, Female, 36-45, Executive

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I think that the biggest reason why people cheat rather than divorcing is to keep the family and the home together for the kids. And for the men who think that all women are out to swindle them out of their hard-earned cash, they need to wake up and smell the 21st century - a lot of women now make more than their men do. I make multiples of my husband's salary. Who do you think would be paying alimony in the event of a divorce? Me.

- Response by A Married Girl, Female, 36-45, Los Angeles, Other Profession

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There's only one good reason that counts; it's wrong.

- Response by stillagoodguy1, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 56-65, Political / Government

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A wife that accepts these reasons her husband is not leaving her after cheating on her is a fool:
Reasons a wife should leave a cheating man"
1. He doesn't understand the word love or commitment and has betrayed his word ( vows) to her.
2. He spends time with another cheater versus the time he should spend with his wife and family.
3. Her husband deserves a better woman than a wife that cheats with another man betraying him.

4. They both deserve the rental apartment and high support payments.

Why would anyone want to make money the reason for staying as that is just as bad as marrying for money? A wife that accepts a cheating husband doesn't love him either as she just likes to be comfortable in her material world. No pun on the song. Rosey

- Response by roseytalks, A Thinker, Female, Who Cares?, Tampa, Who Cares?

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A man won't leave for his married lover for the same reason he took a lover, he's selfish. All your points point back to one thing, selfishness.
He doesn't want to get caught alone, he will hold it against his new girl because she's a cheater (apparently not realizing he is a cheater, too), divorce is expensive and he'll lose all his stuff.
Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? If he wanted to leave his wife, he would have. But he's still with her because he wants to be. Either he loves her and is just playing with this other chick or his money is more important than the woman he's cheating with.
Either way, selfish people are selfish and both cheaters deserve to be out on their asses, broke and alone.

- Response by falsehammer, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 29-35, Kansas City, Consulting

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Why don't you keep to keeping women cheating and then get back to us men once you stop all women from cheating. Does it really make you feel that good to talk down to all men based on the actions of a few. Thata nd like I said, women aren't saints so quit being so sexist and acting like women never cheat.

- Response by juandontbeg, A Career Man, Male, 36-45, Self-Employed

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Serial monogamy is probably the worst possible social system.

There is no need to destroy a marriage because the man is getting a little enjoyment out of life.

- Response by greenwind, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 56-65, Construction

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Monogamy is insane. Look at all the monogamous relationships that end. These so called monogamous people will wind up with other people anyway. Besides, most people want cheating in relationships. If women did not want cheating and wanted monogamy only then they would not be cheating and they would not be with a cheating man. If guys wanted the same thing then they too would not be cheating.
Besides, if the cheating pool would dry up, there would be a lot more frustrated people out there.

- Response by william45, A Career Man, Male, 46-55, Chicago, Teaching

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Just like a BANK! A SMALL deposit and the rest of your life to pay!!!!!!!!!The COST of the INTEREST is just too much to pay!!!1

- Response by A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Houston, Consulting

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