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Why do so many women find evil men attractive?
Dating / 11:23 AM - Tuesday December 07, 2010

Why do so many women find evil men attractive?

Why do so many women think politicians, military, ruthless buisnessmen, sociopathics, criminals/inmates/ex-co ns, etc are so sexy? What is it about evil ruthless men that you find allurring?

- Asked by Male, 36-45

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It's about attraction to power.

It's the same as men going cross-eyed in front of a big-breasted blonde.

It's an inherent attraction. But, not a wise decision to actually be with those people, usually.

- Response by trawna, A Career Woman, Female, 46-55, Toronto, Consulting

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I can only speak for myself...

But I stay as far away as I can.

I prefer men that have true goodness to them. The more, the better. =-)

- Response by cutypy5840, A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Medical / Dental

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I think you are a sociopath if you would put military and criminals in the same catergory. One is sacrificing themselves for your freedom, another is lounging in a cell for breaking the law.

- Response by A Life of the Party, Female, Who Cares?

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"Birds of a feather fly together"

- Response by mobysdick, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 46-55, Who Cares?

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I don't find those types of women attractive!!! Just saying.

- Response by hands, A Creative, Male, 46-55, Hong Kong, Who Cares?

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It's biology. Women are attracted to Alpha Males. "Nice Guys" are sort of the opposite. What will a Nice Guy do when there's an Alpha Male to contend with? Most Nice Guys won't even stand up to a woman, let alone another man.

- Response by chesterdad, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 66 or older, San Francisco

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Women that find these men sexy like the power they possess. Some women feed off of that. I never liked men that throw their power around. They tend to be conceited and narcissistic. Neither one of those traits are appealing.

- Response by dreamdancer, A Creative, Female, 36-45, Houston, Other Profession

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Men in uniform, businessmen and the like are attractive, but not men who are a$$holes. There are those out there that are military, businessmen, etc. that aren't bad. Having been in an abusive marriage for 19 years, I tend to avoid those types.

- Response by rexy67, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 46-55, Who Cares?

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Across the board you see women swearing they don't date this type of man yet they sure have plenty of stories about all the men they dated that were like that.

Why isn't important - Knowing what you are dealing with is. It doesn't matter if a woman appears to be sexy and sweet if she only gets wet for evil ruthless men. Those women are short term material at best.

- Response by A Guy Critical, Male, 46-55, Technical

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You are talking about women who are from dysfunctional environments if they think being with a narsisstic evil man is great. They think that they can fix them. Which is not an attractive behavior that balanced men want. I hated guys who thought they can throw their egos around like that and treat their women like shit.

- Response by womanv, A Career Woman, Female, 36-45, New York, Self-Employed

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It's all about survival of the fittest. Unfortunately those mentioned above have demonstrated their power in some way, mostly good but that power has brought them things that they have wanted, money, fame, power or simply a lifestyle where they can be their own leader and disregard rules. Whatever the case may be the fact that they were strong enough to go against the norm says alot about his confidence, excluding the criminals. I suppose women just want a strong leader who can keep her offspring safe. I tend to avoid these types but since I have tended to date the more romantic and sweet kind I have found myself often disappointed my their lack of physical or mental strength...

- Response by msglo, A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Political / Government

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why do so many men find degrading women attractive?

- Response by physicsystem, A Creative, Female, 22-25, San Antonio, Self-Employed

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Why do men find degraging women by attributing stupid behavior to them a good thing to do? ;)

Women do not think that men who are evil are attractive by virtue of being evil. Granted, some women are trained by their society to be masochistic, but even that doesn't necessarily lead them towards pain.

Women AND men are attracted to power in others--it's not a gendered thing. My proof for it is first hand: Student teachers are warned during orientation sessions that they will get hit on by their students even if they are not normatively attractive because people often find power attractive--and this went for male AND female TAs.

- Response by electragold21, A Thinker, Female, 29-35, New York, Teaching

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I for one do not find evil ruthless men sexy!!!A narcissistic man is a turn off for me-I like nice guys!!

- Response by robincircle21, An Alternative Girl, Female, 56-65, Los Angeles, Student

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Well I don't really think it's so many women, but when that happens, I thinks it's usually because this woman thinks she can, or wants to, try and melt his cold heart and find some warmth in him. Like she thinks she can fix him.

- Response by sweetmama247, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 29-35, Buffalo, Home Maker

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I can honestly tell you, I don't find these men attractive.

I always fall for the nice guys.

- Response by girlpower08, A Sportif, Female, 36-45

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Because they were raised by horrible men and didn't have good male role models. They have a distorted view of how a man should treat a woman. I have lived this and have the tons of counseling behind me to back my claim. Still looking for someone to treat me with 46. :(

- Response by blossoming1, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Seattle, Civil Service

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because half of these women out there now are evil themselves.

- Response by A Guy Critical, Male, 56-65

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Dogs always follow the one who feeds them!

- Response by An Intellectual Guy, Male, 29-35, Medical / Dental

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Dogs always follow the ones who feed them.

- Response by geoiv, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 29-35, Medical / Dental

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