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Past Relationships: Do you ever think back..?
Dating / 3:42 AM - Wednesday October 13, 2010

Past Relationships: Do you ever think back..?

Do you ever think about your past lovers, flings or one night stands?
Do you think about where are they now? Who are they with? Wonder what they look like now?

- Asked by igotchaurighthere, A Cool Mom, Female, 56-65

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Pondering what happened in the past is part of being human. Everyone does it but not always for the same reasons. Past experiences is how we gain perspective. I have tried to use the past to not make the same mistakes over and over again. Sometimes it has helped, sometimes not. oh well....

- Response by ladysluck, A Hippie Chick, Female, 56-65, Home Maker

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I am still good friends with most of my "ex's",
we don't hang-out now, but we still talk often.

- Response by fehkarfight, A Couch Potato, Male, 56-65, Who Cares?

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I've thought about ex's, and what I should hjave done, could have done, might have done. Some thoughts are good. Some aren't.

- Response by roaminginsomniac, An Alternative Girl, Female, 46-55, Law Enforcement

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ive thought about my ex's. and i use this to learn from. im better off with out them. and im not surprised by whom they've got in there lives. not good. there loss. but im happier for what i learned from my mistakes.

- Response by campy1, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 56-65, Retail

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No not really. I don't really care to be honest. lol

- Response by girlpower08, A Sportif, Female, 36-45

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Yes, from time to time, I do wonder how they are doing and hope they found happiness in their lives. Once you deeply care for someone, they'll always be a part of your life. Do I ever wish someone from my past was back in my life...just aspects of what we once shared perhaps, but relationships end for a reason.


- Response by 1pghpafemale, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

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I talk to most of my 'exs' with the RARE exception of one or two. I think it's healthy to think of the past. You shouldn't regret anything you did with someone or the fact you were with them. REMEMBER, you wanted it at some point. I think about them but just in a friendly way. I make sure I don't move on with another person until I can think of my previous lover in a friend's type of way.
You should keep in touch with them. Just because romantically it didn't work, does not mean it won't in a friendship. I'm assuming you were like best friends at one point so a regular, "How are you?" is not going to kill you.

- Response by toshimunster, A Thinker, Female, 26-28, Detroit, Financial / Banking

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The only one I ever think about is the last one that ripped my heart to shreds. Karma is a bitch when it comes back.

- Response by debski, A Career Woman, Female, 36-45, Detroit, Science / Engineering

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I know I do occasionally think of past relationships, but I have absolutely no feelings for any of them. My two majors ones are now dating other women and I am good friends with the two men and one of their girlfriends. I would never wish ill-tidings on any of them, nor do I think they wish them on me. However, I would be upset to know that my current boyfriend is thinking of his ex-girlfriends. Maybe that's just me.

- Response by PierreTrudeau, A Sportif, Female, 22-25, Toronto, Fitness

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I just hope they are all well and as happy as I am. Life is too short for anything else.

- Response by asia032483, A Thinker, Female, 29-35

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think about past relationships once in a while, especially a gal from philly.
everytime the name comes up, i am reminded of this gal from bucks county....but do not think about where she is now; who she is with or anything like that.
it is none of my business and why should i think about who she is sleeping with tonite.


- Response by mobysdick, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 46-55, Who Cares?

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I think most people to that. I have done it, but usually something will trigger my thoughts, such as an old song that reminds me of a certain person. I don't wonder about any of the things you mentioned, I just remember what we did together and where.

- Response by hearmenow, A Guy Critical, Male, 56-65, Other Profession

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Yes I do. Many times.

- Response by sunset77, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 36-45, Who Cares?

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I think about them from time to time, but I don't reach out to them or anything about personal business. I feel like they're out for a reason.

- Response by king313, A Rebel, Male, 29-35, Detroit, Civil Service

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i only think about people i have had meaningful relationships with..and to be honest,it's only been one person..

- Response by le_gem735713, A Thinker, Female, 29-35, Miami, Who Cares?

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Yes. Every blue moon. But, it's a split second thought. And, it's only, if they remember me at times like I do them. I wonder if the choices they've made since then are working out for them. I think about how they might have aged. I wonder if they've ever had one ounce of regret concerning myself. There are no feelings involved. And, no regrets or hopes regarding myself. There are no thoughts about their respective partners or spouses.

- Response by thelovedovefor1, A Creative, Female, 46-55, Atlanta, Who Cares?

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yes to all of ur question. :)

- Response by dzeusmitch, A Player, Female, 22-25, Hospitality

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