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Sometimes during sex my Husband says his member goes numb... what does that mean?
Sex & Intimacy / 1:57 AM - Saturday October 09, 2010

Sometimes during sex my Husband says his member goes numb... what does that mean?

This mostly happens in the morning, but it makes me feel as though he is just not interested in me!

- Asked by A Sweet Sarah, Female, 26-28

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A numb penis during intercourse, if not caused by a physical problem, is usually a sign of lower than optimal desire. There is enough desire to become erect but within seconds or minutes of penetration a person suffering with this begins to lose sensation.

This often results in the inability to ejaculate although despite the numbness many men can continue to have an erection. Although, once realizing they are not feeling what they should, the stress of the situation can shut down an erection too.

This can be puzzling because during foreplay men who experience this do get a good erection and have lots of sexual desire for the partner and feel more than able to continue on to successful intercourse and it can be a bit of a mystery and very frustrating to find that they can't "finish"

Also, men believe that this is a physical problem with the penis itself when in most cases it is not but rather a problem which is psychological in nature.

As to the cause of this sudden, post foreplay lowered desire, it could be many things, stress, anxiety, fear, fatigue, drugs and alcohol. Adding to the mystery is the fact that some causes which are psychological in nature can be subconscious.

For instance, some people have a fear of intimacy which often has its roots in childhood which in turn can cause sexual anxiety during the most intimate part of sex.

But, they often don't feel anxious at all. In these cases the body reacts to something that the man is not even consciously aware of.

The possible PHYSICAL reasons for this are mostly related to nerve damage brought on by Diabetes.

- Response by randyl, A Thinker, Female, Who Cares?, Los Angeles, Who Cares?

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Not sure what's causing his problem... he should see his doc, escpecially at his age.

One thing I do know...it isn't you.

- Response by mamom04, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 56-65, Phoenix

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Sheesh, don't take it so personally. It has got to be pretty scary to have such an important body part go numb. Have a little compassion. He should definitely seek medical advice, it could be a neurological problem for all you know. Possibly he has poor circulation, especially before he's up moving around in the morning. Offer to go with him to the Dr. so you can talk about his symptoms. Hope it's nothing major.

- Response by A Thinker, Female, 29-35

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You should be more concerned & less offended...

- Response by melmac, A Thinker, Female, 29-35

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Depending on how long your encounters last, it is verypossible that this could happen. Another explanation could be a physical condition that affects the nerves or blood flow to the area. Either way, you should check it out as it is obviously creating a problem

- Response by sexytony617, A Creative, Male, 46-55, Boston, Consulting

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