When the WOMAN begins to believe she is! Any woman who would allow anyone else to dictate when SHE'S past HER OWN PRIME is a fool. This is a world where getting older is a nightmare for most. Relationships aren't about substance. It's about sex and getting as much as you can from someone without commitment. So, sincerity and falling truly in love is hard for anyone at this point. You're either going to compromise to have now, or not settle while waiting. It is a gamble, but not because of age. But, because most are not requiring much of anyone they meet other than how they look or how much money they have. Many are just conforming to whatever these people want for fear of being alone, and are quite miserable in their relationships. Especially, after finding out that it wasn't about them being in their prime, but about them being used.
And, while they have seemingly have more chances at relationships. Those they do have never really seem to last. They end up simply being in multiple relationships. They are not really getting anymore than the older women. The older women aren't being "used" as much. Because, they actually value themselves more. Anyone can date and have great sex. But, what about the real worth, respect, and commitment that lasts until death? I'm 44 years old. I don't expect to be young forever. I look great. I have not had one problem dating, having a sex life, having companionship, having friends, receiving love, or having an active social life.
I have a good life. I don't need anyone to give me a good life. I have all of the positives that someone in a relationship or marriage has, without having to deal with any of the BS or negatives that many in relationships have. I'm not lonely and unhappy. Because, I have not allowed being married, giving birth, or being in a relationship all of the time, define whether I have worth or (I'm still prime). I don't need someone else or society to tell me this about myself. Only YOU know if you're in your prime. To hell with those who think not! There are men in my age range that are still in denial and afraid of getting older. They live with the mentality of a frat boy with regards to relationships.
They think and act like them; immature, selfish, self-centered, egotistical, superficial, and oversexed without any care for giving or a real love commitment. Some of these younger women are giving everything of themselves to these fools, and then being devastated when they get dumped while the guy is on to the next one. So, people really need to start finding their value for themselves whatever age they are. This shouldn't be dependent upon whether anyone else sees them as such. Because, younger women are looking for men to give them that life they want. So, it's more about prestige and materialism. It's not about how great they look or how much they truly value them. That's why the minute these men get with those young women, they take them through the wringer of being in nagging, never satisfied, hell.
Then, the men get used and dumped and are bitter against all women. When maybe they should have been looking for something other than a little girl mind with a woman's body. I've been there with compromising and settling for less than I was worth. And, I'll never do this again. If it means, I'll never marry, fine. But, don't confuse never marrying or being in a relationship with being alone. Or, with being a woman that let herself go, is dried up, and lonely. Because, that couldn't be further from the truth with most older women. I mean, look at the consensus here, "past their prime after 32" that's ridiculous! I don't fall in love easily, never have. And, I wouldn't want someone falling in love with me easily either.
What most are experiencing today isn't even real love. I don't care how in demand they might seem being young. For myself, you simply have to be a man I'm compatible with and that is willing to give, as much as I am, to the success of each other and our relationship, PERIOD! It has nothing to do with prime ages. If there are not many men left that values this type of thing; why does that have to be my problem? Why does it have to be something about me, or about my being past my prime? You're either someone I'm interested in being in a relationship with or you're not. It doesn't make the man a shriveled up, old, unlovable coot. He simply would not be the man "I" want. It's a personal thing. And, so should it be with how you view your own worth and value. I don't care if you're male or female, older or younger. IJS
- Response by thelovedovefor1
, A Creative, Female, 46-55, Atlanta, Who Cares?