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How do i make him regret treating me wrong? i want to make him pay.
Dating / 8:13 PM - Monday August 16, 2010

how do i make him regret treating me wrong? i want to make him pay.


- Asked by collegegirl0991, A Trendsetter, Female, 22-25, Student

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Find someone better than him....

- Response by lasttrueromantic, A Creative, Female, 36-45, Teaching

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you cant make him pay, its not your place. YOu move on and take care of you.



- Response by lovesgoldens, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 36-45, Who Cares?

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Just move on,dont look back someday he will wonder why? Never let him see you cry,becuse up the road is true happiness.

- Response by brezzyblue, A Life of the Party, Female, 46-55, Other Profession

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"The best revenge is living well."

It's a famous quote, not mine. I wish I could take credit for it, because it's brilliant.

- Response by regnadkcin, A Father Figure, Male, 56-65, Boston, Artist / Musician / Writer

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In taking that sort of revenge...the one who will end up paying...is you.

Please don't go there.

- Response by mamom04, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 56-65, Phoenix

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Maybe you should start by forgiving yourself for ALLOWING such treatment to happen to you. You share responsibility for allow bad behavior to affect you. It is YOUR life and you have control over it. And making him pay is a waste of time and energy. Move on and chose wisely the guys you allow into your life.

- Response by msadvise, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Transportation

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Have a good life and be happy. Find someone that treats you well and forget about him.

- Response by iamboo2, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Charlotte, Therapist

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What an evil, vindictive bitch.

- Response by A Rebel, Male, 46-55

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Forget regret... pay yourself that favor :)
Playing games will just make him think how happy he is to be done with it. Do you want that?


- Response by wendyshoefitz123, A Player, Female, Who Cares?

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Just move on.

- Response by misssparkle, A Thinker, Female, 29-35, Atlanta, Administrative

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Get over it and stop plotting revenge as nearly every woman does in some way shape or form when she has been "wronged" which equals not given validation, support or any other emotional thing women want.

If he was physically abusive or something else more serious, well again there are often signs which women love to ignore because you think that you can mother him, nurture him thus causing him to change and/or, give him a makeover and improve him.

You play with fire as such and often get burned then complain and seek revenge on the fire.

Learn to forgive and forget, but learn from the mistake itself!

- Response by richsifu, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Science / Engineering

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I know at your age this might be hard to believe but for those of us who have had our hearts broken more times than we can remember the best revenge is to move on and live a happy and fulfilling life. He'll notice even from afar and regret what he gave up. :)

- Response by houseworkmakesyaugly, A Married Girl, Female, 36-45

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Eventually, what goes around comes around. You can't treat people badly and not have it come back and bite you eventually. You don't need to do anything. Let the rule apply to him and not you.

- Response by A Married Girl, Female, 36-45, Los Angeles, Other Profession

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Get him to marry you. You wouldn't be the first woman to do it for this reason.

- Response by A Guy Critical, Male, 46-55, Technical

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Revenge for hurts is never right. Just leave the situation and move on. Learn from your mistakes and do better next time with your choices in a mate.

- Response by blossoming1, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Seattle, Civil Service

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Be happy. When you see him, have a huge, self-satisfied smile on your face as though you are happy that he broke up with you.

- Response by seductivepisces9, A Thinker, Female, 29-35, Who Cares?

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MOVE ON!!!!

- Response by mrsmm, A Thinker, Female, 29-35, Who Cares?

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Live better without him.

- Response by myrtletyrtle, A Cool Mom, Female, 46-55, Who Cares?

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LIving well is the best revenge.

Move on, you cannot control what other people do or think. But you can control your own life to some degree. Why waste a minute of your day over a person who treated you wrong? Don't give him any more time out of your life.

- Response by nysbikergirl, An Alternative Girl, Female, 46-55, Who Cares?

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As crazy as it sounds, you need to forgive him to free yourself so you can move on. Not only does it take too much energy to hate someone it can also cause you (if internalized) physical and mental issues. His wrong doing will cause him to pay anyway.

- Response by birdland, A Thinker, Female, 56-65, Who Cares?

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MOving on and getting on with what makes u happy and not look back is the best revenge hun .Dont waste your time on something/someone that isnt into u or worth the pain. It dont get u anywhere. Moving forward sure does.

- Response by berri, A Career Woman, Female, 46-55, New South Wales, Who Cares?

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Move on. Be a successful woman who enjoys her life, family, and friends. Live life to the fullest. Keep yourself looking gorgeous and in terrific shape. And, let him know his sorry ass didn't do a thing to break your spirit or self-esteem. Let him see through your life that you didn't believe he was the best thing that ever happened to you. Nor, that he was the only man on earth. Let him know you're so much better than that, that you can forgive him and learn from the relationship you had with him. And, truly move on. None of this, let me make him jealous, let me do ridiculous things to piss him off, and really obsessing about him and his life. Because, you are ruining your own if you do this.

Don't get me wrong. I know when one is wronged and hurt, it's real. It's a valid response to want that person to hurt like you were hurt. But, it's better to heal and to not let a vengeful mind eat away your heart. Because, then they'll be none left for the next man that might truly love you and treat you right. Because, the obsessing over this guy will consume too much time out of your life. And, if he treated you wrong, he's not worth any more time out of your life, right? And, nothing you spend all of that time and energy doing might affect him anyway. So many women do this type of thing, and the guy is off living his life, having fun and moving on. He's not thinking about all of those silly tricks. So, move on and enjoy the rest of your life. That is the best way to make him pay. Good luck.

- Response by thelovedovefor1, A Creative, Female, 46-55, Atlanta, Who Cares?

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You can't, luv. That was his choice. But you CN see why you chose someone who doesn't treat you lovingly, work that to health
IN YOU, and find a partner who loves you truly.

What you're in now, is the hook of your own anger and feeling powerless from a mirror also of another time and other story, when littler probably.

Go choose well for you. He's already miserable if he's hurting you, believe it.Let it go and go get happy and healthy as you deserve.

- Response by serentan, A Creative, Female, 46-55, Artist / Musician / Writer

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Two words, in Spanish. A Dios

- Response by april4eliot, A Guy Critical, Male, 56-65, San Francisco, Self-Employed

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just say bye to his ass

- Response by le_gem735713, A Thinker, Female, 29-35, Miami, Who Cares?

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If you feel He's treated you so wrong, that you feel he needs to "pay", then you need to rethink your relationship. Retribution has no place in a relationship.

If you feel that you have been wronged, then you need to t tell him how you feel. Pay back is immature and selfish.

- Response by beezercase, A Hippie Chick, Female, 36-45

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Oh honey life is short. Don't put your energy into revenge like this. It is not good. Karma is a bitch and it will come back on him, guaranteed. Just do nothing and watch what happens.

- Response by debski, A Career Woman, Female, 36-45, Detroit, Science / Engineering

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Shut him out completely and move on. NO INTERACTION AT ALL!!! No response to anything. Deprogram yourself and seek no vengence. That would make him regret becuase he will mourn you as if you died.

- Response by A Guy Critical, Male, 36-45

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