When one carries a grudge against someone, the only one that gets hurt is the one carrying it. The one who did the wrong is rarely aware of their wrong doing, and just goes on without any grief. It is unhealthy to carry that pain, so one has to learn to forgive for their own sanity, and for the benefit of the people in their current life. It does not mean that we have to condone the wrong doing, it means that we have to release ourselves from the burden of it. Parents are people, and people will hurt you sometimes. That is life 101. Sometimes it is not easy, but it is necessary. Taking offense is a choice. I choose to not let that person have the power over me that causes me harm, be it physical, mental, or however. That makes me a better person all the way around, I believe. I don't lose sleep over whatever bad action or choice that someone else made. I am a calmer, more caring individual because of this outlook. The ones in my life love me for who I am, not for what someone else had done to me. Letting go is good. You can eventually learn to give a certain amount of respect to a parent that has done wrong, and quite often they will see the error of their ways and make a concerted effort to make up for their "sins".
Been there, done that, got that Tee shirt. I like how it has turned out now that so many years have passed since the original transgression.
- Response by beemerdoc
, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 56-65, Celebrity
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