|Dating / 11:08 AM - Saturday July 10, 2010|
what should I do if my boyfriend listens to his mom and can't see my point?
I have a problem recently and my boyfriend's mom doesn't care for me and I see it and so does my family and my boyfriend's friends see it. Though my boyfriend says he loves me but when it comes to his mom he listens to her which he should but the problem I'm having with him is that when something does arise he will never let me talk and will talk over me and point the fingers at me that I'm to blame when I think everyone is going to flaws not just me and I know myself I have flaws but I don't know what to do anymore and then he threatens to break up with me. which makes me sad we've been together for 5 yrs now and that's what he wants us to amount to because he cant change his habits when I've done a lot of changing throughout the years we've been together. I don't know what to do anymore about this or how to handle it. Please help!?
- Asked by A Thinker, Female, 29-35, Chicago, Self-Employed
And so history repeats itself
I've had this problem before. The next time your boyfriend threatens to break up with you, make a HUGE deal out of the fact that he keeps bringing that up after you've been together for 5 years. Tell him that you can't be yourself when you constantly feel like you are walking on egg shells with your relationship. Tell him that he needs to stop threatening your relationship because it makes you really sad. If this does not work the first time, then the next time he says it just snap and walk out. Leave him for a little while. Let him know that he cannot take advantage of you that way. If he doesn't come crawling back then he was probably looking for an out from the relationship for a long time.