I know he's not right for me, yet I can't let go. Why?
My boyfriend & I always seem like we're on opposite wavelengths. Our communication is out of sync, our humors greatly differ. It's gotten to a point where when we are on the phone, it's more silent than anything. I say things about my life, my day, whatever & he either doesn't know what to say or says something very general. Doesn't ask too many questions to keep the conversation rolling along & it makes me feel like he has no genuine interest, which then closes me off to even opening up.
I get the gut feeling that he is not the one & that it will never work between us, but I try to hold onto something positive. When it's come down to us talking about, or almost, breaking up, I can't seem to let it happen. How is it that I know we're not right for each other & I've made my peace within myself on that, yet when it comes time that one of us is talking about breaking up, I get all upset & won't let go & start suggesting second chances???
Update: June 16, 2010.
Truth be told, we're always so busy being distant from each other & arguing that we haven't had sex since New Year's Eve 2009. It used to be amazing.
I don't know what I'm holding onto anymore. He seriously frustrates me.
He broke up with me last night, saying bullshit about how he can't take how tense we are anymore, regardless of the fact that he's been causing the tension. Then he asks if we can be together & rewind time back 2-3wks ago when this tension began. I say ok, yet he doesn't want to jump into a relationship. He says he doesn't want to go back & forth. And I told him that if he didn't want to go "back & forth" he never should've broken up with me & then ask to be together again. Now he's saying that he didn't ask that.
I am getting so tired of the way he talks. He's always so abrupt. Not that he's saying anything bad, or mean spirited, but it's the manner & timing in which he says it & he just doesn't seem to get it when I try to explain it. He did it to me this morning. We were having a conversation & he basically cut it short by saying, "I hope you have a nice day." Sure, what he said wasn't mean or anything but it was out of the blue when we were not finished our talk. And when I told him about it, he says he wasn't abrupt & he was running late for work & had to go. Ok, so tell me that! WTF!
- Asked by irishize
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