|Career / 8:58 PM - Sunday June 06, 2010|
1 month at new job and nobody talks to me!
Tomorrow will be one month since I started at my new job and still 4 out of the 5 other people who sit in my section have yet to say one word to me. They never even introduced themselves to me. The 2nd day there I almost ran right into the girl coming around a hallway corner who sits directly behind me. I said "oh I'm sorry, excuse me" to her and all she did is look at me with almost a dirty look and not say a word. The one girl who has talked to me seems a little stand-offish to me now. She was gone on vacation all last week. When she comes in do I dare ask how it was only to basically get a one line response?? Then I guarantee you when someone else comes over to ask her she'll go on for 15 minutes about how great it was. Even when I do try to be friendly or funny all I get is a weird look like "I barely know you, why are you trying to be my friend"? Then the people who are in my dept. are all on the other side of the partition so I feel alienated from them and the only conversations we seem to have are with the office IM system. When you have a question that seems to be the way to address it, even though if I stood up and looked over the partition I could just as well ask them. I almost hope to run into someone coming out of the bathroom, if only for them to say excuse me to me so I have some interaction with people! If anyone else in my section sneezes there's always someone who says "bless you". When I sneeze, nobody says a word. That same girl who I practically ran into in the hallway brought cupcakes for everyone else in our section and she totally bypassed me and didn't even ask. Okay maybe you brought them for your dept. but I sit there too and it made me feel like crap.
- Asked by Female, 36-45
I did this early on at my current place of employment and it seemed to help. I made three batches of mini muffins and left them in the community kitchen, and sent out an to our staff, letting them know that breakfast was on me. :) People LOVED it and it helped to "break the ice," so to speak.
Brrrr! Sounds like a chilly atmosphere. I highly doubt anything is wrong with you. It's probably just a bunch of impersonal snobs. I think you will be able to bond better with the new contractors coming in. Is there a coffee shop nearby? Maybe offering to pick up coffee or ask someone to go with you? Not everyone likes the "office coffee"...or going out to lunch somewhere? Maybe getting your co-workers out of the office atmosphere may thaw the chill a little. Good Luck!